Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #217

I’m grateful for people who are attracted to the energy of love, abundance, and peace. These are the people who attract so many wonderful people to their lives. Their energy radiates in a way that cannot be denied, but we can only recognize them if we are aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Otherwise, we may feel resistance, envy, jealously, or disdain for the energy they are putting out, because like attracts like. I know when I’m in the energy of love, abundance, and peace because the people who come into my life are showing up for their lives in such amazing ways. People who are attracted to the energy of love, abundance, and peace shine a beautiful light in the world.

Today, I commit to enjoy people who are aligned with love, abundance, and peace. When I talk to people who are aligned with love, abundance, and peace, my energy rises too. That is how it works!! It is such an amazing exchange that happens. On Wednesdays, I regularly attend a Zoom panel called Heart Wisdom Panel that is hosted by Mango Publishing. The reason I love attending this panel so much is the amazing energy in the room. It is palpable. I leave the panel feeling like I’m walking on a cloud. It is such a rush to be around people sharing their love and light!

I have three scheduled calls a week plus that the Wisdom Panel which are my guarantees to feel the uplift in energy that happens when multiple people are aligned with love, abundance, and peace. We can be going through difficult things, but when we start laughing and aligning with what’s good and right in the world, we move through the hard stuff and leave feeling energized and refreshed. I’ve learned if I want to stay aligned with this energy, I have to align with others who are too. Otherwise, it’s just too easy to get caught up in the chaos that comes with the stories of fear, lack, and separation.

On my journey people have moved in and out of my life, and that is okay. I’m not bitter about that. I trust that the people who are in my life right now are the ones that are supposed to be here. The more I align with love, abundance, and peace, the more people I will attract to me who are aligned with that energy too. This isn’t a lifetime thing, this is a moment to moment thing. I can be in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and a person who is aligned with love, abundance, and peace will feel a resistance. Something might happen that we can’t talk. Energy attracts or repulses. I trust that. This is why I don’t take it personal when things come up and people cancel. I trust that something in our energies aren’t aligned. I absolutely love observing how this works on my life. When the people who are attracted to love, abundance, and peace are attracted to my energy, I know I’m in a good place! If I’m not attracted people who are attracted to the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I know what I need to do to change—ALIGN MY OWN ENERGY!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title to learn more, see available formats, and purchase your copy)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #216

I’m grateful I don’t expect people to be who they are NOT. This wasn’t always true. I used to make myself miserable with expectations of others to be who they are not. I wanted people to be the version of them I made up in a story in my head. If it was a romantic partner, I wanted them to be a version of happily ever after instead of seeing the person they actually were. One of the greatest sayings I ever learned was, “Don’t go to the hardware store for bread.” My friend Sarah said this to me over a decade ago. It’s still a reminder for me to not expect others to be who they aren’t. Nobody can be all things, me included. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I like to focus my energy on where people’s strengths are, it’s a lot less stressful.

Today, I’m committing to accepting people for who they are. People are who they are. Each of us have patterns of behavior that we get through life with. Unless we want to change some of those patterns, we won’t change them. The only person we can change is looking back at us in the mirror. When I accept people for who they are, I can see the person clearly. I see if I need to enforce healthy boundaries, work on my perspectives about the person (the stories I’m creating), or leave.

My expectations of others made me miserable and created chaos in my relationships with others. It doesn’t mean I don’t get angry with someone when they don’t do what they say they are going to do. I am going to have whatever feelings I’m going to have in a moment of disappointment. I do my best to let the person know I how I feel about what happened, without blaming them. If I notice patterns of behavior after time, I have to then choose behaviors that are best for me that will keep me in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Understanding that I can’t change anyone else and they can’t change me helped me to see that it only moves me into the energy of fear, lack, and separation when I DON’T accept them for exactly who they are. I do my best to live by example. I don’t expect others to do what I won’t do for myself. If they have a strength that I don’t have, I make sure they know that I appreciate them for that strength. If someone doesn’t appreciate my strengths or they want me to change something. I have choices, but they are MY choices. What is important to me is that whatever I choose keeps me in the energy that I want to see more of, which is love, abundance, and peace.

