Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #202

I’m grateful for the choice to CHOOSE my story. Today is a special day for me. It’s the year anniversary of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Link for more information, purchasing, formats, and previews is in the title) being released in the United States. This was the journey of me figuring out how to re-write my own story through letters. Not all the letters are mine, because I wanted to help women also look at things from a different angle at times. Some of the angles are from friends, family, and strangers who have struggled through stories I didn’t have playing in my head. Once we become conscious of the stories we are telling ourselves, we give ourselves the power to change the story. Some stories are so embedded that they take a lot of work to unravel. It’s like the necklace that gets knotted up—time and patience are essential.

I’ve found that some of my most damaging stories have a multitude of layers. The blessing is learning the tools to spot the story and then the ability to start re-writing a new one. Some take a lot more physical work. Others will be a quick switch in perspective that will start the re-writing process. The beauty of it all is seeing MY CHOICES! Seeing my choices also helps me to see others are making choices in how they are representing their own stories. Anyway someone else judges me is about their story, not mine. Anyway I judge someone else’s is about my story, not theirs. I have the choice not to take someone else’s story personally.

A healthy mind has healthy stories. I can see when my mind is not healthy by the stories I’m weaving, broken records playing in my head, and hamster wheel of thoughts spinning until exhaustion. I can choose at any moment to sit and listen to whatever stories that are playing and I can do the work and re-write the stories that aren’t benefiting me. This is part of the work I have to do to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I know if my stories are reflecting fear, lack, and separation my body, mind, and soul pay a price. I love having the choice to re-write my story. Facts don’t change, but mindsets, feelings, thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions can.

Today, I commit to re-writing the parts of my story that aren’t serving a healthy mindset. Sometimes it’s important for me to put my focus on the stories playing in my head. I know whatever stories I’m telling myself will project out to the world in some shape or form. My stories have changed A LOT over the last twelve years. I think back and it truly reminds me of how far I have come. Some of the stories still make me squirm with discomfort due to the pain they inflicted. Our stories that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation can be devastating to ourselves and the people we love. The revenge stories were some of my darkest places. I did so much damage to myself and my humanity in those stories. Re-writing those stories in a forgiveness mindset changed the trajectory of my life.

Today, I will get out my notebook, sit in silence, and listen:

  • What messages are repeating themselves?
  • What stories am I listening to about myself?
  • What stories do I tell myself when I look in the mirror?
  • What stories am I telling myself about other people?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I scroll social media?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch shows?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch the news?

The first thing I need to make sure to do after observing is to take responsibility for my stories and be accountable for how they are affecting my energy. If I blame my stories on anybody else, I won’t be able to change them. Blame makes it VERY easy to slip into revenge stories, and I know how ugly those stories get. Blaming myself took me into the stories that made me want to end my life to get revenge on myself. Revenge stories are NEVER healthy no matter who they are aimed at. Revenge is a story that keeps us aligned with fear, lack, and separation. It’s important to pay attention to any stories that make us want to seek revenge on ourselves or others.

The goal for me is to take any stories I have that are aligning me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation and create stories that align with the energy with love, abundance, and peace. No facts of the situations change. The story playing about the facts is what changes, meaning my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions to the facts. My stories don’t change what other people do, they change how I respond to what others do. I’m the heroine of my own story. I’m in charge of making her the person I want her to be. All the materials I need to make her the best version of herself are already within her. I just have to take charge and write her story.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #179

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for the stories I tell myself. We all have stories playing in our heads throughout the day. We feed our stories by consciously or unconsciously choosing what we are allowing to influence our thoughts. When I took responsibility for that, it made it easier for me to be conscious of when I was being influenced by my own or other people’s stories of fear, lack, and separation. The beautiful thing is that it made me more conscious of when I was being influenced by my own or other people’s stories aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. The more I surround myself with people sharing their energy of love, abundance, and peace, the healthier the stories in my head are. The better I treat myself, the healthier the stories in my head are. If I’m not healthy in the way I treat myself, my stories won’t be healthy no matter what happens outside of me. I can take people’s authentic kindness and turn it in to evil if I’m not conscious of the stories playing in my head.

I know that if my thoughts and stories are aligning with fear, lack, and separation, the only person who can do anything to change it is me. I have to want to stop telling myself stories that keep me aligned with fear, lack, and separation. If I want to align better with love, abundance, and peace, I HAVE TO DO THE WORK. I’m responsible and accountable for changing the stories in my own head to reflect the life I want to be living. To me, seeing it this way feels so much more empowering!

