Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #235

I’m grateful for my tears. It wasn’t until I lost my ability to cry that I became grateful for my tears. When I was seventeen I went to the psychiatric ward for attempting suicide. I was put on meds that numbed me. Towards the end of my stay, my cousin was in a car accident. She was in a coma. I felt nothing. I wanted to feel, but the feelings inside me felt like they were trapped in a dungeon and couldn’t come to the surface. I knew I wanted to feel, because I am a born empath. I wouldn’t just feel my feelings, I would take on the feelings of those suffering and/or enjoying life around me. I didn’t know that at the time. I used to be able to mask myself with happy people, so that nobody knew how bad I really felt inside. At the time, I just thought of myself as a chameleon. The point is I knew how to feel, and I couldn’t.

People were so worried about how I would take it when she passed away. I wanted to cry, but the tears wouldn’t come. I wanted to feel, but I was numb. Shortly after, I got off of all the meds and I cried. I have appreciated my tears ever since. Even in my darkest times, I knew that I was allowing myself to fully feel what was going on. I had no barriers to my pain, which meant I had no barriers to the growth that always followed.

There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.

—Washington Irving

Side Note: I read this quote in the book, Heart Healing: The Power of Forgiveness to Heal a Broken Heart by Susyn Reeve. It hit me so perfectly that it was the seed that inspired this piece. The book link is at the bottom of this piece.

This morning, my tears came. They were not happy tears. They were tears that felt sadness for the people who have embraced the energy of fear, lack, and separation so much that the RAGE emerged into violence. I’ve heard stories of multiple shootings over the past week. So many people taking their stuff out on innocent bystanders. So many people making others to blame for the stories of fear, lack, and separation playing in their heads. Men who feel it’s weak to cry, instead kill. I’m not saying all men, I’m talking about the men who committed these acts of violence. Rage only comes when we don’t address the feelings underneath, which all come back to fear, lack, and separation. My rage is my indicator that I have some work to do, because the rage is the build-up of violent internal thoughts and beliefs (perspectives) that explode out on someone else when it goes unexamined.

I’m grateful for my tears because they are the reminder to me to look at the feelings that are coming up within me, whether it is to appreciate a moment of joy or feel through a moment of pain. If I chose not to acknowledge my sadness for the perpetrators and the innocent people they hurt and/or killed, I could have easily let myself go to the rage, which would have shifted my energy into fear, lack, and separation. Instead, I felt and acknowledged my sadness, and embraced it with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, which allowed me to feel in away that didn’t cause harm to myself or others. I have my tears to thank for that. They are the cleansers of my soul. Before I knew better, I thought they would drown me. Now, I see that they help me push through the barriers that keep me locked up, and they help to set me free.

Today, I commit to celebrating my tears.I don’t care if my tears come from feelings that align me with fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace. I will appreciate each tear that falls from my eyes. I cry many times when I’m writing these daily posts. I wonder sometimes if other empaths can feel that. Anyone around me would tell you that I can cry at a beer commercial. If a commercial has any level of sentimental value, I will proudly shed my tears. I can see a billboard and feel the message to the point of tears. I will not shove my feelings down. I will not pretend that I’m not touched when I am. I will not be afraid to show my soul. I do not feel TOO much. I’m not TOO sensitive. I know how to express my feelings in healthy ways. Some people get uncomfortable with that, but that is their journey to figure out. I love the way I feel and process my feelings. I love the way my tears show me when I need to get harmful energy out of my body. I love that I have less health problems because I know how to let myself feel in healthy ways. I accept my tears with open arms.

If I’m having a day where the tears keep coming over grief, loss, or hurt, and I wake-up with an emotional hangover from losing so much fluid, I know that I’m on my way to a emotional and spiritual growth spurt. I once believed it was hitting a bottom, but I really just needed the tears to help me break through. It was when I stop crying that I halted my growth. As I heal my past, my tears change. I don’t have the same extreme cry sessions from the built up pressure from my unhealed past. It’s funny, I’ve even learned to understand my different cries. I know the one that taps into unhealed trauma, past feelings of neglect, past feelings of abandonment, and when grief resurfaces. I know when I’m feeling an abundance of love, AWE, joy, sentiment, empathy, and compassion. When I feel an extreme connection with people in a moment and my tears fill my eyes, my eyes turn bright blue before the first tear comes out. I actually never noticed that one until I started attending Zoom meetings LOL. Today, I’m celebrating my tears.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for purchasing options)

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  1. Heart Healing
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  3. The Gift of Crisis

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #234

I’m grateful to have the tools to connect to self. At about 14, I discovered the importance of connecting to self. I wasn’t good at it. I was actually HORRIBLE at it, because my self-concept was so bad that what I connected to was self-abuse. I kept getting seeds along the way. I would try to plant them, but my toxic foundation of self-hate kept any of the good seeds from developing, at least for a few decades. I was queen of self-sabotage. I finally reached a point of absolute desperation when I was the mother of two young children and thought, What kind of example am I being to them? It was my wake-up call. What they were seeing in our home wasn’t healthy. It was time to get real. When I made the decision to start doing the work, all kinds of amazing doors and pathways started revealing themselves to me. They were all guiding me inward to fix the issue from the core of where the problem festered—ME.

