Are you being honest?

If we aren’t being honest with ourselves, we aren’t capable of being honest with others. Self-awareness is key to living an authentic life. Sometimes being honest with ourselves is downright horrifying. We live these lives where we are just getting by, and we are scared to pick up the rug and look what’s underneath it. Some of us are scared that we won’t like what we see. Self-awareness isn’t the problem. Living dishonestly with ourselves is.

We can’t work on changing the the stories spinning like hamster wheels in our minds if we are not willing to really see and hear what we are telling ourselves. I self-abused for over three decades of my life without knowing it. It wasn’t until I was in a verbally abusive relationship that I saw he wasn’t talking to me any worse than how I was talking to myself—neither is acceptable!

Do you want someone else to be honest with you?

We so often want other people to be honest with us, but if we look deep enough, we see the reason we want them to be honest is because we are struggling with being honest with ourselves. We do this by using passive-aggressive, aggressive, passive, and judgmental thoughts and comments. These can happen even just in our own minds. It can even get self-abusive or abusive towards others, but it all begins with being dishonest with ourselves. Something within us is not at peace. Something within us is keeping us tied to the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

Do you want to change something outside to avoid looking at what’s going on inside?

Too often we try to change things outside or convince ourselves someone else has to change for us to be at peace. We may blame others for the way we treat them. As long as we keep doing this, we will never find peace. The way to find peace is through self-awareness. We get there by taking responsibility and accountability for what is going on inside of us. THIS DOESN’T MEAN THAT WE BLAME OURSELVES!

Self-blaming just makes us the victim of ourselves, and when we do that we are just as disempowered as we are when we blame others. We become very easy targets to become the victims of someone else’s abuse. That’s what happened to me. I was BRUTAL. I didn’t feel like I had any value in the world. I beat the girl in mirror down to the point where I couldn’t even look at myself.

Can I help?

I became a Self-awareness Coach because I want to help people help themselves. I can’t make anyone change and grow, but I can definitely give people tools to do it for themselves. I can hold their hands while they do it. I can help them spot the weeds and figure out what plant life they actually want to be growing in what I call, the gardens of our souls. Growth isn’t always comfortable for the person growing, or the people around them. Sometimes we need cheerleaders to help us through those transitions. The coaching process helps people to stop self-sabotaging and start aligning with the lives they ACTUALLY want to be living from the inside-out.

I’ve watched so many people, me included, struggle with trying to manifest a better life without digging into the inner one, and it just doesn’t work. That’s where sabotaging others to get ahead comes from. It’s also where toxic positivity comes from. When we use positivity to avoid looking at our inner stories that are keeping us from living authentically, we self-sabotage and sometimes hurt others in the process.

I’m not a therapist. I’m not looking to dig into people’s pasts. I work with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique aka Tapping), coaching strategies, intuition, along with my years of education on the empowering world of self-awareness.

Does someone NEED to work with me? NO! We all have our own paths. I just want to be available for the people who want to go on this self-awareness journey with me, because it’s a beautiful thing.

We each get to choose if we want to figure out how to get to the parts of ourselves that are holding us back. None of us have to, but every relationship we have suffers until we do, including our relationships with ourselves and our spirituality. As long as we avoid looking in the one place where the solution lies, we will continue to struggle, seek outside remedies, and blame others for where we are.

The point is, just be honest with yourself. Love, abundance, and peace emerge from the ashes like a phoenix rising when you do. This isn’t a one and done journey. Like a garden, it takes regular maintenance. Self-maintenance is the goal. That is part of the gift of self-awareness. We learn to spot a weed before it starts stripping the nutrients away from the plant life we want to be growing. I just recently had to do some cleaning-up, it’s just part of the journey to having a beautiful garden.

If you are interesting in trying out a Self-Awareness Coaching Session with me, now is the time! It’s a lot more affordable than you may think. Click here to learn more or you can schedule your first Zoom session with me right now.

No matter what you decide, I just hope you find a safe way to look within and see the incredible person you are.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff