Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #30

“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”

Deepak Chopra

When I’m emotionally triggered, I have to be VERY careful around this truth. I have to remind myself that what I project out comes back. I’m only responsible and accountable for the the energy I’m putting out there. If I realize I’ve been blaming, I take the time to stop and look inward, but I don’t self-blame. I just notice where my energy is off in the situation and do what I can to fix the problem. It might mean I have to go back to people I was blaming and criticizing with and say I realize that I was triggered, but here is the truth of it… I remind myself that if I’m in a healthy space in my mind, I don’t get defensive. I look for healthy solutions instead of using gossip, criticism, and blame to make someone else feel smaller. I don’t have to make someone else at fault to be proactive and make healthier choices for myself, my family, and/or my community. I can’t help others move into a healthier energy if I’m not there myself.

I’ve found having safe people to process my feelings with is ESSENTIAL for my well-being. These are people who let me work through what I’m feeling and transition into healthy reflection. When I do this, I don’t hold the resentment inside my body and allow it to spew out on others. In one conversation, I can go from enraged to seeing opportunities for growth. I LOVE THAT!

I hope you’ve enjoyed these last 30 days of quotes. I know it has been a wonderful experience for me. I’ve even found some great ones to add to my next book, which I’m almost done writing. Three more chapters to go! I will keep you posted and share some sneak peaks along the way. I will tell you this much, I’ve LOVE writing this book.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy holiday season. If you are looking for support from a loving place, I hope you will take the time to explore my blog, which I’ve been writing just shy of six years now. If you are a woman looking for support, I have a whole book written just for you and it’s available in audiobook, CD, Ebook, and/or paperback at most major online book retailers. Letters from a Better Me is filled with exercises and wisdom that came from my 30+ years of self exploration that have helped me along the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #29

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”

Jim Rohn

That is exactly right.Since I am the example of how I want others to treat me, how I’m treating my body is one examples I’m showing them. If I abuse my body with toxins, I’m attracting outside toxins to me. If I abuse my body by not taking proper care of it with healthy food, exercise, sleep, and water, I’m showing others I don’t value the very vessel that carries me through this life. I’m projecting out that I don’t show myself the love and respect that I deserve, so you don’t have to either. When I take good care of my body, I’m always amazed how much better I feel all around. I love the quality of the people I attract around me from this place.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #22

“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”

Jonathan Lockwood Huie

I never knew how much holding onto resentment affected my inner peace until I started diving into my inner work. As long as I held onto my resentments towards myself or others, I projected chaos. When I started doing forgiveness work by writing letters, burning them, and then handing them over to God, I felt free. This didn’t mean that I didn’t shut plenty of doors, I did. I just no longer shut the door to my heart because of other people’s choices. I also stopped beating myself up over my own learning experiences. It is just as important to forgive myself as it is for me to forgive others if I want to maintain my peace.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Be There for YOU

Twenty-plus years ago, I wrote my mother a poem. It sits next to her bed in a frame. This morning she felt inspired to read it after a very long time. She shared the poem with me, and she told me a story of how the poem came to her at the perfect moment. I’m sharing the poem here today in case anyone else needs a little inspiration, because I know if you stop to read this, it’s meant for you.

Be There for YOU

As wonderful as it is to have you there,

Be there for you.

As Great as you are with your family and friends,

Be there for you.

As Much as you are needed by all those around you,

Be there for you.

Take time for yourself and just BE.

Turn off your phone,

Walk away from the TV,

AND BE!

You have a lot to do in this life,

But you will always feel pulled until you find time for you.

Rejuvenate, refresh, and balance.

You are being guided and your tender heart is getting ready.

An Amazing adventure awaits.

Be there for You.

©Rachael Wolff 2021

I hope this reaches whoever needs this today. Please, remember to be there for yourself. We are our own lifelong partners. Having healthy relationships with ourselves projects and reflects back to us in the most amazing ways.

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Beyond Talking point author Interview with Rachael Wolff

Bridgitte Jackson-Buckley, owner of Little Visioneers bookstore, asked me to be her special guest on her Beyond Talking Points video podcast series. I was so grateful for the opportunity to have this important conversation about forgiveness and so much more.