Having feelings like anger, disappointment, anxiety, and sadness don’t align us with fear, lack, and separation unless we start acting, thinking, and believing from those places. We each get the choice where we want to live from. By being the example of someone who lives they way I do, people will be attracted or repulsed based on how they live.

I trust the people who are sent into my life are showing me the reflection of how I’m living inside. Therefore, I never NEED to change them. I only need to accept them, work on me. When I’m ready to leave unhealthy relationships, whether with friends or romantic partners, I do. I don’t leave because of them, I leave because I accepted who they are, I changed the part of me that attracted them, and I accept that they don’t fit into my life anymore. I left even my most toxic relationship with peace inside me, I not only left him. I left the pattern in relationships that kept me attracting people who were unhealthy for me.

When we align with love, abundance, and peace accepting people for who they are is natural. That’s how I know moments when I’m aligning with fear, lack, and separation. I’m creating a story about the other person and how they should be. Then I act out from that place. They are who they should be, because that is who they are in this moment. They have to deal with the rewards and consequences of that. The only person who can change that is them, and only if they want to. Living the example will help someone see if they want to live differently than they are choosing to live. We can only ever give a person seeds. They have to choose if they want to plant them. If their energy isn’t aligned with mine, that’s okay. There is someone’s else out there for them.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title for information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #215

I’m grateful for intuition. So many of us don’t give enough credit to our and/or other’s intuition for helping to lead us in the right direction. Sometimes ours or someone else’s intuition will give us little cues or guideposts, but in the end, it is us that has to take action on what we are seeing or hearing. I love when the tingles come! That is one of the signs I’m getting important information. My body is physically reacting in a way that stands out way beyond the normal. Just think of people getting goosebumps during an amazing performance. It resonates on a deeper level. It tends to happen to me when a song, dance, or piece of art connect me to some message I’m supposed to get by the emotions it brings to the surface.

Sometimes, I recognize if I’m holding onto something (a thought, idea, or end goal) too tight, I try to predict future instead of letting my intuition lead me to the next best step. Remembering to stay on the journey and not attaching to an end goal can be challenging at times, but I find when I think I know the way something is going to end up for myself, I can get lost in future instead of doing the work I need to do in the now.

When it comes to other’s intuition, I need to decipher if their intentions come from a place of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. This is why it is SO important for me to stay clear and open to see red flags and if my energy is aligned with receiving messages from a place of fear, lack, and separation. THIS IS WHY I DO THE DAILY WORK TO STAY ALIGNED! Even seemingly good and positive people can lead us down dark paths intentionally or unintentionally. I’ve seen a lot of people who have considered themselves lightworkers get aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation and take people down painful and dangerous paths of conspiracy and chaos. A person can do this unconsciously and unintentionally. All people who lead others down these paths aren’t EVIL. They are just aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. They don’t see that their messages are getting mixed up with their egos which are telling them to be in fear, lack, and separation. We are all capable of doing this and being led by others who do it. Our best defense and offense is doing the work to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Doing this work daily has helped me to strengthen my intuitive skills exponentially!

Much of what you read on this blog is intuition nudging me. Sometimes it’s for me, and other times it’s for someone who going to read the piece. There have been times when I have no idea why I feel drawn to write something, but the words just flow out of me. That’s how I know what I’m writing isn’t about me. I trust whoever is meant to read it will get the seed they need to help them take a step they need for them. I know the Divine has a much bigger plan that I do and part of trusting my intuition is trusting in that.

Intuition has led me down so many amazing roads. I’m welling up just thinking about the people, places, products, organizations, and actions I’ve been led to because of trusting my intuition. It’s just amazing! I absolutely love intuition stories too. It’s that reminder to keep trusting!

