Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #19

In order to align ourselves with love, abundance, and peace we have to stop taking what other people say and do personally. If their energy is aligned with fear, lack, and separation, that is what they will project onto whoever will listen and/or align with their energy. My mom has been telling me, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you” since I was thirteen years old. What people think of us and others is based on what beliefs (perspectives of truth) they are attaching to within themselves and the SAME is true for us. We have choices in how we respond to others through acquiring new ways to look at things and that is something to be VERY grateful for.

I have a choice to internalize what someone says, or I can be grateful that I can come up with other ways to look at it that trigger my compassion. The things I choose don’t have to be true for someone else, I’m only responsible and accountable for how my thoughts make me feel and what energy I project out. If it helps me feel better by not taking it personally and seeing other possibilities that help me to align me with love, abundance, and peace—I’m okay with that. I’m grateful for my choice Not to take others personally by seeing seeing these options in perspectives instead:

  • Others are only every projecting what is inside them.
  • Someone who says hurtful things to others is really saying those things to themselves (They are their own mirror).
  • Some people who are supporting abusive people or are abusive see abuse as normal, so they don’t even see what they or another person are doing doing as abusive. Possibly because they have been abusing themselves on an unconscious level or they have suppressed verbal, mental, emotional or physical abuse from someone else it’s not my job to CHANGE them, just be aware that I don’t have to align or agree with any energy I don’t want to be apart of and make the healthiest choice for me and my energy.

Today’s challenge is one I love doing as I scroll social media looking at posts and comments. I choose to see what anyone is saying and doing as a projection of what is going on inside of them.I love figuring out if a person is coming from a place of love, abundance, and peace OR fear, lack, and separation. Focusing my energy on seeing through this lens also helps me to look at what I’m saying and doing more clearly.

If someone in my family or any of my other relationships interacts with me in any other way than loving, respectful, and considerate, I take my ego out of it (making how they are acting about me), and try to ask questions that help me to see what is going on inside of them. I find questions are so much more productive than any statements I make, not saying I don’t do it sometimes (LOL). I find that making statements doesn’t tend to get me to the heart of the issue, and it also doesn’t help the person I care about figure out why they are projecting their energy of fear, lack, and separation onto me. I really hope you will try today’s challenge and see what a difference it makes in your energy. I get a natural high when I do it, which is how I know my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #3

I’m so excited to be keeping my energy aligned, I know I need it. My head is so much clearer when I make sure I’m aligned. I have more energy, I eat better, I communicate better, and I serve better. Those are just a few of the benefits. If you missed the original post about these daily exercises, you can find it here.

What are you going to do today to align yourself with the energy of love, abundance, and peace instead of fear, lack, and separation? While you are sitting here reading this, If you are having a hard day, try thinking in as simple of terms as possible. It could be that there is a roof over your head, breathable air, comfortable shoes, etc. Make sure to write it down. It can be on your phone, in a notebook, to me, to a friend, etc.

Really commit to doing three things. They don’t even have to be big. I can be something like drinking 64oz of water, writing in a journal, eating healthy, exercises, taking a walk, reading (personal growth, spiritual, etc.) praying, meditating, watching an inspirational Ted Talk, dance, etc. Whatever it takes to move your energy in the direction of inner peace. Remember, we can’t project peace to our relationships or the world unless we are carrying it inside of us. One of our greatest challenges can be re-wiring how we treat ourselves, but nothing is going to change if we don’t. Make sure you are only saying kind and compassionate things to yourself.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with love, Abundance, and Peace #2

Welcome to day 2 of the journey of daily alignment with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. This journey is about being responsible and accountable for the energy we are putting out in the world. You can start at any point you want. The important part is that we write it down and commit to becoming apart of the shift we want to see in the world. Each moment we choose to live in love, abundance, and peace OR fear, lack, and separation. Wherever we ALLOW our energy to be is what we project to the world. For more details about this journey you can find them here.

To align with abundance, we are focusing on the blessings in life. We each contribute beautiful qualities to the world that have the ability to make the world a better place. Today, the focus is on what three beautiful qualities we are so grateful we have to share with the world.

Maintaining our energy is a daily practice. If we want to be aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, we have to commit to taking care of ourselves body, mind, and soul. Holding ourselves accountable for our self-care and self-love are two very important parts of brightening our own lights. The brighter we shine inside, the more light others will feel. It’s not about what we say, it’s about what we actually project out to the world in our thoughts, perspectives of truth (beliefs), actions, and reactions. We have to love and nurture ourselves, to be able shine love, abundance, and peace to the world.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

HATE is HATE. LOVE is LOVE!

I’ve been listening and observing to what is going on in me and the world around me. These are my perspectives on what I’m seeing. Hate, no matter where it is aimed, is still hate. I can see this in every area: race, gender, religion, intimate relationships, familial relationships, workplace, law enforcement, politics, economics, sexual preferences, community, the list goes on. Hate is hate! 

Hate divides, separates, and causes horrible devastation wherever it touches. Hate destroys the person who is feeling it too. Think of the way our bodies respond to hate in just one day. Now, imagine that hate festering inside you for months, decades, and centuries. When we project out hate, it often lands on the people closest to us. Hate destroys relationships, communities, countries, and the environment. 

Love is love. Love opens people’s ability to see a person behind the category or title (including ourselves). Love allows space for connection, compassion, and forgiveness. No group, category, or label own love. Love can be felt by any individual who is willing to be vulnerable enough to look in the mirror and embrace their own beautiful being. Love is the purest light within in our souls. The path to seeing love lies within us, and we only can project out unconditionally (which is the only authentic love) when we see and love ourselves. We have to know love from the inside in order to see and recognize it in someone else. Love is a gift that keeps on giving. We sabotage anything we don’t feel worthy of. We have to know we are WORTHY of love by giving it to ourselves. If we depend on the outside world to give us love, when that love goes wrong it can quickly turn to hate because that love isn’t coming from a solid foundation. Love is solid when it comes from within.

Hate suffocates love. When I see people lost in their hate, I feel for them. I have compassion for them. I pray for them. Their hate doesn’t dampen my love. If I feel like I am taking on their energy, I have to remember that I am responsible and accountable for the energy inside me. If I’m that person projecting hate, I pray for me, and feel compassion for me. If I don’t want hate inside me, I have to do the work to return my energy to love. That can mean:

  • Set healthy boundaries for myself
  • Stop watching, following, and engaging in things that trigger feelings of hate
  • Remove myself from a person’s life if their energy feels dangerous to my well-being
  • Seeking justice by reporting wrong-doing even if it is within a group I am connected with
  • Meditate more to restore my sense of calm
  • Write out my feelings fully to be able to see them and work through them
  • Find a professional or a HEALTHY person/group to talk to who will help me move away from the feelings of hate
  • Remove myself from groups that amplify the energy of hate
  • Find a physical outlet to work through hate and/or rage’s physical hold on my body (swimming, punching bags, trampoline, running, lifting weights, basketball, “Dammit dolls”, punching pillows, martial arts, etc.)
  • Take deep breaths in and fully release them, because we hold our breaths when our energy is tensed up. That is NOT good for our brain or body function.

If my energy is attached to the hate in anyway, it becomes my problem. It is my job to fix whatever is inside of me that is not aligned with how I want to be living. It is my responsibility ALONE to change the energy that is moving through me. My life and the lives of the people I love are going to be affected by the energy I’m carrying around with me.

Even with all I’m aware of, studied, observed and practiced, I’m not perfect. I still have to do the work and be reminded that I’m responsible and accountable for the energy that moves through me. I still have conversations with my kids that involve how they saw something I did or said differently than what was intended. That is within my own home!! Let that serve as a reminder. People will only ever see us through their perspectives of truth (beliefs). We will only ever see others through our perspectives of truth. The question is: How do you want to see yourself and the world around you? Choose perspectives of truth that define how you want to live your life. Love is a CHOICE! Hate is a CHOICE! If someone else chooses to hate, that is on them. I know their is a lot of love in the world. I want to amplify and align with that energy, because that CHOICE feels ABSOLUTELY AWESOME to me.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff

Author of Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World
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Unity is in Our Humanity

Sometimes we just need to listen. When we see each other’s humanity, we stop hating what we don’t understand. We tell our stories from our own personal experiences. Each person’s story is important, because they are our truths. When we realize that a person is speaking based on their own personal truths, we understand that we didn’t live their experiences, so we may not have the same truths. It doesn’t make one more or less real than the other person’s truths. Our truths are all perspectives. We make them our reality by believing them. We can’t help others if we first don’t listen to the truths that they are believing about themselves and about others.

