#PerspectiveChallenge: I’m NOT Where I’m Supposed to Be

PERSPECTIVE: I’M NOT WHERE I’M SUPPOSED TO BE

The belief, I’m not where I’m supposed to be can be debilitating. Instantly it puts us in the mindset that focuses us on what we don’t want. That energy flows out of us like toxic sludge. Other people do and will pick up on it. If it is a relationship, career, friends, community, and/or spirituality we are chasing, we come off desperate and needy. We spend so much time chasing, we are not where our feet are. We miss the blessings that happen in the present moment. We miss the signs to lead us in a positive direction. We may even try to numb ourselves with apps, shopping, gambling, eating, drugs, and /or alcohol, instead of taking the necessary steps to keep us moving towards our dreams. 

We can have dreams and goals without believing, I’m not where I’m supposed to be. We lock ourselves in a box and limit our movement when we let that negative belief sink in. We can choose to enjoy the journey while having dreams and goals at the same time. This keeps us present. This keeps us appreciating the signs and being grateful for the blessings that only can be seen when we stay PRESENT!

We aren’t and can’t be present while believing, I’m not where I’m supposed to be. We resist the moment with that very thought. 

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

  1. Get in front of the mirror and say, “I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be in this moment.” Repeat it, write it down, and repeat it some more. 
  2. Right down your goals and dreams—be specific and stay positive. No attachments to the negative (i.e. I don’t want to be poor. I don’t want an abusive relationship).  I want to be and feel abundant in every way. I want a healthy relationship. If these are things you want, go within them and be as specific as you can. 
  3. Make the most out of the moment you are in. What can you do right now to move you in a positive direction? It can be as simple as writing down three things you are grateful for, because abundant living starts with gratitude. If you are not appreciating what you already have, you will NEVER be abundant no matter how much you have. 

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

39 MORE DAYS until the release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

The Writer in Me

Middle school was where I truly began to appreciate the power of the pen. I honestly thought I was stupid until essay questions became more standard on tests. The biggest complaint I would get is there were too many details, but little did they know that was just my divergent brain taking in the limitless possibilities.  Language Arts was the one class I could count on to disappear in a piece of paper. 

Freshman year in high school, I just got out of a treatment program.  I loved it there. I felt like I was in the safest place in the world. I knew what was expected out of me. I was given more responsibilities and privileges the harder I worked, and I got consequences when I broke the rules. I knew what to expect from the time the morning alarm sounded until lights out. To me, it felt like I was wrapped in a cocoon protected from the outside world. 

Leaving the safety of the program was overwhelming. I was used to sitting in my little cubicle quietly doing my schoolwork—No opinions, no discussions, just reading and answering questions. There were no judgments from other students because none of us were on the same material. Even then, I loved learning. There was a safety buried somewhere within the knowledge. 

My freshman Language Arts teacher assigned us a poem about a flower. I wish I had kept that poem. It must have been dark because somehow he could see how I was feeling through what I wrote. He pulled me aside and told me that poetry was like a secret language I could use to get out how I was really feeling. That’s when I started writing poem after poem. 

Poetry helped me find the rhythm in my words. That skill would pay off in many ways through school and through out my multitude of careers. I much prefer to write out what I’m thinking and take people on a journey through the words.

My senior year of high school, I had all my necessary credits to graduate, so I took an independent study of poetry. Many people thought I would pick this one L.A. teacher whom everyone loved. I picked the one that most people dreaded and feared. She was tough, and I knew she wouldn’t let me get away with anything. I wanted to be pushed beyond my comfort zone.

By the time my senior year ended, I had written over one hundred poems. They went to some of my darkest places and helped me to process some of the traumas that tore up my soul. Poetry was the safest place for me to explore my darkest corners. 

By the time I was twenty, I was writing training programs. By twenty-four, I wrote a monthly sales column in an indoor tanning magazine, and by twenty-five I was writing business proposals for more money than I could imagine at the time. Yet, the writing didn’t ever touch me like the dance I had with poetry.

