Unity is in Our Humanity

Sometimes we just need to listen. When we see each other’s humanity, we stop hating what we don’t understand. We tell our stories from our own personal experiences. Each person’s story is important, because they are our truths. When we realize that a person is speaking based on their own personal truths, we understand that we didn’t live their experiences, so we may not have the same truths. It doesn’t make one more or less real than the other person’s truths. Our truths are all perspectives. We make them our reality by believing them. We can’t help others if we first don’t listen to the truths that they are believing about themselves and about others.

When we look deeper, we see beyond the categories and labels. We see the pain, joy, sadness, trauma, happiness, fear, and love within each other.

When we connect there, we unite.

We become vulnerable as the storytellers and as the listeners. We start healing, growing, and expanding. We see that each of us have the ability to change perspectives of truth, beliefs, and thoughts that are no longer working for the life we want for OURSELVES. We can’t change anyone else. We can make choices that will help us live better with ourselves and others. It’s all in how we decide to write and tell our stories.

Successful memoir writers and biographers are masterful at bringing us on a journey of connecting through story. Think of all the stories that have helped you connect to yourself and others. Right now there are so many people offering their stories on Facebook Lives amongst other venues.

I’ve learned so much about where individuals are and how they feel. I sometimes have to look past their rage, because that is the symptom of the pain that is so much deeper. Rage surfaces from unhealed parts of us that become triggered by circumstances, events, others, and even our own self-abuse. I can clearly see if a person’s perspective is from a loving place or a fear-based place. They project whichever one they are living from even when the words are not matching up with the energy they are projecting out.

We don’t have to agree with other people’s actions or views, but if we want UNITY, we have to first see the humanity in each other. Back in 6th century B.C., Greek storyteller Aesop said “United we stand, divided we fall.” We’ve seen and heard these words uttered over and over across categories, titles, genres, and venues. If we want to unite, we can’t just want to see things from our point of view and expect the the rest of the world to fall into place. Unity is in our humanity. It is the ONLY part of us that will experience the same things despite our differences. In our humanity we feel love, fear, joy, hurt, happiness, sadness, encouragement, disappointment, etc. No person’s money, religion, country, politics, race, gender, or sexual preference matter if we connect through what makes us human…LISTEN!

There are so many layers to this. This is just a small piece of a very big UNITED puzzle. But without seeing each other’s humanity, we won’t complete the puzzle. There will continue to be a missing a piece. We will never ALL believe and see the world the same way, so if you depend on that for unity, you will only ever find it in small groups which will keep you divided.

The beauty I’ve found living from a loving place is that I don’t have to agree with people’s beliefs on ANY subject and still see their value. The lessons I’ve learned from other people’s cruelty don’t strip me from seeing their humanity. I see the mentally unhealthy person, and know that it’s not safe or healthy for me to be around them, but I still learn from their story about the dangers of living life through the perspectives of truth that they believe. I see how miserable their perspectives have made them and how it’s hurt their relationships with others. Seeing that person’s humanity helps me to see my own darkness and work on shining light in areas that can easily turn dark if they go unchecked.

If I’m triggered with fear, anger, rage, or hate, I see what parts of me I need to spend time with to heal, so that I don’t project my darkness out to the world and hurt someone else. I don’t ALWAYS do this perfectly, because that is not what the human experience is about. The human experience is about learning. How can I learn if I’m not willing to listen? So, even in my differences with others who want to live from a fear-based place, I still can find a place to unite, grow, and learn. I cannot unite the world, but I can feel united with the world, and I do.

We have arrived at a point in time where we have the ability to listen to people’s stories first hand from all different corners of the world. We have the ability to learn about people’s truths that our different than ours while being safe in our own homes.

