A New Story

Take a breath and release what is causing your mind to suffer. Tell yourself a new story. We consciously or unconsciously tell ourselves stories that cause us to suffer or celebrate, to live in lack or abundance, to love or fear, and to embrace peace or separation within our own minds. It doesn’t matter what stories other people are telling themselves, we are only ever responsible and accountable for our own stories. What do you want yours to be for this moment?

When we keep the question in the present moment, we get the opportunity to make the unconscious—conscious. We allow ourselves to see the stories we are telling ourselves in this moment, and we give ourselves the freedom to change any part of the story that is not serving our highest good—If that is what we CHOOSE to do.

Circumstances don’t have to change in order for us to change our story. Here’s an example, my car window fell off it’s track or broke in some way. I told myself a story that was causing me to suffer. Then I stopped, took a breath, and told myself a new story that helped me to exhale with a feeling of peace and abundance. My window is still broken. I still have to figure out how to get it fixed, but I’m no longer suffering in my story of it.

I love that I was able to see the story I was telling myself and how I could let the story spin out of control if I let it go unnoticed. I love knowing I don’t have to tell myself ANY story that is causing me to suffer if I don’t want to. That FEELS like a beautiful miracle to me since I once believed that I had NO CHOICE. I felt doomed to live a life of suffering. I love that I was wrong!

With Love and Gratitude,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback — Click title to learn more

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #358

I’m grateful that things change when I change. I’ve come to realize that blaming, shaming, rationalizing, and justifying, whether it’s to myself or others, only keeps me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Things change when I change, for better or for worse. Taking full responsibility and accountability for the energy I’m projecting out to the world is an ever enlightening experience. Layers and layers of weight have been taken off my back by simply making different choices that change my reality.

I used to give my power to change away to the point where I felt empty inside. I couldn’t see beyond the painful stories I kept playing like a broken record. I remember thinking time and time again, “Why should I have to be the one to change?” The answer, because I’m the only person I’m responsible and accountable for changing. If I’m living a reality that I don’t want, I have to change my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that keep me aligned with the energy attracting the chaos back to me. This was not an easy truth for me to face. At times, it still isn’t, but in the end I’m grateful I know if I want things to change, I have to change.

Wholeheartedly embracing this has helped me establish and maintain the healthiest boundaries, self-care regimens, and relationships I’ve ever had. If you’ve been reading along with me on this journey, you’ve seen many of my layers of discovery along the way. Life keeps bringing me what I need to change and grow in wonderful ways. It also shows me where I’m holding onto old thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that are no longer serving me. If my energy is aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I’m not serving myself, humanity, or this planet. If my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace, my thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors are serving the highest good for myself, humanity, and this planet. I’m the only one who is responsible and accountable for changing things in my life. Don’t think I’m saying this and not needing the reminder myself, I write it because the more I write, think, and believe this way, the easier it is for me to remember it when a challenging situation comes up where I have to use the wisdom to make necessary changes.

Today, I commit to flowing with change. Being scared of change doesn’t serve me. When I flow with change, I am open to doing things differently to get different results. Just writing this piece got my creativity sparked on how to improve different areas of my life. Every time this happens, I think of other areas I’ve improved and how I went about making changes. I know that I have to change thoughts, beliefs, habits, words, actions, and responses in order to create the shift within myself, so I have to consciously think about how I do want to see things in order to determine what’s NOT aligning with that vision. Healthy change is good for my well-being, so why not allow it to flow? Here’s what I’m going to do today to go with the flow of change for my highest good:

  • Find audiobooks that align with my vision for whatever area of wellness (i.e.creative, emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual, environmental, social, financial, and occupational) I’m looking to practice healthier patterns in.
  • Pick one area of wellness to do more intensive work in at a time, though it will benefit multiple areas of wellness. Trying to do it all at once has never worked well for me. Today, my focus is on my financial well-being.
  • Make a healthy simple change in each of the 9 areas of wellness (It can be as simple as consciously changing a thought about something, deep breathing, putting a dollar in a jar, etc.)
  • Stay aware of the messages playing in my head and how those messages are serving me.