I was the problem and the solution all in one. When I was ready to truly see that, the path inward became incredibly rewarding. I still had some hard lessons to learn. I’m sure there are plenty to come, but now I have the tools and I’ve planted a beautiful internal garden that is ripe with life, color, and growth. I visualize connecting to self as designing and nurturing my internal garden. I have to choose what I want to plant, what works, what doesn’t, and I have to manage the weeds and take care of the soil. NOBODY can plant seeds in my garden. I’m the only one who can let things grow, move them, or remove them. That is the power of connecting to self, I get to see what is going on inside of me. I know when my energy is aligning with love, abundance,and peace, which nurtures my garden. I also know when my energy is aligning with fear, lack, and separation, which is what is giving life to the weeds. Looking inward is the way I authentically represent what I stand for in the world. I have to be willing to look at myself, or I will continue to give my power away and be victim to this life. I choose to be empowered by it!

Today, I commit to connecting to self. I’ve learned so many tools for connecting to self over the years. The benefits are endless! Let’s start with some of my favorite benefits that come with connecting to self from a loving place:

  • Improves intuition
  • Improves ability to HEAR and ABSORB Divine guidance
  • Improves inner peace
  • Improves our ability to stay present for longer time periods
  • Improves communication with people we agree and/or disagree with
  • We learn to respond to others, instead of react to our unhealed pasts
  • Increases our ability to have authentic loving relationships (NOT FEAR-BASED)
  • Increases ability to spot solutions
  • Increases ability to be responsible and accountable without self-abusing and/or blaming others
  • Increases our ability to spot and stop unhealthy patterns of behavior and thought
  • Increases our ability to align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace
  • Diminishes psychic and emotional blocks
  • Better self-talk
  • More self-aware

I was only planning on typing a few when I started this list, and there are so many more. Connecting to self is not a selfish act. By connecting to self we are showing ourselves the love we deserve. Connecting to self helps us find clarity in how we can serve from a loving place, instead of from a place of lack. When we don’t see our worth and try to find it in the outside world, we are aligning with the energy of fear, lack, and separation instead of love, abundance, and peace. Over these last 234 days, I’ve given followers/readers a lot of tools to connect to self. Here are some of my favorites:

  • Free-writing: Take 15-30 minutes and just write whatever comes out. Don’t go back and correct, just keep writing. I get a lot of my Divine guidance this way. I like to start by asking a question.
  • Letter writing: I write letters to myself to hold myself accountable, show myself love, make commitments to myself, forgive myself, and try to unravel any chaos I’ve stirred up.
  • Nature walking for guidance: I ask a question in a prayer and then ask for the answer to be revealed on my nature walk. I LOVE some of the AMAZING lessons I’ve got from nature!
  • Prayer: When I need help connecting, I ask for it! When I want clarity, I ask for it! When I have no idea what I want or need, I ask for guidance. Then I listen and show gratitude for knowing that my soul is safe.
  • Tapping (EFT): This is great for when a repeated negative message keeps playing in my head like a broken record. It helps to give me space to change the message playing to a healthier one.
  • Reading: Just this weekend I read two books that REALLY sparked my connections to self. I always have at least one book going that will help me see myself as clearly as possible. This is me feeding the energy of love, abundance, and peace in my downtime. I feel SO much better when I commit to educating myself. I also pick books that help me understand others so that I don’t take their stuff personally while still holding compassion for them. Taking care of myself means I’m not taking on other people’s stuff as my own. That’s their journey.
  • Meditation: I find that meditations whether they be walking, writing, breathing, formal, informal, long, or short all help me tap into my intuition and keep my mind open to be guided.
  • Mindfulness practices: Being where my feet are and appreciating the moment I’m in helps me to see things without attachments to the unknown future or my unhealed past.
  • Stretching movements: This could be any kind of movement/flow exercise. This helps me connect with my body and see where it really is and how it is really feeling.
  • Perspective challenges: I like to challenge my perspectives anytime I notice they are aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I try to figure out how to look at the same facts, but align my perspectives with love, abundance, and peace. This helps me to see that I always have choices in how I look at things.
  • Courting: I take myself on dates. I make sure that I do things I love to do, and I don’t wait for anyone else to do it for me. I show myself the love I deserve. I am my life partner, and I want to be the best life partner I can be. I make sure to give myself quality time, which includes nurturing and fun time. How I treat myself shows others how to treat me.
  • Watching for triggers: This is where I get to hold myself responsible and accountable for my reactions to other’s choices. I watch to see anytime my energy aligns with fear, lack, and separation and then I question myself to see where that feeling really comes from. This helps me to see what past stuff hasn’t been healed yet.

