A Mom’s Tale: Reflections from the Heart

This past Saturday was my daughter’s first high school Homecoming dance. I don’t know if it is because of our recent experience of running from the gun, recognizing how fast time flies, and/or feeling for people like the Guttenbergs and Gabby Petito’s family (and so many families like them) who never get to see their little girls again, but I’ve been feeling super sentimental through this entire experience.


If you know my writings, you know that my journey is about figuring out how to live life from a loving place. It is at the heart of everything I do. Yet as a mom, I’m not above the struggle of the re-surfacing of old wounds and projecting those on my kids. My kids are my drive for living life from a loving place, and they are the ones who help me see the importance of staying on this path. I’m so incredibly grateful to be a mom and to have the opportunity keep doing better for them and myself as I grow right along side of them on this journey. As I’ve written and spoken about ample times, the moment I found the definition of love and truly saw it as the definition was the beginning of a series of life-altering changes in thought, belief, and behavior patterns that keep on offering me the most amazing gifts and blessings.

The definition (in different versions) is posted multiple places in my room as a reminder (that I’m don’t always remember to follow) to project love. Following this definition has changed all my relationships for the better and has given me the strength and courage to remove myself from relationships that didn’t have this definition at the core. Having this reminder helps me be accountable and responsible for my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors whether I’m operating from a place of love or a place of fear. These two versions of Corinthians 13.4-13.7 are just different enough to make sure I don’t rationalize my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors to confuse love with fear. Even if I can’t see it in the moment, I have the opportunity to hold myself accountable when I CAN come back in a loving way:


“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

1 Corinthians 13.4-13.7, NIV Study Bible (1985)

“Love is patient, love is kind; Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; It is not irritable or resentful; It does not rejoice in Wrongdoing, But rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things.”

First Corinthians 13.4-13.7, Harper Collins Study Bible (2006)

I just can’t help but be grateful for my kids, because without them, I would have never known that love could be more than what I had allowed myself to experience up until that point.

At this moment, I feel nothing but love in my heart and it is the most wonderful feeling—pure AWE. My hope is that I will be able to carry this feeling with me as I know I will need it in my next moment where I will have to choose to respond to my kids from love or react out of fear.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

About this post:

This piece started as a Facebook post on my personal page. I didn’t see what I wrote coming, but as I wrote I felt this need to keep sharing. There is a lot going on in the world right now and sometimes, I need the reminder project love in my daily life. I thought maybe others might too. For anyone who needs it, I hope this helps. Thank you for reading. If you want to see more FromALovingPlace.com, you can explore the page and/or subscribe with your email here:

Running from the Gun

“Gun, run!” Whether those were the only two words that registered or the only two words I heard, those were the words that made my world stop as I looked around in slow motion trying to get my eyes on my daughter as cheerleaders, football players, parents, grandparents, and coaches started to run. We can talk all day long about what we would do in that situation, but until it happens, there is no way to understand the things that go through each individuals head as they are running from the gun. “Run, run, run!” Those were the words that permeated the air. The words that ignited terror in toddlers, teens, and adults alike.

Veterans’ and police training snaps back into play for some as they try to get people to safety and are ready to protect their community. Pure adrenaline runs through the veins making it possible to jump fences and help those who aren’t able get over. No one will be left behind. Dozens of children and mothers flock into a small locker room. I stand outside as I still don’t have eyes on my daughter, yet I have eyes all over the park looking for her, because those are the AMAZING people I’m surrounded with. I know that as soon as someone has eyes on her, my phone will ring.

Little did I know I didn’t even have my phone for a brief period because it fell out of my pocket while hopping the second fence. What is the likelihood the stranger who found it walks to the one person who would push the button on the phone to see my and my boyfriend’s picture on it and know exactly where I was? But, not just that, it was my best friend and the person I was at the game with. She knew exactly where I was standing and handed me the phone. In my hyper-focused state, I didn’t even have a memory of her handing me the phone, but God was looking out for me, and no one could tell me different.

As a mom, I have a check list of all the kids I know going off in my head knowing where I last saw them in case I see their parents or hear someone calling for them. In my head praying that I will see my daughter in one of these batches of kids. “She’s gone, the kids are safe to come out.” Police presence has arrived and the shooter fled.