The point of this is to help me stay open to the flow of change and welcome in new ideas that will serve my life in healthier ways. My unhealthy thinking in any area of my wellness keeps me from serving myself and others to the best of my ability. I’m choosing to consciously guide changes in my life to flow in the direction of love, abundance, and peace and I LOVE THE DIFFERENCE IT’S MAKING IN MY LIFE!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #212

I’m grateful for EASY shifts in perspective. Sometimes shifting a perspective aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation to love, abundance, and peace can happen in an instant. I can see a quote, read a passage, hear someone speak, or just get a moment of clarity from being in the present moment. I love those shifts. The energy shift is often palpable. I love the shifts where I actually laugh out loud because it hits me so fast. It’s like a little soul cleansing.

Today, I commit to enjoying easy perspective shifts. These shifts can happen multiple times throughout the day. I catch myself in a moment of thinking that is aligned with fear, lack, and separation. Then, I consciously re-direct myself to go from a thought that is not healthy for me to one that is. The more conscious I become of the easy shifts, the more open I am for the bigger ones. I’ve started making it more like a game LOL, because why not? We can’t take ourselves too seriously. I find laughter helps me shift faster.

If you are interested on joining me on this journey make sure you are clear on how you see the energy of fear, lack, and separation. You can go back to Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #210 (Link in the title) to help you determine what perspectives are coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation. Try looking at something small, and laughing at the thought while you see a a perspective that is obviously healthier and aligned with love, abundance, and peace. Try to catch yourself in the thoughts throughout the day. Don’t beat yourself up if you notice that you are catching yourself a lot or that you look back later and see you missed some. Use this as an exercise in awareness. It is meant to be fun. Only take on perspectives that are easy shifts.

The beautiful thing about this exercise is that the more often we do it perspective shifts that didn’t even seem possible start shifting. These are the old beliefs that were passed down from generations keeping us in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Doing this work is like building a muscle. It takes time, work, and persistence, but if we keep up with it, we get the results that we want. Don’t forget to laugh!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #202

I’m grateful for the choice to CHOOSE my story. Today is a special day for me. It’s the year anniversary of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Link for more information, purchasing, formats, and previews is in the title) being released in the United States. This was the journey of me figuring out how to re-write my own story through letters. Not all the letters are mine, because I wanted to help women also look at things from a different angle at times. Some of the angles are from friends, family, and strangers who have struggled through stories I didn’t have playing in my head. Once we become conscious of the stories we are telling ourselves, we give ourselves the power to change the story. Some stories are so embedded that they take a lot of work to unravel. It’s like the necklace that gets knotted up—time and patience are essential.

I’ve found that some of my most damaging stories have a multitude of layers. The blessing is learning the tools to spot the story and then the ability to start re-writing a new one. Some take a lot more physical work. Others will be a quick switch in perspective that will start the re-writing process. The beauty of it all is seeing MY CHOICES! Seeing my choices also helps me to see others are making choices in how they are representing their own stories. Anyway someone else judges me is about their story, not mine. Anyway I judge someone else’s is about my story, not theirs. I have the choice not to take someone else’s story personally.

A healthy mind has healthy stories. I can see when my mind is not healthy by the stories I’m weaving, broken records playing in my head, and hamster wheel of thoughts spinning until exhaustion. I can choose at any moment to sit and listen to whatever stories that are playing and I can do the work and re-write the stories that aren’t benefiting me. This is part of the work I have to do to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I know if my stories are reflecting fear, lack, and separation my body, mind, and soul pay a price. I love having the choice to re-write my story. Facts don’t change, but mindsets, feelings, thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions can.

Today, I commit to re-writing the parts of my story that aren’t serving a healthy mindset. Sometimes it’s important for me to put my focus on the stories playing in my head. I know whatever stories I’m telling myself will project out to the world in some shape or form. My stories have changed A LOT over the last twelve years. I think back and it truly reminds me of how far I have come. Some of the stories still make me squirm with discomfort due to the pain they inflicted. Our stories that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation can be devastating to ourselves and the people we love. The revenge stories were some of my darkest places. I did so much damage to myself and my humanity in those stories. Re-writing those stories in a forgiveness mindset changed the trajectory of my life.

