Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and PEace #168

I’m grateful I overcame my victim mentality. I’m a multiple trauma survivor, so when I say this, I don’t say it lightly. There is a huge difference from being a victim of a oppression, harassment, assault, abuse, etc. and living in a victim mentality. It’s the same difference between feeling fear and living in a fear-based mentality. The “mentality” makes it a driving force in our lives. It’s the mentality that makes us spin all our stories to see victimhood and fear. It’s the mentality that pigeon-holes our focus to only look in directions that prove to us that we are victims at every turn.

There is a lot of psychology in marketing. Whether it be marketing for products, organizations, churches, political parties, candidates, and lifestyles. When we live in victim mentality, we turn off our critical thinking that makes us ask ourselves the right questions about what we are taking in. It stops us from doing the research outside of our own victim/fear-based resources which are all perpetuating fear, WHICH IS HOW THEY GET US TO DO WHAT THEY WANT! Even though people are using this to their advantage, it still doesn’t mean we need to ALLOW ourselves to be victims of it. I don’t carry anger and hate around to all those who use these techniques. That is their karma. Mine is making sure my energy is aligned with what I want to see more of in the world, which is love, abundance, and peace.

Our feelings of powerlessness and living in the illusion that something outside of ourselves gives us power is how we fall into belief systems of us against them, inferiority, superiority, cult mentality, along with blaming, shaming, and victimizing others. It’s a VICIOUS CYCLE. The only way the cycle continues is if we buy into it. I can’t tell you how many times people have tried to get me to buy into their fear-based belief systems. I had to recognize within myself that the only times I buy into them is when I’m in a fear-based or victim-based mentality. I’ve had people tell me that as a abuse (verbal, mental, and emotional) and rape survivor how I would feel for the rest of my life. I WAS a victim. I’ve spent years working on myself to break free from victim mentality because I saw how much it limited my thinking. I saw how my own stories were keeping me prisoner. This doesn’t mean current events don’t trigger me from time to time, they are feelings and they pass. I don’t give them the power to rule my life. Breaking free from victim mentality didn’t just happen. I had to work my ASS off! I had to fully commit to empowering myself from within. That is how I stopped being victim of anyone who wanted to have any power over what I did and how I did it.

Sometimes when people read “From a loving place”, they think light and fluffy. If you take a deeper look at the blogs that I’ve been writing since 2016, I face the world head on from a loving place. I don’t deny my feelings that are ugly and painful. I allow them to teach me what they are here to teach me. I look at what I’m feeling and dig into it. I don’t run, avoid, or numb what is going on inside of me. This is how I overcame victim mentality. I become a prisoner to the outside world if I’m not honest with myself. Not only have I done bad things when I was in that space, I’ve watched millions of people being swayed by the same psychology tapping into our alignment with fear, lack, and separation. That is the same place that victim mentality lives, breathes, and spreads. If someone is trying to convince me that I am a VICTIM, all my RED flag sensors go off. Being a victim can set off people’s rage, fear, and hate.

I took my power back when I became responsible and accountable for the energy I exude. When I took responsibility for this, I found ways to change my thoughts, beliefs, and actions to align with what I wanted to see more of. If I’m not aligned with love, abundance, and peace, there is no one else responsible and accountable for that. I have to make the commitment to shift my energy. I have to take responsibility for healing past hurts that keep my thoughts prisoner.

The number one person I had to stop being victim of was myself. That is how I kept my inner victim alive was because I kept abusing myself. When I abused myself, I invited others in to make me feel like a victim too. I became victim of the media, beauty industry, political parties, and even the fitness industry. I kept looking outside of myself to feed my inner victim. As I’ve observed people in 2020 and watched myself sliding down into a spiral, I’m so grateful I caught myself. Just because we have the tools not to be in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, doesn’t mean we will do the work. That’s what was happening to me. I stopped doing the work. That was no one else’s fault. I take responsibility for my slip, which is how I was able to find a solution. That is why I’m here today writing this piece.

Today, I commit to empowering myself. FromALovingPlace.com and my book, Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World are LOADED with tools to help individuals empower themselves. Empowering ourselves doesn’t mean disempowering anyone else. It doesn’t mean taking someone else’s power away. Empowerment is about rising together. We rise together when we become the healthiest versions of ourselves, because only from that place are we open to hear others clearly. When we are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, everything we hear, see, and feel is skewed with that lens. If we want to let go of our victim mentality, we have to be willing to look at ourselves without blaming and shaming ourselves for our missteps. When we do that, we only strengthen victim mentality. We simply need to practice empowering ourselves starting with treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated. When we don’t treat ourselves well, we don’t have healthy boundaries. It’s very easy to become a victim of the outside world if we don’t have healthy boundaries safeguarded by the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Not succumbing to victim mentality doesn’t mean we will never be victims again. What it does mean is that we will have the tools to see that the person who hurt us was the sick individual. Just because they want to take our power away by whatever avenue they are taking, doesn’t mean they can. I was shocked after I was harassed by an unhealthy individual. I said to myself, “He is not talking to me, he is talking to himself.” I also asked myself, “Do I want to take on his toxic energy?” I didn’t, which is why I made the decision to walk away. I knew that he wasn’t open to hear my words, so I wasn’t willing to risk my peace. Just because I made those choices, I still had to work through stuff happening inside of me, but because I didn’t give away my power, I was able to open my mind up to solutions that didn’t compromise my emotional and psychological well-being.