Beyond Talking Points: Forgiveness and Affirmative Letter Writing with Author Rachael Wolff

You can also find the interview at: https://www.littlevisioneers.com/podcast

We had such a beautiful conversation! I hope you enjoy!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #297

I’m grateful for the symbolic meanings of hearts. If there was ever a symbol to remind me to love and be loved, it’s the heart. I’ve given and received countless heart cards and presents over the years. I’ve drawn, cut-out, painted, colored, and applied countless hearts to everything from doodles to art projects. I put hearts on letters, texts, and social media posts. I love that I see hearts in nature both in plant-life and wildlife. Hearts are everywhere when I put my focus on seeing them—the same goes for love.

Beyond love, the heart is key to our very being. The better our hearts function, the better we function. They are our connection to life itself. If our hearts don’t work, neither do our vessels for this life. As I think about all the physical functions of the heart, I see why love is so important for it’s flow and function. When we love ourselves, we take care of our vessels for life. We honor them as the temples that they are. Hearts need good foods, exercise, water, and energy to function at their best. When I love myself, I do these things naturally because I can intuitively hear what my bodies asking for.

I remember both times when I was pregnant, I was filled with so much love for the unborn lives living inside me that I took better care of my body than I had since I could remember. I didn’t realize it at the time, but once my babies were out of me and no longer dependent on my body for food outside of me, I started letting my care for myself slip, but it wasn’t long after my second child stopped nursing that I REALLY saw that I was not being a good example for them if I was not taking care of myself, and I was letting others mistreat me. I was unconsciously showing them patterns of beliefs and behaviors that would cause them pain as they got older. When that awakening began, I looked up the definition of love. From that point on, I began doing the work to take care of my vessel—body, mind, and soul. From that point on my heart function physically, emotionally, and energetically became more important than ever. That is when I started to planting the seeds to create the internal garden of my dreams. It all began with honoring the call of my heart to love.

Hearts carry so many symbolic meanings for me. The strength of who I am relies on the function of my heart. Hearts are a reminder for me to take care of my body, mind, and soul. The more I show my heart love and respect, the better everything works inside of me, which in-turn projects out of me and then is attracted back. Therefore, when I’m better, the reality I create is better. When I take care of my heart, I feel my intuition flow like the blood in my veins. I’m in AWE just thinking about everything the heart represents.

Today, I commit to embracing the symbolic meanings of hearts. There are countless ways to take on this commit, but for me it all begins with self-care. I have learned when I put my own oxygen mask on first, I have the ability to serve others from a loving place instead of a place of lack. There is a big difference! One place expands me and the other depletes me. The stories that play in my head are my sign posts to tell me if I’m serving from a place of lack or love. I have to do work to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. Here’s my plan to embrace the heart today:

  • Drink plenty of water
  • Eat heart healthy foods
  • Walk (10,000 steps min.) and stretch to exercise my heart
  • Meditate
  • Read a book that inspires me to love more
  • Watch shows and/or videos that inspire me to love more
  • Align myself with love, abundance, and peace by writing about things that inspire me
  • Engage in loving actions with anyone I encounter
  • Speak only love on social media
  • Speak only love out in the world

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World — Click title to learn more

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #125

I’m grateful for 12-step programs. Did you know there are 12-step programs for a variety of people experiencing different challenges? The steps are all virtually the same, and the order of them does matter. Part of working 12-step programs is doing the work, along with showing up for meetings and volunteering. All elements of these programs help participants get out of their own way. The first time I walked into a meeting, I was 14-years old. I have done the 12-steps through multiple programs a handful of times. Each time helps me go a little deeper, especially when I would do them from a different angle. I remember saying, the 12-steps should be offered to everyone, because it really does give amazing tools to how to live our best lives and STOP focusing on the things we can’t control. Part of the the reason the Serenity Prayer is used in most meetings.

I haven’t been to any 12-step program in years, but working the steps and the community of support helped me through some of my darkest times. They taught me how to create my own community of support based on my needs to keep going deeper. ALANON was the program I was a part of most recently it’s a program for friends and family of alcoholics. Getting me through the darkest days is an UNDERSTATEMENT. I was a shell when I walked through those doors. I felt empty, lost, and completely out of control. There is NO mistake God led me through those doors and carried me through the first year.

Some people who walk into 12-programs will stay there for life. The community and the work become a part of their self-care practices. For programs dealing with addiction, many have found it is the only thing that works after multiple attempts at doing things differently. As much as I’ve studied addiction, I’m not an addict. There is still a lot I don’t understand no matter how much I read, so my belief is if it works, you keep doing it. When I find self-care tools that work to help to keep me out of my stories drowned in the energies of fear, lack, and separation, I do the work. When I work a self-care program, I serve others in the best way possible too. How someone else chooses to do this is not my business, but if it works, I’m HAPPY for them.

