Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #30

“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”

Deepak Chopra

When I’m emotionally triggered, I have to be VERY careful around this truth. I have to remind myself that what I project out comes back. I’m only responsible and accountable for the the energy I’m putting out there. If I realize I’ve been blaming, I take the time to stop and look inward, but I don’t self-blame. I just notice where my energy is off in the situation and do what I can to fix the problem. It might mean I have to go back to people I was blaming and criticizing with and say I realize that I was triggered, but here is the truth of it… I remind myself that if I’m in a healthy space in my mind, I don’t get defensive. I look for healthy solutions instead of using gossip, criticism, and blame to make someone else feel smaller. I don’t have to make someone else at fault to be proactive and make healthier choices for myself, my family, and/or my community. I can’t help others move into a healthier energy if I’m not there myself.

I’ve found having safe people to process my feelings with is ESSENTIAL for my well-being. These are people who let me work through what I’m feeling and transition into healthy reflection. When I do this, I don’t hold the resentment inside my body and allow it to spew out on others. In one conversation, I can go from enraged to seeing opportunities for growth. I LOVE THAT!

I hope you’ve enjoyed these last 30 days of quotes. I know it has been a wonderful experience for me. I’ve even found some great ones to add to my next book, which I’m almost done writing. Three more chapters to go! I will keep you posted and share some sneak peaks along the way. I will tell you this much, I’ve LOVE writing this book.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy holiday season. If you are looking for support from a loving place, I hope you will take the time to explore my blog, which I’ve been writing just shy of six years now. If you are a woman looking for support, I have a whole book written just for you and it’s available in audiobook, CD, Ebook, and/or paperback at most major online book retailers. Letters from a Better Me is filled with exercises and wisdom that came from my 30+ years of self exploration that have helped me along the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #29

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”

Jim Rohn

That is exactly right.Since I am the example of how I want others to treat me, how I’m treating my body is one examples I’m showing them. If I abuse my body with toxins, I’m attracting outside toxins to me. If I abuse my body by not taking proper care of it with healthy food, exercise, sleep, and water, I’m showing others I don’t value the very vessel that carries me through this life. I’m projecting out that I don’t show myself the love and respect that I deserve, so you don’t have to either. When I take good care of my body, I’m always amazed how much better I feel all around. I love the quality of the people I attract around me from this place.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #28

“The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.”

-Michael Neill

YES! YES! YES! Where I put my energy is what I’ve made my priority. I know that if my energy is in a healthy place, life is better; my relationships are better; and my circumstances feel better. I’ve found that when I slip from paying attention to where I’m putting my energy, my priorities get all jumbled up and my stress levels start to overcome me. I needed this reminder!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #23

“When someone is speaking to us, we take their words and filter them through our personal beliefs.”

Susyn Reeve, Heart Healing

Paying attention to how I’m receiving someone else’s words in accordance to my own personal beliefs has opened my heart up in so many different ways. I ask more questions when I feel my own beliefs coming in. I have a genuine interest in understanding where people are coming from. I know, I’m not capable of seeing the whole picture, but my awareness helps me listen with compassion and empathy for other people’s experiences. It also shows me where I have emotional triggers that I need to work through. So many gifts in simply understanding my own filters.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #12

“Once we have awareness, we recover free will.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

Without awareness, I would still be trapped in the prison of my mind. Don Miguel Ruiz’s words in his books helped me to break free from the prison I created for myself. I had to first be able to see before I could become aware of the endless stories I was feeding myself as false truths. When I could see that I was CHOOSING to feed stories that were keeping me in my suffering and that I was creating my reality around those stories—OUCH! I’m not going to lie, it was a painful but incredibly freeing experience. When I can look at the words, thoughts, beliefs, and stories I’m playing in my mind as perspectives, I am embracing the awareness that I have the power to change what’s not working.I might not choose to do it, I might need to look deeper into what feels comfortable about the chaos, but by staying open and aware, I keep moving forward. That’s the beauty of awareness.

