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7/30/20 Seek the Joy Podcast—Joy Corner featured author

https://www.seekthejoypodcast.com/joy-corner/rachaelwolff

7/1/20 Heart Wisdom Panel #2

6/18/20 Contribution to an Article about Apology Writing

UpJourney—How to Write an Apology Letter to a Friend

6/4/2020 Contribution to Article about Controlling Men in UpjourneY

UpJourney- Signs of a Controlling Man and How to Deal with Him

5/29/2020 Conversation about Interpretation, Perspective and Purpose with Author Madeline Dyer

5/21/20 diving into Self-Abuse

5/16/20 Audio CD Release

5/16/20 Choices and Perspectives Facebook Live and Youtube

5/11/20 Ravishly.com

As a reader of this wonderful on-line magazine, I dreamed about having a piece featured here. I feel the adrenaline pumping through me as another dream has come true! Learn more about the Letters from A Better Me Journey in this question and answer piece with Erin Khar.

https://ravishly.com/letters-better-me-qa-author-rachael-wolff

5/7/20 Facebook Live Consciously Defining Love and Not Accepting Less

4/29/20 Author Panel: Heart Wisdom in the Coronavirus Crisis

4/29/20 Twitter Interview with Laura Zam #BookPartyChat

https://fromalovingplace.com/2020/05/04/bookpartychat-twitter-interview-about-letters-from-a-better-me/

4/23/20 A Reading from Letters: Accepting Who and Where We Are

4/3/20 Mango Publishing Facebook Live

3/26/2020 Reading recorded from Phoenix & Dragon BookStore on 3/15/20: Finding Our Center

Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore in Atlanta, GA was the first stop on what was supposed to be the Letters from A Better Me Book Tour, but the coronavirus took me on a much different journey from home.

2/18/20 Book Launch Day

Letters from A Better Me was released to the world on February 18, 2020. This piece talks about that AMAZING day.

https://fromalovingplace.com/2020/02/20/book-launch-day-letters-from-a-better-me/

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #177

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for how I RESPOND to others. It doesn’t benefit me in ANY way to blame someone else for how I respond to their actions. If I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace when someone does something I like, they see my shine. Sometimes, they feel it. When someone does something that I don’t like when I’m in the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I can see clearly what the best way to respond in the moment is. It might be to walk away, let them know I have a different perspective on the situation, or stand up for myself or the cause I’m representing in a loving way. It also may mean I ask them more questions about their point of view. When I respond to them from a loving place, I don’t get defensive, because I know that won’t benefit either of us. When I get defensive, I know I’m aligning with fear, lack, and separation. The clear sign of that is when I get a hot and tingly feeling in my head. If I can keep my awareness, the best thing I can do for me in that moment is to walk away until I can gain control of my own energy. I guarantee you, if I’m responding from that place, it’s not pretty and I will often have to make an amends after the fact.

If I’m forgiving to someone with a hate-filled heart, I’m choosing not to carry their energy that stems from fear, lack, and separation. This doesn’t mean I support their behaviors. They are responsible and accountable for their actions towards others. Me forgiving them means that I refuse to take on their hate that they aimed at me or someone else. Revenge mentality only keeps me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I’m in that energy, I tend to get snappy with anybody who crosses my path. I won’t even fully enjoy the good people are trying to do for me. In that space, I can even create negative stories of how the good thing a person is doing is tainted in some way. I don’t think I’m alone in being in this place from time to time.

When I take responsibility for how I respond to others, I stay conscious of my choices. I can ask myself questions about the perspectives I’m choosing to help me decide how I REALLY want to respond. I love that I have a choice in how I respond, and whatever decision I make, I’m responsible and accountable for it.

Today, I commit to be responsible and accountable for how I respond to others. If you have been following along the last couple days I’ve been taking you on a little journey. It’s one that is near and dear to my heart. The journey can change the way we look at the world. At least that is what doing all of this did for me. It takes daily work. I’m still a work in progress just like everyone else. I still have days where I don’t make the healthiest choices for me, which then affects the people who I come in contact with that day. The difference now, I know I’m responsible and accountable for those days. I’m also responsible and accountable for the day I make choices for my highest good, which then affects the people I come into contact with. I can’t make anybody respond to me in one way or another, but I CAN make choices in how I respond to them. I can make choices that will serve my highest good and the highest good for the moment I’m in. What they do with what I have to give, is on them.