Living life from a loving place is a one day at a time and sometimes one moment at a time journey. Empowerment is a gift we give ourselves by doing the work. If you like what you are reading here, follow along daily by scrolling down and following FromALovingPlace.com.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #167

I’m grateful for the feeling of authentic joy. No matter what is happening around me in the world, I’m responsible and accountable for the the energy I’m bringing to the table. If I want to see more love, abundance, and peace in the world, that is the energy I need to give to the world. Authentic joy comes from the energy of love, abundance, and peace. When I feel the awe from nature’s beauty, whether it be in person or on a screen, I’m contributing the energy I feel to the world. When I hear people laugh over something pure, I’m contributing my energy of joy to the world. I’m taking care of my own body, mind, and soul by feeling the joy and the bonus is that I get to pass that energy on.

In our authentic joy, we are not trying to change anyone. We are just living in an energy that is aligned with love, abundance, and peace. When we are aligned with that energy, we attract more. Authentic joy can’t be faked. It can’t be experienced if we are submerged in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If we feel it, in that moment, we are aligned with the best of what humanity has to offer. In the next moment, we may slip back into the energy of fear, lack, and separation if we cling to the past or fear the unknown future.

The more we appreciate each moment we get to experience authentic joy, the longer we get to experience it. If you use the moment as a launching point for the next moment, we can live in that space for as long as we can continue to hold the energy. That could be minutes, hours, days, or weeks. I love experiencing authentic joy, because I know in that moment I’m 100% present with the moment that I’m in. I’m present. Authentic joy happens only in the moment we are in. When I feel it, I honor the beautiful gift.

Today, I commit to appreciating moments of authentic joy. In the present moment, I can create moments for authentic joy. I have the world of awe at my fingertips. I can watch home videos that make me laugh; look up photos of nature’s beauty; get up and dance to my favorite songs; play a game with my kids; watch my dog get so excited over a dog treat; and so much more. I don’t even have to leave my house for any of that.

I’m not helping anyone else, or myself by sitting in the misery of the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I’m there, I’m spreading it. The worst part is, I’m spreading it to the people I’m closest to. If they aren’t conscious of what is going on, they may absorb that energy, and spread it too. I have to be conscious of the energy I’m in if I don’t want to spread more fear, lack, and separation in the world. This means if I feel fear, I need to embrace that fear with my love. If my thoughts turn to lack, I have to re-focus myself on gratitude, which aligns me with abundance. If I separate myself, I need to do the work to re-unite myself with others by questioning my perspectives. I can only do these things if I’m honest about what is going on inside of me. If I try to numb, suppress, or avoid what is happening, I’m only feeding the very energy that I don’t want to see.

The way we buy into cult thinking is through the energy of fear, lack, and separation. This is how they get their loyal followers who are pigeon-holed into focusing on only what their leaders want them to see. The groups can be disguised in righteousness, but their energy is tied to our energy of fear, lack, and separation. Righteousness is an engagement in the energy of separation. It is not love, no matter what what we cut it. If we are justifying our own righteousness, we are engaging in our energy of fear, lack, and separation. Will most of us do this from time to time, YES. We have a beautiful opportunity to learn from our own energy when we do it. I encourage those who are feeling that in this moment to pay attention to what is going on in your body. Then, find something what makes you feel authentic joy. Feel that in your body. One of those is spreading toxic energy inside us, no matter how much we want to justify it. The other is healing and spreading light energy inside our bodies, and there is no justification required.

I’m no better or worse than any other human reading this post or not reading this post. I’m responsible and accountable for my energy. I’m spreading my energy no matter how I try to explain it or justify it. I’m not perfect at this process. I slip into the energy of fear, lack, and separation too. The only way I get myself out of it, so that it doesn’t have power over me is to do the work. The work is doing what I need to do to align with love, abundance, and peace. Experiencing authentic joy is when I know I’m FULLY and 100% engaged in it. I’ve learned to revel in the moments I’m there, especially during these challenging time. May everyone who is reading this get to experience authentic joy today. When you do, imagine that joy running through you and into the Earth to spread it to anyone who touches it.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #165

I’m grateful for my consideration of other perspectives. I honestly never knew how much of a gift this was until now. I keep watching people not willing to listen to each other and insist on their own way, which by my definition of love, is not love. So when we are not willing to listen, we are just feeding our own fear of the other. Just another way to feed the energy of fear, lack, and separation. We can do this in our relationships and our judgments of whoever we determine the OTHER is. If we think we are better or less than that OTHER, we disempower ourselves.

I choose to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace as much as possible. That is where my perspectives of belief come from. I’ve read, heard, and listened to countless people express their perspectives from a place of fear, lack, and separation and love, abundance, and peace. The one thing that can feed both energy groups is feeling HEARD and understood. This DOES NOT mean we will agree. Once I’ve listened to someone, I get the opportunity to ask questions and insight critical thinking. I get the opportunity to share my perspectives. If they choose to attack me for my perspectives, I have the opportunity to call on my healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries and considering other perspectives go hand in hand for me.