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With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

A Mom’s Tale: Reflections from the Heart

This past Saturday was my daughter’s first high school Homecoming dance. I don’t know if it is because of our recent experience of running from the gun, recognizing how fast time flies, and/or feeling for people like the Guttenbergs and Gabby Petito’s family (and so many families like them) who never get to see their little girls again, but I’ve been feeling super sentimental through this entire experience.


If you know my writings, you know that my journey is about figuring out how to live life from a loving place. It is at the heart of everything I do. Yet as a mom, I’m not above the struggle of the re-surfacing of old wounds and projecting those on my kids. My kids are my drive for living life from a loving place, and they are the ones who help me see the importance of staying on this path. I’m so incredibly grateful to be a mom and to have the opportunity keep doing better for them and myself as I grow right along side of them on this journey. As I’ve written and spoken about ample times, the moment I found the definition of love and truly saw it as the definition was the beginning of a series of life-altering changes in thought, belief, and behavior patterns that keep on offering me the most amazing gifts and blessings.

The definition (in different versions) is posted multiple places in my room as a reminder (that I’m don’t always remember to follow) to project love. Following this definition has changed all my relationships for the better and has given me the strength and courage to remove myself from relationships that didn’t have this definition at the core. Having this reminder helps me be accountable and responsible for my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors whether I’m operating from a place of love or a place of fear. These two versions of Corinthians 13.4-13.7 are just different enough to make sure I don’t rationalize my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors to confuse love with fear. Even if I can’t see it in the moment, I have the opportunity to hold myself accountable when I CAN come back in a loving way:


“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

1 Corinthians 13.4-13.7, NIV Study Bible (1985)

“Love is patient, love is kind; Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; It is not irritable or resentful; It does not rejoice in Wrongdoing, But rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things.”

First Corinthians 13.4-13.7, Harper Collins Study Bible (2006)

I just can’t help but be grateful for my kids, because without them, I would have never known that love could be more than what I had allowed myself to experience up until that point.

At this moment, I feel nothing but love in my heart and it is the most wonderful feeling—pure AWE. My hope is that I will be able to carry this feeling with me as I know I will need it in my next moment where I will have to choose to respond to my kids from love or react out of fear.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

About this post:

This piece started as a Facebook post on my personal page. I didn’t see what I wrote coming, but as I wrote I felt this need to keep sharing. There is a lot going on in the world right now and sometimes, I need the reminder project love in my daily life. I thought maybe others might too. For anyone who needs it, I hope this helps. Thank you for reading. If you want to see more FromALovingPlace.com, you can explore the page and/or subscribe with your email here:

Running from the Gun

“Gun, run!” Whether those were the only two words that registered or the only two words I heard, those were the words that made my world stop as I looked around in slow motion trying to get my eyes on my daughter as cheerleaders, football players, parents, grandparents, and coaches started to run. We can talk all day long about what we would do in that situation, but until it happens, there is no way to understand the things that go through each individuals head as they are running from the gun. “Run, run, run!” Those were the words that permeated the air. The words that ignited terror in toddlers, teens, and adults alike.

Veterans’ and police training snaps back into play for some as they try to get people to safety and are ready to protect their community. Pure adrenaline runs through the veins making it possible to jump fences and help those who aren’t able get over. No one will be left behind. Dozens of children and mothers flock into a small locker room. I stand outside as I still don’t have eyes on my daughter, yet I have eyes all over the park looking for her, because those are the AMAZING people I’m surrounded with. I know that as soon as someone has eyes on her, my phone will ring.

Little did I know I didn’t even have my phone for a brief period because it fell out of my pocket while hopping the second fence. What is the likelihood the stranger who found it walks to the one person who would push the button on the phone to see my and my boyfriend’s picture on it and know exactly where I was? But, not just that, it was my best friend and the person I was at the game with. She knew exactly where I was standing and handed me the phone. In my hyper-focused state, I didn’t even have a memory of her handing me the phone, but God was looking out for me, and no one could tell me different.

