A Mom’s Tale: Reflections from the Heart

This past Saturday was my daughter’s first high school Homecoming dance. I don’t know if it is because of our recent experience of running from the gun, recognizing how fast time flies, and/or feeling for people like the Guttenbergs and Gabby Petito’s family (and so many families like them) who never get to see their little girls again, but I’ve been feeling super sentimental through this entire experience.


If you know my writings, you know that my journey is about figuring out how to live life from a loving place. It is at the heart of everything I do. Yet as a mom, I’m not above the struggle of the re-surfacing of old wounds and projecting those on my kids. My kids are my drive for living life from a loving place, and they are the ones who help me see the importance of staying on this path. I’m so incredibly grateful to be a mom and to have the opportunity keep doing better for them and myself as I grow right along side of them on this journey. As I’ve written and spoken about ample times, the moment I found the definition of love and truly saw it as the definition was the beginning of a series of life-altering changes in thought, belief, and behavior patterns that keep on offering me the most amazing gifts and blessings.

The definition (in different versions) is posted multiple places in my room as a reminder (that I’m don’t always remember to follow) to project love. Following this definition has changed all my relationships for the better and has given me the strength and courage to remove myself from relationships that didn’t have this definition at the core. Having this reminder helps me be accountable and responsible for my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors whether I’m operating from a place of love or a place of fear. These two versions of Corinthians 13.4-13.7 are just different enough to make sure I don’t rationalize my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors to confuse love with fear. Even if I can’t see it in the moment, I have the opportunity to hold myself accountable when I CAN come back in a loving way:


“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

1 Corinthians 13.4-13.7, NIV Study Bible (1985)

“Love is patient, love is kind; Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; It is not irritable or resentful; It does not rejoice in Wrongdoing, But rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things.”

First Corinthians 13.4-13.7, Harper Collins Study Bible (2006)

I just can’t help but be grateful for my kids, because without them, I would have never known that love could be more than what I had allowed myself to experience up until that point.

At this moment, I feel nothing but love in my heart and it is the most wonderful feeling—pure AWE. My hope is that I will be able to carry this feeling with me as I know I will need it in my next moment where I will have to choose to respond to my kids from love or react out of fear.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

About this post:

This piece started as a Facebook post on my personal page. I didn’t see what I wrote coming, but as I wrote I felt this need to keep sharing. There is a lot going on in the world right now and sometimes, I need the reminder project love in my daily life. I thought maybe others might too. For anyone who needs it, I hope this helps. Thank you for reading. If you want to see more FromALovingPlace.com, you can explore the page and/or subscribe with your email here:

Running from the Gun

“Gun, run!” Whether those were the only two words that registered or the only two words I heard, those were the words that made my world stop as I looked around in slow motion trying to get my eyes on my daughter as cheerleaders, football players, parents, grandparents, and coaches started to run. We can talk all day long about what we would do in that situation, but until it happens, there is no way to understand the things that go through each individuals head as they are running from the gun. “Run, run, run!” Those were the words that permeated the air. The words that ignited terror in toddlers, teens, and adults alike.

Veterans’ and police training snaps back into play for some as they try to get people to safety and are ready to protect their community. Pure adrenaline runs through the veins making it possible to jump fences and help those who aren’t able get over. No one will be left behind. Dozens of children and mothers flock into a small locker room. I stand outside as I still don’t have eyes on my daughter, yet I have eyes all over the park looking for her, because those are the AMAZING people I’m surrounded with. I know that as soon as someone has eyes on her, my phone will ring.

Little did I know I didn’t even have my phone for a brief period because it fell out of my pocket while hopping the second fence. What is the likelihood the stranger who found it walks to the one person who would push the button on the phone to see my and my boyfriend’s picture on it and know exactly where I was? But, not just that, it was my best friend and the person I was at the game with. She knew exactly where I was standing and handed me the phone. In my hyper-focused state, I didn’t even have a memory of her handing me the phone, but God was looking out for me, and no one could tell me different.

As a mom, I have a check list of all the kids I know going off in my head knowing where I last saw them in case I see their parents or hear someone calling for them. In my head praying that I will see my daughter in one of these batches of kids. “She’s gone, the kids are safe to come out.” Police presence has arrived and the shooter fled.

