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FEBRUARY 15, 2020

Audible’s release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME from Blackstone Publishing

February 18, 2020

Letters from a Better Me from Mango Publishing Paperback and E-Book release date. Go to Goodreads.com to see available on-line retailers.

February 29, 2020

I will be leading my Becoming the Butterfly Workshop at Dream Con St. Petersburg, Florida

March 15, 2020

Book Signing at Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore Atlanta, Georgia

A Letter to the Empowered Women of the World

To the Empowered Women of the World:

Thank you for speaking out, when I didn’t see value in my own voice. Thank you for being brave enough to say no more. Your voices were so strong I heard them when I was faced with same old behaviors that I’ve put up with since I was a teenage girl. I heard your voices when I found my voice to stand up and speak out. I pulled from your strength to walk out the door when enough was enough. 

I stand with you now after years of personal growth and strengthening of spirit. Like me, love me, or hate me. It is not my business what others think. It is my business to like, love, and treat myself as good as I would anybody else. I am an empowered woman. I don’t have to be okay with behavior that is not acceptable. I don’t have to have a relationship with anyone who tries to hold me down. That is my right. Each one of us gets to make the choices that we feel are best for our own lives. That is the beauty of being empowered women.

Looking back I’ve seen how far I have come. Thank you for being there at every turn. You showed me my importance as a person, not as a title.  I listened through personal encounters, writings, audiobooks, videos, and meetings of the minds. Thank you for never laughing at my pain. Empowered women represent the best of us showing love and support for one another. Empowered women DO NOT tear each other down. 

We represent what we stand for and contribute our energy towards what we want to see more of in the world. We show up, whether we are family, friends, acquaintances, or strangers. We show up, not to watch each other fall, but to celebrate each one of us that rises from the ashes and is re-born an empowered woman. We know that our compassion, empathy, vulnerability, courage, hope, and perseverance are our strengths to transform the world into a place we all deserve to live.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me 

Rachael Wolff © 2020,2017

23 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

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When Life Gets Messy Declutter

Whether life gets messy in your own heads or around us, the process of physically decluttering our lives is cathartic. When we declutter, we make room for peace. We also make room to open new doors, and see the importance of closing doors that no longer serve us.

One of the most obvious examples I have of how this works is my own bed. When I was fearful and not ready for any real relationship, I cluttered my bed with my art, research, books, and writings. I made just enough space for me to sleep, but not even straight. As I started doing the work I needed to do to open myself up, I actively decluttered my bed. Slowly, I cleared the way all the clutter and sharp edges. I made room for love to come in…and it did.

Make space for the life you want. When we declutter both mentally and physically, life becomes less messy and more consciously designed.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

24 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me!

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Centering Brings Clarity

I used to believe I had to go to specific places to feel centered. Each one was in nature. Each one provided me with an open space for peace and quiet. I remember getting frustrated and giving myself the excuse that I didn’t have time or resources to go to one of my places, so centering was out of the question.

I went a long time believing this thought. Today,I realize I have the ability to center myself where and when I’m ready to do it. I learned that the spaces I went to gave me the imagery to find that peace within. Now, I can just look at a picture of a place, take a few deep breaths, and feel a sense of clarity.

This is just one of the many tools I use to gain clarity on a situation, and being able to go there, no matter where I physically am has become such an empowering tool, which is why I wanted to share it with you.

Find a space you feel centered. Then create that space in your mind. When we can get centered, before we react, we may just find the clarity we need to create positive solutions even under trying circumstances.

Peace and love is what we find when we are clear and centered. If we aren’t centered, fear can easily take over.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

25 More Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

SNEAK PEEK: Dear Addicted Child (Adult)

A Letter from Chapter 4: Healing and Releasing the Past

Chapter 4 is all about healing and releasing what doesn’t align with the energy we want to be living in. Chapter’s sections are: Everyday Encounters, Media Triggers, Family History, Loved Ones, Personal Traumas, Spirituality, and Self.

The following letter is one I’ve watched many families dealing with addiction go through. Learning to lovingly detach and not enable addicts is not an easy journey. If you have an addicted child in your life, I personally recommend AL-ANON. YOU will NEVER be able to FIX the addict, but YOU can lessen the negative impact the addict has on your life. You can learn to love, show support, and help him/her/them by taking care of you.

Excerpt from LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World by Rachael Wolff

HEALING WITH LOVED ONES…

Dear Addicted Child (Adult), 

I’m sorry that you found your way to addiction. That is a tough path, and once you’re on it, choices feel limited. I had to realize that I can’t rescue you from this. You are on this path for a reason. The best I can do is show you by example that there is a healthier and happier way. I can’t preach it to you. I just have to live my life the best I can and show you what is possible. I will let you know that I love you, but I can’t enable you.  You must be the one who takes back control of your life. I know you are capable. If I keep rescuing you from yourself, I’m telling you that you can’t get better without me. The truth is: You can’t get better if I’m in control. I will just perpetuate the cycle that you aren’t good enough, and you are good enough. When I enable you, all I’m doing is perpetuating the problem. You have to experience your own consequences in order to grow from them. I know you are capable of living a better life, but you have to choose to. I can’t do it for you.