Connecting to self has so many amazing layers. That is why I’m looking forward to the conversation I will be having with two of my fellow authors on the topic. If you read this before March 24th, you are welcome to join us. It’s free and the details are down below. If you miss it, I will be posting the replay as soon as it is available. There are so many different ways to connect, what is important is that you find the right way for you.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information)

ZOOM EVENT

  1. Heart Healing
  2. Letters From A Better Me
  3. The Gift of Crisis

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #233

I’m grateful I learned how important it is to question my beliefs. The days of I am who I am and I’m not changing are over. That was a painful place to live. I was so stuck in my beliefs that I was constantly stirring up chaos to prove myself right. I believed horrible things about myself, life, family, romance, career, and so much more. I just kept sabotaging myself by what I was choosing to believe. I believed that I DESERVED to be miserable. Can you imagine the reality that creates?

Now, I question my beliefs and how they serve the life I actually want. The clearer I became on how I wanted to live, the easier it has become to question my beliefs to see if they align with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. I even enjoy the questioning process now. I’ve learned to laugh at myself when I spot a belief that is still aligned with fear, lack, and separation. The more open I am to see my beliefs that aren’t healthy, the healthier I become by simply being aware that the belief isn’t serving me. Awareness is ALWAYS the first step to changing anything.

I absolutely love questioning because it makes me see how my beliefs do and don’t serve me. I get to see which ones help me with my relationships and which ones hurt me. I discover my strengths and weaknesses while getting the opportunity to improve both. Being able to question my beliefs is a Divine gift.

Today, I commit to questioning my beliefs that no longer serve me.

  • Do I have any beliefs that are working against me living the life that I want to be living?
  • Are any of my current beliefs serving the energy of fear, lack, and separation over love, abundance, and peace?
  • Which beliefs am I open to consider new ones?

These are the questions for the day. This is the work I will do today to make sure I’m living as the best version of me. The key is staying aware, accepting where I am right now, and taking action in the direction of improving the current situation.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title for more information

UPCOMING EVENT

I’m so excited to be facilitating this wonderful event. I’m reading the books right now and they have so many gifts to offer. I can’t wait for this amazing conversation. I hope you will join us for the FREE Heart Wisdom Panel on Connecting to Self. You can learn more about the books we will be touching on in the links below:

  1. Heart Healing
  2. The Gift of Crisis
  3. Letters From A Better Me

To register, please email ramirezneverdie@gmail.com and she will send you the link. 

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #232

I’m grateful I know the best place to begin is within. No matter what is going on in the world, the best place to begin is always within. When I try to begin outside of myself, I lose. When I begin within, I get myself aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace FIRST! When I get myself aligned first, I see more clearly; I ask for help when needed; I find solutions instead of problems; I keep taking the next best step; I take responsibility and accountability for my own stuff; and I don’t take other people’s stuff personally. Beginning within is me putting my oxygen mask on myself first, and then extending help to others in need.

Today, I commit to begin within. The Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace series is about me beginning within. I know the best way I can serve others is to be aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I know the best way for me to serve myself is to be aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Beginning within is about me continuing to do the work to live my best life by being the best me that I possibly can. The healthier I am, the healthier my relationships are. The healthier my relationships are, the more joy I get to spread to the world. Like energy expands and multiples. If I want to spread the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I have to live it within first.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #231

I’m grateful I believe in attracting and repelling energy. Just like magnets, I believe we attract and repel energy. If our energy aligns with someone else’s, we attract them into our lives in some way, shape, or form. If the energies repel each other, we will feel pushed a part. We move away from them or something comes up that a plan falls through. There is something about the two energies that are creating resistance in the present moment. I’ve learned to REALLY trust both when I’m attracted and when I’m repelled.

Energy doesn’t lie. Our energy is either aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation at any given moment in time. We will attract and/or repel people according to where our energy is. Even within those energy fields, where we focus our energy can determine who we will attract and/or repel at any given moment. I’ve seen this work so many times in my life. Even when I was attracting some pretty nasty stuff. It actually helped me become aware of when I was in negative energy field. I touched on this a few days ago, but let’s go deeper.