Today, I commit to making conscious choices to align my internal stories with love, abundance, and peace. I’m the only one who has ANY control over the stories in my head. If I want to change them, I have to do the work! One of the things that really helps me is to write down the tools I have before I feel like I need to use them. Some of the tools that have worked in the past to help me re-frame the stories in my head are:

  • Make SURE my self-talk is healthy!!!
  • Treat myself with love, respect, compassion, and empathy (See yesterday’s post here)
  • Watching videos of people doing good in the world
  • Writing a letter to myself, a friend, God, or the Universe talking about the story I want to be telling in my head (I make sure my story is fully aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace)
  • Write out the stories that are spinning in my head
  • Listening to audiobooks on subjects of personal and/or spiritual development help me to re-align
  • Asking myself about other ways to look at the situation that are aligned with love, abundance, and peace works to help me calm my energy down
  • Listening to fun and uplifting music that has a positive story attached
  • Bring myself back to the present moment using mindfulness exercises (Most my stories aligning with fear, lack, and separation are from the unhealed past or fear of an unknown future)
  • Be aware when outside influences are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, and remind myself that is not where I want my energy to be
  • Look up positive/ inspirational quotes and write them down

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #88

I’m grateful for awareness of the stories I’m spinning. If you’ve been reading the last couple days of this blog, you may have noticed I’m going through something. I’ve been navigating being the mom of two teens and dealing with a situation that really isn’t very pleasant. My feelings and emotions have been all over the place. I keep bringing myself back to a loving place, but it hasn’t been lasting all day. Yesterday, it wasn’t until God sent his messenger that I stopped spinning. Yesterday, I mentioned a growth spurt coming on, well it’s here. Now when these things come into my life there is a lot of disruption and jiggling that happens during the transition. Some days feel absolutely dark, some days my mind gets filled with stories (not all good). Some days, I might not eat or sleep. It’s rough.

Yesterday, my big lesson was on the stories I was telling myself. Now, these stories come from a deep place that is ready to come to the surface to be healed, but there are layers of shame, guilt, fear, lack, and separation attached to them, which is why they started spinning.

As much as I know it’s none of my business think of me, I also know that I may have some deeper messages I’m telling myself that get triggered under certain circumstances. I started stories based on the Leave them before they leave you trigger. Does anyone know this one? Many of the stories I was telling myself were to prove how other people didn’t like me as a parent and like my kid for his poor choices. I even spun the story to involve individuals I’m close to. Yesterday morning, I got a text from one of them (God sent) and told her everything I was telling myself. She got it. With her help and some other God sent messages, I was able to do something about the situation that I didn’t feel like I had the power to do before. Yesterday, I wrote, “Today, I commit to being open to signs leading me to close doors to fear, lack, and separation.” Later that day, a door closed. That’s how fast things can happen when we put our intentions (prayers) out there.

You may wonder why I tell you about these experiences. It’s because I don’t want anyone to put me on any kind of pedestal. I’m on this journey like everyone else. I will have great days, weeks, and months where I feel FULLY connected, and I will have days and weeks where I work for that connection. Thank GOD, I have got to the point in my journey that it no longer goes beyond the weeks, but it used to go years. Life is a journey, and we can make what we want of it. I choose to keep working with aligning with love, abundance, and peace daily because it helps me live every day a little better. It also gets me out of my head much faster.

Today, I’m seeing how when childhood triggers come up, I started weaving stories. I got into a protective Mama Bear mode trying to protect my cub from things I experienced in the past. I didn’t even see how much I was spinning until I talked to that friend yesterday. I couldn’t believe the thoughts I was having. This is why it is so important to stay conscious of the stories we weave and try to tap into where those stories come from and where they take us. It’s never about the situation in front of us when we do this. It’s often something from our pasts that made us feel small, powerless, victimized, judged, shamed, etc. I’m so grateful I was able to stop the stories from going down a much darker road. This experience was Divine intervention, because I prayed for help the night before and in the morning the text message came. It can happen that fast!

