Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #123

I’m grateful for my education on narcissistic abuse. I never thought my experience going through and then learning about narcissistic abuse would be so important. I never realized how many people have unhealed trauma from abuse that they have normalized, which unfortunately allows them to excuse abusers and even become a part of their gaslighting of others. What I realized is that it is not just important to spot narcissist abuse, but to educate myself on it. That way I can spot warning signs, victims, and perpetrators. I can clearly see how they are using tactics to abuse, manipulate, and attempt to control others and myself.

I’ve seen the effects of narcissistic abuse in families, romantic relationships, careers, politics, religious leaders, CEOs, etc. Narcissistic abusers can be anywhere and everywhere. This is why it is SO important to be educated and heal the parts of us that were once exposed to their abusive ways. I’ve written a lot about narcissistic abuse on this blog.

Here’s what I find fascinating about narcissistic abuse, it has been a hot topic for years now. We can read article after article, but when it is right in front of us, and someone is trying to manipulate us, it can be much harder to see. It really does take being vigilant and staying aligned with love, abundance, and peace in order not to be used, manipulated, or abused by a narcissist.

One of the most important protections I’ve learned in my ten years of exploration is the importance of staying away from negatively attacking or blaming others. We become prey to narcissists when we buy into conspiracy theories, blaming, and shaming others. I learned how important it is to fully think out what people put out there. I think about whether a person has a negative agenda or needs me not to trust something in order for me to believe them. Once I started reading about narcissistic abuse, I realized how similar their tactics are. It was a little scary seeing someone else write the exact same words as someone had used on me—MULTIPLE times an in MULTIPLE different ways.

I actually just finished reading a memoir that was full of similar situations. I have friends who have mothers, fathers, and bosses who are narcissists. They experience the same things. One of the reasons I wrote, Letters from a Better Me was to help people spot how we let ourselves be manipulated by outside sources if we aren’t aligning our own energy. If we self-abuse, we are are prey for narcissistic abusers. This is one of the reasons I dedicated myself to the work I do now. I not only didn’t want to be a victim again, but I wanted to help others heal so that they weren’t used, abused, or manipulated by any form of abuser, but I also know I can’t do the work for them to heal. I can only bring awareness and accessibility to a different way of living.

The energy of fear, lack, and separation is an open door for abusers to walk through. Whether we are treating ourselves or others from a place of fear, lack, and separation isn’t important to them. If they know we are there, which they do, we are prey. My education on narcissist abuse helps me to stay alert and aware, while making conscious choices to empower myself to serve humanity and myself from a loving place.

Today, I commit to keep educating myself on narcissistic abuse tactics. Being aware of abuse tactics isn’t always easy. I’m not going to say that watching people get used and manipulated enough to dehumanize others isn’t heartbreaking. I’ve shed many tears and prayed endlessly. For me, I know who the abuser is. I know that they are who they are. Part of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is that they are not capable of taking personal responsibility. They are always the victim. Everyone is against them, and they will turn on anyone they feel has betrayed them in an instant. No facts required. Often, they believe their own lies, which is why they can be so convincing to others. I know this about them, so I don’t have any expectations for them to change or be any different from who they are. I pray for them, I know they are here for a reason, because I do believe in God contracts. I believe they are humanities eye-openers and teachers for how we are treating ourselves and others. We can see how far our fears will take us when we align with the energy of their abusive ways. They also help to strengthen leaders who come from a compassionate and loving place. I learned so much from the narcissistic abuser in my life. I’m grateful for the many lessons I was taught to take better care of myself and my energy. One of the BIGGEST lessons I learned was about seeing, spotting, and healing my self-abusive ways. That is what completely shut the door the that person’s power over my life.