Today, I’m committing to trusting my intuition. The key for me is not holding on tightly to any end result. If I’m holding on too tight, I create a story in my head. That is not intuition. This is where many of us get confused and can go down the path of fear, lack, and separation which can lead us to very dark places. Instead of letting our intuition guide us, our fears are what ends up guiding us. Depending how far we choose to go down that road, it can be a long way back. I went down that path for over a decade, it was dark and painful. The things I believed during that time period give me those spooky chills that none of us like getting.

If I’m at all in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I know I’m most likely not going to feel clear on what I’m receiving unless I’m getting nudges how to get me into the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Those are the times I’m often guided to a song to pull my energy up, a book to inspire the love inside me, or a person who is going to help me see that I’m stuck in that energy.

I’m laughing thinking about the times I thought I was getting a clear sign when I was holding on tight to the end goal I wanted. Looking back, I saw my “I know better” ego taking the reigns and creating an elaborate tale. Yes, I’m laughing out loud.

When it comes to my own stuff, my intuition works best when I’m focused on the journey, not the destination. The nudges on what to do now that are aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace are my guideposts. Those are the ones that lead me in a direction I can trust, because I’m aligned with the energy of the moment, not a future that I should look this way or that way. Even with my closest friends I have to watch myself because if I want something so badly for them, I can easily create a story instead of listening to where my intuition is guiding me.

In order for me to stay out of the story, I have to remain aware of how tied I am to a specific end result. That helps me stay out of the story and pay attention to the action steps to take right in this moment. I also am checking in with myself to see where my energy is aligned as I’m feeling pulled to do something. If it’s out of a place of fear, lack, and separation, I’m in my ego mind. If it’s in the place of love, abundance, and peace, I’m connected to Divine energy which is where I believe intuition comes from. I can’t experience that energy in a place of fear, lack, and separation.

Sometimes, we can be led down very scary and dark roads, but that doesn’t mean we are not on the path we were led to be on. Sometimes, we have to learn on those paths to lead us to something else. I’ve realized that if I can stay as much as I can in the energy of love, abundance, and peace, the path isn’t as painful, even if it’s a dark road. When I trust my intuition, I’m letting my inner flashlight lead me through the dark spots. The key for me is to trust the journey and be open to learn from wherever I’m led. Some of my best gifts were found on my darkest roads. Right now, I’m a single mom of two teenagers. This road comes with many challenges, and tests my skills, but it teaches me EVERY step of the way.

Remember people’s intuition works differently from one person to another. We are not all going to get the same kinds of nudges, details, or sensory cues. My views of intuition may not hit home with you, that doesn’t mean I’m wrong or you’re wrong. I feel like messages have to get through to us in ways that we are open to receive them, so it’s going to look and feel different at times. I’m blessed enough to talk to people who use their intuition in all different areas like career, personal, spiritual, and physical. It is really fascinating to hear the different ways people get their intuitional hits.

I’ve been working on developing mine more after being led to a person who’s gifts are more fine-tuned than mine are. She’s helping me to understand how I see on a deeper level. She wasn’t presented to me until I was ready for her. But when we met, I felt the INSTANT connection and it has been an amazing ride ever since.You can actually see her amazing journey at Kierstenparsons.com. When we are open, we will be led down a path that strengthens our gifts we have to offer the world. The key is trusting the journey and DOING THE WORK! If we don’t commit to doing the work, we aren’t going to get the results. It’s just like toning our bodies, we have to do the work to tone our minds to operate to their full potential.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #214

I’m grateful for different kinds of friendships. My friendships over the years are some of my greatest treasures. I’ve had many different kinds of friendships over the years and they have all played a very special role on my journey. My friendships today go as far back as age 4. Talk about someone who has seen your good, bad, and ugly. It’s funny because I’m friends with lots of people from my youth. Even my boyfriend and I have known each other since fifth grade. As many places as I’ve lived, some of my closest friends are still from those early school years. Not living in the town I grew up, I’ve made plenty of other friends through the years. Some have stayed and others have gone down different roads. Some friends are only in my life for a brief season, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t have a big impact on my life. Now, since the pandemic, I’ve made a whole new crop of friends who I hold near and dear to my heart even if I’ll never meet them in person. I see them on a regular basis thanks to the amazing technology of video calling.