Then just like that, the darkness crept in and I somehow I forgot how to expose it to the light. I forgot how to dance. The dark period would last for years. Then through a series of traumatic events, I picked up my pen and began to write and write, but instead of poetry it was letters. I would write and burn letters to process all my pain. 

With my writing came more healing than I ever knew I needed. I wrote my way into and through college loving every minute of it. I learned so much about technical writing. I thought it would be fun to take a creative non-fiction course. Little did I know it would be one of my most challenging courses, but I was bound and determined to do my best. I sat in a room full of the most talented CREATIVE WRITING MAJORS— I a Human Development major. Let’s just say, I had to REALLY learn to be more flexible with my writing fast. I felt so over my head. They didn’t let me drown, and I’m so grateful for each and every critique. I felt honored to hear, see, and feel the talent in that room. With that, I learned how to dance a different dance of words. 

FromALovingPlace.com was born from deep inside of me; a calling from my soul that has allowed me to continue my dance with words. The writer in me calls me to write letters, gratitude lists, blogs, sayings, articles, and now books.  My dance begins the second my fingers touch the keys. I started today’s post not having any idea what was going to come out, I just started to dance and my fingers took over. 

I allow my passion to take me on this journey daily and I feel full and abundant.

Thank you to all the teachers and professors who taught me how to turn on my light and dance with words. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

40 MORE DAYS TO THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

Love or Fear: The Straw-Hole Experiment

Over a decade ago, my friend Sarah gave me this image of us having a straw-holed vision of what is going on. A few years later, I took that image a step further and used it to create a visual example in a group project about the power of where we put our focus.  I’ve used this example in my 90-Day A Better Me Series and now I want to bring it to you. 

WHAT YOU NEED TO CONDUCT EXPERIMENT

Whether you use a metal straw or plastic straw, your hand to make a straw-sized hole, or the zoom feature on your phone, use what you have in front of you. The power of this experiment comes from doing it. 

DIRECTIONS

I want you to take out whatever you’re using and look at the two images below. Start off as close as you can on the image of your choice then slowly pull back.

ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS

  • Which image did you find yourself focusing on from the closer positioning?
  • What word was the center of your focus?
  • How much could you see around where you put your focus?
  • How much did you have to zoom in to see each and every word in the image?
  • Could you see the other image at all when your focus was on reading the words?
  • Could you focus on both images at the same time?

PULLING BACK TO GAIN PERSPECTIVE

  • How much more could you see?
  • Where was your focus?
  • Which words are you continuing to focus on?
  • Could you focus on both images at the same time?
  • Which image pulls your focus in?
  • How much could you see around where you put your focus?

IN CONCLUSION

No matter what we are looking at in our lives, we only have a very small view of the big picture. If we are focused on love/ hope it’s harder to focus on fear/ lack and vice versa.

The best we can do for ourselves and the world around us is try to pull our straw back from whatever we are focusing on to see a slightly bigger picture, then move the straw around to gain perspective on what we haven’t looked at and/or don’t understand. 

Once we gain the perspective, we can put so much more wisdom into where we choose to put our attention. 

We will never have a full picture view on anything in life. We can simply create perspectives of truth from whatever we are focusing our attention on.  Those perspectives will be based in love or fear, never both at the same time. Whichever we choose will create the straw-holed view of our focus, which we will be how we view our reality.

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

41 DAYS UNTIL LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME IS RELEASED!

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FEBRUARY 15, 2020

Audible’s release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME from Blackstone Publishing

February 18, 2020

Letters from a Better Me from Mango Publishing Paperback and E-Book release date. Go to Goodreads.com to see available on-line retailers.

February 29, 2020

I will be leading my Becoming the Butterfly Workshop at Dream Con St. Petersburg, Florida

March 15, 2020

Book Signing at Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore Atlanta, Georgia

A Call to Humanity: I am Me

I am ME!