The first meetings I ever attended were Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). I was young, experimenting with drinking, hanging out with older boys, and on a dangerous path. My mom was told to get me into treatment early before I got out of control, so that’s what she did, I was 14. I spent months there and part of the program was going to meetings and doing 12-step work. Early on, I was getting tools and experiences that many adults don’t have, even at my age now which is 44. I would have to go through many life lessons, but having all those seeds has definitely helped me survive and thrive through very dark and traumatic experiences. I honestly believe that learning to process my feelings in a healthy manner, from all the groups we had to do, helped me not to go down the path of addiction. Plus, I learned A LOT from the experiences of others, I definitely didn’t want to travel that path.

Now, one warning I have to any parent reading this and considering this for your child, especially a female. Women’s only meetings are important. One thing I didn’t understand at that time is just because people are in AA, doesn’t mean they don’t have mental health issues. There can still be predators looking for vulnerable individuals. This can happen anywhere, just because a person is in AA doesn’t mean they are safe. There are sick and healthy people everywhere we go. Unhealed trauma, which can be what takes a person down the addiction path can be ugly, men and women can process the loss of power VERY differently. Just stay aware, and make sure your child knows not to put people in AA on pedestals. Nobody belongs on pedestals. We are all human and we both have the dark and light within us, and which one we feed is the one that will create our reality and how we treat others.

When I was sixteen, I started attending Co-Dependents Anonymous (CODA) meetings. I got some good seeds there, but I didn’t stay long enough to dive deeper. There were areas of co-dependency that I would learn the hard way much later, like me being a rescuer…I had no idea that was co-dependency. My “savior complex” would be one of my biggest obstacles to overcome, and an author by the name of Melody Beattie would be the one who showed me how to plant the seeds I needed and weed out old behavior patterns that kept me a prisoner of my own co-dependency.

I’m always amazed to hear about more 12-step programs. I love that so many people have access to these groups, ESPECIALLY now with so many people feeling isolated and stuck in their own stories. These groups are not just for addicts, as I mentioned, they are communities of people who are looking be, do, and live better. I know if I end up in a room, it’s because it’s where I’m supposed to be to get what I need.

If you are wondering why I don’t attend now, it’s because my need for community and self-care has changed, but all the tools I got from the programs I attended come with me every step of the way. I find myself using the tools I learned often.

Today, I commit to working my self-care program! Now, the biggest thing that 12-step programs taught me is, “It works, if you work it.” We have to work our programs in order to maintain any changes we introduce to our lives. If we want to align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, we have to do the work daily! I’m just like anyone else, when I stop doing the work, I slip. I can easily fall back into old thought and behavior patterns if I don’t commit to doing the work to keep me out of the stories in my head that keep me prisoner. I personally needed 12-step programs for a long time because I struggled to keep myself accountable to do the work on my own. Those programs are what gave me my self-care work ethic. They helped to keep me on my own priority list. I don’t think I would be where I am right now without all the tools I got from those communities and the steps. I have things people said to me burnt in my brain in the best of ways as messages I have to myself on repeat, and that is over 12 years since I heard them.

When we find what works, it’s important to keep doing the work. We can’t expect things to change if we don’t change the way we do things. We can’t control anything outside us. What we do have control over is how we treat ourselves, how we serve others, and how we tell our own stories. It’s up to us to get the help and tools we need to get out of our own way.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #18

What I’ve realized on my journey of aligning with love, abundance, and peace is that I have to make daily time to take care of me and my energy. If I don’t, I can easily get caught up in what is going on around me. This truly is a daily practice and I feel it when I slip. I used to say, “I struggle with making anything a routine.” Just saying it created a resistance. What I found is that I have to find MY way to make time. Setting alarms on my phone is one of the ways I get my reminders. It also helps me to keep myself accountable. I’m so happy with how well it has worked for me. Where as before, I would just try to slide stuff in, now I have a designated time and I’m finding even if I can’t do it right then because something comes up, I still make time to do it. Now, I really am making space for myself daily to make sure I’m doing things to align my energy with love, abundance, and peace. Some of things include healthy eating, gratitude journal/ journaling, exercise, and meditation. I feel taken care of and I have more energy to put love out into the world.

