I’m grateful for what makes us different. Today’s piece is an excerpt from my book, Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World. It comes from Chapter 6: Bringing in Gratitude:
I remember when I used to criticize you for being different. Now, I’m incredibly grateful you are different. We need people to be different. I’m grateful for the lessons in accepting myself, and having patience, tolerance, and compassion for others. I’m grateful for the day I stopped taking my differences personally. I don’t have to feel attacked for being different or having different beliefs as someone else. Others don’t have to be anymore or less than who they are, and neither do I. I love the freedom that comes with accepting differences. I’m grateful when I get the opportunity to learn about someone else’s lifestyle and culture. I get to see love in so many different forms by simply appreciating differences among us all.
I’m grateful I wasn’t made the same exact way as anyone else. It challenges me to find our similarities. I find every person has loves, fears, joys, and pains. If I make an effort to see them, I see me. It reminds me that I’m not alone. Whatever I choose to focus on grows. People’s differences teach me what I want and don’t want for my life. I get to choose. How can I not be grateful for that choice? I can choose to be a victim of my differences and create separation, or I can choose to celebrate my differences and expand my love. I’m grateful for my right to choose the way I want to live.
With Love and Gratitude,
A Better MeWolff, Rachael. Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World, Mango Publishing, p. 161
As easy as it can be to criticize ourselves, being grateful is SO MUCH less painful! Just like our misery, the more we dish out, the more we get back. Why not choose to be grateful for what makes us different instead of attacking ourselves and others for it? When we reach a point where we can be grateful for our own differences, we find a place of compassion and acceptance of other people’s differences.
We aren’t all going to like and believe in all the same things. Life would be so boring if that was the case. We wouldn’t have as many opportunities to grow and evolve if we all lived life, looked, and thought the same way. When we live in gratitude, we can celebrate our differences and see our internal judgments of ourselves and others as learning opportunities. We can be grateful for getting to learn about how brains function where there is trauma, abuse, mental illnesses, deformities, gender identification issues, addictions, oppression, and/or entitlement.
We can be grateful for opposing opinions and beliefs regarding politics, religion, gender, parenting, cultures, different countries, and/or lifestyles. When we are in gratitude, we are open to learn. We are open to see better solutions to problems that are hurting humans, animals, plant life, sea life, and our planet as a whole. We are living a life as a better me, which contributes towards a better life for anyone whose life we touch. We create a better world to live in. Our part is to let the positive seeds of change grow inside of us and hand them out to those around us. We don’t have to force anyone to plant them; we can simply be grateful for the opportunity to pass along our kernels. It’s the recipient’s work to figure out what they want to do with the seeds. If they have the right atmosphere in their gardens to let the them grow and flourish, the seed will be planted. Their garden is going to look different than ours, but it doesn’t mean it is any less beautiful. We also all have weeds to sort through. Don’t judge someone else’s weeds: Take care of your own!Wolff, Rachael. Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World, Mango Publishing, p.162-163
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2020
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