I am Me. I am not ALL. No country, political party, religious organization, gender, community, culture, legal system, or even family member could tell you who I AM and what I stand for, unless the words describing me are from my own mouth, and even then there are times I’m confused and don’t even know where I stand. 

I may live in a country where you don’t believe and/ or understand the methods to the government’s madness, but I don’t personally know any single person who agrees with every choice their country’s government makes, let alone an individual within the government makes. That is not even possible. 

I may support a political party that you don’t share beliefs with and/or understand. I also many have refused to tie myself to any political party because neither represents my perspectives of truth on how I see the country uniting. I still have love in my heart and can show you humanity no matter what we disagree on politically, because my political stance doesn’t limit my humanity. It represents my personal perspectives of truth around government/political issues. 

I may be apart of a religious organization, spiritual group, or simply not believe in anything spiritual, but it doesn’t mean I don’t have love in my soul and carry similar fears as you. My perspectives of truth differ from many people that I love; yet we still find connection and peace within our differences. 

I may identify as a woman, man, or somewhere in-between, but none of that has any bearings on my limitations or my capacity to love, strive, succeed and/or fail at any particular step on my journey—even if it looks different than anything you understand. If you see me, beyond the gender I identify with, you will see loves and fears that could connect us in different ways. 

I am me, even within my own family of origin. I have grown to understand that I have to find my own truths in life and my experiences have helped to guide me on what feels right or wrong for me. Each and every family member may have different views, but I don’t love any one of them any less. We still find connection, and if a relationship isn’t a healthy choice to have in my life, just like with anyone else, I can choose to lovingly detach without hate in my heart. 

Please, understand that I am human and I will make mistakes because that is how I learn and grow in my humanity. Some mistakes may help me to hit necessary low points, so that I am empowered to make healthy choices in the future. No one action in my life defines who I am. What I do with each choice that I make shows you whether I am a healthy person for you to be around or not, RIGHT NOW.

Every choice you make helps me to decide if you are someone I have space for in my life, whether it be within my inner circle or across the world. If your heart shines through in your actions, I will be attracted to hearing your thoughts whether I have the same perspectives of truth or not. I understand something that I feel is SO True for me may not feel that way to you, and I accept that we will each carry the perspectives of truth that are right for us on our journeys. 

I am me simply trying to get to know you—connecting through our humanity. I am me, you are you, and we cannot be defined in any ALL category beyond human. 

Break the cycle of separation by committing to see each other for the individuals we each are. Will we do this perfectly? Unless you are a perfect human, I doubt it. I know I won’t, but I am committed to doing my best. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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#PerspectiveChallenge: Love Hurts

PERSPECTIVE: LOVE HURTS

I hear this one a lot, and at one point in my life, I would fully agree. First, I want you to think about what your definition of love is where you can say that love is what hurts you. I’m going to get personal with you here because this is obviously a topic that is at the heart of everything that I write about.  

My definition of love used to be so warped that it would include me putting up with unacceptable behavior because I believed it was done out of love. I was in my thirties before I saw that fear is what led all the behaviors, actions, words, thoughts, and feelings that I was or felt hurt by (there is a difference there too). 

I was at my lowest point when I finally heard the call to look up the definition of love. This is what came up:

Love is patient; Love is kind; Love is NOT envious or boastful OR arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; It is not irritable or resentful; It does not rejoice in Wrongdoing, But rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things.

—Corinthians 13.4-13.7

What about that definition has the potential to hurt? Everything that is mentioned about what love isn’t definitely has the potential to hurt. All of those things stem from fear. With that, my perspective that LOVE HURTS shifted to FEAR HURTS. It has even shifted more since those dark days, but the first step for me is giving love back the power it so much deserves. 

Now my definition of love is what anchors me and gives me a measurement of where my thoughts are in the moment. It shows me whether I’m living according to fear-based perspectives or love-based perspectives. We can choose either at any given moment, but if we don’t have a solid definition of love, we can get quickly confused between the two.  

