I’m grateful I KNOW love. I wasn’t always able to say this. I used to have a VERY warped definition of love, which is why I’ve written a lot about the importance of defining love since I started From A Loving Place in 2016. Defining love was the biggest awakening moment of my journey. The core of everything I want to project in this world is from love. I’m not perfect at it, but I do the work to align with energy of love. The sum of the three—love, abundance, and peace is ONE love. That love is the purest form of love that exists. Knowing love is the greatest gift of being alive.

Knowing love is the beginning. Being love, being in the knowing of love, and simply BEING is what some people call heaven on Earth. When I get caught up in the doing, I can forget to BE. Being is where I FEEL everything. Being is where the state of AWE is. I don’t get to experience the AWE until I stop and appreciate. It’s in those beautiful moments then time stops and an overwhelming feeling of pure love moves through me. The longer I sit in my breath and just allow myself to embrace the feeling of love, the more it expands.

The love is so powerful that it projects out in the most beautiful ways. When I experience love from the place of KNOWING and BEING, I have the most to offer the people around me. Any BUT attached to love is not love at all, that BUT is an alignment with fear, lack, and separation. In the KNOWING, there are no BUTS.

I remember confusing love when I was in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. My confusion with love didn’t start there. Just like it does for most people, it started in my childhood. Childhood is where we begin learning from the place of blame, shame, and guilt. This is where many children start mixing up what is love and what is fear. The messages we take inward and our self-talk becomes filled with a mixed message of what love really is. For me, I became aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation and thought it was love. This became a path of self-destruction.

I’m not blaming anyone for this, because there are very few, if any, cultures that don’t use fear, guilt, and/or shame as a parenting, learning, and guiding tool—It’s embedded. Becoming aware of my own messages that pull me away from the energy of love, abundance, and peace is the key to not letting the fear, lack, and separation reign control over my life. Being in a toxic relationship helped me to see how my own alignment with the energy of fear, lack, and separation manifested itself into a toxic relationship. When I embraced the KNOWING of love, I stopped lending myself to relationships that didn’t embody love. I was no longer attracting those relationships because I knew what it looked like to love myself and from there, I didn’t take in someone else’s alignment with fear, lack, and separation as my own.

Like everyone else I know, I’ve been caught using these methods from time to time. I’ve been in situations where I used fear, guilt, and/or shame unintentionally. It can be challenging to not react from that place, when that place is familiar. The best I can do for myself and others is recognize when I’m coming from a place of love, and when I’m coming from a place of fear. That way when I find a more loving perspective, I can go back and let the people I know what I’ve discovered about my reaction. NONE of us are perfect and when I judge others for not being perfect, that is once again my own alignment with fear, lack, and separation. It does however come with lots of opportunities to become aware of how I’ve strayed from the energy of love, abundance, and peace and how to shift beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions according to my KNOWING of what love is.

Today, I commit to BE in the KNOWING of love. BEING in the knowing is much different than just knowing. I can know love as I write this piece and as I move throughout my day. BEING requires me to stop the doing and just BE in the moment where I experience the KNOWING of love. I like to begin in the relationships where there is no confusing fear and love. For me, that’s nature. Everyone is going to have their own places to begin, but I like to begin with non-human relationships, since in human relationships my alignment with fear, lack, and separation can unconsciously slip in. Next, I focus on BEING in the KNOWING of the love for myself, because I KNOW the amount of love I project out is based on the amount of love I’m able to KNOW within. BEING in this love emanates out to everything the energy reaches. If I don’t feel the absolute AWE of BEING in this love, it’s because the energy of fear, lack, and separation has snuck in and that will leak out into all my relationships including my spiritual ones.

I can’t change anyone else. I can change myself. I can change the energy I align with moment to moment. Each moment offers a new opportunity to do things differently. There is no need for regret, that is the place where fear wants me to live. If I take something away from the times I chose fear over love, lack over abundance, and separation over peace, I’m better for it. I’ve grown from the experiences. Those experiences give me the gift of compassion and empathy for what others are experiencing. They also help me determine the energy I want to consciously surround my life in. BEING in the KNOWING of love helps me see things, people, and my relationships clearly.

It’s in the BEING that I’ve decided to let some relationships fade out of my life and others flourish. In the state of BEING, I know my worth and respect my time. I don’t have to judge where someone else is, I just have pay attention to where I am and what I need to do to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Anyone who leaves my life, I send off with a blessing and trust that if they come back into my life it’s because our energies are aligning.

BEING in the KNOWING of love is a VERY peaceful place. If I don’t feel peaceful, I’m not there. I will often write a question out as a prayer for assistance, “What is keeping me from BEING in the Knowing of love?” The answer reveals itself as long as I stay open to receive it. If I’m feeling a little blocked, I ask a question like, “Can you please be crystal clear in your response, so that I don’t miss what I need to see to move through my blocks?”

If you’ve been reading along, you may notice that a word I mention in one post becomes a topic in the next or a subject is built on for the next few days or weeks. All of this goes together and without understanding one area, I couldn’t see the full value of the other. My perspectives are forever expanding and building on each other. The one thing I never change is that love is at the core of EVERYTHING that I want both inside and outside. I am my life partner and it’s my job to show myself the love, respect, loyalty, and compassion that I deserve. If I don’t show myself that love, how will I recognize that love outside of me? We only ever can know a feeling that we already have experienced inside of us. I’m the best place to start when it comes to not confusing love with fear. That way what I’m projecting out is clear, so what I attract back will be a reflection of that love. If that isn’t a good reason to BE in the KNOWING of love, I don’t know what is! The better I KNOW love and can experiencing the BEING of it, the more love I have to offer the world around me. I ask myself, “How amazing would it be to know that I’m projecting pure love out to the world?” I love BEING in that moment of thought. Tears gather in the corners of my eyes. I feel complete peace and AWE.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World — Click title to learn more