When we can own what is ours, we don’t take things so personally. If I’m in the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I know that I’m operating in the best space I can in the situation. If I’m in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I know that I will respond to others based on being in that energy. I might get more defensive, put up walls, yell, scream, insist on my own way, etc. I might convince myself that the other person is doing something wrong, respond like they are guilty, and treat them with no compassion, empathy or respect. Later, I may find out that I was completely wrong in the stories I was telling myself. I’m responsible and accountable for that, no matter what the circumstance is.

Practicing taking our power back by being responsible and accountable for how we respond to others is a very eye-opening exercise. Just like practicing being responsible and accountable for our energy (#175) and how we act towards others (#176), how we respond to others is just the next step. It’s about becoming aware of our choices. We choose to be in the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation when we are interacting with ourselves or others. The more conscious we become of our choices, the more power we have to change the trajectory of our lives.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #176

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for how I treat others. Nobody can MAKE me treat someone any particular way. If I’m kind, it’s because I choose to be kind. If I’m compassionate, it’s because I choose to be compassionate. If I’m rude, it’s because I choose to be rude. If I’m hateful, it’s because I choose to be hateful. There is no justification for the way I treat others except for saying I’m responsible and accountable. When I hold myself responsible for how I treat others, I empower myself to make choices that will feed my soul with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I also become accountable when I don’t treat people with the amount of respect that I like. It’s none of my business how someone else treats me, that is their energy they have to live with. What matters is that I’m being responsible for how I treat them.

The better I treat myself, the better I treat others. The more of my past that I face, accept, and heal, the better I am to myself and others. I’ve also learned that I don’t have to carry the weight of how other people treat me or anyone else, but I DO HAVE TO carry the weight of how I treat others. I have to live with the person I am and the choices I make. When I hold myself responsible and accountable for how I treat others, it consciously reminds me to pay attention to what I’m putting out there. Just another wonderful thing to be grateful for.

Today, I commit to being responsible and accountable for how I treat others. If I hear myself starting to justify my poor choices, I will take responsibility and hold myself accountable. That is how I will change my behavior. That is how I will align myself with love, abundance, and peace. When I hear myself treating people with love, I will celebrate that love in my soul and be grateful for it.

It’s really not as complicated as our human minds like to make it. We can blame someone else for the way we treat others if we want to, but that aligns us with fear, lack, and separation and opens us to be preyed on by sick-minded individuals. We can take responsibility for how we treat others and we choose to love, honor, and accept others for who they are, we align our energy with some of the most wonderful people on the planet.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #175

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for my energy. One of the best things I ever did for myself was taking my power back. When I used to go through life’s challenges, like many, I blamed others and/or myself. The road to blame, no matter where it’s aimed is aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Blame makes me feel powerless and keeps me in the problem. When I get in the energy of blame, I feel like I’m swimming in murky waters waiting to be attacked. When I learned the power of being responsible and accountable for my energy, I started giving myself solutions to get myself out of the toxic water. I see options in perspectives; people who can help show up; and I see choices in how to handle situations, so that I don’t have to take on the toxic energy. Instead, I align myself with love, abundance, and peace. I hug myself in my pain with love. I have the power to change any situation when I become accountable and responsible for my energy. Even if the outside circumstances don’t change in the moment, the energy inside of me can. That is my choice. With new energy comes new perspectives. I LOVE the chain reaction that happens when I am willing to let go of the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I know I’m the only one who can do that for myself.

Today, I will be aware of the energy I’m exuding and be responsible and accountable for it. I talk about this in all my seminars because taking our power back is a HUGE piece in living the lives we actually want. We often don’t see all the times we hold ourselves back by not taking responsibility and holding ourselves accountable for what we exude. This all begins with how we treat ourselves. When I was self-abusing, I was self-blaming. Take a second to feel the difference between the words blame and taking responsibility/accountability. I feel a big difference in my body. Just the word blame puts a knot in my stomach. When I say the words responsibility and accountability, my chest naturally expands and I just realized that I take a deep breath when I do it, LOL. For me, I feel a sense of honor when I use those words. I feel empowered.