I’m standing directly in front of the locker room as I watch the kids exit. The memory that will be burned in my head is the one that followed. Kids of all ages crying, screaming, and shaking exiting that locker room. Some have no idea if their parents, grandparents, teammates, friends, or coaches are okay. No one knows if anyone has been shot or got hurt trying to flee. Parents looking on, holding their breath, and hoping their loved one(s) will exit the locker room. Still, no sign of my daughter.

Tears fill my eyes not knowing if she is scared hiding somewhere or hurt. I have no idea if she is with other girls or stranded alone somewhere. The team starts gathering back at the tent—still no sign. I can’t write this next part without tears running down my face because of how blessed I feel to know the friends, parents, kids, and coaches that I do. I had eyes everywhere. One of my friends called to tell me that there were four cheerleaders hiding in a truck. I start moving towards the parking lot as I spot her walking towards the team tent. She was safe.

Once I could stop and look back, I realized what an amazing community I’m a part of. From the people helping get eyes on all the kids, people staying back to help others over fences, people helping direct people to safety, and others helping to keep others from freezing in their tracks, we stood together as a community. Nothing divided us in that moment. We were all in this together.

The next day, we already had planned to gather for team pictures. This community is now bonded tighter than ever. As people told their stories of the day, other stories began to emerge to see that for some—this was not their first time running from the gun. My now 14-year old daughter is a part of the growing numbers that have had this experience.

Thankfully, no one that I know of was physically hurt that day, but there were people whose PTSD was triggered, and some of them have no idea that they even have that. Others, will be traumatized from this event because people will expect them to shove the feelings and experience down. This isn’t intentionally to hurt someone. This is how generations of people are taught to cope, but ends up turning into future problems because a person’s reaction to something else will be triggered by the events of that traumatic day that they never fully processed.

It’s VERY important that we allow people to talk through their feelings and experiences how THEY experienced it from their own point of view. It’s important that a person is allowed to cry, shake, and scream without someone telling them not do do that or feel that way. Looking up “Feeling Wheels” online and having a person specifically talk about which feelings they are feeling is EXTREMELY helpful. They have these wheels for toddlers to adults. The best way to help someone through traumas like this is to allow them to feel through it. It can look scary and ugly, but if they are able to work through their feelings in a healthy way, it may stop the experience from turning into a debilitating psychological condition. Teaching people to shove feelings down or numb them can also lead to addiction as a form of self-medication.

With a growing number of children having to experience running from the gun, I hope we start hearing more stories from specialized psychologists, psychotherapists, trauma therapists, and social workers about how to help them PROCESS the experience in the healthiest way possible. We can talk all we want about prevention, but let’s face what we are being faced with now. Let’s make sure we are not continuing the vicious cycle of mentally unstable people out there with guns because of past unhealed experiences. Healthy minds lead to healthy actions, reactions, and responses.

Last year, I was blessed to facilitate a Heart Wisdom Panel (click for link) with Fred Guttenberg. He’s the author of Find the Helpers and the father of Jaime Guttenberg who was murdered in the mass school shooting in Parkland, FL. I remember reading his book in horror of what it would feel like to know your kids were in this kind of horrific situation. I felt tremendous empathy for the families, faculty, kids, and community. Yet, running from the gun was never my experience, so I had no idea on how truly horrifying it was to run and not know what will come next. I still don’t know what it would be like to actually be in a situation where lives are lost, but so many people do. I have tremendous empathy for them.

Living life from a loving place doesn’t mean that I’m not going to experience traumatic events or have to go through challenging times. It doesn’t mean I won’t face feelings of pain, fear, panic, anger, sadness, or grief. I’m human and all these feelings are apart of the human experience. What I have figured out along the way is that even when I feel these feelings that aren’t always pretty, I can embrace them with love. I can allow the feelings to add to my ability to feel compassion and empathy for others. I know what running from the feelings does, and I know that I rather find healthy ways to process things than allow the shoved down feelings space to turn into psychosis, disease, and/or addiction. I will keep choosing to show up and see each experience as an opportunity to be a better and healthier human.