I cherish my friendships and each one brings their own unique lessons and blessings to my life. I love that I have friends to walk with, talk with, grow with, and everything in-between. I have friends to talk spirituality with and others to talk parenting and relationships. I have some to talk business and others to talk adventures. I love that I have friends I can hike mountains and exercise with too. When I was discovering how to be my own life partner, it was all my friendships that helped me to see how I wanted to enjoy my life.

I learned a long time ago that one person can’t be our everything. Putting that much pressure on a person is not healthy. I have friendships that celebrate each other’s strengths. I don’t expect a person to be who they are not. I’ll talk more about that in the upcoming days. I believe whoever is meant to be there with me in a moment is the person who is there. I trust the relationships God has brought to me, and I appreciate each person for what they bring to my life and to the world.

Today, I’m committing to appreciating my different friendships. I never want a friend to feel that I ever want them to be more than who they are. I love thinking about my different friendships and what they mean to me. That kind of thinking aligns me with love, abundance, and peace every time. I’ve mentioned my friend Sherry Richert Belul’s book, Say It Now: 33 Ways to Say I Love You to the Most Important People in Your Life. This book has so many wonderful and creative ways to let people know how much they mean to us. I will be thumbing through to get some ideas to make sure my friends know just how much I appreciate them.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #213

I’m grateful I’m open to see my emotional triggers. When I react in extreme ways that don’t match the situation, I know I’ve been triggered. If something happens and I start playing a story in my head of how I want to tell someone off or a million things that I would love to say, I know I’m emotionally triggered. If something small makes me hide behind my walls, I know I’m emotionally triggered. None of these reactions are about what is happening in the moment. They are about an old story playing about something that isn’t fully healed from my past.

I used to be very unconscious of this and take it out on the person in front of me. I would blame them for how I was feeling. I would give my power away. Now, I see when I’m triggered as an opportunity to heal. Sometimes I catch it after I react, I’m human. I’ve learned to take the space I need to see my trigger clearly. If I reacted to a loved one, I always go back to take responsibility for my reaction and explain how I was feeling and why. This has helped my relationships grow and strengthen.

I feel so blessed to have learned how to process and learn from my emotional triggers. Doing this definitely aligns me with the energy of love, abundance, and peace over fear, lack, and separation. It helps me not be vulnerable to people, groups, organizations, products, or influencers that feed on people NOT recognizing their triggers. When we don’t recognize them, we become prey to people who know how to manipulate them to get us to do what they want. The problem is when we don’t recognize them, we are unconsciously leaking out the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Like attract like, so if someone is looking for that energy, we begin to feel the magnetic force drawing us in. It’s so incredibly dangerous, I much rather take responsibility for what is mine and transform my energy into love, abundance, and peace. The people that are attracted to that energy are the ones I love spending my time with.

Today, I’m committing to take responsibility for my emotional triggers. If the feelings start coming up, I will give myself space to see what they are really about. I will take a deep breath and release it to give me space to step outside of the chaos of the emotional trigger. If I react before I catch myself, I will look at my reaction, take responsibility for it, and then learn from the experience.