I’ve been working through a few challenging situations, and if I see my energy shifting, I become aware of the shift. I sit with the feelings I’m feeling. Then I question my perspectives to see if there is a perspective that will help me shift my energy to align with love, abundance, and peace. Just doing this can help me to not allow my energy to go dark. I simply wrap my challenging feeling in love, and that helps me find my peace. When I do that, I don’t feel separate from the world.

The cool thing is when we learn that we are accountable and responsible for our own energy, this means when we are exuding the energy of love, abundance, and peace—we are responsible and accountable for that too. That feels pretty amazing!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #174

I’m grateful for my ability to look inward. As humans, we are here to learn. Today, my focus is on being grateful for what my body, mind, and senses have to teach me. We are our own lifelong partners. Why would we want to make it a toxic environment? I most certainly don’t. The better the relationship with myself gets, the healthier I am overall, but this doesn’t mean that my body is not going to have lessons to teach me about the trauma I still have to heal. The beautiful thing is when I became willing to look inside. God started sending the people who I would be open to hear at the right time. Right now, my body is teaching me the places I still have work to do because they are holding on to past trauma. I’m so grateful God sent me my friend Kiersten to help me see the connections. I feel like I’m getting to a whole new level of learning, healing, and expanding.

I’m also so grateful that I learned how to tap into my body to help me see clearly on how my thoughts are engaging in the energy of fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace. It’s amazing what our bodies will tell us. Sometimes they are more honest than we are willing to be with ourselves. Sometimes they tell us we are stronger than we know. Sometimes they will tell us that we need to learn to ask for help. The key is to stay open enough to listen.

When I can align my body with my mind, I open the door to look at and work on what I need to align my thoughts with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. When I do that, I become aligned with my senses and my intuition guides me on what I can do next. As challenging as it can get sometimes, I rather look inside than give my power away.

Today, I commit to looking inward to align with my body, mind, and senses.

  • What is my body trying to tell me?
  • What is my body telling me about how I’m telling the stories in my head?
  • Are the stories in my mind aligning me with fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace?
  • How does my body react when others are aligned with love abundance, and peace? Where do I feel that in my body?
  • How does my body react when others are aligned with fear, lack, and separation? Where do I fee that in my body?
  • What are my senses telling me? Am I listening?

If we want to improve our intuition, we have to practice seeing the signals and listening.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #173

I’m grateful to experience something new. Byron Katie says, “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” I believe in this wholeheartedly. I also believe in God, and believe that everything happens exactly how it’s meant to. It doesn’t guarantee that it will always look pretty or be easy. As you may have read a couple of days ago, I said one of the big inspirations for this page was Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Another one of them is Jesus. Not in the religious sense of who Jesus was, but in the human sense of who he was and how he lived. He lived his life from a loving place without blame, shame, and justifications. He served from a loving place, he forgave from a loving place, and accepted all from a loving place. He showed love to those that others shunned. He rose to love when others presented their hate. This is how I want to enter my new experiences.

I’m blessed to be here today. I’ve been invited to live another day. How do I want to show up for any new experiences that come my way? I want to show up with love. I don’t have to understand the bigger plan. I don’t have to waste time trying to figure out the why things didn’t work out the way I thought they should. What is happening right now brings an open door, and I’m going to walk through it with the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Many of my most wonderful lessons came from the surprises of new experiences. Aligning myself with love, abundance, and peace keeps my soul safe. I know whatever new experience comes my way will help me grow as a person and give me more opportunities to choose love over fear, abundance over lack, and peace over separation. I’m grateful for all the days I choose to embrace new experiences with the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Today, I commit to being open to experiencing something new. Today, I’m choosing to embrace today’s reality with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I will look for the opportunities to love, serve, forgive, accept, and take loving action. I will commit my energy to helping to heal the divide instead of creating more of it. I will choose to look at what is brought to me from a loving place. I will choose to question any feelings, thoughts, and ideas that take me down the path of fear, lack, and separation. Today, I will experience something knew by opening up my perspectives to seek solutions instead of problems. I will experience something knew by questioning my thinking that doesn’t fuel my energy of love, abundance, and peace. I will love where love is needed and forgive where forgiveness is needed. Today is a gift and I will enjoy the presence.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #172