If you are looking to try to learn from truths that are different than yours, I suggested doing a meditation first. This helps me to really try to listen to the person’s story and learn from it. I pay close attention to the feelings that are running through me as I listen and see where my thoughts go. I find feelings I’m united in even if they are coming from different perspectives. I listen to hear if their perspective is coming from love or fear. I LOVE when I find people’s stories who are coming from a different way of seeing the world from a loving perspective. Those stories make my soul sing and my heart soar. The love within me expands so much more when I find voices united from loving perspectives. I don’t know if this will be true for you, but when I hear people speaking from fear-based perspectives, I feel so incredibly grateful that I learned a different way of living. Listening to them reminds me of where I once was and how much I’ve grown. Seeing their humanity strengthens my conviction on the way I’ve CHOSEN to live.

I know I need the reminder that unity is in our humanity, because sometimes it’s easy getting stuck in the chaos of what is keeping us divided. When I’m there, it hurts. I feel anxious, disconnected, confused, angry, and sometimes even vengeful if all of that goes unchecked. I know what I need to do to bring me back to peace, and writing these words right now is a part of that process. Thank you for being a part of my journey.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2020
Author of Letters from A Better Me
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Who Is My Reader?

When I was asked in the marketing meeting about who I wanted to read my book, I thought every woman could get something out of it, since it covers romantic relationships, family, parenting, career, spirituality, addiction, unhealthy belief systems, and all things self. I also thought men could gain a lot of understanding and get a lot from it too, because it would not only give them tools, but help to better communication and empower themselves to make positive change in their lives.

For those who struggle in any unhealthy belief patterns, it gives tools to get out. For those who are healthy, it may help them see how their belief systems help them and give them a better understanding of those who struggle.

The book celebrates authentic empowerment. “Empower Yourself, Change the World!” When we see our own value, we lift others up and don’t tear them down. Authentic empowerment comes from love not fear. It’s about representing what we stand for and not putting our energy into what we are against (VERY IMPORTANT in today’s climate).

The marketing team said I needed to narrow it down to the one reader. Who was the one person I wanted to get through to with my book? I had the picture of the exact person in my mind. I want to get to the woman who is stuck in patterns of abuse, whether it be self-abuse or abuse from others, because self-abuse tends to lead to abuse (mental, emotional, or physical) from either bosses, partners, children, etc. We can accept from others the level of abuse that we give to ourselves.Some unhealthy patterns were passed down so unconsciously that we have to dig down to see them.

The book deals with what belief systems got us into the patterns that get us to act against ourselves in our lives and how to change them. There are so many reasons a person can choose to pick up the book, but if I can help that one person see their value and give them the tools to lift themselves out of living a life they are not passionately in love with, I’ve helped to make the world better.

When we help others see their best selves, it creates an unstoppable ripple effect. I would have never been able to write this book, if I didn’t have every experience I did, read every book that I did, and believe everything that I did. I’m continuously learning how to better myself, and I will until my journey here is done. With that, I’m able to continually give others seeds to help lift them as I get lifted.

At the time of this post, March 3, 2020, it’s been two weeks since Letters from a Better Me has been out and a little over that for the audiobook, and the audiobook is still in the Top 100 for Domestic Partner Abuse (link). My heart feels full knowing that people are getting the seeds I’m giving. I hope they choose to plant them and that they flourish into beautiful flowers. Life is precious, we each deserve to live lives we love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

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Audible Release Day of Letters from A Better Me

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Knowing Love

Dear Love, 

I spent a long time looking for you in other people; I never felt fulfilled. Heartache ate at my soul before I finally understood what people meant when they said, I could only love others as much as I love myself. I didn’t realize the opposite was true too—I could only receive as much love as I give myself.Anything beyond what I felt I deserved, I sabotaged. I spent so much time sabotaging my happiness because on the inside I was screaming horrible names and beliefs about myself. I believed it was okay to let people who said they love me call me names and belittle me like I meant nothing.  I didn’t understand how unlovable and unworthy of love I felt.

Love, the day I found you was the day I defined you. I never absorbed the definition of you before. Though I heard it many times, I took the words as a fairytale. When I finally saw the truth in the words; I healed the hole in my soul.