When we look deeper, we see beyond the categories and labels. We see the pain, joy, sadness, trauma, happiness, fear, and love within each other.

When we connect there, we unite.

We become vulnerable as the storytellers and as the listeners. We start healing, growing, and expanding. We see that each of us have the ability to change perspectives of truth, beliefs, and thoughts that are no longer working for the life we want for OURSELVES. We can’t change anyone else. We can make choices that will help us live better with ourselves and others. It’s all in how we decide to write and tell our stories.

Successful memoir writers and biographers are masterful at bringing us on a journey of connecting through story. Think of all the stories that have helped you connect to yourself and others. Right now there are so many people offering their stories on Facebook Lives amongst other venues.

I’ve learned so much about where individuals are and how they feel. I sometimes have to look past their rage, because that is the symptom of the pain that is so much deeper. Rage surfaces from unhealed parts of us that become triggered by circumstances, events, others, and even our own self-abuse. I can clearly see if a person’s perspective is from a loving place or a fear-based place. They project whichever one they are living from even when the words are not matching up with the energy they are projecting out.

We don’t have to agree with other people’s actions or views, but if we want UNITY, we have to first see the humanity in each other. Back in 6th century B.C., Greek storyteller Aesop said “United we stand, divided we fall.” We’ve seen and heard these words uttered over and over across categories, titles, genres, and venues. If we want to unite, we can’t just want to see things from our point of view and expect the the rest of the world to fall into place. Unity is in our humanity. It is the ONLY part of us that will experience the same things despite our differences. In our humanity we feel love, fear, joy, hurt, happiness, sadness, encouragement, disappointment, etc. No person’s money, religion, country, politics, race, gender, or sexual preference matter if we connect through what makes us human…LISTEN!

There are so many layers to this. This is just a small piece of a very big UNITED puzzle. But without seeing each other’s humanity, we won’t complete the puzzle. There will continue to be a missing a piece. We will never ALL believe and see the world the same way, so if you depend on that for unity, you will only ever find it in small groups which will keep you divided.

The beauty I’ve found living from a loving place is that I don’t have to agree with people’s beliefs on ANY subject and still see their value. The lessons I’ve learned from other people’s cruelty don’t strip me from seeing their humanity. I see the mentally unhealthy person, and know that it’s not safe or healthy for me to be around them, but I still learn from their story about the dangers of living life through the perspectives of truth that they believe. I see how miserable their perspectives have made them and how it’s hurt their relationships with others. Seeing that person’s humanity helps me to see my own darkness and work on shining light in areas that can easily turn dark if they go unchecked.

If I’m triggered with fear, anger, rage, or hate, I see what parts of me I need to spend time with to heal, so that I don’t project my darkness out to the world and hurt someone else. I don’t ALWAYS do this perfectly, because that is not what the human experience is about. The human experience is about learning. How can I learn if I’m not willing to listen? So, even in my differences with others who want to live from a fear-based place, I still can find a place to unite, grow, and learn. I cannot unite the world, but I can feel united with the world, and I do.

We have arrived at a point in time where we have the ability to listen to people’s stories first hand from all different corners of the world. We have the ability to learn about people’s truths that our different than ours while being safe in our own homes.

If you are looking to try to learn from truths that are different than yours, I suggested doing a meditation first. This helps me to really try to listen to the person’s story and learn from it. I pay close attention to the feelings that are running through me as I listen and see where my thoughts go. I find feelings I’m united in even if they are coming from different perspectives. I listen to hear if their perspective is coming from love or fear. I LOVE when I find people’s stories who are coming from a different way of seeing the world from a loving perspective. Those stories make my soul sing and my heart soar. The love within me expands so much more when I find voices united from loving perspectives. I don’t know if this will be true for you, but when I hear people speaking from fear-based perspectives, I feel so incredibly grateful that I learned a different way of living. Listening to them reminds me of where I once was and how much I’ve grown. Seeing their humanity strengthens my conviction on the way I’ve CHOSEN to live.