By considering other people’s perspectives, I will look at where they are getting their information. Is it media (perspectives, agenda, facts), courts (facts), public records (facts), conspiracy theorists (perspectives), politicians (perspectives & agenda), direct source (perspective), gossip (misinformation-just imagine the childhood game telephone), religious beliefs (personal perspective that differs from person to person even in the same organizations/groups), science (facts in the moment, agenda, and ever-changing with new information), etc.? I have to use critical thinking. I have to stay current with new science, because the field moves fast. This is why in school we weren’t allowed to use any research that was beyond five years old. I also learned that in some research, results can be skewed due to agenda and method. If we are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, our beliefs are often pigeon-holed to specific sources. I have to remember there is always a human and a human’s perspective coming from a place of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation behind any information being spread, bought into, and absorbed. In order for me to stay aligned, I HAVE to listen to the information that I’m taking in.

Aligning with love, abundance, and peace allows me to keep my mind open, but it is not a veil of la la and everything is beautiful all the time. Aligning with love, abundance, and peace means keeping a clear head by making sure my energy field can’t be manipulated by people spewing hate agenda, fear agenda, divide agenda, and victim agenda. These agendas keep me prisoner. I want to make sure I remain free from the evil people in this world who use innocent people to do their bidding. There are plenty of social science experiments that show how good people will do bad things. Staying aligned with love, abundance, and peace keeps me protected from going along with agendas that expand the energy of fear, lack, and separation in the world. This is why I have to consider individual’s perspectives carefully.

Side note: Please, don’t misunderstand me, I’m not talking about someone who is unleashing their energy out on me as a form of abuse or harassment. Healthy boundaries are important to be able to know when my listening will benefit the greater good. I will be talking about healthy boundaries on day #166.

Today, I commit to considering other people’s perspectives. Here is some of the things I ask myself when I’m considering other people’s perspectives:

  • Is the person speaking wanting me to align with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation?
  • Does the person speaking have an agenda to have power over the way I think?
  • How is my body reacting to what I’m hearing?
  • How many people or institutions do I have to believe or not to believe to go along with their perspective?
  • Is the person I’m listening to take accountability and responsibility for what is theirs or do they shift blame?
  • Does the person want me to put them on a pedestal (RED FLAG)?
  • Do they have public record, court, or scientific proof to go along with their perspective (shown, not spoken)?
  • Is this person engaging in gossip to spread their information?
  • Am I feeling aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation while engaging with this person? WHY?
  • What are other perspectives within their group saying (the one’s that don’t agree)?
  • Does the person have compassion, empathy, and forgiveness or do they push victim mentality, revenge, and us against them mindsets?
  • Is the person open or close-minded?
  • Is the person willing to listen and/or consider other perspectives of thought?
  • Does this person want me to hate a group of people? How does me hating the group of people give them power and create me to feel separate, divided, or victimized?
  • Is the person wanting me to focus on problems (fear, lack, and/or separation) or solutions (abundance- considering choices and options)?

If you are going to do this for yourself, make sure you have your definitions of fear, lack, and separation and love, abundance, and peace in front of you, but if your perspective of these definitions is skewed, so will how you perceive anything you hear. It’s important to be in a peaceful place and see how your body reacts to the definitions. If you’ve been following along on this journey, I’ve already given you tools to do this.

These questions may seem like a lot in the beginning, but they all become very natural. I use these practices every day. Considering perspectives keeps my critical thinking mind working. Some of the places beyond my personal relationships, I started realizing doing this was so important in considering politics, media, and religion. The group itself isn’t bad or good. The people within the group can be aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. Knowing the difference is essential for me to know if I align with a person’s energy or not. A person who is aligned with fear, lack, and separation to the point of a psychosis like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Antisocial Personality disorder—that person can use any venue to manipulate, abuse, and harass people because their personal agenda of power and control.

Example: If I believe that all media, politicians, or religion is bad, I’m living in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, because I refuse to see the humanity in the people within the group/field. I just need to use my critical thinking. I know that I’m looking for specific characteristics, which is one of the many reasons that I like studying people, because I don’t want to give my power away like I have before. In religion, I would see how some of the leaders would use shame tactics (fear, lack, and separation) and others would use love and compassion (love, abundance, and peace) to get their congregation to follow them. They could be from the same overall group, but the person leading took different approaches to how they interpreted and preached.

Years ago in the US, political parties and power grabs for position within a party became so based in fear, lack, and separation that I had a very hard time understanding where candidates actually stood. I didn’t understand how they could say such hateful things, then say, okay now let’s come together. To me, that is like my best friend telling me that she is being abused by her partner, then making up and telling me that I can trust him again…REALLY?! This is how adults leading our country are behaving. There are a lot of people behind a campaign, it is not just the candidate. So, I learned to dig deeper. I know the other side has an agenda for me not to like the other candidate, so I’m not going to go to them to determine what I believe about them. I dig into public records, court records, and voting history. I look for words that came out of their own mouths, and what people who have worked, lived, or been in close contact with them say about them. What I found is that individuals on both sides lie and/or choose perspectives of fear, lack, and separation. If a campaign is trying to get me to HATE a person, group, or side…I have to look at the agenda behind why they want me to hate them. My experiences of being abused by a narcissist and studying the disorder is that it has made me believe in actions over words for trust, and when words are used to hate, demean, belittle, abuse, hurt, incite violence, separate, or create victimization, I know that person is wanting me to align with fear, lack, and separation over me to gain control over may thoughts and actions. Many campaigns on both sides have used fear-based tactics.