As a mom, I have a check list of all the kids I know going off in my head knowing where I last saw them in case I see their parents or hear someone calling for them. In my head praying that I will see my daughter in one of these batches of kids. “She’s gone, the kids are safe to come out.” Police presence has arrived and the shooter fled.

I’m standing directly in front of the locker room as I watch the kids exit. The memory that will be burned in my head is the one that followed. Kids of all ages crying, screaming, and shaking exiting that locker room. Some have no idea if their parents, grandparents, teammates, friends, or coaches are okay. No one knows if anyone has been shot or got hurt trying to flee. Parents looking on, holding their breath, and hoping their loved one(s) will exit the locker room. Still, no sign of my daughter.

Tears fill my eyes not knowing if she is scared hiding somewhere or hurt. I have no idea if she is with other girls or stranded alone somewhere. The team starts gathering back at the tent—still no sign. I can’t write this next part without tears running down my face because of how blessed I feel to know the friends, parents, kids, and coaches that I do. I had eyes everywhere. One of my friends called to tell me that there were four cheerleaders hiding in a truck. I start moving towards the parking lot as I spot her walking towards the team tent. She was safe.

Once I could stop and look back, I realized what an amazing community I’m a part of. From the people helping get eyes on all the kids, people staying back to help others over fences, people helping direct people to safety, and others helping to keep others from freezing in their tracks, we stood together as a community. Nothing divided us in that moment. We were all in this together.

The next day, we already had planned to gather for team pictures. This community is now bonded tighter than ever. As people told their stories of the day, other stories began to emerge to see that for some—this was not their first time running from the gun. My now 14-year old daughter is a part of the growing numbers that have had this experience.

Thankfully, no one that I know of was physically hurt that day, but there were people whose PTSD was triggered, and some of them have no idea that they even have that. Others, will be traumatized from this event because people will expect them to shove the feelings and experience down. This isn’t intentionally to hurt someone. This is how generations of people are taught to cope, but ends up turning into future problems because a person’s reaction to something else will be triggered by the events of that traumatic day that they never fully processed.

It’s VERY important that we allow people to talk through their feelings and experiences how THEY experienced it from their own point of view. It’s important that a person is allowed to cry, shake, and scream without someone telling them not do do that or feel that way. Looking up “Feeling Wheels” online and having a person specifically talk about which feelings they are feeling is EXTREMELY helpful. They have these wheels for toddlers to adults. The best way to help someone through traumas like this is to allow them to feel through it. It can look scary and ugly, but if they are able to work through their feelings in a healthy way, it may stop the experience from turning into a debilitating psychological condition. Teaching people to shove feelings down or numb them can also lead to addiction as a form of self-medication.

With a growing number of children having to experience running from the gun, I hope we start hearing more stories from specialized psychologists, psychotherapists, trauma therapists, and social workers about how to help them PROCESS the experience in the healthiest way possible. We can talk all we want about prevention, but let’s face what we are being faced with now. Let’s make sure we are not continuing the vicious cycle of mentally unstable people out there with guns because of past unhealed experiences. Healthy minds lead to healthy actions, reactions, and responses.

Last year, I was blessed to facilitate a Heart Wisdom Panel (click for link) with Fred Guttenberg. He’s the author of Find the Helpers and the father of Jaime Guttenberg who was murdered in the mass school shooting in Parkland, FL. I remember reading his book in horror of what it would feel like to know your kids were in this kind of horrific situation. I felt tremendous empathy for the families, faculty, kids, and community. Yet, running from the gun was never my experience, so I had no idea on how truly horrifying it was to run and not know what will come next. I still don’t know what it would be like to actually be in a situation where lives are lost, but so many people do. I have tremendous empathy for them.