I’m grateful for my choice to take the side of love, abundance, and peace. Notice, I do not say a side in politics, in religion, in economic status, in lifestyle, in my gender, etc. The reason why I make the VERY clear distinction is, because at the root of EVERY belief I hold, if love, abundance, and peace isn’t feeding life into my beliefs, I have some weeding to do. I’m accountable and responsible for the energy that feeds, nourishes, and allow things to grow in my garden. If I have weeds of fear, lack, separation, hate, envy, rage, justification, retaliation, and/or revenge (which all come from the energy fear, lack, and separation), I have to see the weeds in order to remove them. NO ONE ELSE CAN DO THAT EXCEPT FOR ME. I have to CHOOSE to see and pull out the weed.

If I let the weed spread and affect the garden, the weeds will be all that I see. My critical thinking to find solutions gets so buried in the problems, and who I think is to blame, that I don’t pull the weeds from my own garden in order to see what lies underneath. I don’t pay attention to what I’ve planted to see why the weeds are spreading so rapidly.

Here’s a real life example of what happened to me when I refused to look inside and see what energy I was feeding: At the time this event happened, I was binge watching shows about murder on Court TV; I was unknowingly being psychologically abused (which means I was living on constant eggshells); and I was feeding the cycle of blaming and shaming by focusing my attention on gossip magazines and conspiracy theories. I also was self-abusing and my health was paying a price for it (inner shame cycles are brutal on our physical and mental health). I was sitting upstairs in my father’s townhouse when I saw a man wearing black gloves (in Florida), sunglasses, and a dark coat throw away a paper bag into the dumpster then speed off in his black car with tinted windows. I started wondering and becoming anxious thinking that I just witnessed someone throwing out a murder weapon. I truly believed that was the truth. I was so scared that my dad went down and searched the dumpster. What he found was a bag of dog poop.

Are you laughing? I did, but I also had a MAJOR AWAKENING that day. I saw the power of what happens when I aligned my energy with fear, lack, and separation. I saw the dangers and my blindness from what a responsible adult was doing and turned him into a murderer in my mind. I hope you are sensing the seriousness of this perspective, because I’m seeing it replay over and over in the world today. Please understand, just like I did, many people believe whole-heartedly that what they are seeing is real, but when the facts all play out not to be so, not all people are having the awakening that I did. I had to be willing to look at where I was focusing my energy.

Some people are SO INVESTED and lost in the weeds of their own gardens that NO facts about the situation will convince them that what they saw was any different then the way they interpreted it. They are choosing the side of fear, lack, and separation and it is feeding into how they interpret everything they are seeing in the world around them and within themselves. I’ve been there, it is a very painful and scary place to live. I chose not to live there anymore. When I made that conscious choice, I noticed my ability to think critically of what I was seeing began to open me up to see SO much more. The longer my energy aligns with love, abundance, and peace more than it does fear, lack, and separation, the more willing I am to look at things from all different angles and actually look for facts, not perspectives of truth. I think of all the people I would have to not trust in order to come to the conclusion that aligns me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I can only do this because I took the time to understand human behavior.

What I didn’t understand at the time of the event is that there are some people in the world that will exploit us for feeding the energy of fear, lack, and separation and use it to their advantage to control us. These PEOPLE can be in our families, communities, social circles, leadership, political parties, religious circles, self-help groups, work environments, etc. My point is no group is above having someone in it that will TRY to exploit us in our weaknesses. What I’ve discovered is that my protection from these individuals is aligning with love, abundance, and peace. This is WHY that is the energy I do my best to feed and align myself DAILY!! This is also why I have compassion and empathy for those who don’t understand how their energy of fear, lack, and separation has caused them to go down the path that they are on. All I can do is stay in my energy the best I can and share the experiences and understanding with the people who are open to listen.