Side note: For full transparency, I’m an independent voter who votes for the person I feel is most willing to work with the other party, because I believe in “United we stand, divided we fall.” These are my perspectives based on how I choose to live my life. When I sided with a particular party, I noticed that I narrowed my view on what I was willing to look at and hear. I felt like I got swayed too easy when I did that. So for me, it was right for me to take the stance that I did. I actually enjoy researching both sides. This election more than usual. Because of the political climate, there were tons of different very interesting perspectives out there. There were more people looking for more bipartisan politics (i.e. country over party perspectives). For someone who studies people and how their minds work, it was very eye-opening for me to see how people got to where they did. Some of the testimonials from these groups came from thoughtful critical thinking based on a unity perspective. Some came from fear/revenge mindsets, which is a given in today’s climate. Some were people really struggling to prioritize character vs. policy. Many people in these groups fell into this grey area of perspectives that I hadn’t heard much of especially since politics had become so polarized.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #164

I’m grateful for my continued growth. The last couple days, I’ve decided to gain understanding on cults. As much as I’ve studied psychology, social science, abuse, Narcissistic personality disorder, Antisocial personality disorder, etc., I’ve never spent time investigating cults on an educational level. Staying open to learn about what is uncomfortable in the human psyche helps me to be a better human. Many of the same tactics are used in abusive relationships are in cults. What’s interesting is the same techniques I’ve learned to keep me safe from falling prey to an abusive relationship again are the same as what keeps me safe from falling prey to a cult atmosphere. It has been interesting to get further understanding of where my vulnerabilities to become prey are.

Cults, just like abusers, need their followers/victims to be aligned with fear, lack, and separation in some way. They both can use love bombs as a way to disguise this to make fear look like love. They both preach victim and revenge mentalities to make followers/victims align with lack and separation. Both also use isolation tactics to only be fed what they want you to believe. I remember friends and family telling me that I was like a robot and/or just disappeared. They didn’t recognize me anymore. The same happens in cults.

The more I read, the more grateful I am I decided to take the path that I have to align with love, abundance, and peace. It actually makes me want to stay even more vigilant in these trying times to make sure my empathy, compassion, and forgiveness mindsets are intact. Sometimes, seeing the ugliest parts of humanity opens our eyes to what can bring out our best parts. I, like many, never thought I would have been the victim of abuse. At the time, I thought I was strong and independent. I didn’t realize I was self-abusing. I didn’t see that I was lost in the world of lack. I also didn’t see how separate I felt because of showing one side of myself to the outside world, while I was silently suffering internally. If you are wondering why I write about why it’s so important to be honest with how we are feeling inside, this is why.

My honesty with myself has been essential to my growth. I keep having to put myself in-check, which is why I keep writing these posts and stay open to learning from everything that is happening in and around me. In my latest examination, I learned a lot more about some of the actions I’ve taken as I’ve broken more and more unhealthy patterns in my life. I understand more about my empathy towards some of the people who others only feel vengeance for. Somewhere deep inside, I know that vengeance and revenge are paths that lead me away from love, abundance, and peace. They keep me in the energy field as abusers, cult leaders, and followers. It’s times like these, I’m grateful I grew up with Star Wars. When I talk about this, I often think of all the good points the movies made about the path of light (Jedi) and the dark side.

One of the things that has helped me is that I wanted to understand the answer to the question I’ve been asked, “If things were really that bad, why did you stay?” It wasn’t until I discovered layers of buried shame cycles and self-abuse that I would figure that piece out. Staying until the moment I did was a part of my personal journey that got me where I am today. Many people fall prey to abusers/cults unknowingly. Something feels normal and like home. There is a familiarity, and an energy of belonging. Our belief systems get aligned with the messages of fear, lack, and separation. We start not trusting anyone except who the source of power deems fit. We separate ourselves from everyone else. We grow in the energy that keeps us prisoner. Not just of someone else, but of our own minds and our own stories. I’ve been there. I was prisoner of my own mind longer than I haven’t been. I still have to do the daily work not to slip into the energy of fear, lack, and separation, but the blessing is the longer I do this, the more I learn and faster I catch myself.

Because of knowing what I’ve had to go through to get to where I am, I’m not going to give-up on and seek revenge on those who are having to experience wake-up calls. I cheer on wake-up calls no matter how long they take, because it can be the most pivotal experience that will help us to do the greatest good in the world. Waking up out of aligning with fear, lack, and separation is such an empowering experience, but that doesn’t mean the journey isn’t challenging. We have years of programming that align us with fear, lack, and separation. Stepping away and into the energy of love, abundance, and peace is a journey that takes time. This is why I celebrate my continued growth on this amazing journey.

Today, I commit to focusing on my growth. None of us are perfect. When I attended AL-ANON, one of the sayings was, “Progress, not perfection.” I’ve grown so much since the days where I felt like an empty shell. I continue to grow through the immense abundance of experiences I’ve been faced with in 2020 and now 2021. As I learn about others, I learn about myself. I’ve seen the difference between learning about myself and shaming myself. That was a HUGE one for me. 2020 gave me ample ground to learn new techniques of connecting with others and with myself. I’ve learned to set healthy boundaries without the need to explain myself. Today, I’m smiling from ear to ear. Today, I know how to show up for myself and others with my whole heart. The days I don’t, I know it and I know how to fix it. That is beautiful progress in my book.