I don’t want any human’s experience to be running from the gun, but if that is their experience, I want to make sure I’m contributing to helping them find healthy ways to process the experience so that it doesn’t take them down long after the experience is over. I want survivors of the experience to feel empowered to do good in the world and keep choosing to live. Thankfully, trauma therapies have come along way since I was a teen. I have tried, read, and studied many different approaches including traditional, new-age, spiritual, and physical. Some are free and others are expensive, but one thing I know is when I sincerely ask for help and am open to allow that help to reveal itself, I get the help I need 100% of the time. I just have to be willing to stay out of my own way, which means no running, numbing, ignoring, or suppressing what is really going on inside of me. Finding ways to process challenging situations gives me the ability to show up for others in the healthiest way possible, and THAT is what I want. That is what I’m doing here. I’m sharing part of my process with you.

To all the people who have had to run from gun, I’m truly sorry that you had to go through the experience. I’m grateful you are here today. I pray for all the families, communities, and friends of those who didn’t survive the run.

These are my personal perspectives. Each person has a right to feel how they feel and experience events in whatever way they do. This experience is what is true for me. Living from a loving place is what helps me find peace, love, and abundance in this life, and it’s how I choose to live. No one has to agree with how I choose to live my life, but if how I live my life helps others, I celebrate being able to contribute to someone feeling inspired or empowered to grow from each experience no matter how challenging those experiences are. I debated whether or not to write this, but I kept getting called back to the page. Thank you for reading.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

Heart Wisdom Panel: Fabulous Females

On September 1, 2021, I was blessed to be the guest facilitator on Mango Publishing’s Heart Wisdom Panel. Sherry Richert Belul is the regular facilitator and she is AMAZING. When she asked me to fill in for a panel on Fabulous Females, there was NO WAY I was going to refuse. With everything going on in the world, I wanted to read about inspiring women. I had NO idea what I was going to experience when I start reading the books by the author’s on the panel. With not a lot of time before the panel, my plan was to skim through both books. I’m so grateful that I didn’t.

I started with Shelly Rachanow’s book, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done (See Shelly’s works by clicking on the title). There were so many stories of women and communities of women who either have gone or go out and persevere without any excuses. I knew I wouldn’t be skimming the book when I read,

Within each of us lies the strength and courage to make a difference in this world. It’s my hope that these stories inspire and ignite a spark within you to contribute in whatever way you can and join the chorus of women’s rights around the world.

Shelly Rachanow, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done, Mango Publishing, pg. 17)

Our voices, actions, and responses matter. Each story drove that point home time and time again. I read the whole entire book in one sitting. I’m so grateful that I was introduced to so many amazing women in this book.

Next up, Marlene Wagman-Geller’s book, Unabashed Women: The Fascinating Biographies of Bad Girls, Seductresses, Rebels, and One-of-a-Kind Women (See Marlene’s works by clicking on the title). Reading these mini-biographies helped me to see the wholeness of who we are as humans. What I loved about these stories was getting a taste of these women’s journeys through the good, the bad, and the ugly. It served as a reminder that we each have our own journeys, but there are likenesses in each of our stories that can help us see the human in each other. I knew many of the people discussed in this book by name, but I was fascinated by the details and realness that Marlene brought to their stories. I read her book in two-days (It’s over 300 pages).

Needless to say after reading both these books I was beyond excited to get the chance to speak with these amazing women. They did not disappoint! You can see our fascinating conversation in the link below. I hope that you feel as inspired as I did! I can’t wait to read the rest of their works!

I’m so grateful to Mango Publishing and Sherry Richert Belul for doing these amazing Heart Wisdom Panels every Wednesday at 1:30PM PDT/ 4:30PM EDT on Zoom. If you would like to learn more about these panels go to Facebook.com/MangoPublishing to watch replays and see upcoming topics and guests.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

A New Story

Take a breath and release what is causing your mind to suffer. Tell yourself a new story. We consciously or unconsciously tell ourselves stories that cause us to suffer or celebrate, to live in lack or abundance, to love or fear, and to embrace peace or separation within our own minds. It doesn’t matter what stories other people are telling themselves, we are only ever responsible and accountable for our own stories. What do you want yours to be for this moment?

When we keep the question in the present moment, we get the opportunity to make the unconscious—conscious. We allow ourselves to see the stories we are telling ourselves in this moment, and we give ourselves the freedom to change any part of the story that is not serving our highest good—If that is what we CHOOSE to do.