Today, I will get out my notebook, sit in silence, and listen:

  • What messages are repeating themselves?
  • What stories am I listening to about myself?
  • What stories do I tell myself when I look in the mirror?
  • What stories am I telling myself about other people?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I scroll social media?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch shows?
  • What stories am I hearing in my head when I watch the news?

The first thing I need to make sure to do after observing is to take responsibility for my stories and be accountable for how they are affecting my energy. If I blame my stories on anybody else, I won’t be able to change them. Blame makes it VERY easy to slip into revenge stories, and I know how ugly those stories get. Blaming myself took me into the stories that made me want to end my life to get revenge on myself. Revenge stories are NEVER healthy no matter who they are aimed at. Revenge is a story that keeps us aligned with fear, lack, and separation. It’s important to pay attention to any stories that make us want to seek revenge on ourselves or others.

The goal for me is to take any stories I have that are aligning me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation and create stories that align with the energy with love, abundance, and peace. No facts of the situations change. The story playing about the facts is what changes, meaning my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions to the facts. My stories don’t change what other people do, they change how I respond to what others do. I’m the heroine of my own story. I’m in charge of making her the person I want her to be. All the materials I need to make her the best version of herself are already within her. I just have to take charge and write her story.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #40

Today, I’m so grateful and blessed that I have the ability to shift, change, and grow. When I saw the damage that the belief system, “People can’t change” created, I made the decision to start proving it wrong. First, I was blessed with watching someone I love shift, change, and grow immensely. Then, guess what, brain science proved it wrong too. Our brains have the ability to change and shift as we implement new belief systems and practices into our lives. That belief, if people are damaged, they will stay damaged, isn’t true. Now, this doesn’t mean YOU can change anyone else. YOU CAN’T!

People can only change if they want to. It’s an inside job, but here are some of the beautiful things I’ve discover on this journey of shifting, changing, and growing: The way I see others shifts, grows, and changes. If the person’s energy doesn’t align with the new energy I’ve acquired, they either fade out of my life or grow with me (I’m grateful for both). There is no force. I also attract new people (like a magnetic force) who are moving in the same direction as I am. Knowing these new truths has made me even more grateful to choose to shift, change, and grow in the direction of love, abundance, and peace.

The people who are in my life now are AMAZING! Even with all the fear, lack, and separation in the world, the magnetic pull of love, abundance, and peace is strong for the people who are committed to living in this energy.

Today, I commit to honoring my ability to change what no longer works in my life. If something isn’t working in my life, I can choose different ways to look at the situation. When I see that I’m not stuck in my thinking, I allow my feelings about the situation to shift. When I allow my feelings to shift from fear, lack, and separation TO love, abundance, and peace, a whole new set of options and possibilities opens up to shift, change, and grow. When I learned that I never have to be stuck with beliefs that don’t serve the way I want to live, I freed myself to become the best version of me. Not by changing anything outside of me or anybody else’s behavior, but by becoming responsible and accountable for the energy I project. Now, when I go down into fear, lack, and separation, I don’t stay there long AT ALL. I used to live there. Now, I just visit from time to time to learn where I still have work to do.

Today, notice if you have belief systems that are keeping you from living in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Remember this isn’t saying we won’t have feelings of sadness, loss, fear, anger, etc. It means we wrap our feelings in love instead of numbing, running from them, or projecting them onto others out of fear. It helps me to visualize. Here are some examples:

  • Being wrapped in a protective cocoon/chrysalis so we may develop our wings to fly.
  • Being wrapped in the protection of an angel’s wings
  • Being held by a nurturing mother
  • Being protected and safe to heal in a white healing light

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

I Can’t Change You, You Can’t Change Me

My beliefs have never been changed by force. Each perspective of truth (belief) I’ve changed in my life has been based on if that belief serves the person I want to be and how I want to serve others. When I was younger, I didn’t consciously see my choice in how I viewed myself and the world around me.

Certain beliefs made me feel tense, angry, and rage-filled. When I would think about the thought/belief, my whole energy shifted and I often would feel sick and depleted. It took me a VERY long time and a whole lot of seeds from other people that got me to see I was making choices in my perspectives that were holding me back and keeping me prisoner.