In my growth, I’ve learned not to put others on pedestals. We are all human. We each have our journeys. I can’t change someone else, but I CAN and will continue to be the best version of me. I’m the only one responsible if I align with fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace in ANY moment. By taking that responsibility, I empower myself to change what I need to change to re-align my energy where I want it. That takes me changing my behaviors. Fear, lack, and separation blinds me, and I want to see. This is why I choose to be on this journey. My perspective is my power or my prison. Today, I choose to live in my power by aligning my energy with what expands my soul.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #163

I’m grateful to be a lifelong learner. I believe the best version of ourselves is being open to learn, shift, and grow in and out of beliefs that align us with love, abundance, and peace. If you are wondering what I mean by that, I mean there is never one way of aligning with love, abundance, and peace. We get to try all different ways and decide which way works best for us. If and when that way stops working or we just outgrow the energy, we expand and learn a way that works better for us. I love staying open to learning because that also means my brain is open to form new neural pathways. When I do that, I release more of the things that are no longer working in my life, and I teach my brain to work more efficiently for me. I find that pretty amazing! I love the classroom of life. Some lessons have been gut-wrenching, but I learned incredible lessons from being open to learn from EVERY trauma I’ve faced. I loved going back to school in my thirties after having been through so much. I feel like I got so much more out of the experience. I’ve faced moments of my own ignorance that made me a better person today, especially in the area of human rights. I learned as much from my classmates as I did from some of my professors.

I love listening to people’s stories, because their unique perspective has something beautiful to teach me whether I agree with them or not. As long as I’m aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I remain open to learn things that will better me. If I’m aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I will learn more and more to stay aligned in that energy. This is why I stay FAR away from FEAR agenda material. I can learn and become aware of the evils of the world by studying the psychology, cultural anthropology, cult mentality, and sociology without aligning with fear agenda.

Aligning my learning with love, abundance, and peace doesn’t mean I put my head in the sand. It means I research people, events, history, and perspectives with an open mind. I do my best not to put people in categories of groups. When I do that, I can’t learn. I can’t see. I’m denying a person their humanity of what brought them to where they are now, and that can mean for better or for worse. This is how we miss red flags when we believe us against them thinking. We get stuck in fear, lack, and separation energy. When we feed that, we don’t see that each person has an agenda. Some will use their agendas for good, and others will use them to keep people in fear, lack, and separation because they can control people better there.

I learn so much from where I’ve fallen into these traps and when I’ve watched others. When we are aligned with fear, lack, and separation our minds are closed to learn from love, abundance, and peace because the two energies don’t align. We can’t be in one and be open to see the other. If we are in fear, lack, and separation we aren’t even seeing a clear definition of what love is, because if we did, we would see what we are buying into doesn’t match up.

My blindness led me to ten years of being emotionally and mentally abused by a narcissist. By the time I got help, I felt like an empty shell. I believed I deserved the abuse. Everything I was learning about was linked to staying in the energy of fear, lack, and separation because that is how he kept his power and control over me. After many prayers asking for help, and reading books that started to open my eyes, I started to align with love, abundance, and peace. Miracle after miracle happened to open me up to learn and grow from the place of love, abundance, and peace. When I finally walked out the door. My heart was at peace.

I spent the next four and a half years in college learning everything I could about humans, their behaviors, passed down patterns, religious belief systems, history human rights, and psychosis. I keep my mind open to any place I can learn from a place of understanding instead of judgment. When I’m tied to beliefs that make me judge a person or group, I’m closed to learning and understanding that group. I strip myself of the ability to potentially help a person if I do that, and I love helping individuals who want the help.

I’m grateful to be a lifelong learner because it has also helped me to see that it’s okay to make mistakes. My mistakes don’t define me (no matter what someone else thinks). It’s what I do after I make the mistake that holds my growth potential.

Today, I commit to learning from what hasn’t worked and celebrating what does. We have to be open and honest with ourselves in order to do this. We have to be willing to see ourselves clearly. This is why I wrote my book, Letters from a Better Me the way that I did. We can’t learn what isn’t working until we open our eyes to fully see it. Then, once we see it, we have to accept ourselves and move into the place of forgiveness in order to shift into actions aligned with love, abundance, and peace. This is a process. This is why I write every day. I need to do the work to keep me in a growth mindset. This is why it’s important for us not to numb our feelings. I have to look at what my feelings are there to teach me in order for them not to have the power to control my life.

I’ve learned to take cues from my body when it’s telling me a thought or belief doesn’t work for me. If a belief comes from love, abundance, and peace, I feel expanded. If I feel a thought or belief comes from fear, lack, and separation, I feel restricted. One causes me stress and the other brings me peace. Be with the feeling whatever it is.

  • What is it there to teach you?
  • When have you felt this feeling before?
  • Do you remember the first time you’ve felt this feeling in your body?
  • Is any energy of fear, lack, and separation attached to this feeling?
  • What are some perspectives that could help you move into the energy of love, abundance, and peace?

We have to be willing to learn from what is inside of us because that is where all our outside beliefs and attachments come from. This is where we create our view of reality from. If we want to align with love, abundance, and peace, we have to see where we are still holding onto fear, lack, and separation. Remember, we can’t be in both energies at the same time. Wherever we are, is where our focus is. Which energy do you want to learn and absorb your life lessons from? The choice is up to us.

  • How do you want to live your life?
  • What have you learned that is working to align yourself with life you want to be living?
  • What isn’t working?
  • What do you need to change to make what isn’t working work?
  • Where can you go to learn more to help you change what isn’t working? If you don’t know the answer to this question, pray, meditate, and ask to be open to see the answer. Then watch for the answer to reveal itself. If you are open, it will. If you really don’t want to change and/or learn, it won’t.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #162

I’m grateful for my choice to step away from the chaos. I knew if I wanted to align my energy with love, abundance, and peace, staying in the chaos is not an option. Every time I slip down into the chaos, I’m aligning with fear, lack, and separation. I don’t think straight in that place. My focus is on problems instead of solutions. I slam doors instead of looking for ones that lead to better places. When I move into the peaceful mind, I see more options in perspectives. I listen to others who are speaking from the heart, even if that looks different. I don’t BELIEVE that what I think is the only way. Chaos closes the mind. Peace opens the mind.

Today, I commit to staying away from chaos. Today, I’m going to keep myself busy with self-care, spending time with family, and doing a project at home. Doing these things will help me keep my head in gratitude and contributing to the best version of myself who is aligned with love, abundance, and peace.

If you find yourself scrolling through chaos, whether it is in your mind or on one of your devices, come up with a list of things that you want to accomplish today. If you can add music that makes you feel good or a audiobook that keeps you in the mindset of love, abundance, and peace. At the end of the day write a gratitude list. Notice how much better you feel when you are focusing on what you can change. Instead of focusing your energy on the things you can’t.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #161

I’m grateful I have self-worth. When we don’t have self-worth, we become doormats, victims, prey, and attackers. Lack of self-worth attracts people and situations that align us with fear, lack, and separation. However we treat ourselves, is what we will make acceptable for the way we treat others and the way they treat ourselves. READ THAT AGAIN. The way we hurt others will look different, maybe we will gossip, abuse, personally attack, manipulate, demean, or judge them unfairly by not seeing their humanity. When we are acting in our healthiest minds, we don’t call names, we don’t ignite violence, we don’t blame everyone else without being accountable and responsible for our own actions. We do those things when we feel threatened or judged as less than, not enough, and wronged. Sometimes we are victim of other people’s poor choices, but if we have a strong sense of worth, we see them for who they are and we take responsibility for our energy that we are contributing—And show them the example of a person that doesn’t try to rise by taking others down.

Revenge mentality comes from aligning with fear, lack, and separation. Forgiveness mentality comes from aligning with love, abundance, and peace. It takes a great deal of self-worth to not seek revenge. If we find ourselves saying, “Well they did (blank), so they deserve (blank).” We all know that two wrongs don’t make a right. Healthy thinking can see that we can be a victim of something without taking on a victim mentality, which once again comes from fear, lack, and separation.

Now, after we ARE victimized, most of us won’t jump into a healthy self-worth mindset. I know it took me YEARS to tell my brain new stories. I know some don’t take that long, but I had to get to a very dark place in order to realize that my hate for others, no matter how justified it feels, is poison running through MY veins. I had to have the self-worth to be responsible and accountable for what I was allowing to fester inside of me.

I learned that I have NO control of what other people do, but I definitely know what I want to contribute to the world and what I want my legacy to be. Some days are better than others. Some days it takes me a little longer to realize how I’m treating myself by the energy I’m putting out there, but I simply do my best. I keep learning and growing. When my self-worth was non-existent, I couldn’t stand making mistakes. I attacked myself in the worst ways. Unfortunately others also get hurt in our wakes when our self-worth isn’t there, because we can’t see how dark we are being—It’s normal to us.

When I found my own worth, it helped me spot when other people were lacking it. If someone is attacking someone else’s value as a human being, I promise you that person doesn’t have self-worth. They may try to make people think they do by telling others how great they are, but someone who feels great about themselves, doesn’t think of themselves as better or less than any other human. If someone wants you to put them on a pedestal, that’s not someone with a healthy sense of worth. They don’t have to tell us how great they are by putting others down. When someone is secure in themselves, it’s obvious. They are aligned with love, abundance, and peace. That’s the gift of a healthy self-worth.

Most of us will not be able to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace 100% of the time. There is a lot to learn from the times we slide into fear, lack, and separation. With a strong sense of self-worth, we don’t beat ourselves up for the slide. We recognize, apologize (to ourselves and/or others), and change our behaviors. When I started treating myself the way I deserved, other people treated me that way too.

Today, I commit to appreciating the person I am, just the way I am! I might have said this before, but it’s one worth repeating if I did. When I accept and love myself, I allow myself to be aligned with love, abundance, and peace. This makes my day go so much smoother. The reason is because I’m not spending time in the energy of fear of acceptance. I’m not spending my day in lack of what I’m not, what I can’t have, and what I think I deserve but I’m not getting. I don’t spend my day envying someone else’s life, comparing or resenting, which separates me from another human.

I know whichever energy I feed: Love or fear; abundance or lack; peace or separation—I MAKE THE CHOICE! It’s way too easy to fall into the abyss of chaos if my self-worth can be moved by someone outside of me. I love feeling empowered to make conscious choices to align my energy. I can only do that with a clear head. I love when I fill myself with the stories of how much I’ve grown, my strengths, my openness to learn, and the qualities that make me—ME. I’ve learned to appreciate the unique person I am. Today, I will spend time enjoying the person I love being and the only person I can be.

I give from a loving place when I’m not trying to gain worth in my doing for others. When my worth is already there, everything I do for others adds to my abundance of love, service, and hope. If what I say resonates with you, make sure to scroll down and follow me here on From a Loving Place.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Today’s post is dedicated to my beautiful friend D.C. Stanfa. D.C, was one of the first people to write an endorsement for my book. She has walked with me on my path of getting my book published, getting back into public speaking, and sharing stories while her book was being shopped. Yesterday morning she passed away. She was a force of nature with one of the biggest hearts. She made me laugh regularly. She will be missed. Please send prayers to all the people grieving her loss, thank you. Rest in Peace, D.C. I know your spirit was too big for humanly form. Now you are free to SOAR!