I know I need the reminder that unity is in our humanity, because sometimes it’s easy getting stuck in the chaos of what is keeping us divided. When I’m there, it hurts. I feel anxious, disconnected, confused, angry, and sometimes even vengeful if all of that goes unchecked. I know what I need to do to bring me back to peace, and writing these words right now is a part of that process. Thank you for being a part of my journey.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2020
Author of Letters from A Better Me
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I Can’t Change You, You Can’t Change Me

My beliefs have never been changed by force. Each perspective of truth (belief) I’ve changed in my life has been based on if that belief serves the person I want to be and how I want to serve others. When I was younger, I didn’t consciously see my choice in how I viewed myself and the world around me.

Certain beliefs made me feel tense, angry, and rage-filled. When I would think about the thought/belief, my whole energy shifted and I often would feel sick and depleted. It took me a VERY long time and a whole lot of seeds from other people that got me to see I was making choices in my perspectives that were holding me back and keeping me prisoner.

There were some so deeply imbedded that it took voices from the Holocaust like, Viktor Frankl & Elie Weisel. Along with people like, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, Byron Katie, and stories about Jesus and Siddhartha to help me see that I didn’t HAVE to continue to feel this inner world of pain. Those people were just the tip of the iceberg. I’ve talked to millions of people throughout my life. I read thousands of books. Nobody changed me, but I got the seeds and made choices on what to plant in my internal garden.

When I was young, I thought the world was against me. That belief didn’t feel good to me, because I can’t control how anyone else views me. 

What I do have power over is how I view and treat myself and how I treat others.

If I’m believing something that makes me feel like a prisoner of my perspective, I work on changing that. I found that EVERY time I engage in a perspective based out of fear, I feel like I’m a prisoner. Here is an example of another change I made:

I used to feel like a prisoner when other people would judge me based on a category/title they gave me or that I am naturally.

I changed my perspective to the understanding that people are going to judge me from their own perspectives of truth. That has nothing to do with who I AM. I know if someone speaks to me in a category of ALL: all women, all trauma victims, all white women, etc. that person won’t come close to seeing me, a person is only ever looking at me through their own perspectives of truth. If they want to lump me in an ALL category— That is their loss.

I love and respect myself. I take responsibility and accountability for my thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions.

IN THAT ENERGY, I FEEL FREE. In that freedom, I attract amazing people to my life from different genders, races, cultures, religious followings, political backgrounds, economic statuses, and so much more.The more open I stay, the more I change and grow. Not by force, by choice and action.

Though, no one else changed me, I didn’t change on my own. I got the opportunities to SEE through different perspectives. I got the tools to change. I could only do that by being open to listen to ALL different perspectives to see what fit and what didn’t based on the place I wanted to live from, which is FROM A LOVING PLACE. I’ve disagreed with many of people along the way who tried telling me how I “had to” or “should” think. I know that is part of their journey. I don’t have to make it mine.

I know from my education in science, religion, psychology, spirituality, and personal growth, I can’t project out what I don’t already have inside. If I wanted to live from a loving place, I had to love myself FIRST. I had to experience love from the source of self to even know what I was projecting out to the world. I had to find the voices of leadership through love and not fear.

I can’t make anyone else change, but I will do my best to project the energy that I want to see more of in the world. I will do my best to give the people who want to listen the same opportunities I got. I will listen to the voices of the unheard, and learn and grow from them.

I will keep choosing to do my best to contribute to LOVE in my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions towards myself and others. You do you! I will be here to representing my perspectives of truth FROM A LOVING PLACE.

With Love, Gratitude, and Compassion, 

Rachael Wolff
Author of Letters from A Better Me
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What is True about Choices?

If you convince yourself you don’t have choices, you will CHOOSE to believe that is true.

If you convince yourself you ALWAYS have choices, you will CHOOSe to believe that is true.

I know which perspective I’m going to choose! Now, you get to choose for you.

Choices of Perspective

I’ve chosen both of these perspectives at different times in my life. One kept me a prisoner and held me under water. The other set me free. I refuse to believe I don’t have choices in how I view things. The perspectives I choose keep me from feeling trapped in any ONE thought or belief system. I LOVE THAT! I CAN CHANGE. I CAN tell others what has worked for me and what hasn’t. In the end, we each get the OPTION to believe whatever we focus our attention on. We will find ways to prove either side. Our perceptions of reality will ensure that. It all starts and ends within. 