My education helps me to not accept unacceptable behavior in my own life. It helps me not get sucked into being manipulated on social media and in personal relationships. We can’t change anyone but ourselves. We can’t change anyone else’s thoughts, beliefs, or behaviors. People make choices for themselves. That’s free will. If people want to change, they will. If they don’t want to change, they won’t. Change isn’t easy, but education can help to make change feel more possible. When we put our education into practice, we empower ourselves to live the lives we WANT to be living. For me, that is why it’s important to keep educating myself on narcissistic abuse tactics, because it helps me wisely invest in my own self care and change things I need to change. I’m not going to stop the narcissistic abusers of the world, but I will make sure my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace so that I don’t contribute to their power.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Catch me on on 12/2/20 at 4PM EDT OMTimes Radio being interviewed by Melisa Caprio on her show Postcards to the Universe: Creating the Life You Crave.

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #122

I’m grateful I’m open to spot red flags. This statement hasn’t always been true. I once was horrible at this, but that is what taught me to stay open to spot them now.There are still days when I’m unable to spot them. We can’t accurately spot red flags if we are aligned with fear, lack, and separation. The better I get at spotting fear agendas, the clearer I see. Now, I truly appreciate it when I’m open to spot the red flags flying, even if I’m the one swinging them. Here’s the thing that some people don’t get, if we are aligning with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, we project energy that fuels that energy, we need to spot our own warning signs. When I discovered my own power to shift my energy, I became truly grateful to see those flags, because seeing them helps me to move out of the energy so much faster and then spot them in others, so that I’m not manipulated by fear agendas. That’s one of the ways I stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace.

Today, I commit to being open to see RED flags. One of the clearest red flags I learned to spot was in “ALL” thinking. When someone categorizes groups in “ALL” categories, like white, black, immigrants, Christians, Catholics, Jews, Muslims, men, women, LBGQT+, Republicans, Democrats… When people are speaking against a group and using categories of “ALL”, such as all Republicans or all Democrats are evil. HELLO, GIANT RED FLAG. When people make comments like, “All immigrants are criminals”, “All Muslims are terrorists”, “All men are sexist”, “All white men are racist”, “All media is evil”… RED FLAGS!!! When people look at others like this, their blinders are up and they have dehumanized the people they are judging. They are also being swayed by the energy of fear, lack, and separation, which is an important red flag to spot. When we do it, it’s a red flag that we don’t have clear eyes. People want us thinking in “ALL” categories have an agenda tied to fear, lack, and separation. When we spot it, we can DIG DEEPER. My mission is ALWAYS to find the humanity in the people someone else wants me to judge negatively.

If we want to align with love, abundance, and peace, we have to be willing to spot red flags that come from people and groups influenced by the energy of fear, lack, and separation—that includes US. I know the second I’m not willing to look at my own red flags, I will not be able to spot them around me, because my vision will be skewed and I can be easily manipulated by fear agendas. We can’t ignore it when people show us who they are. We can’t ignore it when we ourselves are lost in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. We will attract whatever energy we are aligned with.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

Maya Angelou

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Catch me on on 12/2/20 at 4PM EDT OMTimes Radio being interviewed by Melisa Caprio on her show Postcards to the Universe: Creating the Life You Crave.

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #121

I’m grateful for art. I remember the first time I went to the Salvador Dali Museum. I was mesmerized by the detail and vision of his non-traditional eye. My grandfather loved painting, I remember staring into the eyes of all the people he painted. He had a way of capturing the depth of the soul. I could never figure out how he did it. I also remember exactly where I was sitting on a friend’s couch when I picked up a book of Ansel Adam photography. I often wonder if it was his work that first got me to feel the AWE in nature. The way he could capture a landscape inspired me to want to see them for myself.

I spent a couple years volunteering and then teaching a pre-school class. Watching young souls explore color, texture, and shapes was such a gift to see. Watercolors were my favorite. There are so many different forms of art and each one has it’s own gifts. There is a freedom that comes with exploring different art forms. Appreciating art opens me up in ways that make living better, because when art touches the soul, it awakens my spirit to shine. Appreciating art also takes me out of any chaos I may be letting consume my mind. I’m so grateful I have art to create, appreciate, and enjoy.