Holding myself responsible and accountable for my triggers doesn’t mean I am blaming myself either. Self-blame is just another form of self-abuse which keeps us in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Taking responsibility for my emotional triggers is about learning from them so that they don’t have power over me and making sure I don’t give myself away by unconsciously sliding into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I take responsibility for the energy that is coming out of me, I can do something about it. I can sit with it to learn from it, and when I’m ready, release it through forgiveness. Then, I bring myself back to the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

If you are wondering about the other party involved, I’ve learned that when I can speak clearly from an, “I feel _____________ because____________” without an extreme reaction, the other person is more open to hear what I have to say and the communication tends to be on a healthy level, unless they are an abuser. When I was dealing with an abuser, I found it best when I kept a calm voice, never blamed, and stated how I felt, but it wasn’t about how they responded. It was about me staying in my peace, because I was less appealing to attack if I genuinely remained in my peace. This took a lot of practice, and when I got REALLY good at it, I felt strong enough to leave and I never looked back. I had to interact with him over the years from time to time, but because I don’t react, I stay in my peace, I don’t blame, and I just state facts with no emotional windows for him to sneak through, he has no power of me. Remember, like attracts like. Abusers can only have power if we are in the energy of fear, lack, and separation too. They are not attracted to people who live authentically from the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

All the things I’ve been talking about for the last 213 days are all just steps on the journey. I’m sharing my daily work to stay in the energy of love, abundance, and peace as much as I can. I will slip in and out, but I want to be in more than I’m out. There are so many amazing blessings on this journey, but the key is doing things to stay conscious daily. If you want to come on this journey with me, scroll down and sign up to follow this blog. We can only create more love, abundance, and peace in the world if we are doing the work to stay in that energy as we represent what we stand for out in the world.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #212

I’m grateful for EASY shifts in perspective. Sometimes shifting a perspective aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation to love, abundance, and peace can happen in an instant. I can see a quote, read a passage, hear someone speak, or just get a moment of clarity from being in the present moment. I love those shifts. The energy shift is often palpable. I love the shifts where I actually laugh out loud because it hits me so fast. It’s like a little soul cleansing.

Today, I commit to enjoying easy perspective shifts. These shifts can happen multiple times throughout the day. I catch myself in a moment of thinking that is aligned with fear, lack, and separation. Then, I consciously re-direct myself to go from a thought that is not healthy for me to one that is. The more conscious I become of the easy shifts, the more open I am for the bigger ones. I’ve started making it more like a game LOL, because why not? We can’t take ourselves too seriously. I find laughter helps me shift faster.

If you are interested on joining me on this journey make sure you are clear on how you see the energy of fear, lack, and separation. You can go back to Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #210 (Link in the title) to help you determine what perspectives are coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation. Try looking at something small, and laughing at the thought while you see a a perspective that is obviously healthier and aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Try to catch yourself in the thoughts throughout the day. Don’t beat yourself up if you notice that you are catching yourself a lot or that you look back later and see you missed some. Use this as an exercise in awareness. It is meant to be fun. Only take on perspectives that are easy shifts.

The beautiful thing about this exercise is that the more often we do it perspective shifts that didn’t even seem possible start shifting. These are the old beliefs that were passed down from generations keeping us in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Doing this work is like building a muscle. It takes time, work, and persistence, but if we keep up with it, we get the results that we want. Don’t forget to laugh!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #211

I’m grateful for the people who show up and the ones that don’t. I used to hold grudges against people who didn’t show up when I thought they should. I would get so angry and feel let down on a regular basis. Living with these resentments kept me aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I chased away good people in my life because my focus was on the people who WEREN’T there, instead of focusing on the ones who were. I’m so thankful that many of those people came back into my life when I aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Here’s what I’ve learned: the people who are supposed to be there, always are. Not always in the way of future sense. I mean, the person or people who are there for us in a moment in time are the ones who are supposed to be there. If that wasn’t the case, the reality of the situation would be different than it was. If someone doesn’t show up that I thought “SHOULD” be there, that is my ego. Who am I to say they should be there? They were meant to be exactly where they were because that is a part of their journey. They weren’t meant to be there for me because they weren’t there—THAT’s the reality!

So many amazing blessings have occurred in my life because of a person not being there, because it made space in my life for the people who were. I trust that when I speak at virtual event, everyone who is supposed to be in that room is who is meant to be there. If a friend tells me that they got tickets and they don’t go or something comes up…it’s because they weren’t supposed to be there, otherwise they would have been there.