Today, I will pay attention to stories I’m weaving. Yesterday, showed me that even with all my practice, when I’m triggered, I can still lose control of the story. Today, I’m committed to really listening to the stories that are playing. If they aren’t serving me, I will tell myself new ones to help me let the old ones go. If you want to do this with me, here’s a trick: When you listen to the stories going on in your head, try to listen like an outside observer. It may be easier to write them down, then look back at them like it’s not coming from your own head.

When we are thinking about how other people may view us, the truth is we have NO idea what is in their head. We can only create stories about it, and if we belief a small part of the story we are telling ourselves, we make it true in our heads. Here’s an example: I was weaving this story that other people thought I was bad mom and I didn’t just think of the one person who thought I was a bad mom, I thought well since she thinks I’m a bad mom, all these other parents must think I’m a bad mom too. Since I was questioning the quality of my motherhood, I started attaching to the story and making it true that this WHOLE group of people were thinking that. Now, they might and they might not think that, but the point is I only got emotionally caught up in the story because I was questioning my choices as a mom.

I spun stories trying to defend my actions, when I wasn’t feeling secure about the actions I was taking. If any of you reading this are parents, this is nothing new. Parenthood is a challenge to navigate. When I judge myself harshly, I attaching to the fear, lack, and separation. I then in-turn create stories that project more fear, lack, and separation. When I am embracing myself with love and compassion, I connect to the energy of love, abundance, and peace and connect to stories of kindness, love, and compassion. If you’re not a parent, you may see this in other places. Just pay attention.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letter from a Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 1 – Welcome to the Journey

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Day 1: Welcome to the Journey

Dear Readers,

Welcome to the journey of A Better Me. This letters piece of the journey is about connecting to the material in the 90-Day A Better Me Series. One of the things I’ve learned in my experience is that if I can’t make the journey personal, it’s not my journey. I won’t absorb the material in the same way as I do if I’m truly connected to it.

Since I’ve re-written my own story again and again using letters, I wanted to pass on one of the most essential tools in my own tool box. I’ve been amazed at what writing letters has done in my life. This helped me more than just journaling because writing a letter to myself or someone else gets me to engage deeper. The letters become personal contracts to live better.  I fully commit to feeling through whatever is going on inside of me at the time. I found that to be an AMAZING healing and transformative tool. Writing letters helps me to remember that I’m writing my own story. I need to commit to being the leading role.

Part I of the series is meant to stir up your emotions. If the program is working, you will get triggered. You will see yourself more openly. You will have opportunities to make better choices today. This journey is a process. In Part I, I’m peeling back the layers to expose the toxic muck that is keeping you from living your best life. In Part II, I help you to heal and strengthen. In Part III, you will get tools galore on how to grow and expand y to be the best version of yourself. Your relationships will shift and change as you take this journey. Trust the path!

I hope that if you stick to this journey, you will get what you need to become the best version of yourself, the program opens you up to see signs, guidance, teachers, and/or students. This is just the beginning. If you need extra guidance, I have a program that acts as a supplement to any personal development program you are using and/or want to start using. You will see a little more about that throughout the series. For now, enjoy this 90-Day journey. You can read it daily, like a book, or pick and choose what you need. This journey is yours. Just go to CATEGORIES to have direct access to both series.

Remember each day comes with a companion piece on the 90-Day A Better Me Series. Don’t forget to read and follow on long in order to get the most out of the experience. Read today’s here: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 1-A Commitment for 2019

 

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

 

 

How is Your Story Serving You?

As humans we love our stories, but remember our stories are our perceptions based on what we are focusing on. You and I could experience the same thing and see it differently. We could have completely different feelings and reactions to the event. In order to get the most out of our lives, our stories and perceptions need to line up with the life we want. If they don’t, we will get stuck in your own darkness. The only way to get out is by seeing our story in a new and better way.

We are the lead character in the story of our life, and we need to treat ourselves that way. We choose in every story we tell to be the heroine/ hero, victim, wallflower, and/or villain. Our power lies within how we see ourselves. What are we contributing to the world? How will our stories matter and/or serve humanity for the better? Do our stories bring meaning to our lives and the lives of those around us?

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If we are struggling, we can choose to look at the situation as a lesson. We can ask ourselves questions: What can I learn from being here? How would experiencing this help me serve others? How is the way I’m viewing myself effecting how other people treat me? Do I treat myself with love and respect? How am I working towards the life I want to have? Thinking in these terms can open more doors and offer new stories that don’t keep us stuck but instead help us find a creative way to move out of our own darkness and into the spotlight.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff @2018