I know for me, I didn’t know better until I was in the darkness of my own abyss. I was so lost in my own weeds that I couldn’t find my own tools to clean up my own garden. I don’t align with love, abundance, and peace 24-hours a day, 7 days a week. There are times when I’m aligned with fear, lack, and separation, because it is a part of all of us. I just figured out that living in that energy for too long is dangerous, painful, scary, and emotionally draining for as long as I remain in it. I discovered that when I’m in that energy the people around me feel it, and it contributes to an unhealthy environment. I CHOOSE to be in that space as little as possible. I honor my feelings in that space and what they are there to teach me. I research to find facts, not perspectives. I make sure I’m not investing my energy into people, places, and things that are trying to get me to feed my energy of fear, lack, and separation. I know if I feed that fear, I don’t see the human. I don’t see a person clear enough to know if they are exploiting my energy of fear, lack, and separation, or if how I’m seeing them is because that is where MY energy is. I made a man throwing away a bag of poop, a murderer. I never want to do that again. For that reason, I’m SO grateful for my choice to take the side of love, abundance, and peace.

Today, I commit to feeding the energy of love, abundance, and peace within me. When we can clear our own energy, then open it up to look at where other humans around us are, we see clearer. If we can put our energy into being on the side of love, abundance, and peace, instead of on specific groups, organizations, communities, genders, nationalities, etc. We open ourselves up to see beyond the energy of fear and lack that separates us from our fellow humans. Remember, we each can get stuck in feeding the cycle of fear, lack, and separation. Have compassion for the person who is stuck there. Understand, that until they make the choice to see where they are aligning their own energy, they won’t be able to move away from it. I know the best thing I can do is keep feeding the energy of love, abundance, and peace and hope that someone will get to the same point I did and be ready to see and feel better. I can’t make them get there. I can be the example of what it looks like to encompass the energy of love, abundance, and peace, but only if I’m there myself. If I get defensive with them, I’m in the energy of fear, lack, and separation too. We will continue to feed the vicious cycle.

When we start consciously seeing where we are in our energy and where others are in theirs, we are more accepting of others when they do wake-up. We see how we get lost in that energy too sometimes. We see that by being compassionate and forgiving towards others, we are feeding our energy of love, abundance, and peace within us. I’m seeing people wake-up and get knocked down for their honesty of being lost in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I won’t do that, because if I take the vengeance and retaliation approach, I’m feeding the vicious cycle of fear, lack, and separation and making it stronger. Do I want people to wake-up? Do I want to stay awake? YES! I have to keep bringing it back to me and be honest with myself about what energy I’m choosing to feed. Today, I commit to feeding the energy of love, abundance, and peace within me. In that space, I know I’m doing the best I can for myself and all the people around me.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #171

I’m grateful for the life and wisdom of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. For those of you who don’t already know, MLK is one of my inspirations for FromALovingPlace.com. After my divorce, I spent the next four and half years going to school full-time as a single mom. I graduated with a B.A. from Eckerd College in December 2015. I studied MLK a lot in my years at Eckerd. My final year there, I went to the Holocaust Museum and upstairs they had a civil rights exhibit. I stopped at every section and listened to MLK give his amazing speeches. I listened to people talking about what it was like and the man MLK was. I think I went through an entire box of tissues that day. I just remember standing there in complete awe of how this man was faced with so much hate and kept choosing love over and over. Not perfectly, because none of us are, but with 100% conviction. In that moment, I knew it was a CHOICE to live from a loving place or a place of fear. One would leave me a prisoner in my own mind, and the other would set me free.

Today, I commit to soaking up the wisdom of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. His voice still rings hope in my ears every time I hear and/or see his powerful words…

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Never succumb to the temptation of bitterness.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice anywhere.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character—that is the goal of true education.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Just typing up his words brings peace to my soul as I’m once again reminded to…

RISE UP in LOVE!

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

Rachael Wolff

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #170

I’m grateful for all the people who speak out about abuse. Tears fill my eyes as my fingers stroke the keys. If you have never been a target of a narcissistic abuser or a sociopathic abuser, you really don’t know the courage it takes to speak out. Some people don’t even recognize that they were abused until they start hearing other people’s stories. Abusers can be parents, family members, neighbors, loved ones, partners, bosses, co-workers, pastors, etc. If someone grew up in a household with abuse unrecognized, they will not see it in others who are doing the same behaviors. We have to recognize it first. Once we recognize it, we open a closed box of painful memories. It’s the people who speak up that help those people through one of the darkest times they may ever have to face.