Today, I commit to appreciating art. This is the time of year I love creating and exploring art. When I’m looking at gifts for the holidays, I’m in full appreciation mode. I’m committed to enjoying the process of appreciating art in all it’s forms from words to pictures and everything in-between. I feel a surge of joy just thinking about it. My fingers are itching to look up pieces that will make my heart sing. Instantly thoughts of sculptures, landscapes, and colors start filling my mind. I don’t know about anyone else, but I know my mind can use a break from the daily routine and all the outside noise. Art is a way I can find joy no matter what is happening around me. It’s a way I can instantly connect with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. It also is a way I can see where I’m connecting with inner pain. It can give me space to allow my tears to flow and release something that was stuck within. I love when art moves me to tears. That’s when I know I’m fully present and open to be truly moved.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Catch me on on 12/2/20 at 4PM EDT OMTimes Radio being interviewed by Melisa Caprio on her show Postcards to the Universe: Creating the Life You Crave.

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #120

I’m grateful for comedy. Laughter IS the best medicine. If I want to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace…laughter is an essential ingredient. One of my favorite things to watch is stand-up comedy. I not only love to laugh, but I love to hear laughter too. It’s an instant joy rush. Whether it’s live or on TV, I appreciate anything that can make me laugh out loud.

I remember a time in my life when I would go weeks without laughter. Everything felt so heavy and I felt like I was sinking into a dark abyss. It’s painful! My body physically hurts when I’m not getting enough laughter. Finding things that make me laugh is a part of my self-care. I love that laughter is at our fingertips now with technology. We just simply have to type funny videos on YouTube and we will have tons of laugh medicine. I’m definitely grateful for that!

Today, I commit to watching and/or listening to comedy. Have you made yourself a comedy playlist? When I’m having a hard time, I like knowing how to get myself out of it. A comedy playlist on Spotify, YouTube, Netflix, or Amazon is a helpful tool to keep energy flow where we want it. This journey is meant to be enjoyed. Today, I’m going to laugh as much and as loud as I can.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, abundance, and Peace #119

I’m grateful for vision boards. There are all kinds of names for these. The name isn’t as important as how what we are doing with it and how it resonates inside us. I have some sort of vision board on every wall of my room. They each represent something a little different, but each one is there to help give me a visual focus to make sure I’m aligning myself with the energy I want to project, dreams, goals, and images that bring me to a place of peace. If you’ve been following my blog, read my book, or been to one of my seminars, you might imagine that there is a lot of nature on my walls, and you would be right. As I look around, I see how my whole space has become one giant vision board. Each piece hanging in my space serves purpose and meaning. I’ve been writing a lot about vision boards lately because I’ve really been noticing how much they have helped me throughout the years. It all started when I made my first God Can.

When I was a teenager and angry at God, people would tell me to put my troubles in a God Box. I did, and then I was raped from someone in a community that I trusted as safe. It was one of my few safe spaces at the time, and I learned a very hard lesson. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s and was re-building my relationship with new perspectives of God that I came up with the God Can, because what I can’t do, God can. I cut out words, images, an phrases that represented how I want to live inside (on the inner can), and what I wanted to create outside of me (on the outside of the can). Instead of putting things in the can that I felt held me back, I put things in there that would contribute towards me living the life represented in and on the can.

I’m so grateful for all the creative ways to do these too! Our vision boards, however we interpret them, help us to guide the stories that are playing in our own heads. They remind us what is important to us and can help us to keep our eyes on the best that is inside of us while dreaming about what that version of us is capable of creating. I ABSOLUTELY love vision boards and the impact they have had on my life!

Today, I commit to working on a new vision board. I’ve created many vision boards, boxes, jars, decorations, and other creative pieces for myself and others. They are my favorite gifts to give, because people get a glimpse of how I see the person I’m giving it to. Right now, I’ve been getting a lot of aha-moments about career aspirations. I just recently had an eye-opener that I wasn’t fully aligned with how I was going about my career. For me, that makes it a perfect time to make a vision board to represent things like:

  • How do I want to serve?
  • How do I bring the energy of love, abundance, and peace to companies and people that I serve?
  • How many people do I want to help?
  • Is there a community of people I feel inspired to serve?
  • What are my best attributes?
  • How do I work smart?
  • What am I passionate about?
  • How do I see my financial success?
  • How can I help others more with my financial success?
  • What kind of company/institution do I want to work for and/or have a contract with?
  • What benefits are important to my family and I?