In “Corinthians” 13.4-13.7, I found you. 

(4) Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (6) it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. (7) It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

(Harper Collins Study Bible: Student Edition p.1950)

All the things I thought were love-LIES. I couldn’t remember having that kind of compassion and kindness towards myself. I remember thinking if a guy was jealous it was because he loved me. I thought it didn’t matter how I was treated. If a guy stayed, he must love me. I didn’t think for a second their negativity was fear and lack of trust.

I remember the day I finally embraced you with full conviction and started to have a love affair with myself. I committed my time to being, loving, and honoring the person I was and wanted to be. That’s when I began feeling authentic joy. I stopped putting my need for love on other people and realized I could give and receive love freely by loving myself first. When I feel complete with the love I have for myself, there is no consequence of losing myself in the process of loving others. 

I’m far from perfect at practicing your ways. I still need reminders not to let fear run my life and my relationships. I get lessons to practice being loving and being loved. I’m happy I finally know who you are. My life has improved in so many ways from knowing you.

Love, you are the source of all that is right in the world. With clarity, I look at life through your eyes. When I look at you for wisdom, I find compassion. When I look to you for strength, I find perseverance. Love, you are everything that gives life meaning.

I’m sorry I blamed you for all the hurt in my life. What did hurt me was fear, jealousy, hate, anger, rage, and not knowing you. I let other people’s lack of knowing you define your meaning. I accepted so much of their fear, hate, anger, and rage in the process. 

Thank you for showing me the way. I’m so grateful to know you. I’m grateful to live you.I’m grateful for the times I feel at ONE with you. I’m grateful to extend you to those around me. You are not fluff, you are truth.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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Appreciating the Teachers in the Classrooms

Dear Teachers,

I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for all that you do in and out of the classroom. I know being a teacher is not a job you leave behind when you leave school. You invest so much of your personal time and energy to make sure you are doing the best job that you can. You are hit with an unrealistic amount of demands from parents, administration, school boards, government, and committees all asking you to give more and more. 

All that would wear the average person down, but here you are in classes of 20 + kids and trying to give each of them a chance to succeed in an unknown world that changes faster than textbooks can be written. You make the impossible possible five days a week. 

Even accomplishing all the daily riggers, you still take the time to spot kids who need more of you than the subject you’re teaching covers. You still have the ability to spot those opportunities to mentor and potentially change the trajectory of a child’s life. Now, more than ever with the pressures put on these kids, this connection can save lives. You have the ability to catch things we can’t always see. I’m so grateful to the teachers who have helped me see where my kids needed more attention. Without you, I wouldn’t be able to do my part in my child’s success. 

You have so many jobs the second you decide to become a teacher. You answer to so many different people. I want you to know, I see you! I notice you! I appreciate you! Most parents have a few kids to balance and can’t get it all done. You have 20 + and sometimes you make it look so easy when we ask you to do just a little more for our child. I know how big that is! You are a hero. 

If there are days you feel like giving up, I hope you find this letter and it reminds you that it is people like you that are remembered. You are the voices that stick with us as we face all the hurdles in life. We may remember random lessons or moments as we face some of our greatest successes. You are important! You Matter! 

Learning is for you! It’s not for your parents, your teachers, or your friends. It is the one thing nobody can ever take away from you, and what you put into it, you get out of it.

-Lynn Gesdorf (1988) 7th Grade Language Arts teacher

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2018

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Committing to Live Life Fully: A Letter from A Better Me

Dear Life, 

I’ve officially decided, I’m going to live you to the fullest. I’m tired of being scared of what the future holds and drained from my past mistakes. I’m finally going to forgive myself for all the times I didn’t know better and start living. 

I know longer want to be envious over what adventures other people are taking or come up with excuses why I can’t do it. I’ve been putting so much negative energy out there that the good stuff stays just out of my reach. No more! 