I’m standing directly in front of the locker room as I watch the kids exit. The memory that will be burned in my head is the one that followed. Kids of all ages crying, screaming, and shaking exiting that locker room. Some have no idea if their parents, grandparents, teammates, friends, or coaches are okay. No one knows if anyone has been shot or got hurt trying to flee. Parents looking on, holding their breath, and hoping their loved one(s) will exit the locker room. Still, no sign of my daughter.

Tears fill my eyes not knowing if she is scared hiding somewhere or hurt. I have no idea if she is with other girls or stranded alone somewhere. The team starts gathering back at the tent—still no sign. I can’t write this next part without tears running down my face because of how blessed I feel to know the friends, parents, kids, and coaches that I do. I had eyes everywhere. One of my friends called to tell me that there were four cheerleaders hiding in a truck. I start moving towards the parking lot as I spot her walking towards the team tent. She was safe.

Once I could stop and look back, I realized what an amazing community I’m a part of. From the people helping get eyes on all the kids, people staying back to help others over fences, people helping direct people to safety, and others helping to keep others from freezing in their tracks, we stood together as a community. Nothing divided us in that moment. We were all in this together.

The next day, we already had planned to gather for team pictures. This community is now bonded tighter than ever. As people told their stories of the day, other stories began to emerge to see that for some—this was not their first time running from the gun. My now 14-year old daughter is a part of the growing numbers that have had this experience.

Thankfully, no one that I know of was physically hurt that day, but there were people whose PTSD was triggered, and some of them have no idea that they even have that. Others, will be traumatized from this event because people will expect them to shove the feelings and experience down. This isn’t intentionally to hurt someone. This is how generations of people are taught to cope, but ends up turning into future problems because a person’s reaction to something else will be triggered by the events of that traumatic day that they never fully processed.

It’s VERY important that we allow people to talk through their feelings and experiences how THEY experienced it from their own point of view. It’s important that a person is allowed to cry, shake, and scream without someone telling them not do do that or feel that way. Looking up “Feeling Wheels” online and having a person specifically talk about which feelings they are feeling is EXTREMELY helpful. They have these wheels for toddlers to adults. The best way to help someone through traumas like this is to allow them to feel through it. It can look scary and ugly, but if they are able to work through their feelings in a healthy way, it may stop the experience from turning into a debilitating psychological condition. Teaching people to shove feelings down or numb them can also lead to addiction as a form of self-medication.

With a growing number of children having to experience running from the gun, I hope we start hearing more stories from specialized psychologists, psychotherapists, trauma therapists, and social workers about how to help them PROCESS the experience in the healthiest way possible. We can talk all we want about prevention, but let’s face what we are being faced with now. Let’s make sure we are not continuing the vicious cycle of mentally unstable people out there with guns because of past unhealed experiences. Healthy minds lead to healthy actions, reactions, and responses.

Last year, I was blessed to facilitate a Heart Wisdom Panel (click for link) with Fred Guttenberg. He’s the author of Find the Helpers and the father of Jaime Guttenberg who was murdered in the mass school shooting in Parkland, FL. I remember reading his book in horror of what it would feel like to know your kids were in this kind of horrific situation. I felt tremendous empathy for the families, faculty, kids, and community. Yet, running from the gun was never my experience, so I had no idea on how truly horrifying it was to run and not know what will come next. I still don’t know what it would be like to actually be in a situation where lives are lost, but so many people do. I have tremendous empathy for them.

Living life from a loving place doesn’t mean that I’m not going to experience traumatic events or have to go through challenging times. It doesn’t mean I won’t face feelings of pain, fear, panic, anger, sadness, or grief. I’m human and all these feelings are apart of the human experience. What I have figured out along the way is that even when I feel these feelings that aren’t always pretty, I can embrace them with love. I can allow the feelings to add to my ability to feel compassion and empathy for others. I know what running from the feelings does, and I know that I rather find healthy ways to process things than allow the shoved down feelings space to turn into psychosis, disease, and/or addiction. I will keep choosing to show up and see each experience as an opportunity to be a better and healthier human.

I don’t want any human’s experience to be running from the gun, but if that is their experience, I want to make sure I’m contributing to helping them find healthy ways to process the experience so that it doesn’t take them down long after the experience is over. I want survivors of the experience to feel empowered to do good in the world and keep choosing to live. Thankfully, trauma therapies have come along way since I was a teen. I have tried, read, and studied many different approaches including traditional, new-age, spiritual, and physical. Some are free and others are expensive, but one thing I know is when I sincerely ask for help and am open to allow that help to reveal itself, I get the help I need 100% of the time. I just have to be willing to stay out of my own way, which means no running, numbing, ignoring, or suppressing what is really going on inside of me. Finding ways to process challenging situations gives me the ability to show up for others in the healthiest way possible, and THAT is what I want. That is what I’m doing here. I’m sharing part of my process with you.