I see vision boards, no matter what they look like as being the puzzle pieces that are important to place in order to complete our puzzles to make the best lives for ourselves.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #118

I’m grateful for family. Family has taught me so much. I haven’t had the easiest family life, but I’ve grown so much from each experience I had. Without the family I have, I wouldn’t be me exactly as I am now. The person I am has so much love and compassion to share with the world. It’s not just because of the love, it’s because of the trauma too. I learned how to be strong, resilient, and brave. I got to see the importance of healthy boundaries. I learned about both toxic and loving relationships. I learned to break patterns of abuse, addiction, and self-sabotage. I also learned the power of love, respect, and trust. I’m grateful for my family.

I’m also grateful for the family I’ve made by bonds of love. I’m blessed to have a handful of friendships that have lasted between 3 and 4 decades. These relationships have stood the test of time, hormones, drama, chaos, and REALLY growing up together. Then I have ones that are bonds of spirit. These are the ones that when I met them, I already knew them. I’m overwhelmed with love in my heart for the amazing family God has brought into my life.

Today, I commit to appreciating family by blood and by choice. I know holidays can be tough on families. Today, I will remember to align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. If a family member comes at me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I will remind myself they are coming at me from that place because they are in that place. It doesn’t mean that I have to be there. I can think, believe, act, and react from the energy of love, abundance, and peace no matter what comes at me. That’s MY CHOICE!

We don’t ever have to fight to be right, we can share our perspectives and allow others to have theirs. We can pray that God protects us with the energy of love, abundance, and peace to help us stay aligned. If we feel resistance from certain people, trust the space! Imagine two magnets, if the energy is aligned the magnets will connect If energy doesn’t align, the magnets resist each other. If I feel a resistance, I don’t force it to be what it’s not. I see the resistance as God’s protective circle around me.

Just remember, we can’t change anyone but ourselves, and we don’t know what is best for someone else’s journey, because it’s not ours. I choose to appreciate the lessons and the blessings that my family offers whether they are blood or by choice. As long as I stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I know I will get the most out of our time together.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #117

I’m grateful for the kindness of strangers. When I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I see the kindness of strangers everywhere. I see smiling eyes in grocery stores. I laugh with people at the drive through. I watch how strangers assist each other in everyday life. I can choose to pay attention and be aware of this beauty, or I can get so consumed in the thoughts of past or present that I miss what is happening in the moment. It’s always my choice. If I’m in a negative mindset and/or not present, I’m not a kind stranger. I can’t be because I’m not there. We have to be present to be kind, which makes me appreciate the kindness of strangers even more. I know they are present when they are giving someone their attention. That’s pretty special in my book.

Today, I commit to focusing my attention on the kindness of strangers. Wherever we put our focus, we will see more of. If we are looking for kindness in the world, we will see all kinds of acts of kindness. We don’t even have to leave our house to see it. All we have to do is search acts of kindness on the internet. I guarantee your heart will be filled just watching and reading the stories. If we want to stop contributing to the fear, lack, and separation, we have to put our energy where our love, abundance, and peace GROW. Paying attention to the kindness of strangers reminds me of how many people do care, do show up, and do want to create a positive change in the world. Stay present, stay KIND!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #116

I’m grateful for doctors, nurses, and EMTs. As I watch COVID numbers climb, I think more and more of the people who are there fighting for the lives of those infected. I’m overwhelmed with gratitude for all these people who are putting their own lives at risk day after day to help others get home to the people they love and who love them. I’m not going to even pretend to imagine what it’s like working long hours fighting for patients lives then going home to think about how to keep their own families safe. I can’t even begin to wonder about all the myriad of choices and decisions they have to make daily.