Living life from a loving place doesn’t mean that I’m not going to experience traumatic events or have to go through challenging times. It doesn’t mean I won’t face feelings of pain, fear, panic, anger, sadness, or grief. I’m human and all these feelings are apart of the human experience. What I have figured out along the way is that even when I feel these feelings that aren’t always pretty, I can embrace them with love. I can allow the feelings to add to my ability to feel compassion and empathy for others. I know what running from the feelings does, and I know that I rather find healthy ways to process things than allow the shoved down feelings space to turn into psychosis, disease, and/or addiction. I will keep choosing to show up and see each experience as an opportunity to be a better and healthier human.

I don’t want any human’s experience to be running from the gun, but if that is their experience, I want to make sure I’m contributing to helping them find healthy ways to process the experience so that it doesn’t take them down long after the experience is over. I want survivors of the experience to feel empowered to do good in the world and keep choosing to live. Thankfully, trauma therapies have come along way since I was a teen. I have tried, read, and studied many different approaches including traditional, new-age, spiritual, and physical. Some are free and others are expensive, but one thing I know is when I sincerely ask for help and am open to allow that help to reveal itself, I get the help I need 100% of the time. I just have to be willing to stay out of my own way, which means no running, numbing, ignoring, or suppressing what is really going on inside of me. Finding ways to process challenging situations gives me the ability to show up for others in the healthiest way possible, and THAT is what I want. That is what I’m doing here. I’m sharing part of my process with you.

To all the people who have had to run from gun, I’m truly sorry that you had to go through the experience. I’m grateful you are here today. I pray for all the families, communities, and friends of those who didn’t survive the run.

These are my personal perspectives. Each person has a right to feel how they feel and experience events in whatever way they do. This experience is what is true for me. Living from a loving place is what helps me find peace, love, and abundance in this life, and it’s how I choose to live. No one has to agree with how I choose to live my life, but if how I live my life helps others, I celebrate being able to contribute to someone feeling inspired or empowered to grow from each experience no matter how challenging those experiences are. I debated whether or not to write this, but I kept getting called back to the page. Thank you for reading.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

Heart Wisdom Panel: Fabulous Females

On September 1, 2021, I was blessed to be the guest facilitator on Mango Publishing’s Heart Wisdom Panel. Sherry Richert Belul is the regular facilitator and she is AMAZING. When she asked me to fill in for a panel on Fabulous Females, there was NO WAY I was going to refuse. With everything going on in the world, I wanted to read about inspiring women. I had NO idea what I was going to experience when I start reading the books by the author’s on the panel. With not a lot of time before the panel, my plan was to skim through both books. I’m so grateful that I didn’t.

I started with Shelly Rachanow’s book, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done (See Shelly’s works by clicking on the title). There were so many stories of women and communities of women who either have gone or go out and persevere without any excuses. I knew I wouldn’t be skimming the book when I read,

Within each of us lies the strength and courage to make a difference in this world. It’s my hope that these stories inspire and ignite a spark within you to contribute in whatever way you can and join the chorus of women’s rights around the world.

Shelly Rachanow, When Women Run the World Sh*t Gets Done, Mango Publishing, pg. 17)

Our voices, actions, and responses matter. Each story drove that point home time and time again. I read the whole entire book in one sitting. I’m so grateful that I was introduced to so many amazing women in this book.

Next up, Marlene Wagman-Geller’s book, Unabashed Women: The Fascinating Biographies of Bad Girls, Seductresses, Rebels, and One-of-a-Kind Women (See Marlene’s works by clicking on the title). Reading these mini-biographies helped me to see the wholeness of who we are as humans. What I loved about these stories was getting a taste of these women’s journeys through the good, the bad, and the ugly. It served as a reminder that we each have our own journeys, but there are likenesses in each of our stories that can help us see the human in each other. I knew many of the people discussed in this book by name, but I was fascinated by the details and realness that Marlene brought to their stories. I read her book in two-days (It’s over 300 pages).

Needless to say after reading both these books I was beyond excited to get the chance to speak with these amazing women. They did not disappoint! You can see our fascinating conversation in the link below. I hope that you feel as inspired as I did! I can’t wait to read the rest of their works!