It took me attracting some pretty unhealthy romantic partners for me to get down deep enough to see that I wasn’t as positive of a person as the surface revealed. Deep down, I was hiding layers of shame, self-hatred, contempt, resentments, envy, and rage. That’s not even tapping into the unhealed trauma. The energy I was putting out was leaking toxic levels of fear, lack, and separation, which is why I attracted partners who were attracted to that energy. The healthier I got, the energies started repelling each other until one of us would left. I’ve never been so grateful for the power of energy in my life!! As I worked through the layers, the energies created more and more distance to the point where there is no emotional charge at all. Neither of the people is anywhere close to my life, but I have no toxic feelings for them. I absolutely trust that my energy is just in a VERY different place.

This doesn’t just happen romantically, that is just the most extreme. I’ve been attracted and repelled in all areas of my life: professional, spiritual, friendships, groups, organizations, loved ones, etc. It’s not about judgment, just how energy aligns. I trust whoever is in or out of my life is there for the exact time they are meant to be. I trust when people cancel plans, circumstances change, groups no longer feel right, and others do. I trust the energy.

When my agent and I were shopping my book, I knew exactly the energy I was looking for in a publisher, and that was the EXACT energy I got when I found Mango Publishing. I absolutely love the team there and I have great relationships with many of the authors, staff, and interns. I heard no and “We’re passing” A LOT before Mango Publishing revealed themselves to us. I trusted that the right person would align with the messages in the book. I wanted someone who saw vision and boy did she!

The deeper my belief gets in energies attracting and repelling each other, the less personal I take it when people don’t like me, what I write, who I am, or what I represent in the world. I trust whoever is meant to be close to me will. I trust whoever is supposed to read my work will. I believe that if it resonates with a person, it’s because our energies are aligned. I’ve picked up best-selling books that repel me. I’ve met best-selling authors who repelled me. They just aren’t meant for me. Those seeds are for someone else. If I’m meant to get something from a person or their work, I will be drawn to them and/or their work. I love picking out books to read this way. It’s one of the reasons I love when sample chapters or free previews are available of books and courses. They help me tap into the energy if the person has a voice that resonates or it doesn’t.

My friend and I read books together and talk about them every week. Years ago, we read a book and I swear the book was so hard for me to get through, but I knew there was a reason I still wanted to finish it. There was one chapter in the book that created a giant shift in my life around the way I prayed. I had to trust that even though the lesson was challenging, I was meant to go through it. My energy kept pulling me there, and I’m so grateful I trusted it. Reading and absorbing that one chapter is one of the best seeds I’ve EVER planted.

Here’s what else I learned about energy attracting and repelling: Just because energy attracts or repels doesn’t mean either person or group is bad or good. It simply means the energies don’t match up. Sometimes it may be because one person is in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and the other person is in the energy of love, abundance, and peace in that instant. It could be that even with the same energy fields, the focus of the energy doesn’t align. The beauty is if we are in a dangerous situation, and we trust the energy, people who are looking to do harm may completely avoid us because the energies don’t align. That part is not for me to judge. What is important to me is that I pay attention! When I notice definite examples of energy attracting and repelling, I thank God. The more I show my gratitude, the more I notice it. AND BONUS… because expressing gratitude keeps me in the energy of abundance. Win-win!

Today, I commit to focusing on the energy I’m attracting and repelling. This takes being completely present. I find that having a clear understanding of the energy fields of love, abundance, and peace and fear, lack, and separation are helpful. The more I understand these two groups, the more clearly I see when I’m attracting and repelling—AND what that means about where my energy is. This tool keeps me responsible and accountable for the energy I’m putting out there. It also helps me to be honest with myself, because energy doesn’t lie. There is no one I can blame or give credit to for my energy being where it is. Can people influence my energy? Only if I allow them to. I’ve given myself excuses a millions of times on giving others blame or credit, but the truth is if I didn’t want to be in an energy field, I wouldn’t be there. I’m the one who has to figure out what will help me get out of it, but nobody can do that part for me. They can nurture and support or attack and push buttons, but they can’t MAKE me shift.

When I want to attract people from the energy of love, abundance, and peace my energy needs to be in the place to see them in front of me or else I will repel them. If I’m not repelling people stuck in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, there is something inside me that is attracting the energy. That just means I have some learning to do as long as I keep my mind open to absorb the lesson.