People have asked me if I get mad at friends who haven’t read my book. The answer is no. The people who read my book are the people it’s for. If people don’t read my book, the book wasn’t for them, at least right now. If they pick up the book years down the road, well than the book was meant to be a part of their journeys.

I love how it feels to put my energy on the people who do show up, and be grateful for the ones that don’t because if it weren’t for them, I wouldn’t have the space to appreciate the people who are there. People can pop in and out of our lives. I trust if someone is meant to pop in, they will. If they are meant to pop out, they will.

Another beautiful lesson I’ve learned is when I think someone “should” show up and they don’t, I have to look at my expectations of that person. If someone’s actions aren’t aligning with their words or I don’t feel aligned with love, abundance, and peace when I’m with them, I need to ask myself: Do I really want this person to be there? When the answer is no, them not showing up is a blessing that led to self-discovery. That leaves an opening for more people to show up that ARE meant to be there.

Right now my life is filled with all kinds of people who bring different gifts to it. I truly believe they are Godsends. If I get a call from someone who needs a friend and I haven’t talked to them for months or years, I believe if they reach out to me, it’s because I’m the one who is supposed to be there. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be available or they wouldn’t have even thought to reach out to me. There are no grudges—only what is. That is reality.

I’ve discovered that I don’t have to create stories about people showing up or not. I just sit in gratitude for both. I’ve learned from both. I’ve been challenged by both. But through it all, I’m blessed by both.

Today, I commit to appreciating the people who do and don’t show up. Just writing this piece makes me grateful for both. The pandemic created some distance between some friends and brought me closer to others. I’ve met so many new people since this pandemic began, and if other people didn’t go on their own journeys, I wouldn’t have had the space in my life for the ones who are here right now. The people who are in my life right now are EXACTLY the ones I need to be there, until they aren’t. I have regular calls with people and I have people who pop in from time to time.

Here’s something really cool about being in this energy…Just as I was typing the words above, a notification came on my screen. One of my friends who I was thinking of in the very moment, responded to a comment I made on social media. She showed up in perfect timing to deepen my appreciation. I stopped to text her and we shared a moment of connection. This is such an amazing journey. The reason I love being in this energy of appreciating both is because right now my heart is overwhelmed with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Tears are filling my eyes because I feel so blessed. It’s that beautiful reminder that everything happens in perfect timing.

I love knowing when I’m meant to be there for someone else, because I will be the one who is there. I don’t have to feel bad or guilty for the times I’m not there, because I know the people who were meant to be there were. If the person was alone, I know that was a part of their journey too. I’ve had a lot of beautiful lessons that came when nobody showed up. I take that as a sign I needed the space to connect spiritually. I feel very strongly that if a another person or I don’t show up, it’s because my journey is taking me somewhere else and so is theirs. Why spend time in the energy of fear, lack, and separation over that? I rather stay in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #210

I’m grateful for the feeling of release that comes from letting my fear, lack, and separation out on paper. I’ve learned some dangerous patterns in my life as it pertains to feelings. I’ve seen patterns of numbing, avoiding, and suppressing feelings passed down for generations. I’ve seen patterns of shame for feelings and actions that were aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, which only made the energy stronger. I felt so much shame and guilt that I thought people were better off without me, yet I had a smile on my face as I pretended to be okay. It took me a long time to see that living a better life didn’t mean I spoke in shiny happy rainbow colors all the time. Just like everyone else who lives authentically, I have to FEEL THROUGH whatever challenges that come my way.

I have to face myself when I feel feelings that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I know the dangers of living in that energy for way too long. I know that pretending the feelings aren’t their only makes the feelings stronger. The people I love get hurt the longer I stay in this energy, because I start leaking the energy out all around me.

