I’m grateful for waking up socially. Waking up socially for me is about becoming aware of what I’m responsible and accountable for in my social interactions and what I’m not. I used to put a lot of responsibility on others to make me feel a specific way. I had no idea that my expectations are not someone else’s responsibility to manage. Waking up to this has saved me SO MUCH emotional pain. I’ve become a natural at setting healthy boundaries for myself and not accepting unacceptable behavior, but in a way where I stay at peace. That was a HUGE one for me! I treat myself with the love and respect that I want, so it’s reflected back to me in my relationship with others. I feel blessed to learn and grow from all my social exchanges no matter how uncomfortable they may get.
I actually love watching when I’m having a negative reaction socially what it’s reflecting back to me. If I’m attracting energy to me that is aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I look at where I’m projecting fear, lack, and separation out. I usually can find it pretty easily now. I cannot fix what happened, but I can choose different and awareness is ALWAYS the first step.
I absolutely love the feeling of having an enlightening exchange with someone that is aligned with love, abundance, and peace, because I know when I spot it, I got it too! The energies together amplify which makes me feel wonderful about the energy I’m helping to contribute to the collective. There is always more room for the energy of love, abundance, and peace out there. I have specific relationships which I’ve scheduled in that are truly focused on aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. If we weren’t there when we started the conversation, we get there in the conversation. It’s so important to my wellness to have relationships that contribute to aligning my energy with love, abundance, and peace. Knowing that helps me attract more of it. I love how my social interactions contribute to my wellness.
One of the things that I love being aware of is watching how plans work and how they don’t with others. I’ve gotten to a place where I fully trust what is meant to work out does, and if it doesn’t it’s not what’s meant to be in this moment. I don’t get angry or upset by the people who cancel plans, change plans, don’t have time for plans, and/or come and go from my life. I know when I’m meant to share a moment in time with someone, I will and it will be Divine timing.
I don’t focus on what specific relationships don’t provide, I put my focus on what I AM giving and receiving in the moment. I have no expectations on any one person to be what they are not and give me what they can’t. If my energy isn’t aligning with someone else’s, they won’t be in my life at that moment. No judgment, no resentment, just a simple awareness that right now in this moment our energies aren’t aligned. Either, I’m not the person they need right now or they aren’t the person I need right now. My needs are always DIVINELY met.
The relationships I have now are all blessings. Some people will reach out when they are in pain and my feeling is that if I’m available to be there to support them, that’s my Divine purpose in that moment. It doesn’t matter if I don’t hear from them again in a year or 10 years, I feel like if my name pops into someone’s head and I’m there to receive the call, I’m meant to be on that call. If I miss the call or have other things going on, I’m not the one who is meant to be there. Now, if I answer the phone and get a tight feeling inside, I pray and ask for guidance on my next move. I just make sure my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace and the call will serve the highest good.
The most amazing thing I’ve noticed is how people are attracted or repelled away from my energy field. I’ve learned to have faith in how this works. Every time I’ve tried to force relationships with people when the energy is actually being repelled, it just doesn’t work. I figure if our energies ever align, we will have a place in each other’s lives. Being awake to all of this has helped me to live a more peaceful life.
I love that any social drama that comes into my life quickly moves away from me, because sometimes people need to cause some chaos to give themselves permission to walk away. I’m not responsible and accountable for anyone else’s energy, thoughts, feelings, and/or actions. We each get to choose the stories we are telling ourselves and those stories will align us with the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. That’s why my social wellness relies on knowing what is mine and what isn’t.
Today, I commit to igniting healthy social interactions. The best way I know to do this is by making sure my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace. I want to make sure that I’m projecting the relationships I want to have reflected back to me. I love my social exchanges when my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Even if the other person is in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I can meet that exchange with compassion and empathy as long as I don’t join the person in engaging in the energy of fear, lack, and separation.
One of the things that helps me is seeing people I’m in a social exchange with as my mirror. Do I want to be a reflection of their energy that is being projected onto to me? What energy do I want to project out to be reflected back to me? If the energies don’t match, one person will walk away from the mirror. My job is to focus on what I’m projecting in social exchanges. What someone else is projecting is not my responsibility to change, yet if I project love, abundance, and peace and they realize they want to be there, they will make the choice to be there. Me trying to force someone to be where they are not is me being in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I’m saying that this person isn’t being who they are supposed to be in this moment. That is not the reality of the moment. They are being exactly who they are supposed to be in the moment because that is who they are being. Denying that doesn’t help me in ANY way. All it does is give me permission to make myself miserable with any story I’m telling myself about how they are not thinking, believing, and acting like they are supposed to act. Doing this then gives me permission to act like them just from a different angle. Mirrors are funny that way.
I have to do the work to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace in my social exchanges. Sometimes it feels more natural to me to slide into my energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I’m there, I find justifications for staying in that energy, because that is the story I’m telling myself in the moment. I move out of the energy of fear, lack, and separation when I stop spinning stories that keep me in that energy. Once I stop making excuses and justifying my choice to stay in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I can move back into the energy of love, abundance, and peace. The beautiful thing is it can happen in the space of one long deep breath. At the end of the exhale I can be back in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.
Part of me doing the work to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace in my social exchanges is writing it out, which is what I’m doing here. When I see it clearly in writing, it becomes easier to do when I’m in the moment of the exchange. I’m working on choosing differently more often, which is what makes staying in the energy of love, abundance, and peace over fear, lack, and separation become the more natural choice.
Since I lived in the energy of fear, lack, and separation for so long, I have a lot of habits that have become an autopilot mode for me. I’m still in the process of being able to spot them when they pop up. The more I spot them, the easier it becomes to CHOOSE to think, believe, and do things differently in the moment. My social exchanges help me to see where I REALLY am in the moment. I pay close attention to the stories playing in my head during the exchanges. In order to ignite healthy social exchanges, I have to project healthy energy. If I’m not projecting that energy, I can spot that in my inner stories that are playing before, during, and after the exchange.