To all the people who have had to run from gun, I’m truly sorry that you had to go through the experience. I’m grateful you are here today. I pray for all the families, communities, and friends of those who didn’t survive the run.

These are my personal perspectives. Each person has a right to feel how they feel and experience events in whatever way they do. This experience is what is true for me. Living from a loving place is what helps me find peace, love, and abundance in this life, and it’s how I choose to live. No one has to agree with how I choose to live my life, but if how I live my life helps others, I celebrate being able to contribute to someone feeling inspired or empowered to grow from each experience no matter how challenging those experiences are. I debated whether or not to write this, but I kept getting called back to the page. Thank you for reading.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

Heart Wisdom Panel: Fabulous Females

On September 1, 2021, I was blessed to be the guest facilitator on Mango Publishing’s Heart Wisdom Panel. Sherry Richert Belul is the regular facilitator and she is AMAZING. When she asked me to fill in for a panel on Fabulous Females, there was NO WAY I was going to refuse. With everything going on in the world, I wanted to read about inspiring women. I had NO idea what I was going to experience when I start reading the books by the author’s on the panel. With not a lot of time before the panel, my plan was to skim through both books. I’m so grateful that I didn’t.

I started with Shelly Rachanow’s book, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done (See Shelly’s works by clicking on the title). There were so many stories of women and communities of women who either have gone or go out and persevere without any excuses. I knew I wouldn’t be skimming the book when I read,

Within each of us lies the strength and courage to make a difference in this world. It’s my hope that these stories inspire and ignite a spark within you to contribute in whatever way you can and join the chorus of women’s rights around the world.

Shelly Rachanow, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done, Mango Publishing, pg. 17)

Our voices, actions, and responses matter. Each story drove that point home time and time again. I read the whole entire book in one sitting. I’m so grateful that I was introduced to so many amazing women in this book.

Next up, Marlene Wagman-Geller’s book, Unabashed Women: The Fascinating Biographies of Bad Girls, Seductresses, Rebels, and One-of-a-Kind Women (See Marlene’s works by clicking on the title). Reading these mini-biographies helped me to see the wholeness of who we are as humans. What I loved about these stories was getting a taste of these women’s journeys through the good, the bad, and the ugly. It served as a reminder that we each have our own journeys, but there are likenesses in each of our stories that can help us see the human in each other. I knew many of the people discussed in this book by name, but I was fascinated by the details and realness that Marlene brought to their stories. I read her book in two-days (It’s over 300 pages).

Needless to say after reading both these books I was beyond excited to get the chance to speak with these amazing women. They did not disappoint! You can see our fascinating conversation in the link below. I hope that you feel as inspired as I did! I can’t wait to read the rest of their works!

I’m so grateful to Mango Publishing and Sherry Richert Belul for doing these amazing Heart Wisdom Panels every Wednesday at 1:30PM PDT/ 4:30PM EDT on Zoom. If you would like to learn more about these panels go to Facebook.com/MangoPublishing to watch replays and see upcoming topics and guests.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Taking Responsibility for Contributing to the Collective

I’m taking responsibility for what I’m contributing to the collective. I’m not responsible for what anyone else is doing. I’m serving my highest good when I’m aligned with energy of love, abundance, and peace. It’s not just about the actions I take, but it’s the energy, thoughts, and beliefs I put into those actions. If I do things from the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I’m contributing more fear, lack, and separation to the collective—EVEN IF my actions are what others think will benefit the collective.

What I’ve discovered in the last year of doing the Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace (click to read more) blog series is that doing things for the wrong reasons, which is out of fear, lack, and separation doesn’t serve anybody. The same action can be taken by two people, one out of fear and the other out of love. The one that comes from love is the one that serves the collective in the best way possible. The one that comes out of fear still contributes to the collective of fear. I’ve seen this in the world and within myself over and over. I’ve come to the conclusion that if I truly want to contribute to the collective energy of love, abundance, and peace, I have to take responsibility for when I’m not doing that. I have to watch where my thoughts, beliefs, and energy are going.

I’ve watched myself struggle through some very dark perspectives that have led me to take actions. Even though the ACTIONS were positive, the energy I was contributing to them wasn’t. I was in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and as much as the steps could be good for the whole, my energy wasn’t so I was still contributing to more fear, lack, and separation. It took me a long time to figure out the impact of this on myself and others.