The best thing I can do for myself and others is to get my shit down on paper. I need to see the weeds I’ve planted in my internal garden in order to pull them out at the roots. Seeing my shadow on paper isn’t always easy, but there is something magical that happens when I see her on paper, I take away her power to destroy me. I get to exhale and the feel the release of her toxic energy on my body, mind, and soul. Let me make this very clear. We are not evil because we have a shadow, darkness, whatever you want to call it. We are human. The experiencing of feelings and having thoughts that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation isn’t EVIL. It’s a learning opportunity.

We only lose ourselves to our darkness when we refuse to look at it and take responsibility for it. When we blame others for our shadow, we make our shadow bigger and give it more power. The first step to working with our shadows in a healthy way is to recognize them. For me, recognizing mine is about physically seeing her. I do that by allowing myself to write in her voice. I feel such an amazing sense of relief getting her out of my body. It’s amazing the weight I feel when I refuse to look at her and the lessons she has to teach me about the perspectives of truth (beliefs) of mine that are still aligned with fear, lack, and separation.

I know when I feel the release, I’ve done my work. I went deep enough. I’ve seen what I was meant to see in this moment, because letting go of fear, lack, and separation happens in layers. We only get what we are equipped to face. The stronger we get, the more that is revealed. For me, this has happened in a natural progression. Anytime I’ve tried to force being ready for what I’m not ready for, I struggle and still don’t get the answers LOL. I’ve learned to trust the beautiful feeling of release to let me know that I’ve done my work. My physical sign that I’ve reached that point is this need to release a GIANT exhale. I imagine any toxic energy that I was holding onto shaking free and the exhale fully releases the blocked energy spot. AWE…release!

Today, I commit to writing down any feelings of fear, lack, and separation that I want to get out of me. I’m going to let it all come out—no filter! If I’m not willing to see it, I won’t be able to heal it. I will just keep shoving it down and it will get bigger and bigger. I’m not going to show this writing to anyone else, because it’s not for anyone else. This is my stuff. If I need to work on anything I see in what I write, I will ask for the help I need and trust whoever shows up to help me is the person intended to be there on this leg of my journey. If I have trouble knowing what my next step is, I pray. Then, I trust the path that is revealed to me. Sometimes it’s a book, person, Ted Talk, YouTube video, professional, supplement, etc. The path is always revealed as long as I’m willing to let go enough to take a step towards moving into the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Today, I’m just going to focus on getting out of my body.

One important step to this process is to DRINK A LOT OF WATER! While I’m doing this, I visualize the water flushing out the toxic build-up I’m loosening up. I see it as a physical cleansing! If you do this, don’t be surprised if your body physically releases more toxins from your body than normal.

If you would like to join me on this journey, I do have a suggestion to get started. First write down everything you associate with the word FEAR. On another page, write down everything you associate with the word LACK (not enough). Finally, write down everything you associate with the word SEPARATION. This work works for me because I’m clear about what those words mean to me. If I’m not feeling love, I’m in fear. I’m not feeling abundance, I’m in lack. If I’m not in peace, I’m feeling separation.

Here’s a little example of some of the things on my lists:

FEAR

  • Hate
  • Rage
  • Blame
  • The feeling of being frozen
  • Wanting to run
  • Wanting to numb
  • Wanting to avoid feelings
  • Shame
  • Revenge

LACK

  • I don’t have what I need in this moment
  • Happiness is outside of me
  • I don’t have enough
  • Failure
  • There is never enough
  • I don’t want to be where I am
  • I’m not enough
  • Jealousy
  • Envy
  • Shaming
  • Blaming
  • Resentments
  • Should have, would have, could have

Separation

  • Divided
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Prejudice
  • I’m better than
  • I’m less than
  • Unlovable
  • Unworthy
  • “ALL”—describing groups of people that create divides of better or worse and good or evil
  • Us vs. them
  • Them vs. us
  • Different—when I categorize myself or situation as different and it makes me feel separate from the whole. When I use it as an excuse to stay in a low energy of being separate.
  • Loneliness
  • Vengeance