I’m so grateful for all the testimonials, books, and personal stories I heard when I was unearthing my truths. I spent years in an emotionally, mentally, and verbally abusive relationship before I was willing to see. I was living numb. I was living empty. When people spoke up, I didn’t feel alone. When an abuse victim has those voices under their feet, they are carried. When we WAKE-UP from the brainwashing and mind control, we start taking our power back. I know that even though I read many of the books I did after I left, the people’s stories helped me break free from the cycle of abuse, because the stories were so similar. I started asking myself, how I became a target. I discovered I had unhealed shame cycles going on that were causing me to self-abuse. I didn’t recognize his behaviors, because I was treating myself worse.

Though people heal from abuse in different ways, the beauty is that there are so many people willing to share their stories. The more people who share their stories, the less we sweep it under a rug. When we face the abuses that touch our lives whether it is in our personal lives or professional lives, we give ourselves the space to heal, grow, and expand. Suppressing it can actually make us perfect targets for cults, extremist groups, and more abusive situations. If you’ve been reading this blog the last few weeks, I’ve been talking a lot about the ways people will attempt to get us to align with fear, lack, and separation. Unearthed shame around abuse can keep a person aligned with fear, lack, and separation at such a deep level. Remember, healthy people don’t intentionally hurt other people. Only the hurt parts of us can hurt someone else intentionally.

Today, I commit to using my voice to speak up about abuse. I hope that today someone who needs to know that they are not alone reads this blog. I hope they will choose to look at the way I choose to live now and have hope. I was once a victim, but I’m not anymore. I once felt like I was just surviving the day, now I choose to live it fully. I’m not alone in how I choose to live either. One of the things that really helped me heal was reading books by Holocaust survivors. I spent time in Holocaust museums and paying close attention to the heroes who spoke up and/or did something. I did everything I could to learn about abuse, so that I would not only spot it, but I would help myself find the path to breaking the cycle.

My book, Letters from a Better Me has been in the top 20 for domestic partner abuse on Amazon. People can find other books, tools, and resources throughout the pages I’ve written in both my book and on this blog. The best things I do for myself is to align with love, abundance, and peace and be willing to look at what keeps me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Our healing matters, not just for us, but for all the relationships we have throughout our lives. Our healing matters, because when we can become aware of when we are in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, we get the opportunity to heal, learn, and grow from it. We stop the cycles of abuse in the generations that come after us. It’s important to be kind, loving, forgiving, and accepting of ourselves. Learning to the difference between accountability and responsibility which aligns our energy with love, abundance and peace and then self-blame which aligns our energy with fear, lack, and separation is so important when we are recovering from the patterns of abuse. The blame keeps us in the cycle of abuse, and accountability for what is ours sets us free. We get to choose.

In the last few years, more and more people are speaking out. I have such tremendous respect for their bravery. Does this mean an attention-seeking person won’t sneak in and try to grab the spotlight from time to time, and lie? Of course there will be people who do this, but remember they are coming from an unhealthy and unhealed place too. If I choose to hate that person and let it affect my humanity with the next person who comes forward, that’s on me. If I let their alignment with fear, lack, and separation affect my alignment with love, abundance, and peace, I’m empowering myself to do something about it. They are responsible and accountable for what they put out into the world, and I’m responsible and accountable for what I put out into the world. I do my best to ask God to help them find their path to love, abundance, and peace. Just doing that helps me to realign.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #169

I’m grateful I understand agenda—the good, the bad, and the ugly. In school, I took a course in media & society. I also took time to study the psychology of sales and marketing because I was an International sales trainer for just under a decade. The one thing a person has to be crystal clear on is the story they are selling. That story must serve a person’s agenda to make the recipient hear a call to action. Some people will do this with good intentions, others may be bad, and then we have individuals who are very sick that have the ugliest of intentions. A person has to have a VERY sick mind to be in that category.

One of the greatest gifts is to be able to see agenda without attachment to the agenda. When I learned to be the observer, spotting agenda became an empowering experience. Some agendas are trying to trigger people’s energy of fear, lack, and separation. Others are trying to trigger the energy of love, abundance,and peace. When we are advanced enough to see the difference, we start seeing things in a very different way.

Understanding agenda has helped me in SO many ways. When I understand that people who want to get me to do something have an agenda, I can start asking questions and digger deeper to find out where that person’s agenda is coming from. If we assume because we are making a judgment about them as a part of a WHOLE group, we won’t see them clearly. If we put the group on a pedestal we may overlook important cues that tell us something about the person in front of us that may be a red flag. If we are judging them negatively by how we are labeling the group they are in, we won’t see their humanity clearly. The best thing we can do for ourselves is not restrict our own thinking.