Daily Aligning with Love, abundance, and Peace #160

I’m grateful for the abundance of love in my life. One thing I’ve repeated over and over again on this blog, on my Facebook page, and in my book is the importance of consciously defining love. Many of us grow up with very mixed messages about love. We unknowingly confuse fear and love. We unknowingly confuse love with someone’s agenda of wanting power and control. When we find the definition of love that resonates in our soul, we stop blindly believing that attachment to the energy of fear, lack, and separation has anything to do with love. Once we see the difference and start treating ourselves with the love and respect that we deserve, we stop accepting less from others. We start giving more to others. We learn to decipher between giving from a loving place and giving out of fear of not being enough.

Being an American, I’ve witnessed the energy of fear, lack, and separation break down communications completely and put many into an us against them mentality (separation). I’ve watched leaders try to make us fear things just to sway people to do what they want. I’ve seen so many people living in a place of lack that they want to take it out on others, not considering the consequences of their actions. The beauty of love is that it doesn’t do these things. This is all fear, lack, and separation. We don’t listen when we are wrapped in that energy. We are replaying a story in our minds that destroys us from the inside and insights darkness in the world.

When we have the awakening of seeing love for what it truly is, some people will fall out of our lives because the energies are no longer aligned. When we give and receive from a place of love, abundance, and peace, our abundance of that love and peace grows and expands. When we have and appreciate the love in our lives, we make space for more.

The abundance of love I feel today fills me with complete awe. I have something to be grateful for every day, because that is where my heart lives. I see places to contribute acts of love, spot acts of love, and receive acts of love. I also spot what is coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation. I do my best to protect myself by tapping into my abundance of love, so that I stay open to learn and grow from each experience I’m presented with. When I tap into my love, it protects me from any darkness.

Today, I commit to appreciating the abundance of love in my life. First, I will look to my definition of love. Then I will write my gratitude list from that place. I will stay open to spot the places I can send love today. I know that many people in the world could use some loving energy today. I will also be open to receive love today. There is an collective heaviness happening right now. Some of you may be tapping into that. The best way to not carry the weight of it is to tap into our love, abundance, and peace instead.

Right now the world can use as much love as we can muster up. I ask anyone who is reading this to please tap into the love in your heart and imagine that energy going out into the Universe and spreading all over our planet. The world needs as many people as we can to be aligned with love, abundance, and peace and not fear, lack, and separation. Fear, lack, and separation only creates more problems. Love, abundance, and peace creates solutions. With love, power and control have no place. People who are driven by making other people feel like victims are coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation. Healthy people don’t do that. Healthy people don’t make another group “evil”. That is fear agenda at it’s finest. People who want us to hate are asking us to align with fear, lack, and separation and they will use those tactics to sway us. Remember, nobody can make us HATE anybody! If we hate someone, that is the energy of fear, lack, and separation living inside of us. If we don’t want that, we have to take action and use our tools to align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace daily!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #159

I’m grateful I understand psychology. In these challenging times, I’m so grateful for my education in psychology both formal and self-taught. I could see myself going quickly and easily down the path of fear, lack, and separation if I didn’t understand just how much I’m in control of and what I’m not. I can see the humanity in individuals hurting and lashing out because I know the issues that untreated and/or unhealed trauma create. I also keep up with current research which is now seeing how trauma is passed down in the DNA. I know from years of research how we are capable of re-wiring our brains to get out of victim mentality that may have been passed down from generations.Gone unexamined, we become vulnerable to be used, manipulated, and set-up to hurt others with our attachments to the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If we live in victim mentality, we can be used in armies built to create more fear, lack, and separation. Understanding psychology helps me to see through agenda, whether it is coming from an institution, company, community, or person I trust or I don’t. Anyone who wants me to align with fear (of the other, of damnation, of the unknown), lack (there is not enough), and separation (us against them) has an agenda I don’t want to align myself with.

One of the reasons it’s so important for me to keep up with this blog is to hold myself accountable for my energy daily. It’s what I know about psychology and training our brains to work with us that has helped me see just how important this is. I’ve also studied psychology in marketing which can be scary how a company can convince a person that they are not enough without a particular product, food, or service. Make no mistake, people who run campaigns to try to get you to take action on something all use psychology. Not all people who know psychology use it for good. That is why it is so important that we understand it, so that we can’t be manipulated by it. Even churches can use psychology to get their members to act a certain way from a place of fear, lack, and separation. When we understand psychology, we don’t have to fear all these tactics because we can spot them, and understand what someone is trying to get from us by believing specific ideas. Parents use psychological fear tactics to get their children to behave certain ways. We are trained to do this. We keep the cycle going the more we put our blinders up to the effects of staying in the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

The more we align ourselves with love, abundance, and peace, the safer we are from someone using psychology against us.The safer we are from hurting someone else. Narcissists and sociopaths depend on their use of psychology to manipulate and/or abuse their victims. I find it much easier to see through all the crap, while also having the understanding of how someone can intentionally hurt others. Many of are a part of the cycle, but we can only get better if we see it.