Even now, I’m raising two teenagers whose experiences can help me see where I’m holding onto emotional pain from when I was a teen. I’ve seen myself react out of fear of them repeating patterns. I’m still actively trying to navigate not letting my actions be out of fear while helping them work their ways through this time. I keep repeating to myself, “I’m giving them seeds, they have to choose if they are going to plant them.” I remind myself that they will have to experience what is necessary for their own paths. I have no control over that. The best I can do is guide them by aligning my own energy, because then I know I’m serving them the best I can. I’m responsible for what I contribute to their journeys and that’s it.

When I take responsibility for what I contribute to the collective, it means that I’m going inside to keep myself in check. It’s not about if people agree with my perspectives, choices, and actions. If I know that my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace, the choices I’m making are serving the highest good for the collective. If I’m aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I take responsibility for that and do my best to figure out how stop contributing to that energy in this moment. THIS MOMENT is the only place I can make choices to do better.

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me

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What Story Do You Want to Write About Your Life?

Stop giving your power away. Start writing your own story. No one else can write it for you. I’m not telling you what to do. This is how I talk to myself. What story do you want to write about your life? That is the question I ask when the stories that I’m telling and recirculating in my head about my life are causing me suffering. One of the ways I create my own suffering is by giving my power away!! Every time I blame someone else for where my head is, I’ve given my power away. I CANNOT CONTROL OTHERS, and I CANNOT control how events fall into place. Why pretend? I do have the reigns on how I CHOOSE to write the story in my head and how I tell it to the people around me. I choose the energy I give to my stories and whether those stories align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation.

I have absolutely NO CONTROL over what someone else does, thinks, says, believes, or is. Me making my story about someone else is me giving my power away. I become the victim of my circumstances, others, and even my own mind when I try to make how I live inside about a reaction to other things.

What story do you want to write about your life?

When I ask myself this question, it give me the power to take the pen in my hand and write my own story. No one else has to change who they are. I can make different choices with the people in my life. I can create healthy boundaries where they are necessary. I can walk away when that is what is best for my story. I can live my life from a loving place even if I don’t agree with other’s thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, or story about me. My mom taught me early on that what people think of me isn’t my business. It’s what I think of myself that I can do something about. I will keep writing my story one moment at a time. I will keep writing myself healthier, stronger, braver, and wiser.

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback

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A New Story

Take a breath and release what is causing your mind to suffer. Tell yourself a new story. We consciously or unconsciously tell ourselves stories that cause us to suffer or celebrate, to live in lack or abundance, to love or fear, and to embrace peace or separation within our own minds. It doesn’t matter what stories other people are telling themselves, we are only ever responsible and accountable for our own stories. What do you want yours to be for this moment?

When we keep the question in the present moment, we get the opportunity to make the unconscious—conscious. We allow ourselves to see the stories we are telling ourselves in this moment, and we give ourselves the freedom to change any part of the story that is not serving our highest good—If that is what we CHOOSE to do.

Circumstances don’t have to change in order for us to change our story. Here’s an example, my car window fell off it’s track or broke in some way. I told myself a story that was causing me to suffer. Then I stopped, took a breath, and told myself a new story that helped me to exhale with a feeling of peace and abundance. My window is still broken. I still have to figure out how to get it fixed, but I’m no longer suffering in my story of it.

I love that I was able to see the story I was telling myself and how I could let the story spin out of control if I let it go unnoticed. I love knowing I don’t have to tell myself ANY story that is causing me to suffer if I don’t want to. That FEELS like a beautiful miracle to me since I once believed that I had NO CHOICE. I felt doomed to live a life of suffering. I love that I was wrong!

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback — Click title to learn more

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In Case You Missed It: Here’s What’s been Going on

In case you missed what’s been going on, here’s what I’ve been doing…

Guest Facilitator on the Heart Wisdom Panel—Fabulous Females (Sept. 1, 2021)

365-Day Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace

On FromALovingPlace.com, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn I’ve spent the last 365 days focusing my energy on daily aligning with love, abundance, and peace. It has been an amazing journey, and the shifts in my life have been incredibly rewarding along the way. If you would like to see where the journey takes you, you can search “Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace” on home page—Click here for category search. You can also find them all on Twitter, Facebook.com/LettersfromabetterMe, or LinkedIn.

