I’m grateful I know the value of forgiving others. I’m a trauma survivor, so I know talking about forgiveness can be a very touchy subject on a variety of levels. I’ve gone through many different perspectives on the topic of forgiveness. My views have changed many times over my healing and transforming. I know someone’s path to forgiveness is their own. My journey to learning how to forgive the people who intentionally and unintentionally hurt me was a road with many bumps, potholes, and a few deep sink holes that I wasn’t sure I would get out of. Eventually it was forgiveness that helped me find my way to internal peace.
The act of forgiveness set me free from the toxic energy cords I had to the people who were trying to poison me with their attachments to fear, lack, and separation. Not forgiving them is how I stayed prisoner of their poor choices, and it kept my energy attached to theirs. When I forgave them, my cord to them was cut. I no longer had to continue being their victim. I took my power back by taking responsibility for the energy of the resentments I was carrying around. I was spreading the energy of the resentments to the people I loved and strangers who triggered any memory of the trauma. Once, I was able to forgive others, I stopped unconsciously spreading toxic energy. Now, I’m well aware of when I have work to do by the energy that comes out of me. If I’m holding onto something someone has done, I can feel it in thoughts and actions around that person or similar situations that trigger thoughts aligned with the energy fear, lack, and separation.
Today, I commit to forgiving others and freeing myself. No one else’s actions are worth me going down into the energy of fear, lack, and separation with them. I want to live as much as I can in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I’m going to lift myself up today by forgiving those who I’m attaching the energy of fear, lack, and separation to.
One of the ways I will do this is by understanding that someone else’s actions aren’t a personal attack on me, even if their anger is aimed at me. Attacks are about the attacker, not the attacked. Someone in a healthy mindset doesn’t attack someone else, no matter what role they play in society. Attacking someone else comes from a place of fear, lack, and separation. We all have it inside of us, it’s just whether or not we engage the energy. It’s not our faults if someone else’s inner rage comes out. This doesn’t mean that we aren’t responsible and accountable for our actions, because we are. Whatever energy comes out of us whether it is love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation is because we activated that energy inside of us. Understanding this helps me to forgive others, because holding onto resentments is me giving my power away. I free myself anytime I’m able to cut the cord to someone else’s energy aligned with fear, lack, and separation.
If a cord is more difficult to cut, I will do a cord-cutting exercise (found on YouTube). This is for those more stubborn cords that are most common with people who are closer to our energy fields, like co-workers, family, friends, romantic partners, kids, ex’s, etc. If these cords are tied to the energy of fear, lack, and separation, they take more work to release than the person who cuts me off in traffic. I’m going to do what I need to do to align my energy today. Cord-cutting is the technique I used while I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I did quite a few sessions to help me untangle my energy from his, but it worked wonders!!
If I know it’s not healthy to share my message of forgive with someone else, I will write a letter to them, then burn it as a form of sending the letter energetically. You’d be amazed on how well this works. I love the feeling of freeing myself from the burden of resentments.
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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title to see formats and purchasing options)