Circumstances don’t have to change in order for us to change our story. Here’s an example, my car window fell off it’s track or broke in some way. I told myself a story that was causing me to suffer. Then I stopped, took a breath, and told myself a new story that helped me to exhale with a feeling of peace and abundance. My window is still broken. I still have to figure out how to get it fixed, but I’m no longer suffering in my story of it.

I love that I was able to see the story I was telling myself and how I could let the story spin out of control if I let it go unnoticed. I love knowing I don’t have to tell myself ANY story that is causing me to suffer if I don’t want to. That FEELS like a beautiful miracle to me since I once believed that I had NO CHOICE. I felt doomed to live a life of suffering. I love that I was wrong!

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback — Click title to learn more

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In Case You Missed It: Here’s What’s been Going on

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Guest Facilitator on the Heart Wisdom Panel—Fabulous Females (Sept. 1, 2021)

365-Day Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace

On FromALovingPlace.com, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn I’ve spent the last 365 days focusing my energy on daily aligning with love, abundance, and peace. It has been an amazing journey, and the shifts in my life have been incredibly rewarding along the way. If you would like to see where the journey takes you, you can search “Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace” on home page—Click here for category search. You can also find them all on Twitter, Facebook.com/LettersfromabetterMe, or LinkedIn.

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This is my on-going project of contributing to Love on social media. The Facebook page now has over 9.6K followers and growing daily. I love being a part of spreading love on social media.

YouTube Channel

I have some videos available here (click to go to channel) and will keep posting when I feel inspired. You can also search “Letters from a Better Me” on YouTube. Here is one of the videos I created:

Beyond Talking Points Interview (July 12, 2021)

Polly Campbell, Simply Said Podcast Interview Episode 113 (May 18, 2021)

Nita Sweeney Author Interview (April 2021)

https://nitasweeney.com/2021/04/author-interview-rachael-wolff/

Heart Wisdom for Challenging Times (March 2021)

Postcards from the Universe with Melisa Caprio (Dec 2020)

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With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #365

I’m grateful for the people who are traveling on this journey with me. Wow, 365 days of writing, creating, focusing, and expressing my energy on aligning with love, abundance, and peace. Thank you to all the people who have joined me on this journey for a moment or for the whole ride. I’ve loved hearing from readers throughout this journey. I feel honored to have traveled this journey with you. If you have invested ANY time here, this is your journey too. The journey of aligning with love, abundance, and peace on a daily basis is one I’m happy to share with my fellow travelers. Now that it is complete, feel free to explore whatever day pulls you in and in any order you choose. Now it’s your journey to do with what you please.

The messages, comments, texts, and phone calls have inspired me in so many ways. I love all the excitement I’m hearing over living in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I FEEL your energy permeating through me. With our lights together, we brighten the world. Though this particular journey is ending, I will be continuing to do what I do on all my social media platforms. I hope you will continue to join me on your preferred platform (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and here). Don’t forget to follow me via email so that you can stay up to date with what’s next:

Today, I commit to expressing gratitude to the people who are on this journey with me. I’m not only expressing gratitude for the people who have been on this journey of aligning daily with love, abundance, and peace, I want to show my gratitude for all the people who supported me on this journey whether they read what I wrote or not. I’m grateful for having people who show up to support me in so many different ways. I know the journeys I take can feel “out there” to some, but that’s because these are not meant to be their journeys—at least not right now. If it resonates, it is. I’m grateful I have people who honor and respect me for whatever journey I choose to go on. Having people who I know accept me for who I am is a true blessing. This past year has brought me some of the most amazing relationships, because the healthier I get, the healthier my relationships are.

A special thank you to the never-ending support of my family, friends, and partner in love along with all my amazing and thoughtful followers of FromALovingPlace.com. I also want to thank anybody who chooses love, abundance, and peace over fear, lack, and separation as much as possible, I appreciate your contribution to the light in the world. I’m even grateful for the people who show me what aligning with fear, lack, and separation makes possible, because it’s a great reminder for me of the importance of staying on the path of love, abundance, and peace.