Today, I will shift my energy towards gratitude and keep track of the things I’m grateful for. I will make a daily effort to be happy for others who are experiencing and living their best lives. I will look for encouraging uplifting stories instead of ones that focus on hate, gossip, and keeping others down. I will live!

I’m focusing my attention on the choices I’m making to guarantee they are aligned with the life I want. I’m done beating myself up. I’ve had it. I can’t take my own abuse anymore. I don’t deserve it. When I look in the mirror, I will see a person who is living their life the best they can. I would be happy to see anyone I love doing that, so I need to do that for me. 

Looking around at a home full of clutter, I realized I don’t need all this stuff. I want memories and adventures. How can I have money for these things and not for memories? I’m going to start small by looking at local things to do. I’m going to see what my own town offers such as trails, gardens, sights, historical locations, and entertainment. Then, I will let that energy build up into bigger adventures. I know the possibilities are limitless once I stop blocking the fun from my life. 

Please send me friends with adventurous spirits to help keep me on this amazing path.  

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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A Thank You Note to the Universe

Dear Universe,

Thank you for all that you have provided me with in my life. Thank you for making sure I have oxygen to breathe, food to eat, and water to drink. Thank you for all the miracles in nature. From the ocean to the mountains, the birds to alligators, and the flowers to the majestic trees, I’m in awe. 

I’m grateful for the extremities I have, because I know others have to learn to be without. I’m grateful for my voice so that I can stand up and speak the words that are close to my heart. I’m grateful for my eyes so that I can appreciate all the beauty around me, and see when people are in need of help.

I appreciate each and every lesson that grows me stronger, even if I don’t remember to thank you while I’m going through the tough ones. I appreciate the people who showed me what it felt like not to be loved, so that I recognize when I truly am. I appreciate all the love you have brought into my life and the blessings that come with it. I appreciate each moment you give me on this Earth to live, love, and grow into the best version of myself. 

I’m grateful in my power to choose my words, beliefs, feelings, actions, and reactions. My perspective is my power, and I don’t ever have to give my power away.  It is my choice at any moment to use it wisely or learn a lesson from it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else does to me. I can ALWAYS choose to rise above. If I don’t, it is nobody else’s fault; my responsibility is my power. For that, I thank you. I am never powerless to be the best version of myself. In that space, I am most helpful to the world around me.

 I’m relieved to know, I’m never alone. I see signs that miracles are all around me. Your vastness goes beyond what I can possibly understand. I can only hope my gratitude shows in the way I choose to live my life. 

I commit to doing the best I can. I will take responsible and learn from the times I fall short. I will also forgive myself and others when necessary. This way, I can continue to share the love within me and not have it tainted by shame, guilt, fear, anger, and rage because of holding onto the past. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me 

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2018

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An Apology for What I Missed

Dear Now,

I never knew how against you I really was. I thought I was more attuned than I actually am. A passage in A New Earth: Awakening Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle just opened my eyes. He explains, “There are three ways in which the ego will treat the present moment: as a means to an end, as an obstacle, or as enemy” (p.202). As I read on it became clearer as to how I really have been treating you. 

As grateful as I am for all my many blessing, I’m finally seeing how I created some serious obstacles to abundance and growth. I’ve been missing so many moments of presence by just getting through a period of time.  If I just get through this time, then I can do… fill in the blank. I’ve used my present moment as an obstacle, hence an excuse not to embrace the moment. It’s because I’m here that I can’t do… fill in the blank. Finally, time has definitely been my enemy as I put my walls up and go into survival mode. When I’m in a situation where I feel attacked and unappreciated, I can slip right past you and not see what is really going on. I’m so far beyond the present moment. I can honestly say, I don’t even know what is happening when I get like this. 

I can’t tell you how sorry I am for being so unaware of how my actions are making me miss some very important moments and opportunities. I’m working on being present and not taking you for granted. I know in every moment that I have air moving through my lungs, I have an opportunity to be grateful. When I am with you and can stay with you, the pain in a moment can be transformed. I can see more than meets the eye when I honor you. 

