Healthy boundaries are such an important piece of self-care. Without them, we lie down to get walked on by our own two feet along with anyone else who wants to join in. Today, I got the reminder to not give myself away. Now, I’m pretty good at this, but from time to time, when I’m tired, angry, lonely, or tired, I need to remember to say “no” when I mean no, say “yes” when I mean yes, and give when it’s from a loving place. This means a self-loving place. I’m not doing things for others in order to prove my worth.

Healthy boundaries are not just about what I do for others either. Their about having a healthy boundary about what time to shut off the TV, close my eyes, eat…take care of myself body, mind, and spirit. If I don’t have healthy boundaries with my own self-care, I’m not putting my oxygen mask on first. That’s when bad things happen.

I read The Courage to Be Yourself by Sue Patton Thoele in preparation for our conversation today. If you’ve read my book and haven’t read hers, they go together almost like they were meant to be a package deal. It’s pretty wild. We work with a lot of the same concepts, but that reminder to watch my boundaries was an important reminder.

Today, I will give myself the healthy boundary to get to sleep early! I pushed it yesterday and my body, mind, and spirit are all paying the price today. It’s time to take care of me. I give myself away when I don’t take care of myself.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, author of Letters from a Better Me and host of the From A Loving Place with Rachael Wolff podcast