One of the ways I do this is—I flip the script. What if someone I did like was saying what this person was saying? What if someone I didn’t like was saying what this person was saying? If it’s not the same, I need to open up my thinking. If I have to justify someone’s behavior, it’s usually coming from the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I feel good about what a person is doing or saying, I don’t feel the need to justify it. I pay close attention to how people are trying to sway me if I hear justifications in my mind. For me, that is an internal red flag.

I’ve found conspiracy theories are riddled with some of the darkest agendas. Anyone who wants me to hate a group of people, I know that I want to stay far away from it. If someone wants me to dehumanize someone else, that is an agenda that breeds fear, lack, and separation. I like to make sure I can see the human. When I look to see the human, I find I don’t get swept up in the bad and the ugly agendas.

If I want to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I have to make sure I’m not aligning with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Understanding agenda helps me do that.

Today, I commit to considering agenda to help me align my energy with love, abundance, and peace. When I’m considering agenda, I ask myself these questions:

  • How is what this person is saying making me feel inside?
  • What is this person wanting me to do?
  • Does this person want me to judge myself of others negatively?
  • Do they want me to love myself and/or others?
  • How does it benefit this person if I hate this other person/group?
  • How does it benefit this person if I love this person/group?
  • Do I feel the need to justify this person’s actions?
  • Is this person coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace?
  • Are they wanting me to respond from a place of fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace?

These Questions help me get clear so that I don’t take in other people’s agendas unconsciously. I know that whatever I come up with is a perspective. That being said, the most important thing is how someone’s message feels inside of me. I’m not responsible for the other person’s energy, but I am 100% responsible and accountable for mine. If I want to stay aligned, it’s important that I feel connect to others who are spreading their energy of love, abundance, and peace. I’m very clear of how that feels when that is someone’s agenda.

I’ve noticed when I use these tools more and more, I feel it in others. It’s a beautiful thing. We get tuned in to see if someone is desperate and wanting us to pay. We can see if they are enjoying serving us from an authentic place or if they are doing it for a tip. We can see if someone wants to get us to pay attention to the good that they represent or distract us by telling us to focus our energy on hating someone else. We can see when a person is representing what they stand for (love, abundance, and peace energy) or what they are against (fear, lack, and separation energy).

This is a very interesting journey. Make sure if you go down this path, you stay focused on how you WANT to align your energy. If we don’t, we can easily slip into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Revenge mentality comes from fear, lack, and separation. Forgiveness mentality comes from love, abundance, and peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we don’t hold a person accountable for their actions, it means that we aren’t willing to compromise our peace for their hate. It’s about us not tapping into the same energy as someone who’s agenda is aligned with the bad or the ugly.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #168

I’m grateful I overcame my victim mentality. I’m a multiple trauma survivor, so when I say this, I don’t say it lightly. There is a huge difference from being a victim of a oppression, harassment, assault, abuse, etc. and living in a victim mentality. It’s the same difference between feeling fear and living in a fear-based mentality. The “mentality” makes it a driving force in our lives. It’s the mentality that makes us spin all our stories to see victimhood and fear. It’s the mentality that pigeon-holes our focus to only look in directions that prove to us that we are victims at every turn.

There is a lot of psychology in marketing. Whether it be marketing for products, organizations, churches, political parties, candidates, and lifestyles. When we live in victim mentality, we turn off our critical thinking that makes us ask ourselves the right questions about what we are taking in. It stops us from doing the research outside of our own victim/fear-based resources which are all perpetuating fear, WHICH IS HOW THEY GET US TO DO WHAT THEY WANT! Even though people are using this to their advantage, it still doesn’t mean we need to ALLOW ourselves to be victims of it. I don’t carry anger and hate around to all those who use these techniques. That is their karma. Mine is making sure my energy is aligned with what I want to see more of in the world, which is love, abundance, and peace.

