I’m grateful I know the value of forgiving myself. There is nothing that holds us tighter in our own energy of fear, lack, and separation as our own shame, guilt, self-hatred, self-abuse, and inner-resentment. What we see in the mirror projects out to create our realities as beautiful or as ugly as the messages we are feeding ourselves on a daily basis.
I used to be absolutely brutal to myself, and I was constantly attracting chaos to my life as a result. Through the process of learning to forgive myself, I’ve released layers of hatred, resentments, fears, shame, and guilt. My life looks so different now. The people surrounding me are the people who bring more light to my life. My relationships with family and friends are healthy and loving. It all started with me forgiving the one person I am going to be living with from the cradle to the grave—Me.
Today, I commit to forgiving myself for anything I’m still holding onto. I remember when the forgiveness letters to myself went on for pages and pages. Now, they are down to paragraphs. My favorite way of truly forgiving myself is to write myself a forgiveness letter. Then I say a prayer asking God to help me learn the lesson so that I don’t have to repeat it again. Then, I release it from my mind and body by burning it. If you are going to do this, make sure you do it safely. I once was told how quickly or slowly the letter burns represented how willing I was to truly forgive. I’m not sure if that is true or not, but it’s something I think about when I’m burning my letters. There were ones that definitely burned much slower than others.
Whatever way we can find to forgive ourselves is important. If we don’t, we are spreading the energy of fear, lack, and separation to others through our toxic thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. How we feel about ourselves is coming out on the people we interact with. This is why I don’t take it personally when someone tries to verbally attack me, because I know that person doesn’t have a healthy relationship with themselves. When we are in a healthy mindset, we communicate through our love not our fear, through our abundance not our lack, and through our peace not our separation. I don’t just forgive myself for me. I forgive myself for everyone else I’m going to come in contact with. We have to live with any thought, belief, action, and/or reaction we put out there. Part of being responsible and accountable for our actions and reactions is forgiving ourselves.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title to find out more)