Over the years, I’ve had friends in all these roles, and I have so much respect for them. They see many people at their absolute worst, and their care can end up having a lifelong impact on patients and families lives. Most of them are a true gifts to humanity. Just like in any field, there are going to be some bad apples, but that’s a part of life. Today, I want to focus on the AMAZING helpers we have in doctors, nurses, and EMTs. Your service is SO appreciated. THANK YOU!!

Today, I commit to showing my appreciation to doctors, nurses, and EMTs. To all the doctors, nurses, and EMTs around the world, THANK YOU! I know you deserve so much more than just words of gratitude. I wish the energy of all the people who appreciate you could lift you to a place where you could TRULY FEEL it. I commit to doing my best to think about you and your sacrifices when I’m living my life. I promise to be safe and do my part to reduce the COVID spread, because I know that it’s not just about saving the lives of the people who contract it, it’s about helping to support you and all you do.

I commit to not just thinking about myself and my immediate circle. I will think about all the people who are filling the hospital beds, their families, and all of you. I continue to pray for all of you.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #115

I’m grateful I feel connected to others near and far. Yesterday, I spoke about Earth’s energy. Today, I’m expanding on that to include the energy of other people. I really wondered how this pandemic would affect our ability to connect to people. For me, I’m connected with others better than ever. I’m attracting like energy which has been so amazing! The more I align with love, abundance, and peace, the more individuals I connect with from that place. It doesn’t even matter where they are in the world. HOW AMAZING is that?? When our energy is aligned we open doors to some of the greatest discoveries. Staying aligned takes daily work, and this investment of my time has been well worth it. I love all the people I’m getting to connect with, near and far. I’m so grateful for the additional tool of video chatting and conferencing, because it really does help to open some wonderful doors.

Today, I commit to focusing on my connection with others. I plan on paying close attention to who’s energy is attracted to mine today. I love when I put my focus here, because I’m always amazed at what I see. I know that where I put my energy is what I will get back, so connecting with people helps me to see where I am. If I’m picking up on connections that illuminate the energy of love, abundance, and peace, that’s because that’s where my energy is. If I’m picking up connections of fear, lack, and separation, that’s because that’s where my energy is. We can’t hide from this. The truth is in what we see, and we can only change it or make it better if we acknowledge where our own energy is. The people who are drawn to our lives are the reflections of where we ACTUALLY are.

If we have chaos, fear, lack, separation, rage, and hate, we can’t be surprised when others are attracted to that. As my psychology professor taught me, healthy minds attract healthy minds. If we are with someone who treats us badly, we need to stop looking at them and start looking at how we are treating ourselves. We can only leave chaos if we stop internally living in chaos. Think of 12-step programs, like attracts like. Think about churches and spiritual communities, like attracts like. When there is an energy that doesn’t belong, many people will feel uncomfortable around that energy. This is why it is so important if we want to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, to pay CLOSE attention to the people we are surrounding ourselves with. If we are aligning with people who are buying into the never-ending borage of conspiracy theories, we ourselves need to look at the stories we are telling ourselves. Are we going on fears or facts?

I cherish the connections I have today. Many people have faded from my life and many others have come in, I trust what I attract and I’m grateful to learn, grow, and expand in the most beautiful ways. If you are on this journey with me, thank you for being here. I love knowing the messages I write resonate with others. Your time matters to me. I appreciate you.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #114

I’m grateful for the energy of the Earth. Whenever I’m struggling to get out of my own head, or I feel consumed with the chaos of the outside world, I go outside and either plant my feet on the ground or sit on the Earth and put my hands on it. It’s a reminder to re-align myself energetically. I love when I can get quiet enough to feel the pulse. I slow down and take a deep breath just thinking about the peace I feel as the energy of the Earth flows into my hands and feet. I feel one with the Earth. It’s an authentic way to connect to the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

Today, I commit to connect with the energy of the Earth. During the holiday season and a global pandemic, connecting with the energy of the Earth can be a true gift. Just a few minutes focusing on the vibrations that run through through my hands and up my legs naturally grounds me. It takes focus, silence, and being fully present. I love to think of all the life that comes from the Earth as I touch it. Just the thought feels huge to me. I discovered that where I put my energy matters, and where I go for energy matters too.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World