When this perspective shifted, my life started changing. That is when I realized that in order to really live by this definition, I had to treat myself that way. That is when EVERYTHING changed for me. I was FINALLY able to break so many of the old patterns that came with my warped definition of love. Love Lifts is what I believe now. Love connects, and fear separates is what I believe. LOVE HURTS is just fear trying to use love as a cover-up. 

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE 

Write down all the reasons you believe that LOVE HURTS. Then use the definition above to see it is really love that is making you hurt. Write out as many perspectives of love that feel more true for you than LOVE HURTS. Check-in with your body to see what perspectives feel good and what ones don’t. The shift can feel extraordinary when it really sets in. 

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

43 More days until the release of Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Dear Fellow Humans: An Open Letter in a Time of Tragedy

Dear Fellow Humans, 

I woke up this morning with a weight on my heart. Seeing the devastation in Australia from their consuming brush fires got me thinking of the humans, animals, and nature that are being destroyed (tears fill my eyes). Imagining my fellow humans in such fear of their unknown futures, and the people who love them who are waiting on pins and needles praying for their safety with desperation in their hearts. I think of the firefighters and volunteers exhausted from what seems to be an endless fight with the power of the flame. 

In these times of natural disaster, I also think about the people who feel the call to do something, whether it be as a first responder or helping others through the aftermath of all the devastation. I think about the people who see what is happening and lend their support in any way that they can, even if it is taking time to say a prayer. 

I’m a believer that we hear calls in our heart to do things, and that we can choose to listen or ignore them, but what we choose will define a piece of our journey. If you feel a call in your heart right now, follow it. See where the call takes you. Trust the energy that is leading you to the highest good. Our calls may be different. Trust your journey. If you are led to get down on your knees and pray—PRAY! If you are led to send money, do the research and send it. If you have resources to help people and/or animals in the aftermath—DO IT! If you have the ability to offer your services in any sort of way, lend a hand. 

There are a lot of devastating tragedies going on in the world today. Your call could be directing you to somewhere else, and that is okay. When each individual answers the call that they hear, we take care of each other. 

That being said please don’t let one person’s poor choices (in any situation) make you go to ALL thinking. No ONE person can represent an ALL of any group whether it be race, religion, country, gender, community, etc. The only thing each and every person is—HUMAN. Let’s not forget our humanity. There are people struggling all around us. Be a light in the world that helps to lift and build, don’t let your energy be dragged down to the darkness of humanity by contributing to the hate. The energy we put out into the Universe matters. Make sure you are putting out energy that you want to see more of in the world. 

We each have our own journeys and hear our own calls. There is a reason you got yours, trust it. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

From A Loving Place

Rachael Wolff ©2020

Rachael Wolff: Here’s My Why

MY WHY

I believe that the healthier our thinking is the more good we can do in the world. When we become more conscious of what is going on inside of us, we are empowered to make better choices for ourselves and the world around us. 

I didn’t come up with this belief. It’s been written about for as long as people have been passing down stories. It’s been studied over and over again. Yet, for some reason, the majority of us resist it out of fear. With that, we keep trying to use fear and accept fear-based thinking to guide us. You see this in our social media, news, politics, and daily interactions with others. 

Even though this has been written about time and time again, the way some people try to get us there is through fear.

Since many individuals are stimulated to move and change through fear, why wouldn’t this method work? 

When we do things from a place of fear, we are NOT focusing on the energy we want. We are focused on what we don’t want. Here’s an example, a God-fearing individual might do things because they don’t want to go to hell. That is a fear-driven way to live and when we fail, get lazy, resist, or make a poor choice, our fear kicks in to high swing and we belittle ourselves and start a shame cycle.  We are not worthy of God’s love. We are not worthy of getting into heaven. 