Our feelings of powerlessness and living in the illusion that something outside of ourselves gives us power is how we fall into belief systems of us against them, inferiority, superiority, cult mentality, along with blaming, shaming, and victimizing others. It’s a VICIOUS CYCLE. The only way the cycle continues is if we buy into it. I can’t tell you how many times people have tried to get me to buy into their fear-based belief systems. I had to recognize within myself that the only times I buy into them is when I’m in a fear-based or victim-based mentality. I’ve had people tell me that as a abuse (verbal, mental, and emotional) and rape survivor how I would feel for the rest of my life. I WAS a victim. I’ve spent years working on myself to break free from victim mentality because I saw how much it limited my thinking. I saw how my own stories were keeping me prisoner. This doesn’t mean current events don’t trigger me from time to time, they are feelings and they pass. I don’t give them the power to rule my life. Breaking free from victim mentality didn’t just happen. I had to work my ASS off! I had to fully commit to empowering myself from within. That is how I stopped being victim of anyone who wanted to have any power over what I did and how I did it.

Sometimes when people read “From a loving place”, they think light and fluffy. If you take a deeper look at the blogs that I’ve been writing since 2016, I face the world head on from a loving place. I don’t deny my feelings that are ugly and painful. I allow them to teach me what they are here to teach me. I look at what I’m feeling and dig into it. I don’t run, avoid, or numb what is going on inside of me. This is how I overcame victim mentality. I become a prisoner to the outside world if I’m not honest with myself. Not only have I done bad things when I was in that space, I’ve watched millions of people being swayed by the same psychology tapping into our alignment with fear, lack, and separation. That is the same place that victim mentality lives, breathes, and spreads. If someone is trying to convince me that I am a VICTIM, all my RED flag sensors go off. Being a victim can set off people’s rage, fear, and hate.

I took my power back when I became responsible and accountable for the energy I exude. When I took responsibility for this, I found ways to change my thoughts, beliefs, and actions to align with what I wanted to see more of. If I’m not aligned with love, abundance, and peace, there is no one else responsible and accountable for that. I have to make the commitment to shift my energy. I have to take responsibility for healing past hurts that keep my thoughts prisoner.

The number one person I had to stop being victim of was myself. That is how I kept my inner victim alive was because I kept abusing myself. When I abused myself, I invited others in to make me feel like a victim too. I became victim of the media, beauty industry, political parties, and even the fitness industry. I kept looking outside of myself to feed my inner victim. As I’ve observed people in 2020 and watched myself sliding down into a spiral, I’m so grateful I caught myself. Just because we have the tools not to be in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, doesn’t mean we will do the work. That’s what was happening to me. I stopped doing the work. That was no one else’s fault. I take responsibility for my slip, which is how I was able to find a solution. That is why I’m here today writing this piece.

Today, I commit to empowering myself. FromALovingPlace.com and my book, Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World are LOADED with tools to help individuals empower themselves. Empowering ourselves doesn’t mean disempowering anyone else. It doesn’t mean taking someone else’s power away. Empowerment is about rising together. We rise together when we become the healthiest versions of ourselves, because only from that place are we open to hear others clearly. When we are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, everything we hear, see, and feel is skewed with that lens. If we want to let go of our victim mentality, we have to be willing to look at ourselves without blaming and shaming ourselves for our missteps. When we do that, we only strengthen victim mentality. We simply need to practice empowering ourselves starting with treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated. When we don’t treat ourselves well, we don’t have healthy boundaries. It’s very easy to become a victim of the outside world if we don’t have healthy boundaries safeguarded by the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Not succumbing to victim mentality doesn’t mean we will never be victims again. What it does mean is that we will have the tools to see that the person who hurt us was the sick individual. Just because they want to take our power away by whatever avenue they are taking, doesn’t mean they can. I was shocked after I was harassed by an unhealthy individual. I said to myself, “He is not talking to me, he is talking to himself.” I also asked myself, “Do I want to take on his toxic energy?” I didn’t, which is why I made the decision to walk away. I knew that he wasn’t open to hear my words, so I wasn’t willing to risk my peace. Just because I made those choices, I still had to work through stuff happening inside of me, but because I didn’t give away my power, I was able to open my mind up to solutions that didn’t compromise my emotional and psychological well-being.

Living life from a loving place is a one day at a time and sometimes one moment at a time journey. Empowerment is a gift we give ourselves by doing the work. If you like what you are reading here, follow along daily by scrolling down and following FromALovingPlace.com.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World