I’m grateful for the path inward revealed by emotional triggers. I recently had an AHA moment about emotional triggers. It was something I logically knew, but finally sunk down into an emotional connection of truly absorbing and understanding. I cannot trigger others and they cannot trigger me. I can feel triggered, which is a sign I have emotional stuff to work on that is keeping me aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. The only thing the other person is doing is providing me a path inward. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to go inward and get to see what is keeping me in an energy I don’t want to be living in.
I love when things hit me on a deeper level. This is just another way I’m tapping into taking my power back. I LOVE IT! I know when I’m feeling triggered, it’s mine, but to really dive in and to go through the actual emotions and tap into each one is a priceless gift. Someone else is not MAKING me feel unsafe, I feel unsafe. Someone else is not making me feel pressured, I feel pressured. Someone else is not MAKING me feel unwanted, I feel unwanted. Someone else is not MAKING me feel uncomfortable, I feel uncomfortable. Someone else is not making me feel neglected, I feel neglected. If you have been reading along with me, you know I talk about the mantra:
I find that each statement offers paths to go deeper. So, I’m going in… When I feel emotionally triggered, it’s important for me to look at each individual feeling that the exchange is bringing up and see the opportunity to heal them. This taps into making statements of “I feel ______________ because_______________” without placing blame on the other person. How another person acts, thinks, and lives isn’t about me, that is about them. That is theirs to figure out. What I can do is take care of my own emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, and financial health. I can choose to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace and see MY triggers as a pathway inward to healing. Doesn’t that sound so much better than being the victim of someone else’s choices? It does to me, so that is really all that matters for my personal journey.
Today, I commit to looking at my emotional triggers as an opportunity to heal, grow, and empower myself. When I make this statement, it helps me commit to the journey of looking deeper. It keeps me from jumping into the STORY of what someone else did and how that is affecting me. It’s my story of what the other person did that is affecting me, not what they did. What they did offers me an opportunity to see my stories of my past and how they are affecting me now. What they did gives me the opportunity to show my strength, perseverance, hope, faith, and commitment to staying in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.
I recently wrote about being triggered by something that was happening while I was writing my piece (#252). I KNEW I was being shown an opportunity to get out of my own way, which was the topic of that post. I had no idea how much deeper this one experience would take me. There was a layer that had to be revealed later. Just a couple days ago, I read a word in an interview question that made my body physically react. The first thing I did was look up the definition of the word. The word had a great and empowering definition, so why did I have a knot in my stomach. I sat in my breath and realized I was feeling fearful, like the feeling of walking on eggshells kind of fearful, and anxious. Then BAM it hit me. My ex used to use the word when he was making an excuse for drinking or doing drugs. I took a deep breath and the knot, fear, and anxiety went away just like that. My energy was fully aligned with love, abundance, and peace so seeing things clearly and feeling the Divine connection came in so strong. I felt the AWE in the wisdom, which is how I know it was connected to the Divine truth which fully aligns me with love, abundance, and peace. That’s how fast a healing of something extraordinary painful can happen if we let ourselves go there. I could have easily got defensive and said how much I hate the word. I could have blamed the interviewer for the use of the word or I could have blamed my ex for ruining the word, but all any of that would do is keep me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. That energy doesn’t feel good to me, so I’m so grateful I stayed aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace instead.
I’ve been asked before, “What does it looks like to feel painful feelings and stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace through it?” There is your answer. I let my body’s reaction guide me into the feelings. Then the feelings took me to the story that I was attaching to the word. Seeing the definition of the word offered me healing by understanding the word beyond my story. I didn’t blame or shame myself or anyone else in the process. My body felt expansive after a few minutes. I felt lighter.
Before all this happened, I put a question out to the Universe: Why is it so important that I identify the individual feelings when I’m processing feeling emotionally triggered? What I realized is that when I break it down, I can take full ownership of the feelings, which gives me the power to do something about them. If I don’t look at them individually, I can’t go back to heal where the stories about the feelings have taken charge of my life. If I felt neglected as a teenager, and somewhere deep inside I blamed a family member or members for the things that happened to me because of not having the attention I felt I needed… I’m going to get triggered by anything to do with feelings of neglect. I’m going to feel triggered by parents I feel are neglecting their kids, breaking it down might feel like anger, rage, frustration, and even hate in extreme cases. If a child feels neglected, I’m going to feel triggered. This trigger could surface as sadness, grief, loneliness, being unsafe and unprotected, fear, etc. These are just some examples, but it’s in those individual feelings that I’m given a doorway into healing my own past stories that are keeping me from approaching the current situation with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. If I try to MAKE other people accommodate to my feelings without healing my story, I haven’t done my job and the trigger will keep resurfacing.
The most amazing things happen when I release the old stories that keep me tied to the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I can see the current moment so much clearer. I can come at the current situation with a feeling of gratitude for what it’s showing me. If the current situation is unsafe or unhealthy, I can trust my intuition, because nothing is in my way from being in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I project and attract so much less drama the healthier I get, and the drama that does show up has been opportunities for growth. I love this process. I’m always amazed at how much deeper I can go and how empowered I can feel.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World —Click book cover to get your copy and start reading or listening today!