With SO MUCH Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #362

I’m grateful for the inner wisdom that shows up when I need it. THANK YOU, UNIVERSE! I love leading a guided life. When I allow myself to tap into my inner wisdom, I have complete faith in how things are unfolding in my life. Sometimes, I feel like I get the wisdom in the nick of time, LOL. The thing is, when I’m open to hear it, the wisdom is there. I just have let go of fear.

I believe that the inner wisdom comes when I’m one with the Divine. I slow myself down enough to be in the space of I AM, which is the oneness with all that is and isn’t. When I’m nurturing this inner wisdom, I feel peace in it. I don’t feel like I’m in any kind of chaotic decision making. It truly is a beautiful feeling. I remember feeling that when I knew I was meant to write this 365-day series and not spread my energy in a bunch of different places like I had originally planned. Something inside of me told me to give my whole heart to this. It’s funny because there have been some moments of fear where I thought I was supposed to be putting my attention somewhere else, but I felt this guiding hand kept bringing me back. I could FEEL inside that I was doing EXACTLY what I was supposed to be doing. Everything would work out exactly how it’s supposed to in perfect timing.

I have so much proof in my life experiences that following this inner wisdom leads me down amazing paths. I even had an experience recently in the airport after my original flight was canceled. Before going to the airport, I felt something inside of me telling me to pack a few of my books. I knew I would be giving one to someone I would meet at the airport. I asked God for a clear sign of who I was supposed to give my book to. My connecting flight was delayed. I was sitting across from two flight attendants (one male and one female), I joined into their conversation. We were having a wonderful conversation and at one point the male flight attendant went off. I felt that inner wisdom kick in and I knew the book was for her. She was so grateful. She wasn’t even supposed to be on the flight that night. I went on to have a wonderful conversation with both flight attendants once the male flight attendant came back. A message kept playing inside my mind throughout the entire experience, everything is happening exactly the way it’s supposed to.

I have so many incredible stories of being led by these inner messages. Just like messages in my head can create chaos, when I’m tapping into my inner wisdom, the messages create inner peace. It’s funny because I know I’m in it when I feel this need to exhale, and it feels like the most peaceful breath that I can possibly take.

Today, I commit to tapping into my inner wisdom. The more I’ve aligned myself with the energy of love, abundance, and peace on a regular basis, the easier it has been for me to tap in. Every day that I write, I’m tapping in. I don’t write because I know this is what others need to hear, I know it’s what I need to hear. I also know that I’m not alone. Whoever reads what I write and feels that tap into their own inner wisdom is who my writing is meant for.

As much as I get from writing these pieces, I’m feeling the need to tap a little deeper. There are some things swirling inside me that I’m seeking clarity on. I know the answer is within, I just have to release my future thinking and allow the wisdom of what is to reveal itself. One way I know to open myself up is through doing a writing meditation. I always start with a question I’m seeking clarity on. Then, I just listen to meditation music and allow my fingers to feel guided over the keys. I’ve written about this in different ways over the series because I use this technique quite often. It ALWAYS brings me a sense of peace after doing it and my inner wisdom always shows up.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me (click to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #360

I’m grateful for my light and my darkness. It’s easy to love the light, but to love my darkness took a lot of time. For a long time, I would try to deny my darkness. I would shove it down with toxic positivity. Unless someone was sensitive to energy, they wouldn’t know something was off. Some just might get an uneasy feeling that something didn’t add up. What I realized over time is that denying my darkness was LOADED with feelings of shame. Those feelings of shame kept me prisoner in ways that took me decades to figure out. I had NO IDEA that it was out of SHAME that I would serve people and try to gain my self-worth. This had BRUTAL consequences for me. I see my darkness now as a clear sign that I’m holding onto something that isn’t serving me. I love my darkness for that. I love that when I pay attention to the thoughts, stories, and messages that align themselves with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I get a huge opportunity to heal and grow. I’ve learned to embrace my darkness with my light without denying, suppressing, or avoiding looking at where the darkness wants to take me within myself.

I began paying close attention to how much and how easy it is for people to lose their humanity unconsciously. Paying attention to it out in the world opened me up to see it in myself. I was shocked at the judgments that I was making unconsciously as I looked onto my fellow humans. Then, I began to realize how much shows, movies, social media, news, advertising, groups, religions, organizations, politics, communities, and more supported me feeling separate from my fellow human. No wonder it was so easy to unconsciously slip into my own darkness and stay in it for extended periods of time. While I was in this energy, I felt drained ALL THE TIME! I remember if I would get out of the energy even just for one night out with a friend how different I would feel. It really was amazing how easy it was to move in and out of the energy unconsciously.