I know meditation can feel overwhelming to some, but meditation takes a lot of different forms. Don’t feel like there is one right way to meditate, because there is not. Take it from someone who has tried many! I do writing meditations where I play instrumental or chanting meditation music and free write (just write, no correcting and no thinking about what you are writing) for 15 minutes. I’m often amazed at the sage wisdom that comes from those sessions. When I’m struggling I’ve said a prayer than ask for an answer on my nature walk, again some great wisdom comes from being present with nature. I’ve also done all kinds of guided and not guided meditations sitting on my floor or my bed. I also have movement meditations I do. I commit to doing at least one a day for 15 minutes, and I definitely feel more at peace and loving. If we don’t give ourselves a break from the chaos, we become apart of it once again engaging in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Creating space for self-care reminds us that we have a choice where our energy goes no matter what is happening around us.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #11

There is a reason laughter is called one of the BEST medicines. When we appreciate the people, places, and things that make us laugh, we attract more things to laugh about. One of the saddest things I notice when working  with people is how they brush pass their laughter like it’s no big deal. Laughter is a HUGE deal and something to be very grateful for. Find places to laugh in your daily life. I don’t care if it’s people, videos, stand-up, or what. They even have Laughing Yoga. I absolutely LOVE stand-up comedy. For me, it’s not just about the comedian. It’s about the crowd laughing too. I’m so grateful when I find things in my life that make me laugh out loud.

If you are having to be isolated from your friends, you can video chat with them. I’ve had some of the best nights on chats with girlfriends just laughing so hard that not only were tears rolling down my eyes, but my face HURT the next day from smiling so much. If you are joining me on this daily aligning with love, abundance, and peace, think back to the times you have laughed in the last few days. I know even at some of the saddest times in my life, I found moments to laugh. Those moments were so important to me. They helped me feel like I was going to be okay.

 

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Make laughing a priority today! Why not, unless you don’t want to feel better, I guess that would be a good reason LOL. We live in a world FULL of resources. If we are bound and determined to laugh today, we will. I know I will. If you REALLY want to be in the energy of love, abundance, and peace—write it down!! It’s not enough just to think it and crack a grin. Fully embrace, value, and cherish what you are grateful for. We have to give gratitude our full energy or else that energy of lack will find it’s way back in. We have to give that moment of peace acknowledgment when we are laughing, so that we don’t re-align with feelings of separation. Laugh out loud right now until the laugh becomes real because you are laughing at yourself. Love yourself enough to treat yourself with laughter today. You deserve it and so do I!

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Want to learn more about how the journey of this Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace began? Read DAY 1 here.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

 

If you want to go deeper and align yourself and your actions with the energy you want to see more of in the world, check out Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the WorldI’ve been asked, “Could a man can get something from reading  this book?” Absolutely! The letters are aimed specifically for women, but the journey of the book is going inward, so a reader could actually write their own letters which would fit their lives and still receive plenty of amazing gifts from this book. If you don’t want to go that route, there are blog posts that go back to 2016 for absolutely any reader. 

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #10

Today, I’m focusing my gratitude on flowers in all their glory. For me, taking pictures of flowers reminds me to stop and pay attention. They provide us with such beautiful gifts. I love walking around my neighborhood and seeing all the variations. When the wind hits the right place, I smell the gardenia and the jasmine permeate the air. If you want to join me, take a few minutes to really stop, appreciate, and smell the flowers you love. What are your favorites? Do you have any around you? Go visit them if you can. If you don’t, find pictures and imagine smelling them. When the mind focuses, it can bring a smell from a memory right to you. Use the flowers to REALLY embrace the feeling of gratitude, because in this moment the flowers are enough to bring you into the energy of abundance. 

When we slow down and pay attention to the flowers, we give ourselves the opportunity to be fully engaged in the moment. We don’t even need to see flowers in person to feel the AWE. We can look at pictures online and notice details of these AMAZING creations.

Right now, I’m thinking about gardenia. Instantly, the beautiful scent fills my head, and I not only smell it, but absorb the last memory of me smelling it. I’m back to the AWE…a moment of pure joy , peace, and gratitude all at once—true abundance. It’s the most beautiful feeling. When you recognize the things that bring you to a feeling of AWE, it’s easier to move out of a moment of fear, lack, and separation and back into love, abundance, and gratitude.

Want to learn more about this journey? You can go to day 1 here.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace, 

©Rachael Wolff 2020

 

If you want to dive into a deeper journey, check out Letters from a Better Me here!

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