My judgments of people be good, bad, or evil, really don’t serve me. This doesn’t mean I don’t get myself wrapped up in them sometimes, but they don’t serve me. They actually keep me from being open to see where my energy is aligning. My ego gets involved and I pretend I know better than what the energy is trying to teach me. That’s why today my focus is on just paying attention to the energy I attract and repel and thanking God every time I notice.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Available in audiobook, audio CD, ebook, and paperback—find out more by clicking the title)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #230

I’m grateful I authentically love myself. This took me a VERY long time to get to. I can look in the mirror without self-abusing. I can say no and KNOW that I have healthy boundaries because I love myself. I can love someone else without taking on their feelings of guilt, shame, fear, lack, and separation. I can disagree with someone else and not slide into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I can do all these things because I authentically love myself. I know that the one person I am responsible and accountable for is me and that I’m going to project out to the world whatever I feel most inside me, I want that to be love.

I didn’t even recognize the definition of love until I was open enough to see that my definition of love was laced with fear, lack, and separation, which is anything but love. Learning how to love myself was an essential piece of being able to live life from a loving place. Loving myself helped me to love others in a way I NEVER knew before. I am able to see people and circumstances in a way that I’ve never been able to see before I knew this love.

I love that I can tell when and when I’m not treating MYSELF with love and respect. When I used to treat myself like I wasn’t worthy of love, respect, time, compassion, and empathy, I would accept others treating me like I wasn’t worthy of it. I would fight for others to love and respect me. I would fight for people to give me their time, compassion, and empathy. I was expecting others to give me what I wasn’t giving myself—that’s not love.

I am who I am, and I love who I am. I choose my reality by the energy I align with to create it. I choose to create my reality with love at the core. I choose to project the love I have for myself out to the world as much as I can. I choose to work through my energy of fear, lack, and separation as it comes up, because it will. I will learn and grow from my shadow, because I love myself enough to embrace all of me both shadow and light.

Today, I commit to showing myself the love I deserve. It’s not enough to say that I love myself. I authentically love myself when I am willing to do the work. My actions speak louder than words. One of the techniques I use is to think about the expectations I have of others to show me they love me. Then, I take that list and can see all the ways I’m neglecting to show myself the love I deserve. I look at my list and anything that I’m expecting someone else to do that I don’t do for myself is what I need to work on to give myself the love I deserve. The more focused I am on what others aren’t doing for me or how they aren’t appreciating what I am doing is how I’ve come to determine when I’m not SHOWING myself enough love. Here’s a sample of how I’ve learned to show myself the love I deserve:

  1. I will show myself the love I deserve by MAKING the time to take care of my needs.
  2. I will show myself the love I deserve by ENJOYING my time with others.
  3. I will show myself the love I deserve by not expecting others to be who they are not.
  4. I will show myself the love I deserve by drinking plenty of water.
  5. I will show myself the love I deserve by taking time to stretch.
  6. I will show myself the love I deserve by giving love to others.
  7. I will show myself the love I deserve by treating myself like a life partner I want to live with.
  8. I will show myself the love I deserve by sitting outside and enjoying the peace and quiet (quality time).
  9. I will show myself the love I deserve by establishing healthy boundaries with others.
  10. I will show myself the love I deserve by serving other from a loving place (not a place to gain worth or get something back).

We all deserve to be the best life partners we can be to ourselves. The healthier the relationship we have with ourselves, the healthier the relationships we have with others.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #229

I’m grateful I became health conscious instead of a health prisoner. Here’s what is funny about us humans. We will often see the truth of something in one area of our lives or someone else’s, but not be able to connect it to other areas or our own lives. We also might see the big picture of how something is true out in the world, and then not be able to reign it enough to see how that means if it is true out there, it is true in the heart too for our individual lives. Health is the perfect example of this for me. I was someone who had health issues for many years, but never connected that my self-abuse, self-contempt, self-hatred, self-neglect, and unhealed traumas. They were pieces to why my body was working against me. I couldn’t connect that if we are made up of energy and the energy I’m putting into my body is toxic, I’m going to attract toxic things to my body. I was a prisoner of my health. My perspectives (thoughts and beliefs) about my health kept me prisoner. I hope you’ve been following along with this series, because if you have you might be having alarm bells go off right now if you’ve been paying attention.

When I was in a toxic relationship, I was having all these issues with my sexual and reproductive organs. I felt physically ill more than I didn’t. My body at one point shut down as it was screaming NO MORE! I was in another toxic relationship where I couldn’t poop at my boyfriend’s house, even if I stayed there for days. My body was literally full of shit, as I was in complete denial to see how toxic the the relationship I was in really was. Another time, I had gained 20 additional pounds and I was in a battle to get it off. I looked at my body with disgust and then busted my ass exercising and starving myself as the weight kept coming on. I couldn’t see that where I was putting my energy was in what I DIDN’T WANT, so I was creating more of it.