What if I chose to consciously look at my light (alignment with love, abundance, and peace) and darkness (alignment with fear, lack, and separation) without judgment? That’s when my darkness became a gift to me. My darkness now brings me to a level of awareness that I wasn’t able to achieve when I was just trying to ignore, suppress, or push it away. Now, I allow myself the space to sit in my darkness and let it show me what it needs in order absorb into the light. Usually what it needs is a level of healing and compassion from myself. When my darkness feels separate from my light, I project chaos. When my darkness feels embraced by my light, I feel peace. I’m made with both darkness and light inside of me, one can benefit the other as long as I’m willing to consciously look at why they are there, what they have to teach me, and how to let them serve each other. Looking at my light and darkness like this helps me not to take things out on the innocent bystanders around me and not contribute to the collective energy of fear, lack, and separation in the world.

Today, I commit to embracing both my light and my darkness. Anytime I’m in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I’m in my darkness. The question is whether I’m consciously there or unconsciously there. If I can question my thinkings, observe how the energy feels in my body, and be open to what it is there to show me, I’m consciously there. If I’m just judging, shaming, gossiping, blaming, raging, hating, etc., I’m in my darkness unconsciously. Sometimes, I realize after the fact that I was in my darkness and can look at consciously to see where, why, and how my energy slipped into my darkness unknowingly. I don’t beat myself up for doing it, I just use the information to choose better next time. I’ve learned so much about myself from both the conscious and unconscious trips into my own darkness. Seeing and embracing my own darkness helps me find compassion for other people who get stuck and/or lost in theirs.

Now, let me be clear because I know some people may get confused here. I DO NOT support denying someone else’s darkness and putting myself and/or others in harm’s way. I’m responsible and accountable for my own energy, actions, inactions, thoughts, and beliefs. I’m responsible and accountable for following my intuition and spotting red flags. If I’m stuck in my own darkness, I am open to join someone else in theirs because our energies are aligned. For me, aligning with my light and embracing my darkness consciously keeps me out of harm’s way. When I am conscious and claim responsibility for my own darkness, I don’t unconsciously join someone else in theirs.

I don’t stay in a room when my body tells me it’s not safe. I don’t surround myself with toxic energy of others. I trust the people I’m attracting and repelling, because I know I’m either aligned or not aligned with their energy in that moment. If I see I’m being attracted to someone else’s darkness, it’s a sign for me to look at my own. If someone else wants to stay unconscious to their own darkness, that is their painful journey. I know that if and when they are ready to see it, they will. I’m not judging them, I’m just going to keep living in the way that serves my highest good. For me, that means embracing both my light and my darkness and doing it consciously.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #356

I’m grateful for the process. I used to dread the future, but now I love watching how it all unfolds. I’ve learned to follow my inner callings and trust that there is a reason I am where I am at every moment, even when I find myself binge watching a show. There is something I get from watching the relationships playing out in front of me. If I wasn’t meant to watch what I did, I wouldn’t have seen it. Just like if I am meant to read a book, I will. If I’m not meant to read it, I won’t. If something or someone is meant to be a part of my path, I will experience whatever life presents to me—even if at the time I don’t understand why. Living in the process is about being engaged in the journey instead of focused on the destination.

There are so many amazing discoveries and insights that are revealed. What I’ve realized is that we are not powerless on this road. We are making choices all along the way that create the opportunities that are ahead and it all depends on where our energy is aligned to how these opportunities will reveal themselves.

I used to believe the lessons had to cause me great pain in order for me to absorb them, but then I discovered that wasn’t true. It depended on if my energy was aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. When I began paying close attention to the process, I saw how amazing it is to choose differently in a moment and watch how things changed. When I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, the process reflects the energy.