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This is my on-going project of contributing to Love on social media. The Facebook page now has over 9.6K followers and growing daily. I love being a part of spreading love on social media.

YouTube Channel

I have some videos available here (click to go to channel) and will keep posting when I feel inspired. You can also search “Letters from a Better Me” on YouTube. Here is one of the videos I created:

Beyond Talking Points Interview (July 12, 2021)

Polly Campbell, Simply Said Podcast Interview Episode 113 (May 18, 2021)

Nita Sweeney Author Interview (April 2021)

https://nitasweeney.com/2021/04/author-interview-rachael-wolff/

Heart Wisdom for Challenging Times (March 2021)

Postcards from the Universe with Melisa Caprio (Dec 2020)

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With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

Beyond Talking point author Interview with Rachael Wolff

Bridgitte Jackson-Buckley, owner of Little Visioneers bookstore, asked me to be her special guest on her Beyond Talking Points video podcast series. I was so grateful for the opportunity to have this important conversation about forgiveness and so much more.

Beyond Talking Points: Forgiveness and Affirmative Letter Writing with Author Rachael Wolff

You can also find the interview at: https://www.littlevisioneers.com/podcast

We had such a beautiful conversation! I hope you enjoy!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #273

I’m grateful for how perspectives change, shift, and expand.  The best thing I ever did for myself and my mental health is to understand that my thoughts, beliefs, and ideas are just perspectives. They are my perspectives and seeing them as perspectives gives me space to see and listen to other people’s perspectives with an open mind. I am open to see if my perspectives are serving the highest good or if they are keeping me prisoner to chaos and drama. If I get too involved in my story, I just want to be right.  Insisting on being right isn’t love, so if I want to be living from a loving place, I have to question perspectives that go against what love is. This is why I love how perspectives change, shift, and expand, because there is always a different way to perceive something. If the way I’m choosing to perceive what is going on isn’t serving me, I don’t HAVE to look at it the way I’m choosing to. If something isn’t serving me, it’s not serving the highest good for others, because LOVE always serves the highest good, and what isn’t LOVE doesn’t serve me. 

Confusing love with other things doesn’t serve me either, which is why I have the definition of love posted multiple places around me. If you’ve been following this blog or this series, I talk about the definition a lot, because having that definition at the core helps me decide when I’m thinking, acting, writing, and speaking from a loving place and when I’m not. Reading so many books truly helps me keep my mind open to all kinds of perspectives. I’m amazed in the interesting ways others see and live in the world. Other people’s experiences help me to gain clarity on what it is I want for my own life. I don’t have to agree, like, or want something for my life, and I still can connect with someone in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Some of these actually help me to really expand my perspectives in ways I never thought about before.

Today, I commit to appreciating changing, shifting, and expanding perspectives.  I’m so grateful to get the opportunity to explore different perspectives. I’ve watched so many of my perspectives change, shift and expand over the last four decades. When things are going well, I’ve learned to read a lot books. These are the times where I feel REALLY open to be inspired. Then there are those times that are a lot more challenging.  I’ve noticed some things to help me there too.

I can still CHOOSE to be moody, grumpy, edgy, etc. Those times give me the opportunity to look within and see what isn’t working in my thinking and believing. I know when I’m tired; I don’t always make the best choices in my perspectives. I can get defensive quickly. If I add hungry to that, watch out.  Hunger feeds my story. Knowing these things keeps me open to tips on how to make sure I get enough sleep and eat regularly. When I’m feeling hormonal, which I have learned to spot, I know that is another time I’m going to be more apt for my perspectives to lean towards a story that provides a little more chaos, so I really do my best to repeat, “How is this story serving me?” That question is a reminder that I’m choosing perspectives that are keeping me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I have found that physical movement like stretching, dancing, cardio exercise, and other physical excursion can definitely help me re-align my perspectives. When I do that, I’m open to change, shift, and expand in a way that is serving the highest good. The movement is LITERALLY moving around blocked energy, and give me space to take my focus away from my story.

BREATHING is a really powerful tool and so under appreciated. Simply paying attention to my breath helps ground me in what I’m feeling, which helps separate painful feelings from the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I can do this, I simply look at the feeling and imagine that feeling is being embraced by angel wings (which is for me means love), then I breathe through it. Once I see and hold the feeling with clarity, I can release it. I know if it worked by watching how my perspectives shift.

Today, I’m definitely celebrating my ability to appreciate this, because it changed my life. It continues to change my life daily!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World -Find a list of on-line book retailers by clicking the title. It’s available in audio, ebook, and paperback.