As humans, we use psychology to get what we want out of a situation. Some of just don’t know it. I love how many resources there are now to learn more. I find this helps me align with love, abundance, and peace especially when I’m dealing with difficult people. It’s also helped me to see how and why people who align with love, abundance, and peace live more fulfilling lives. Never be afraid to reach out for help if you are having trouble understanding your own mind either. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was 10 years old. If I struggle with figuring stuff out on my own, you better believe I am going to ask a qualified person to help me.

Today, I commit to gain understanding of people through psychology. When I look at others through the eyes of science, I don’t take their actions personally. I also know that I can’t fix anyone else. The only person I’m capable of working on is me. When I change my behaviors towards myself and others, my reality shifts to accommodate for my new perspectives. This is the beauty of understanding the power of the brain and the stories we feed it. We live in an age where we can learn from some of the greatest minds for FREE.

I decided I’m no longer going to invest my mind in places that keep me spinning in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I want to know about narcissists and sociopaths, I’m going to invest my time in learning about them instead of watching the news and getting consumed by how many people are falling for it. When I find myself slipping into a funk, I’m going to find the tools I need to get myself out. I’m not going to spin with people who want to go down with me, I’m going to raise myself up with how I can connect psychology, spirituality, and a whole bunch tools from the Universe to move through whatever I’m going through. I know that I don’t want to hurt anyone with my unhealed stuff, and I don’t want to be victim of someone else’s unhealed stuff. The ONLY way I know how to do this to the best of my ability is to invest my time in the right places.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #158

I’m grateful for my love of humanity. My love for humanity helps me to see clearly. When I focus on humanity first, I see humanity instead of categories. It helps me not to categorize any group in an ALL good or All bad manner. It helps me to see the human who is struggling with their own humanity. My love makes it easy for me to have compassion for myself and others. This is not to say that I don’t have my triggers, I do. I’m very aware of my triggers and the specific behaviors that can still make my blood boil. The beautiful thing is that my love for humanity has taught me how to release and let go, so that I don’t carry the weight of another human’s choices. My love for humanity means having love for myself too. Loving myself means that I am able to not take what other’s do personally. Only if I feel insecure about my value do I take someone else’s attachments to fear, lack, and separation personally. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have healthy boundaries either. This means that because I love myself, I will not accept behavior that is disrespectful. This looks different under different circumstances. Loving humanity first in NO WAY means that I will accept abuse from someone consumed by the energy of fear, lack, and separation. It means that I will my work to align daily with love, abundance, and peace so that I don’t give someone a negative energy force to feed on. This also allows me to keep my energy intact.

Today, I commit to embracing my love for humanity. Right now news and scrolling social media aren’t helping me see humanity first. This means I have to change my behavior. I will go on the internet with the intention of learning about my fellow human. How do I see someone else’s humanity first? How do I see my humanity first?

I will look up things like Ted Talks, acts of kindness, paying it forward, and good samaritans. I will be in search of people’s stories of forgiveness, overcoming challenges, and compassion. Remember, wherever we put our focus, we will see more of. It doesn’t mean there is more of it, it just means there is more WHERE our energy is aligned. If I want to see more love, abundance, and peace in the world, I have to search out the humans who are creating it and NOT JUDGE the people who are showing up, because that is me stuck in fear, lack, and separation.

I told you above how some human behaviors can still make my blood boil, but I have tools I use to help get me out of that space.

  1. I have to take responsibility and be accountable for my energy. My blood is boiling. The other person can’t MAKE my blood boil. They are not responsible for my energy, I am.
  2. I allow myself to feel what I’m feeling. Sometimes I will write it out and let it get as ugly as it is in my head. This helps me to release it from holding inside and turning it into shame, self-blame, or guilt. Once I’ve done this for a short time, I will shake it off in some way physically. I might go in for some fast cardio with high pumping music; do a dance shake; or just shake every part of my body for 8 minutes (I just learned this technique Dr. Jodie Skillicorn).
  3. Once, I’ve taken responsibility, I’m accountable for shifting my own energy. I start with deep breaths in and out. The out breath is very important because when we are stressed and/or angry we hold our breath, this restricts oxygen flow. That means our brains don’t have the ability to function at their highest capacity.
  4. I search out perspectives that make me feel better. I remind myself by me taking on hate, rage, and/or revenge thinking isn’t HELPING. I actually became as dark as the person doing the hateful things when I allow myself to fester in that energy. I can’t find solutions to hate if I’m stuck in hate myself. I’m just a part of the vicious cycle. That tends to take me down a level. Then I go deeper
  5. Look for my compassion and forgiveness. I know that me carry the weight of hate is hurting me, so I next try to do things to help me release myself from that person’s actions, words, and beliefs that have them lost in fear, lack, and separation. Sometimes I have to research narcissists, sociopaths, addictions, family history, and other disorders/conditions that contribute to someone being stuck fear, lack, and separation.
  6. If my energy is not yet back to peace, I will do things like write a forgiveness letter and burn it snd/or I will meditate, dance (and listen to music) or take a nature walk. It all depends on where my energy level is. The only person’s energy I can fix is my own, so that is where I put my focus.
  7. I ask myself, “What can I do to help humanity right now from a loving place?” Sometimes, the answer is just cleaning up my own energy so that I’m not contributing more to the fear, lack, and separation in the world. Other times, it’s writing a blog. Sometimes it’s working on a book or book ideas. Other times it may be working with individuals one-on-one. Sometimes it’s bringing love, abundance, and peace to social media. I go where I’m guided.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World