Your lists may not look like mine. It’s however you interpret the words for you. If you just use my definitions, the exercise won’t work the same if my definitions don’t fully resonate with your feelings about these words. That’s why it is SO IMPORTANT to know how YOU feel about words when you are doing inner work. If a word is a trigger word, just the word can send us down a spiral of fear, lack, and separation. The key is be be aware. It doesn’t mean someone else is wrong about their interpretations, it just means you have had different experiences that have lead you to different beliefs. As I wrote above, the word different in one way fuels my energy of separation, but used in other ways, it fuels my energy of peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #209

I’m grateful for the joy I feel after connecting with others. I don’t mean just spending time with others. I mean REALLY CONNECTING with others. I can be around people and not connect, or I can make the effort to connect to someone else in a way that fully aligns me with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. These connections can be with anyone starting with eye contact and a smile or a long deep intimate conversation with someone I love. They can be through a returned comment, email, text, or note. I connect to a person when I commit to fully sharing a moment with the person. In that moment they get my full attention. Those moments can keep going or quickly end, but the joy lasts for awhile. Sometimes the joy of the connection can go on for days. I have that when I speak to specific people, so I make sure that I keep a reoccurring place in my life for them. I love the feeling of joy, so I try to schedule things in my life that I KNOW will bring joy. So many incredible blessings have come into my life because of my connections with others.

Today, I commit to feeling the joy from connecting with others. I’m going to consciously focus on my connections with others during my exchanges today. It’s date night for me tonight, so it is the perfect time to align myself with the energy of love, abundance, and peace while connecting with my partner. When we are with people for years, like family and loved ones, sometimes we can get into routines and actually get disconnected. It’s important to fuel our relationships with the attention they deserve, so consciously picking times to really focus on each other is important fuel for relationships.

In addition to connecting with the people I love, I’m committed to connecting with people I encounter. I will smile and say hello to my neighbors. I will connect with people who serve me by doing their jobs. I will connect with my readers and followers through my words and time. The more I connect with people, the more I see the human behind the labels. The more I see beyond the labels, the more I’m aligned with love, abundance, and peace. The more I’m aligned with love, abundance, and peace, the more JOY I feel. Connection becomes a superpower.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and peace #208

I’m grateful for the feeling of accomplishment after making my bed. My most productive days come after making my bed. When I start the day feeling accomplished, I set myself up for success the rest of the day. I’m already in the right head space to produce. I’ve closed the door on my time for sleep and ignited the fire of taking on the day. When my day is over, no matter how much else I did throughout the day, I set myself up for a beautiful transition back into rest. I feel accomplished as I mark the moment by going back into my chrysalis to absorb the lessons of the day and start fresh again tomorrow.

Today, I commit to making my bed and feeling good about it. I haven’t been in the habit of making my bed every single day. Working at home, I sometimes am writing in bed. I definitely notice the difference when I clearly define my lines of rest and productivity. I get so much more done on the days I make my bed and move my work to a different space.

Over twenty years ago I was at a time management program and the presenter talked about the importance of the routine of getting out of bed in the morning. He made clear points on how it sets a person’s productivity for the day. I took to heart much of what he said. Recently, the bed making concept resurfaced and a lightbulb went off as I looked back at the days when I made my bed and the days I didn’t. Conclusion, I need to make my bed!

Today, I’m re-committing to this simple task that makes me feel good instantly. One of the greatest gifts I’ve noticed by doing this is that my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace while I’m doing it, afterwards, and when I come back to see it throughout the day. When I pull back the covers at the end of the day, I feel a peace that I don’t feel when I didn’t complete this task.

I love observing how my energy is affected by simple things throughout the day. I have to admit, I was pretty shocked how making the bed affected my energy. Becoming conscious of the things that align my energy with love, abundance, peace or fear, lack, and separation is such an incredible journey of discovery. I have learned so much about myself, others, and humanity as a whole.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)