I’m grateful for the choice to CHOOSE my story. Today is a special day for me. It’s the year anniversary of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Link for more information, purchasing, formats, and previews is in the title) being released in the United States. This was the journey of me figuring out how to re-write my own story through letters. Not all the letters are mine, because I wanted to help women also look at things from a different angle at times. Some of the angles are from friends, family, and strangers who have struggled through stories I didn’t have playing in my head. Once we become conscious of the stories we are telling ourselves, we give ourselves the power to change the story. Some stories are so embedded that they take a lot of work to unravel. It’s like the necklace that gets knotted up—time and patience are essential.
I’ve found that some of my most damaging stories have a multitude of layers. The blessing is learning the tools to spot the story and then the ability to start re-writing a new one. Some take a lot more physical work. Others will be a quick switch in perspective that will start the re-writing process. The beauty of it all is seeing MY CHOICES! Seeing my choices also helps me to see others are making choices in how they are representing their own stories. Anyway someone else judges me is about their story, not mine. Anyway I judge someone else’s is about my story, not theirs. I have the choice not to take someone else’s story personally.
A healthy mind has healthy stories. I can see when my mind is not healthy by the stories I’m weaving, broken records playing in my head, and hamster wheel of thoughts spinning until exhaustion. I can choose at any moment to sit and listen to whatever stories that are playing and I can do the work and re-write the stories that aren’t benefiting me. This is part of the work I have to do to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I know if my stories are reflecting fear, lack, and separation my body, mind, and soul pay a price. I love having the choice to re-write my story. Facts don’t change, but mindsets, feelings, thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions can.
Today, I commit to re-writing the parts of my story that aren’t serving a healthy mindset. Sometimes it’s important for me to put my focus on the stories playing in my head. I know whatever stories I’m telling myself will project out to the world in some shape or form. My stories have changed A LOT over the last twelve years. I think back and it truly reminds me of how far I have come. Some of the stories still make me squirm with discomfort due to the pain they inflicted. Our stories that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation can be devastating to ourselves and the people we love. The revenge stories were some of my darkest places. I did so much damage to myself and my humanity in those stories. Re-writing those stories in a forgiveness mindset changed the trajectory of my life.
Today, I will get out my notebook, sit in silence, and listen:
- What messages are repeating themselves?
- What stories am I listening to about myself?
- What stories do I tell myself when I look in the mirror?
- What stories am I telling myself about other people?
- What stories am I hearing in my head when I scroll social media?
- What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch shows?
- What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch the news?
The first thing I need to make sure to do after observing is to take responsibility for my stories and be accountable for how they are affecting my energy. If I blame my stories on anybody else, I won’t be able to change them. Blame makes it VERY easy to slip into revenge stories, and I know how ugly those stories get. Blaming myself took me into the stories that made me want to end my life to get revenge on myself. Revenge stories are NEVER healthy no matter who they are aimed at. Revenge is a story that keeps us aligned with fear, lack, and separation. It’s important to pay attention to any stories that make us want to seek revenge on ourselves or others.
The goal for me is to take any stories I have that are aligning me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation and create stories that align with the energy with love, abundance, and peace. No facts of the situations change. The story playing about the facts is what changes, meaning my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions to the facts. My stories don’t change what other people do, they change how I respond to what others do. I’m the heroine of my own story. I’m in charge of making her the person I want her to be. All the materials I need to make her the best version of herself are already within her. I just have to take charge and write her story.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me
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