I will be here to love you and to listen, but I know when you are ready to stop, you will be driven to get the help you need. I must see you as the adult you are instead of the child I was responsible for. You are old enough to make your own decisions. Your successes and failures are leading you on your journey. I don’t know what is best for you because I don’t know what you are meant to learn from this path. I love you and hope you will discover you are worth more than you are giving yourself right now. Until you figure that out, you will continue to suffer. No one else can complete you. You are a whole person all by yourself. 

With Acceptance & Love, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff, LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME: HOW BECOMING AN EMPOWERED WOMAN TRANSFORMS THE WORLD, Mango Publishing (Miami, FL), 2020. Pages 119-120.

Do You See You?

Who Do You See When You Look in the Mirror?

If you see fear and lack, you are living in your own private hell no matter how it looks to anyone else.

If you see love and abundance, you are living your life to its fullest no matter what it looks like to anyone else.

Our perception is our power or our kryptonite. How others view us is their business. How we view ourselves is ours.

It doesn’t matter who sees you as long as you see you. Nothing will change until we shift our perceptions to reflect our power. When we change how we see ourselves, we change what we see in the world. For better or worse is ALWAYS our own personal choice. Choose wisely!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

27 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me!

A Letter of Empowerment to Single Moms

Dear Single Moms,

I was raised by you, and I am you. I see you completely in your struggles and your joys. I know how easy it is to get lost in the title. There have been times when I feel like I have to struggle just because I’m a single mom. I’ve felt alone when I’m around all these families who are showing up for their kids. I’ve felt burdened by having to be both mom and dad in order to protect and nurture my kids’ mental/emotional growth. I’ve limited myself by saying things are hard because I’m a single mom. 

The truth is that it is my choice how I view my life as a mom. I can choose to see the many blessings that come with knowing the way I’ve chosen to parent. I can be grateful for the kindness we have received from the people who want to see my children thrive. I can choose to feel like I matter. My contribution to my kids’ lives matters. 

There are times when I feel like I’m operating in total survival mode, but I survive. There is always a lesson to be learned, and I continue to be better. I’m far from perfect. I can choose to do and be the best I can be. Each of us can make that choice at any moment we choose. We don’t have to listen to people who tell us how hard our lives are, we can change the language. When someone tells me how hard it is to be a single mom, I feel my energy sink. I believe them as I share one story after another letting them know just how hard things really are for me. The question is, do I want to focus on how hard things are and what a struggle it is to be a single mom? The answer for me is no! 

I want my kids to know how loved they are. I want to give them every opportunity I can to experience the best life possible. I’m a single EMPOWERED MOM,I want to put positive energy into my role. I don’t want them feeling like I was bitter or resented them for my position. I’ve been blessed in so many ways. I’ve learned so many great lessons, and I’ve received so much kindness and so have they. We are blessed, not cursed.

I’m choosing to parent a different way. My life is better for the choices I’ve made. The happier I am, the better my kids have it. I’m showing them the example of honoring and respecting yourself. They don’t have to be abused physically, mentally, or emotionally. They don’t have to be around excessive drinking or drugs. They don’t need someone just to be there, they deserve better than that. So did I, which is why I chose this road. We enjoy our lives. Do we have many lessons to learn? Yes, but we all do. I believe we get opportunities to learn what we need to become the best versions of ourselves. That is the legacy I want to pass on to my children. I know God will never give me more than I can handle, and I feel the same way about the lessons God gives them.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me & A Better Mom

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

28 More Days Until the Release of Letter from A Better Me

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Get Rid of that Committee Spreading Lies

You are AWESOME!

We become what we tell ourselves we are, and then we shape how we view our reality around our perception of ourselves. We have to stop letting that negative committee up there tell us how to see our reality. Our perception is everything!

We can’t just say and spread positive messages to the outside world and expect things to be good. What is happening inside our minds is what matters. We train our brains to see what we are focusing on. Make sure you are fixing the messages you have programmed in there if you want to see real positive change in your life.

Are You Wondering How?

The fastest method I used to retrain my brain to focus on what I wanted was through gratitude and writing three things I liked/loved about myself daily. Doing the combination of these two things (consistently) for a period of at least 35 days or more can reshape your reality. If you haven’t stopped hearing the committee, it means you’r not ready to stop.

If that committee is really strong, you will have to be smart and use your creativity to shine light on them. This may mean digging in deep. Be open to hear where you are being led. If you really want to change, you will get signs showing you the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

29 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

A LETTER FROM A BETTER ME: A COMMITMENT TO SELF-CARE

Dear Self,

Today, I will make a commitment to take 30 minutes or more a day for me. In that time, I will not have my phone on and will do everything in my power not to be distracted by the outside world. I will use this time to show myself love, respect, care, and loyalty. I will do this because it is exactly what I deserve. I will not be too busy and ignore my own personal needs. I know that by being there for myself I will be able to show up more for all the people in my life. I will have a clearer vision of who should and shouldn’t stay in my life. 