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #250

I’m grateful for ALL my experiences. I can say that with utmost confidence. I am grateful for it ALL. There were some experiences that I didn’t think I would make it through. At the time, there we some I wished I didn’t make it through. There were some I saw as bad, but now I see them as my greatest teachers. I’ve been hurt and I’ve hurt others. I’ve felt fear, lack, separation, grief, rage, anger, shame, frustration, and despair. I’ve also felt love, abundance, peace, happiness, joy, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, and AWE. Each experience teaches me more about what it means to be alive.

People tell me things they can’t do because they have had different experiences. They have told me how they can’t forgive, they can’t live from a loving place, they can’t be grateful, and on and on. My experiences tell me I can forgive, I can live from a loving place, and I can be grateful for it all. What happened in my past doesn’t HAVE to weigh me down in this moment or any future moments if I CHOOSE for it not to. Just like others will make their choice to stay in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I will choose to rise up in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I’m no better or less than any other human, I’m just making a choice that is best for me. I will not be the prisoner of my story by holding on to the fear, lack, and separation.

None of us are perfect people with perfect lives. Our experiences allow us to feel all the emotions that are available to us. Knowing these emotions is a connection to our souls and the souls of every person on this planet. When we get beyond our STORIES, we can be present to all the feelings that come with being alive. We can connect to ourselves and others on a much deeper level—the soul level. When we get to experience each other’s souls, no distance and time exists. We become one, the way we were meant to be.

All my experiences helped me find my path home to the soul. My life is filled beyond measure with levels of love, abundance, and peace in the knowing that I can be free as long as I keep choosing to be free. No matter where I live, what I do, what is done to me, no one can ever tell me what I can and cannot be on a SOUL level. My soul is my power source.

I’m grateful for all the humans who have mastered this. If we look throughout history we can find many stories of individuals who managed to live fully and with purpose despite being tortured, raped, starved, and shoved down time and time again. In my studies, I’ve found one common thread through it all, and that is love. Love is the soul’s language. When we want to connect to the soul and to the soul of another, we have to first EXPERIENCE love fully within ourselves. If we don’t, it’s tainted. We will get back what we put out. All the unhealed parts of us will be reflected back to us in others. For me, that in itself was enough reason for me to do the work to get to the place where I let go of the trauma in my stories and transmute them into the energy of love and connection.

Today, I commit to being in gratitude for ALL my experiences. Some experiences are easy to say I’m grateful for and others take work. Sometimes it takes writing letters of forgiveness to myself and others. Sometimes it takes really investigating how I keep my stories of experiences alive. There are times I need help from friends and/or professionals. Whatever the case may be, it’s always worth the work to let go of stories of the past that are keeping me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I can’t do that if I’m not willing to look at the experiences life has offered me with a new perspective lens.

Being grateful for all my experiences has helped me to see the the power of the stories we tell ourselves. I’ve seen how they can help and/or destroy relationships with others. I’ve seen how they can encourage or diminish goals and dreams. Whatever we convince ourselves IS, so it is so important to be conscious of the stories we are telling ourselves about our experiences. How I see my own experiences is mine. It doesn’t matter how others view them. I’ve got a couple in your face lessons about this. First was as a rape survivor when people would tell me how I was going to feel and carry my experience with me. If I listened to them, I would still be living as an active victim today. I also got to look at it by living with a narcissist and watching how he used my story against me time after time. When I changed my story, I took his power over me away with it. That was an amazing experience of empowerment. I’m grateful for the experience of being in that relationship and the experience of growing out of that relationship. That is the power of inward journey to the soul. Both experiences empowered me in the best of ways, how can I not be grateful for them?

Do you still have stories that are keeping you prisoner? Do you want to find your freedom from them? If both answers are yes, you just took the first step. One of the things that helps me is to write out the stories I’m telling myself. I look at all the ways the story is keeping me aligned with fear, lack, and separation. Then I look at how holding onto the story is being reflected back to me with any existing chaos in my life. Then I start thinking about better and more productive stories that align me with the energy of love, abundance, and peace instead. The Universe starts working with me to help me release the old and bring in the new. People, books, articles, events, etc. all start showing up to help me find my path to freedom. It’s a process. For deeper wounds, this may take some time with some professional help. There may be some tapping, EMDR, cord-cutting meditations, amongst other things involved. The key is to show up and be open to what is revealed to help you heal and return to the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021