I’ve made my choice to live by the voice that fuels the LOVE inside me. You can choose to tell me that is not possible in your life, and you will be right if that is what you believe to be true. 

I believed I was prisoner of my circumstances. NO ONE could convince me otherwise until I was ready to open myself up to see another way. That was and is my path to A BETTER ME.

With Love and Gratitude, 

© Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters From A Better Me
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Letters to Corona: Part 2

Dear Corona,

Tick-tock, tick-tock; time.  Until you, I never noticed time the way I do now. I notice the time I waste and the time I unconsciously give away. I notice the power of the time I commit to myself and the people I love. I notice the importance of time we give to slow you down from touching the lives you will put in the ground. 

There is a power that comes from the time I’ve been blessed with, like the stem that sprouts buds then becomes flowers that inspire such beauty, and the caterpillar that take the journey through the stillness of the chrysalis to become the empowered butterfly—Time MATTERS! 

You have given me time while others have had to learn what it means to truly lose time. The time we think we have to say I love you. The time we think we have to connect—the time to say goodbye. Your lessons have showed me the importance of the time I have. Now it’s my job to make conscious choices of how I want to experience my time moment to moment­­.

I sit in the grass appreciating nature, the power of energy, and the connectedness of it all. I walk the road less travelled and am moved by how in silence I hear more, listen more, and take in more. 

When I’m home, I love with a clearer mind. I eat without the rush of having somewhere else to be. I listen with my whole heart, through the sadness, fear, joy, and love—I’m here.

Corona, you have changed my life in so many ways. I know I could focus on all the things you have taken away, but today I’m focusing on the time you’ve given me to live consciously.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

© Rachael Wolff 2020

Letters to Corona: Part 1

Dear Corona,

When I started hearing how you were making it hard to breathe to the point where some are losing their lives, I wanted to blame you. When I heard how easy you were to spread, I wanted to blame you. When I heard that people were having to die alone and their families would never get to see their loved ones again, I wanted to blame you. 

Looking at you has opened my eyes to something so much bigger, and for that I thank you. You being here has helped me to see the ways many of us haven’t been putting humanity first. If we did, you wouldn’t have spread the way you have.  

I know I can’t go back, but what I can do is commit to be better from here. I can be more conscious of how I treat myself and others. I can look for ways my skills can help to make today a better day. I can do my part to stop allowing you to spread. 

I know that your presence has changed the world. I also know it’s up to humanity to make that change for better or for worse. I want to do my part so that all the people who have and will lose their lives will live on through the positive changes we choose to make starting now. 

My job is not to blame anyone for being where we are right now, but to hold myself responsible and accountable for my choices. I can only do this by taking this time you’ve given me to go within and pay attention to where I’m putting my energy. What changes do I want to see in myself and the world around me, AND what can I do about it? I will do better one choice at a time. 

I know that I want to see humanity rise up, so I will commit to RISE. I will be the best version of myself by putting my energy into what I can change, and that is me.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Virtual Book Tour: Letters From A Better Me

How Quickly Plans Change

As you can probably imagine, my book tour was cancelled due to COVID-19 coronavirus. I get it, and I want to do my part by staying home so that healthcare workers can do their best and hopefully get a break in the near future. I will tell you, I have become very aware of how much I use my hands and how many people touch the same things I do. I’m sure like many others, my hands are cleaned to the verge of cracking, so I added a 20 second lotion ritual to my 30 second hand washing ritual.

Doing My Part

Since my book can actually help people through these challenging times, I REALLY wanted to find a way to get Letters from A Better Me out into the world. Perspective can definitely be what empowers us or keeps us prisoner right now, and Letters is all about becoming aware of where our perspectives are taking us and how to make sure they are aligned with the life we actually want to be living. This is CRITICAL in times like we are in right now.

Virtual Book Tour

I decided to make a series of videos which will include readings, practices, and tools from the book. You are welcome to ask questions and contact me here or in the comments below. Don’t forget to follow the blog via e-mail so that you will be able to see the latest videos.

When we go within, we empower ourselves to make the best choices and stay conscious and calm while doing what is best for ourselves, our families, our community, our country, and our world. I hope you will join me on this journey and make the choice to rise together. I’m committed to find the blessings and lessons that will make me a better human. Embrace the journey, because we are about to do deep!

Letter from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

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With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020