As I got mentally, emotionally, and spiritually better, my health started to improve in a natural way. People would tell me that I looked ten years younger. Better than looking younger, my body felt so much better. At 40, a doctor told me my labs were as close to perfect health as he has seen. This was right when I was graduating college and starting to write blogs on FromALovingPlace.com. I had stopped doing the intense workouts and began to find ones that a my body loved, like nature walks and yoga. I didn’t have to be in pain to lose the weight, which was a message I had been told so many times. It’s a perspective that I bought into, and actually caused resistance for me because I don’t like being in pain LOL. I didn’t exercise for a long time because believing in those messages. Remember perspectives are our power or our prison.

This doesn’t mean I don’t have issues, believe me, I have things come up, but they are always there to teach me something. I just have to remain open enough to listen. This is how I stay health conscious instead of being a health prisoner. If I believe that things happen to me and not for me, I’m prisoner. If I believe that things happen for me, not to me, I’m in the power to change, grow, and expand from whatever I’m faced with. Those two beliefs feel very different in the body. They create different energy in the body. If I’m working against my body by being in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, and trying to conquer it—I’m screwing myself! Now, I focus on what I want to see more of with my body, which is love, abundance, and peace and I make health choices from there. Instead of focusing on what my body can’t do or where it isn’t, I focus on what I can do. I’m grateful my body is my vessel of learning and absorbing for this life. My body has so much to teach me, I just have to remain open to listen.

I’m so grateful I learned how to be health conscious, but just like everything else, it takes daily work and daily practice to stay present to what my body is telling me, and just because I hear what my body is telling me, doesn’t mean I always want to listen, but the more I stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, the more willing I am to do the work. One perspective that has put the passion behind my daily work to live health conscious is that not taking care of my body is a form of self-abuse and self-neglect. Whatever we project out comes back. If I’m projecting out that I accept abuse and neglect, I will get that back in the relationships I attract to my life. Those relationships can be in my career, personal, physical, or spiritual life, depending on where my energy is focused. That gives me the drive to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace DAILY!

Today, I commit to doing the work to stay health conscious. I know where my mind needs to be in order for me to do the best work for my body—aligned with love, abundance, and peace. As I’ve talked about before on Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace, making lists about self-care can be very helpful, because when we really need self-care is when our minds are trapped inside a box of chaos (prison) that is filled with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. The directions are on the outside of the box written in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. That is the energy that frees us from the chaos. Knowing the tools we need to get out of the box before we get into the box, is a sure way of not being stuck in the box for too long. Here are some of the tools that work best to keep me health conscious:

  • Loving myself exactly the way I am
  • Healthy self-talk
  • Taking nature walks
  • Making time for social walks
  • Mediating
  • Tapping (EFT)
  • Doing exercises I enjoy (the Simply Fit Board with weights for me)
  • Making self-care a priority (Shaming ourselves is self-abuse)
  • stretching and conscious movement exercises (This helps me feel areas of my body that are holding onto toxic energy)
  • Being conscious of food and drink choices—paying attention to how they feel processing them and how they effect the health of my organs (overindulging in food, alcohol, drugs, etc is a form of self-abuse)
  • Listening to what my body needs (I only can do this when my mind is in a healthy mindset)
  • Asking/praying for guidance on how to move the blocked energy in my body
  • Being open to seeing the lessons my body is trying to teach me
  • Healing past traumas
  • Aligning with love, abundance, and peace DAILY!
  • Listening to audiobooks that I’m drawn to mental, emotional, and/or spiritual health
  • Reading books and/or articles that I’m drawn to about healthy living
  • Writing

There is no order to this list, and this is my list based on the life lessons I’ve learned. We have to figure out our own lists because not everything that works for me will work for you, and vice versa. Some people need to have a solid practice of specific rituals they do every day, and that is what works for them. Some may need the community of supporters to help to keep them accountable. I’ve needed different things at different times. If going to church every Sunday contributes to your energy of love, abundance, and peace, then that is meant to be on your list. The only suggestion I have for anyone making their own list is really understand the difference in what feeds your energy of fear, lack, and separation and what feeds your energy of love, abundance, and peace. If you put things on your list that link you to the energy of fear, lack, and separation (activities, ideas, practices, thoughts, and/or beliefs that cause you to feel fear, shame, or guilt) you will stay a health prisoner.