Not all religious practices are driven by fear, and some have changed it’s messages over time. Even with the changes, individuals still will take the route of shame and fear-based living because they are unconsciously living with beliefs that have been passed down from generations even if the belief has been proven unhealthy or false—The beliefs are embedded. This isn’t just tied to religion. This can be tied to ANY belief system we hold. 

WHY FROM A LOVING PLACE?

This is WHY I do what I do, write what I write, practice what I practice, read what I read, etc. This is WHY I named this blog, From A Loving Place and named my book, Letters from A Better Me. My Why represents the work of thinking from a loving place, believing from a loving place, and doing from a loving place. My goal is to help others open themselves up to live from a loving place too. The larger the community we have living from a loving place, the more our conversations will change on social media, in the news, in politics, with each other, and in the world. This is not a fluff or woo-woo conversation. We can choose to live in fear or love at any minute of the day.

What is wrong with our thinking that living in fear has become an acceptable norm and living in love is woo-woo? 

I know I’m not alone in my why. I see it in the social media I focus on. I see it  in the stories and research I spend my time reading. I see it in  many of the people I choose to have in my life. When I feel better about me, understand where my shadows come from, and see the power my light creates—I soar. I then connect to the energy and people who feel this too. It’s amazing how many amazing people have come into my life since I started connecting to my why.

MY JOURNEY

I’m on a transformative journey. I’m open to learn and grow, so I can pass on what works for me. It doesn’t have to work for you. Our whys don’t have to be the same. I have plenty of friends and loved ones who don’t have the same why. What we do have is some of the same joys, laughter, experiences, triumphs, lessons, fears, sadness, humor, sarcasm, love, happiness and sorrows. Those are the things that connect me to others. When I choose to connect and live my why, I feel free within all those connections. I don’t take our differences personally. I know how I want to live, and I know that I’m making my choices consciously. The healthier I am, the healthier my relationships with others are.  I also am clear on healthy boundaries and trusting my gut when I don’t feel comfortable around particular people. It all works together. 

My happiness in my life comes in large part to figuring out my why. My why is what guides me in my daily choices of how I want to be living. It helps me to learn from my fears, and to change what doesn’t work in my life. This doesn’t mean I ALWAYS choose to live in my why.

WHEN I DISCONNECT FROM MY WHY

I learned important warning signs for when and how I would fall out of living my why in a 12-Step program called AL-ANON.

H.A.L.T.

  • Hungry
  • Angry
  • Lonely
  • Tired

H.A.L.T. is a reminder to check-in with ourselves when we are feeling emotionally triggered. It’s the reminder to stop, take a breath, and reflect. When I’m experiencing one or all of these things, it’s a struggle for me to live my why, because I’m irritable. I take other people’s actions personally. I also, play fear-based messages in my mind because my lack of focus is guiding me to unconscious living. I’m not perfect by any means. I’ve screamed at my kids, I’ve blamed others, I’ve held personal pity-parties more times than I can count, but I do all of this when I’m lost somewhere in the hungry, angry, lonely, and/or tired. I don’t want to take care of myself when I’m there, so I’m not present. I’m defensive and lost somewhere in my unhealed past or the unknown future. My head is definitely not where my feet are. 

When I realize that I don’t like the space where I am, I have HALT to help me find my way out: 

  • If I’m hungry—I eat.
  • If I’m angry—I write, exercise, dance, or talk to someone I trust not to commiserate with me but to help me be responsible and accountable.
  • If I’m lonely—I write a gratitude list, call a friend, hug one of my kids, write a letter to myself, or go do something I love to do.
  • If I’m tired—I sleep and if I can’t sleep, I meditate, get on my Simply Fit Exercise Board, or go outside and walk. 

These are just a few of the tools I use to get me back to living my life from a loving place and showing myself the love that I deserve. This is how I get my thinking to a healthy place, so that I can make the best choices for myself and with that—the world I live in. 

DEFINE YOUR WHY

Take the time to define your why. The how, what, where, when, and who hold more meaning when we allow our why to lead us on our journeys. We start understanding that we have to stumble to learn. We don’t have to let our stumbles define who we are, we can let the lessons we learned be our driving force to make better and wiser choices.