There were some so deeply imbedded that it took voices from the Holocaust like, Viktor Frankl & Elie Weisel. Along with people like, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, Byron Katie, and stories about Jesus and Siddhartha to help me see that I didn’t HAVE to continue to feel this inner world of pain. Those people were just the tip of the iceberg. I’ve talked to millions of people throughout my life. I read thousands of books. Nobody changed me, but I got the seeds and made choices on what to plant in my internal garden.

When I was young, I thought the world was against me. That belief didn’t feel good to me, because I can’t control how anyone else views me. 

What I do have power over is how I view and treat myself and how I treat others.

If I’m believing something that makes me feel like a prisoner of my perspective, I work on changing that. I found that EVERY time I engage in a perspective based out of fear, I feel like I’m a prisoner. Here is an example of another change I made:

I used to feel like a prisoner when other people would judge me based on a category/title they gave me or that I am naturally.

I changed my perspective to the understanding that people are going to judge me from their own perspectives of truth. That has nothing to do with who I AM. I know if someone speaks to me in a category of ALL: all women, all trauma victims, all white women, etc. that person won’t come close to seeing me, a person is only ever looking at me through their own perspectives of truth. If they want to lump me in an ALL category— That is their loss.

I love and respect myself. I take responsibility and accountability for my thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions.

IN THAT ENERGY, I FEEL FREE. In that freedom, I attract amazing people to my life from different genders, races, cultures, religious followings, political backgrounds, economic statuses, and so much more.The more open I stay, the more I change and grow. Not by force, by choice and action.

Though, no one else changed me, I didn’t change on my own. I got the opportunities to SEE through different perspectives. I got the tools to change. I could only do that by being open to listen to ALL different perspectives to see what fit and what didn’t based on the place I wanted to live from, which is FROM A LOVING PLACE. I’ve disagreed with many of people along the way who tried telling me how I “had to” or “should” think. I know that is part of their journey. I don’t have to make it mine.

I know from my education in science, religion, psychology, spirituality, and personal growth, I can’t project out what I don’t already have inside. If I wanted to live from a loving place, I had to love myself FIRST. I had to experience love from the source of self to even know what I was projecting out to the world. I had to find the voices of leadership through love and not fear.

I can’t make anyone else change, but I will do my best to project the energy that I want to see more of in the world. I will do my best to give the people who want to listen the same opportunities I got. I will listen to the voices of the unheard, and learn and grow from them.

I will keep choosing to do my best to contribute to LOVE in my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions towards myself and others. You do you! I will be here to representing my perspectives of truth FROM A LOVING PLACE.

With Love, Gratitude, and Compassion, 

Rachael Wolff
Author of Letters from A Better Me
FromALovingPlace.com/book

What is True about Choices?

If you convince yourself you don’t have choices, you will CHOOSE to believe that is true.

If you convince yourself you ALWAYS have choices, you will CHOOSe to believe that is true.

I know which perspective I’m going to choose! Now, you get to choose for you.

Choices of Perspective

I’ve chosen both of these perspectives at different times in my life. One kept me a prisoner and held me under water. The other set me free. I refuse to believe I don’t have choices in how I view things. The perspectives I choose keep me from feeling trapped in any ONE thought or belief system. I LOVE THAT! I CAN CHANGE. I CAN tell others what has worked for me and what hasn’t. In the end, we each get the OPTION to believe whatever we focus our attention on. We will find ways to prove either side. Our perceptions of reality will ensure that. It all starts and ends within. 

I’ve made my choice to live by the voice that fuels the LOVE inside me. You can choose to tell me that is not possible in your life, and you will be right if that is what you believe to be true. 

I believed I was prisoner of my circumstances. NO ONE could convince me otherwise until I was ready to open myself up to see another way. That was and is my path to A BETTER ME.

With Love and Gratitude, 

© Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters From A Better Me
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#PerspectiveChallenge: I, We, He, She, They, or It Should Have

PERSPECTIVE: I, WE, HE, SHE, THEY, OR IT SHOULD HAVE

We can give should a lot of power over our lives if we are not careful. I don’t care who we are shoulding. When we should a person or situation, we are fighting the reality of what is. Shoulding is a form of shaming ourselves and others. I used to use should haves to beat myself up in ways way beyond what anyone else could ever do to me. I used should to keep me prisoner of my self-proclaimed pity party. I also used should haves against other people and situations to keep me prisoner of my past and to punish them.  The should haves create toxic energy. The question is, do you really want to be carrying that around? If we carry that energy around with us, it will unconsciously seep into what we feel, think, and do. 