One of the perspectives that kept me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation was my negative attachment to the word “should”. If my thoughts go to I should be… or if I’m told you should… I feel it in my body. Sometimes it’s guilt, other times it’s shame, but overall it’s the messages that tap into thoughts and beliefs that are linked into the fear, lack, and separation that lie within me. Part of living consciously is paying attention to how our bodies and minds react when something feels right and when something doesn’t.

If you need more help deciphering, I invite you do go back and read through past Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace posts that guide you through this process (an easy way to scroll through these is at Facebook.com/LettersfromaBetterMe. You can also find a lot of insights in my 90-Day A Better Me Series (it’s free, just tap the name). Specifically for women, I have written the book Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information). This process happens in layers, more will always be revealed. Just stay open to the process and please don’t beat yourself up as you learn what works and what doesn’t for you. All that does is keep you in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, and the answers all lie in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title for more information)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #228

I’m grateful I learned how to change the game. Understanding the power of perspective (thoughts and beliefs) and how every perspective is aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation changed the entire game for me. I found out I no longer had to be prisoner of any perspectives that don’t serve my highest good. I found out that I don’t have to believe any perspectives that don’t feel right inside of me. I learned that my power lies in my ability to take personal responsibility and accountability for what energy I’m projecting out into the world. NO ONE is capable of changing the game for me. Only I have the power to do it for MY life.

When I align my energy with love, abundance, and peace, I attract more of it. When I align my energy with fear, lack, and separation, I attract more of it. Changing the game is about changing the energy I put out. I can’t fool the Universe. My energy is my energy until I do the work to change it—for better or for worse. I only have the power to change the game when I’m willing to look at myself and where my energy is really aligned.

I feel invigorated just writing these words. My fingers are moving so fast as this simple truth in my life flows out of me. Perspective is our power or our prison. It’s not about how anyone else is making the choices for their lives. It’s about how I’m CHOOSING to live my life. I’m the only person who has to live with me from the cradle to the grave. If I want to live my best life, I have to make sure that I’m aligning myself with the best ways to do that.

Today, I commit to empowering myself to change the game. I don’t just get to make this commit once and then BOOM! The game is changed. I have to reflect daily on where I played into a game that wasn’t mine. I have to be accountable and responsible for the plays that were aligned with fear, lack, and separation instead of love, abundance, and peace. I have question my choices and acknowledge if there are choices that I can make that are better aligned with how I want to be living my life. I have to look at the people I’m CHOOSING to surround myself with. What are they contributing? What am I contributing to their lives?

I find it’s very clear on the energy I’m projecting out by the people who are close to me at any given moment. When I’m in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I attract people with matching energy to me. Even if on the outside it looks like I’m projecting love, abundance, and peace, my energy doesn’t lie. I attract what I’m aligned with. The longer I resist that I’m not where I am, the deeper I get into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. This can happen in one area of my life or all areas of my life. It all depends on my willingness to make moves to change the game.

The only path to empowering myself to change the game is by being honest with myself about where my energy is right now. Until I do that, I will just blindly follow where my energy takes me. Staying aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace takes remaining conscious in the present moment. We can’t make powerful moves if we don’t look where our feet are and how that aligns with the next step we want to make.

It takes effort to stay in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, and it takes effort to stay in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. We can fool ourselves with messages that one is HARDER than the other. The one that is easiest is the one that is the habit. If staying in the energy of fear, lack, and separation feels easier, that’s the sign of where our energy is the majority of the time. We can only take our power back when we realize the power we are giving away.

Tip: Get an audiobook that really resonates with you on how you WANT to be living. Play parts of the book that resonate with what you are working on repeatedly. The repetition will help it all sink in. This is why it was so important to me to have an audiobook of Letters from a Better Me. I know how much it helped me to work on specific areas I was struggling with. I wanted to offer my readers the same tool. I’m so grateful for Blackstone Publishing and Kate Mulligan (the narrator) for making the book come alive in this way. I’ve listened to it during the pandemic as a reminder of where I was putting my energy, because even though I write the words, I have to make them a practice in my life just like everyone else in order for them to work. You can check out a free preview of the audiobook or on Kindle at Amazon.com. Links are below in the title.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title for more information)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #227

I’m grateful I understand the difference between positivity and living life from a loving place. Positivity has its time and place, but I find the need for authenticity is more beneficial for my health and happiness. When I would try to just be positive, I was in an internal war because that was not how I was authentically feeling inside. I couldn’t put my finger on why inside things still didn’t feel right and I still wasn’t manifesting what I wanted with all my outward positive thinking. I started seeing the signs of toxic positivity where my insides weren’t matching my outsides. Some people may confuse positivity with my mission, but living from a loving place isn’t about pretending we are somewhere we aren’t. It’s about being honest about where we are and embracing wherever that is with love. It’s about understanding that if I don’t show myself the love and respect that I deserve, I’m giving others the blueprint on how to treat me. In order to live from a loving place, I have to be honest with myself where I’m not being loving. It always begins inside. Whatever I am feeling inside projects out.