I’m taking care of myself because I have a responsibility to myself in order to live the best life possible and fulfill my purpose with love and integrity. I’ve seen what happens when I don’t take care of myself and how it affects all the people in my life. By committing to myself, I’m committing to the betterment of all. 

I promise to be aware and pay attention to the signs when I’m not taking care of myself. I will not be hard on myself or abuse myself in any way. I will find my way to take one step in the right direction to put the focus back on me and commit to my journey one hour at a time. I know I need to slow down and be present, so I will commit to taking three deep breaths as a part of being there for myself. This gives me enough time to slow down and re-evaluate the situation. 

I’m worth the care I give to everyone else. I’m worth the love I give to everyone else. I’m worth the respect I give to everyone else. I’m worth the compassion I give to everyone else. From this day forward, I will give myself these things by taking good care of me. 

I know the more time I give myself, the more space will open up for positive things to come into my life. I will no longer be wasting my energy on being the victim of what everyone else wants. I will be the champion for me. I will give to others in a way that fills me up and doesn’t deplete me. This is the reward for taking care of myself. 

It is not my business how other people take this change. I must trust that others will have their own journeys through it. Some may realize how much they can do for themselves by not depending on me. Others may get angry and walk away. Then, there will be those who will be happy to see me make better choices for myself. No matter what the case, I need to do this for me. If I do it for anyone else, I will fail. This is my journey. I trust that whatever the result is with the people around me, it will be what is best for me. 

I will be gentle with myself. I will make mistakes as I figure out what works and what doesn’t. I won’t use that something isn’t working as an excuse to give up. I will simply make a new commitment and move on. I understand that just because something works for someone else doesn’t mean it will be the right fit for me. It is my job to customize my own self-care program. The goal is to feel better about who I am, where I am, and how I am. I know this can only happen by taking care of myself, because no one else can know me if I don’t know me. I want to project to the world the magnificent person I am. Today I commit to me.

With lots of love and gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2017,2020

ONLY 30 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Love Yourself enough to Light Up the World

Sneak PEEK FROM LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Our light inside has the ability to shine brighter than any of the darkness around us. Our light comes from the love inside us. The stronger the love, the stronger the light. The love we have for ourselves is the amount to light we can give to the world. If we want to support the healing of our friends, family, community, and world, we have to heal ourselves in order to brighten our own light first. Fear acts as a dimmer switch on our light. The more fear we have inside, the more darkness takes over our lives.

Rachael Wolff, Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World, (Mango Publishing: Miami, FL,2020), pages 150-151.

If we want to change the world, we first have to light it up.

We each have to learn how to turn our own lights brighter and limit the power of the shadows on our lives. We will only ever know the reality that we create from inside us, so make sure you are creating a good one.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

We are officially one month away from the release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!

#PerspectiveChallenge: You Have to Work Hard to Succeed

PERSPECTIVE: YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO SUCCEED

This is a very common perspective—naturally. I’ve heard it all growing up and I continue to hear it. I’ve heard it as a compliment on countless occasion. I’ve heard community leaders, inspirers, entrepreneurs, teachers, and business leaders preach these words. Some people have a positive reaction to these words and the belief has been the foundation of their hustle to succeed. 

I’ve also seen the dark side of this belief when people work so hard that they forget to live. I’ve seen families get neglected due to the countless hours their family member is gone. I’ve seen people get diseases because of the amount of stress they put themselves under from working so hard.

I just want to introduce a small shift in this perspective that can make a BIG difference in where your energy goes. This is not new. I didn’t come up with this. It’s just not as popular as the “WORK HARD” motto. 

WORK SMART

Working smart means that we are conscious of our choices. We are conscious of our efforts. We are conscious of our sacrifices.  We make choices accordingly. Working smart can eliminate some of the undue stress and pressure from the situation. I can’t even begin to tell you the difference it’s made in my life. Working smart helps me to enjoy the journey and the process so much more than the thought of working hard ever did.  It doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate when people compliment me on my “hard work”. It just means I’m conscious that the work didn’t feel HARD to me, but I do understand what they are saying so I’m grateful for the compliment. Working smart can help us to use our time more efficiently. Working smart can empower us to make important choices in delegating. Along with making choices to add in time for self-care and personal development to make sure our energy is aligned with what we are trying to accomplish with our work.

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Get a blank piece of paper and create two columns. At the top of one column write “Work Hard” on the other write, “Work Smart”. Make lists under each one to see how your mind differentiates the two of them. Then check-in with your body to see how your body feels responding to your lists. You might just be AMAZED in what you find just by focusing on a slight change in words. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

32 Days Until the Release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!