Seeing all this didn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t mean that I don’t lose myself from time to time in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. It just happens less and for shorter periods of time when it does. The one thing that used to trip me up is the labels. When I gave myself a label or someone else gave me a label, I would often try to live up to what my or what I thought society defined the label as. When that happened, my process became about how to make others happy out of fear, lack, and separation. I started becoming aware of the process, the the tools to make things better started presenting themselves to me along the way. I’m grateful for seeing both my healthy and unhealthy processes, because only when I understand how the process works, do I know what to do to make them better.

Today, I commit to engaging in the process. All it takes to engage in the process is to consciously watch where I am and what I am doing throughout the day. Awareness is my survival tool. If I watch my process and I don’t like the results I’m getting, I can make different choices and observe the difference in the way I feel, think, and act. I can also observe the differences of how people reflect back to me what I put out. If I want to change what is reflected back to me, I have to change what I’m thinking and doing, my feelings change with whatever energy I’m aligning to either love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation.

When I find joy in the process, I become a beacon of joy. I lead joy to me. When I find misery in the process, I become a beacon of misery. I lead misery to me. Hmmmm…which will I choose? When I engage and stay aware, I give myself the access to choose differently in a moment. If I’m not engaged, I can easily put energy where I don’t want it to go. I really try to avoid doing that.Throughout the day, I’m going to be the observer of the process step by step, choice by choice.

  • Where are my thoughts, beliefs, and actions taking me in this moment?
  • What am I creating in this moment?
  • How is my energy aligning with what I want reflected back to me?
  • Who is in my life and what are they mirroring back to me right now?
  • Is there anything I want to do differently in the next moment?

Sometimes what we need to see in the process is scary, ugly, informative, beautiful, magical, etc. Just because we experience something that is challenging doesn’t mean that experience isn’t for our highest good. I’ve experienced and seen some very scary things in my life, but what is amazing now is that I’m seeing how they were all a part of the creative process of my journey. I look back in AWE of how some of these pieces are coming together now. I’m finding more and more gifts each step of the way.

If you are reading this post, it’s a part of your process. If you think a friend of yours should read this post and they don’t, it’s because it’s not a part of their process. The experiences we are meant to have on our journeys will happen. That’s part of the reason I don’t feel tied to who reads what I write and who doesn’t. I know whoever is meant to read it will, and whoever isn’t won’t. It’s just that simple. I don’t know what others will have to go through to get to a place where they feel aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Some will CHOOSE to stay in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, but that is their choice, their process to be accountable and responsible for.

The only person’s process I’m accountable and responsible for is my own. It’s my job to create the life that is best for me. My focus is on serving the highest good and my process reveals to me how I can do that step by step.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback (click title to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #355

I’m grateful for the opportunity to expand my capacity to love. Moment to moment, I can choose to be in this space. I’m overwhelmed when I think about the fact there is always more room to love, especially after I became conscious of what love was and wasn’t. When I’m fully aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, my capacity to love and be loved has NO limits. The more I recognize the love within myself, the more I open up to love and to be loved by others. My heart feels full just typing these words.

Living from a loving place is a journey I’ve been on since 2016. It’s not always pretty, but it’s all about being the love in the world that I want to see more of. Living from love or fear is a choice I make with every breath—unconscious or conscious.

Today, I commit to taking action to expand my capacity to love. When I love myself wholeheartedly, I have a brighter light to shine out to the world. Being self-critical and not facing the unhealed past can limit my ability to give and receive authentic love. The unhealed parts can taint love with fear. I have to do the work in order to expand my capacity to love, and a part of that is showing myself the love and respect that I deserve.

I make actions choices to show myself love while also making choices to give and receive love to and from others. The beauty of taking action to show myself love means that I don’t put expectations on others to do what I’m not willing to do for myself. Loving myself in action creates natural boundaries, almost like a light force field around me. Having this helps me take those steps to give and receive authentic love in action. It also helps me to stay out of the old stories that creep up, which are aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

Taking action to expand my capacity to love is not about an expectation to receive something back for what I do. If my actions are fully aligned with love, I will attract love back to me, but that doesn’t mean it will come from where I think it will. I will know if I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace by the stories that are playing in my head about myself and others.

When I’m at the height of feeling the energy of love, abundance, and peace inside me (what I recognize as the state of AWE), I send loving energy out to people I love, trees, animals, etc. It’s my way of giving unconditional love to the world. I see it as putting out the energy I want to see more of in the world.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback (click title to learn more)