I’m so grateful to Mango Publishing and Sherry Richert Belul for doing these amazing Heart Wisdom Panels every Wednesday at 1:30PM PDT/ 4:30PM EDT on Zoom. If you would like to learn more about these panels go to Facebook.com/MangoPublishing to watch replays and see upcoming topics and guests.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Taking Responsibility for Contributing to the Collective

I’m taking responsibility for what I’m contributing to the collective. I’m not responsible for what anyone else is doing. I’m serving my highest good when I’m aligned with energy of love, abundance, and peace. It’s not just about the actions I take, but it’s the energy, thoughts, and beliefs I put into those actions. If I do things from the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I’m contributing more fear, lack, and separation to the collective—EVEN IF my actions are what others think will benefit the collective.

What I’ve discovered in the last year of doing the Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace (click to read more) blog series is that doing things for the wrong reasons, which is out of fear, lack, and separation doesn’t serve anybody. The same action can be taken by two people, one out of fear and the other out of love. The one that comes from love is the one that serves the collective in the best way possible. The one that comes out of fear still contributes to the collective of fear. I’ve seen this in the world and within myself over and over. I’ve come to the conclusion that if I truly want to contribute to the collective energy of love, abundance, and peace, I have to take responsibility for when I’m not doing that. I have to watch where my thoughts, beliefs, and energy are going.

I’ve watched myself struggle through some very dark perspectives that have led me to take actions. Even though the ACTIONS were positive, the energy I was contributing to them wasn’t. I was in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and as much as the steps could be good for the whole, my energy wasn’t so I was still contributing to more fear, lack, and separation. It took me a long time to figure out the impact of this on myself and others.

Even now, I’m raising two teenagers whose experiences can help me see where I’m holding onto emotional pain from when I was a teen. I’ve seen myself react out of fear of them repeating patterns. I’m still actively trying to navigate not letting my actions be out of fear while helping them work their ways through this time. I keep repeating to myself, “I’m giving them seeds, they have to choose if they are going to plant them.” I remind myself that they will have to experience what is necessary for their own paths. I have no control over that. The best I can do is guide them by aligning my own energy, because then I know I’m serving them the best I can. I’m responsible for what I contribute to their journeys and that’s it.

When I take responsibility for what I contribute to the collective, it means that I’m going inside to keep myself in check. It’s not about if people agree with my perspectives, choices, and actions. If I know that my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace, the choices I’m making are serving the highest good for the collective. If I’m aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I take responsibility for that and do my best to figure out how stop contributing to that energy in this moment. THIS MOMENT is the only place I can make choices to do better.

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me

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What Story Do You Want to Write About Your Life?

Stop giving your power away. Start writing your own story. No one else can write it for you. I’m not telling you what to do. This is how I talk to myself. What story do you want to write about your life? That is the question I ask when the stories that I’m telling and recirculating in my head about my life are causing me suffering. One of the ways I create my own suffering is by giving my power away!! Every time I blame someone else for where my head is, I’ve given my power away. I CANNOT CONTROL OTHERS, and I CANNOT control how events fall into place. Why pretend? I do have the reigns on how I CHOOSE to write the story in my head and how I tell it to the people around me. I choose the energy I give to my stories and whether those stories align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation.

I have absolutely NO CONTROL over what someone else does, thinks, says, believes, or is. Me making my story about someone else is me giving my power away. I become the victim of my circumstances, others, and even my own mind when I try to make how I live inside about a reaction to other things.

What story do you want to write about your life?

When I ask myself this question, it give me the power to take the pen in my hand and write my own story. No one else has to change who they are. I can make different choices with the people in my life. I can create healthy boundaries where they are necessary. I can walk away when that is what is best for my story. I can live my life from a loving place even if I don’t agree with other’s thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, or story about me. My mom taught me early on that what people think of me isn’t my business. It’s what I think of myself that I can do something about. I will keep writing my story one moment at a time. I will keep writing myself healthier, stronger, braver, and wiser.

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback

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