Right NOW, I commit to having a better relationship with you. I will do as Tolle suggests:

“What is my relationship with the present moment? Then become alert to find out the answer. Am I treating the Now as no more than a means to an end? Do I see it as an obstacle? Am I making it into an enemy?(p. 203)

I know that by doing this, I will find the oneness with life that I’ve been in search of. I know the obstacles will fall away and I will get to experience the one thing I’ve been missing in my everyday life, you. 

I will no longer have to go somewhere else to appreciate a moment of awe, I can do it right here and Now, with you. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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Alignment is the Key

Our outer world perception of reality is a reflection of what is going on inside of us. If we are at war inside, we focus on the war outside. If we want peace outside, but are creating war internally— we attract chaos. Our view of chaos become personal when our inner world doesn’t tell and show us how to look for the peace.

As you take this concept and apply it to any aspect of your life, question:

  • Does what you want outside match how you treating yourself inside?
  • Are you trapped in the chaos within you and seeing it reflected back to you?
  • Are you asking others to treat you differently then you are treating yourself?
  • Are you seeking out the drama around you or the peace?

WHAT YOU ARE FOCUSING YOUR ATTENTION ON OUTSIDE IS A CLUE TO WHERE YOU ARE INSIDE

Healthy attracts healthy. When we think, feel, and believe healthy perspectives of truth, we attract them back to us.

Unhealthy attracts unhealthy. When we think, feel, and believe unhealthy perspectives of truth, we attract them back to us.

In short, if you want to watch the miracles unfold around you, start doing the work within. Start focusing on how you can make your intentions align. Only then will you have the ability to see the miracles in your life.

If you don’t know where to start, write a page of gratitude daily for 90 days. Don’t just be grateful for things that are outside of you. Be grateful for all your working organs, the air you are able to breathe, your limbs that work for you, etc. Get deep! The deeper you go, the more your perspectives of your inner world will shift to create perspectives of truth that will be shown back to you in the reality that you create for yourself.

That’s just the beginning. Once you get a taste, you will get opportunities to go deeper and clear more useless garbage out of your inner world. With that comes a level of clarity, that ignites your soul.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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#PerspectiveChallenge: I’m NOT Where I’m Supposed to Be

PERSPECTIVE: I’M NOT WHERE I’M SUPPOSED TO BE

The belief, I’m not where I’m supposed to be can be debilitating. Instantly it puts us in the mindset that focuses us on what we don’t want. That energy flows out of us like toxic sludge. Other people do and will pick up on it. If it is a relationship, career, friends, community, and/or spirituality we are chasing, we come off desperate and needy. We spend so much time chasing, we are not where our feet are. We miss the blessings that happen in the present moment. We miss the signs to lead us in a positive direction. We may even try to numb ourselves with apps, shopping, gambling, eating, drugs, and /or alcohol, instead of taking the necessary steps to keep us moving towards our dreams. 

We can have dreams and goals without believing, I’m not where I’m supposed to be. We lock ourselves in a box and limit our movement when we let that negative belief sink in. We can choose to enjoy the journey while having dreams and goals at the same time. This keeps us present. This keeps us appreciating the signs and being grateful for the blessings that only can be seen when we stay PRESENT!

We aren’t and can’t be present while believing, I’m not where I’m supposed to be. We resist the moment with that very thought. 

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

  1. Get in front of the mirror and say, “I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be in this moment.” Repeat it, write it down, and repeat it some more. 
  2. Right down your goals and dreams—be specific and stay positive. No attachments to the negative (i.e. I don’t want to be poor. I don’t want an abusive relationship).  I want to be and feel abundant in every way. I want a healthy relationship. If these are things you want, go within them and be as specific as you can. 
  3. Make the most out of the moment you are in. What can you do right now to move you in a positive direction? It can be as simple as writing down three things you are grateful for, because abundant living starts with gratitude. If you are not appreciating what you already have, you will NEVER be abundant no matter how much you have. 

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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