Listen to From A Loving Place with Author Rachael Wolff

There are plenty of perspectives on how to approach uncertainty, and this is one I planted in my garden decades ago. Today, it’s one of the most beautiful flowering trees in my inner garden.I’ve gone through a lot of trauma in my life, and I have endless stories I could dive into that would keep me stuck. I also have stories that help me move forward. How I process my past is my choice. How you process yours is your choice.There is no right or wrong way to do it, but I do think honesty matters. Are the stories and beliefs we’re feeding helping the beautiful plant life grow in our inner gardens, or are they feeding the weeds?I’m only ever somewhere until I’m not supposed to be there anymore has become one of my reminders that fighting reality is a losing battle.Why not embrace it instead?“When you argue with reality, you lose—but only 100% of the time.” — Byron KatieI’ve applied this perspective to all areas of my life:I’m supposed to live here, until I don’t.I’m supposed to be in this relationship, until I’m not.I’m supposed to work here, until I don’t.I’m supposed to have use of my senses, until I don’t.I’m supposed to be in this friendship, until I’m not.I’m supposed to have this amount of money, until I don’t.I’m supposed to be healthy, until I’m not.I’m supposed to live, until I don’t.Our personal stories can take these statements in countless directions, but for me, they pull me out of the story altogether. They remind me to keep taking the next step toward love, abundance, and peace.The rest works itself out whether I’m fighting reality or not.Of course, I still find myself worrying sometimes. I can let old stories take over and create stress, fear, and endless “what ifs.” When that happens, I usually discover I’ve been feeding weeds.Worry is just weeds spreading through our gardens. Whether we’re worrying about ourselves or someone we love, we’re still planting seeds from the energy of fear, lack, and separation.I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent plenty of time on that worry hamster wheel. It has never taken me anywhere worth going. Mostly, it leaves me exhausted.I’d rather find a different way to exercise my mind.Believing that I’m where I’m supposed to be until I’m not, doesn’t stop me from making healthier choices. In fact, I find it easier to move in a healthy direction when I’m not carrying the weight of constant worry.When I’m doing the work of aligning my energy with love, abundance, and peace, my decisions become clearer. My mind becomes quieter. My next step becomes easier to see. And right now, that’s where I am—until I’m not.Even that thought takes the pressure off. Just because I’m in a good headspace today doesn’t mean it’s meant to be permanent—and that’s okay. I don’t have to beat myself up for not being somewhere I think I should be. I’m tired of carrying that burden.Instead, I remind myself that I’m where I’m supposed to be, learning what I’m supposed to learn, growing how I’m supposed to grow, and being who I’m supposed to be in this moment. The rest will unfold as I keep tending my garden and trusting the process. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit fromalovingplace.substack.com