Today, I commit to being authentic where I am and embracing it from a loving place. When my mind is in a truly positive and loving place, I have no need to put anyone else down. I have no place for hate. I have no place for gossip of other people’s failures. The way I talk is different, even when I’m talking about the hard stuff. My focus is finding the good in the world. I know when I don’t carry the weight of past traumas by how I react inside to other’s pain.

If I’m not in an authentically positive and/or loving place, my thoughts of others and myself are much darker. I feel the difference in my body. I hear the difference in the words I use. I taste the difference in the food I’m attracted to. My focus is on seeing the bad in the world. I react to other’s traumas like mine are happening to me all over again. Toxic positivity can mask the pain of people (including me) stuck in the cycle of fear, lack, and separation. All the fear, lack, and separation is boiling under the surface, so the person will still attract more and more chaos no matter how positive they act.

What I learned is I can fake words, thoughts, beliefs, and actions, but I can’t fake where my energy REALLY is. The more honest I am with myself about that, the more often I choose to live from a loving place. This is my best chance of STAYING aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace more than fear, lack, and separation.

Remembering that I’m human and feeling is a part of the human experience. There are no new feelings. I’m not alone in any of the feelings I’ve felt, and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with having whatever feelings I’m having in the instant I’m having them. They are there for me to learn from, grow from, and expand from. Some of my darkest feelings led me to my brightest. Running, avoiding, numbing, suppressing, and/or pretending them away with positivity isn’t aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. It’s aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

Even weeds that are bad for our gardens sometimes have pretty flowers. That doesn’t change the fact that they are smuggling the life out of flowers we are trying to nurture and grow. It’s our job to take care of our internal gardens, and we can’t do that by denying what is really there. Otherwise the weeds will take over, and we will be trapped in the energy of fear, lack, and separation until we decide to clean up what is there from a loving place.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title to learn more)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #226

I’m grateful I absorb lessons that make me a better version of myself. Someone once told me that we repeat the same lesson over and over until we learn what we need to learn. I heard this when I was a teenager and it has stuck with me. The lessons start off like a tap on the shoulder and by the end feel like getting hit upside the head by an emotional 2×4. The Universe is trying to help, but sometimes we just take awhile to get it. I just feel blessed when I do, because it means I can stop repeating the lesson. I’ve learned so many amazing things by being dedicated learning and absorbing the lessons that encourage me to live better.

Most of the lessons I’ve learned are all about being conscious of the perspectives of truth (beliefs) I allow to to dictate the direction of my life. If I’m buying into a painful belief that keeps me prisoner of my own thinking, I have to be open to learn lessons to break me from that belief. The more tightly I hold onto keeping a painful belief, the harder the lesson. This means I may have some not so nice people showing up in my life to show me how I’m not taking care of myself, my boundaries, and my life (extended out to the people I love and serve).

The farther I’ve gotten on this journey, the lessons come more like taps on the shoulder again, sometimes a little shove, but NOTHING like the emotional 2x4s that I used to get beaten up with because I was so stubborn. One lesson took ten very long years, and I felt like a complete shell before I realized what was happening. That was the beginning of one of my most transformative paths I’ve ever stepped on, and why I’m here doing what I do today. I love absorbing the lessons that make me a better me.

Today, I commit to absorbing lessons that will help me to be a better version of myself. Today is a reading day that I’m so excited for. The one beautiful thing on this journey is that we don’t have to learn and absorb lessons the hard way, unless we tell ourselves we do. I did for a long time. I don’t regret the learning process, because it got me where I am today. I prefer the way I learn now. There is not as much chaos and finding the answers are more like AHA moments rather than getting whacked in the head.

I have found that in order to get the lessons to stick, I have to put techniques into practice. Just reading things without doing the work, gives us the seed. We can hold that seed as long as we want, but until we plant it and do the work to nurture and feed it, the flower won’t grow in our own gardens. We just admiring it in someone else’s garden. This is why I wrote my book the way I did. I wanted people to see the phases and the process of the internal journey of a better me. To many of us want to look outside of ourselves to find the best versions of ourselves, but the truth is the outside world can only ever give us seeds, we have to have the strength, bravery, commitment, perseverance, hope, faith, and courage to plant them and do the WORK to make them grow. That is no one else’s journey but ours. No one else can do it for us.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title to find out more)

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