WHAT’S NEXT?

 If you feel connected to what I’m saying, make sure to follow the From A Loving Place blog. You can also follow me on Facebook.com/FromALovingPlace for daily inspiration to help you stay connected to your WHY.

I’m also very excited because I will be speaking in St. Petersburg, Florida at Dream Con on February 29, 2020. This will be my first event after my book, Letters from A Better Me launches in 45 days (Feb.18, 2020).  You will also be able to find me in Atlanta, GA at Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore from 4-6PM on March 15, 2020 for a book-signing event. If you can’t make it to see me in person, the 35-Day A Better Me Boot Camp’s next session will be available in March 2020. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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#PerspectiveChallenge: Money is Evil

PERSPECTIVE: MONEY IS EVIL

If anything guarantees you a horrible relationship with money, it’s telling yourself and the Universe that money is evil. If money is evil, anytime you have money you will sabotage it staying in your life. If money is evil, you make excuses for some people’s poor choices and look past others kind and loving choices that involve money. 

  • Is money evil or is some people’s relationship to money evil?
  • Do some people who have money give themselves the excuses to do evil because they believe that money is evil
  • Is the reason you resist being financially successful tied to your belief that money is evil?
  • If the reason why you can’t seem to hold onto money because you don’t want to let it’s evil rub off on you? 
  • Is the belief that money is evil hiding a bigger set of destructive beliefs?
  • These are all questions to ponder when we challenge the perspective of thinking that money is evil

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Investigate your relationship with money. Get personal with yourself to discover your beliefs around money. Do the work to heal any negative perspectives you hold that could be keeping you from having a healthy relationship. I can promise you—money won’t do anything to you, it’s a piece of paper. You are the only one that holds the key to healing any relationship you have with it. Whatever energy you put into it, you will get back. What energy do you want to put into that piece of paper?

  • What comes up for you when you think the thought money is evil
  • How is your relationship with money?
  • Does money always show up when you need it?
  • Do you have everything you need to survive this moment?
  • Do you focus on the choices that unhealthy people are making and blame it on having too much or not enough money? 
  • Do you do things in fear of not having enough money?
  • When you think of money, where do you feel it in your body? Do you feel light or heavy inside?

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

46 Days until Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World can be delivered to your door. 

Upcoming Events

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Dream Con/ St. Petersburg, Florida on February 29, 2020

Book signing 

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Letters from A Better Me: Hello 2020

Hello 2020, 

I’m writing to tell you that I’m ready for you. I’ve come to the place where I know that whatever comes my way is an opportunity to learn and grow. Whether I’m celebrating triumphs and successes or learning from chaos and confusion—I’m open and willing to experience what you have to bring me. 

Today is a one-day in the 366 days you have to offer. Each day, I will have the ability to take what I learned and start fresh. Every evening, I will have the opportunity to sit and reflect on the choices I made that day. I’m choosing to learn from what doesn’t work and what doesn’t feel good. I’m choosing to appreciate everything that DOES work and DOES feel good. 

With my eye on gratitude, and keeping with the energy I want to see more of—I thank you for giving me this day. I thank you for the beauty of the sunrise and oxygen that fills my lungs. 

I’m so grateful for my eyes to see, my ears to hear, my nose to smell, my hands to touch, my arms to extend, my legs to walk, my soul to love, and my taste buds to enjoy the foods Mother Earth provides. This is only the beginning of what I’m grateful for today. 

The relationships in my life, both past and present, provide me with everything I need to give me strength, perseverance, hope, courage, compassion, empathy, joy, sadness, along with tons of opportunities to shine my best light and learn from the darkest corners of my soul. The love and fear I’ve experienced and learned from are what prepares me to be the best version of me today. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Let each day lead you to your greatest transformation yet!

Rachael Wolff ©2020

47 days until the release of Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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