What should have been is an illusion and a toxic one at that. It is NOT reality. What happened is what should have happened, because it is what happened—that is reality. What are we going to do with what happened? No reason to waste time and energy on on should haves. Empower yourself and your energy to move you to make the changes you can make right now.

If we didn’t do something:

  • What did we learn from not doing it?
  • Are we committed to doing better next time?
  • What can we do right now to help us to move past our learning experience (let it go, forgive ourselves, pray, express gratitude for the lesson, etc.)?

If someone else or others didn’t do something:

  • What did it teach us about the person and/or group?
  • What choices do we have in the present to change the affect of their actions on our lives? 
  • How will be proceed with this person and/or people (accept, forgive, walk away, stand up to, report, etc)?

If we believe something should have been different:

  • What lessons can we take from the situation? 
  • What positives came from the situation?
  • How can we shift our energy to accept the reality of the situation?

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Challenge yourself to shift your perspective from should have to a more productive energy booster for you. Anytime you hear should have pop into your thoughts—challenge it. Ask yourself questions like the ones up above. See how your energy shifts. Be conscious of how you feel when you think should have

  • Where do you feel it? 
  • How does that feeling move through your body? 

After you have gained perspective, check in again. 

  • How does the thought feel? 
  • Where do you feel it? 
  • How is it affecting your mood to think about learning instead of fighting the reality of what already happened?

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Today is My Focus for 2018

On the first day of 2018, I decided I wasn’t going to focus on resolutions. Instead, I tore off the back of last year’s desk calendar. I pulled out my old Oprah Magazines, Louise Hay calendars, and Maya Angelou quotes and got to work making myself an inspirational collage. I figured by looking for positive and inspiring words, sayings, and quotes I would get my head where I wanted it to be.

Thinking of life in terms of a year was too overwhelming to me. I’m focused on taking life one day at a time and using my inspiration board as the daily inspiration to keep me moving in the direction of becoming the best version of myself. I have no idea where my road is taking me. I used to be so focused on planning it all out, but nothing I spent so much time planning has come to be. My life looks much different than I could have ever imagined, and I have so much to be grateful for on a daily basis. Yet, if I chose to look at my life through different goggles, I could easily focus on what I don’t have. Seeing my life through those dark glasses doesn’t help me. I have days, I choose to wallow, but I’ve learned that is my choice and I can change my mind at any second of the day. I don’t have to be stuck in any one way of thinking.

After reading dozens of books on staying present, I realized that it is a really good idea. I can’t change the past, but I can find the lessons in everything I’ve experienced. I can forgive myself and others for the hard stuff. I can find the blessings in all the perceived good and bad I’ve experienced. Doing this helps me not be a prisoner of my past and a victim of my present and future.

As for the future, I’m going to face whatever hardships come my way head-on and count my many blessings. The Divine Source of love will take care of the rest. I know I’m here to serve humanity through eyes of love. I know opportunities and challenges will be brought to my life to help me grow and serve. That’s all I need to know. The rest will unfold however it needs to, why waste my time worrying about how that looks? Today, I choose to look at life with an open heart and mind. I’m just going to enjoy the journey and live life to the best of my ability.

Thanks for reading.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2018

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The World is Full of Good People: Focusing Our Energy On What We Want

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My daily routine includes scrolling my Facebook feeds of pages I’ve liked. All of these pages are there to surround me with the good energy I want in my life. I love seeing similar messages from different pages that inspire love, positive action, and moving people away from victim thinking. Every once in awhile, I will see messages that promote good people are hard to find… WHAT??!!! No, great people are easy to find if our energy is in the right place. If we appreciate the amazing people around us, more will continue to show up. If we tell the Universe that there are no good people, then we will be constantly seeking out the sick, unhealthy people to prove our point. We have to decide if we want the good people in our lives and acknowledge and appreciate that we have them. From the tellers at the bank, cashiers at check out, friends who reach out, we are responsible for recognizing them. If we are focused on the negative we will continue to get that check-out person who is more insulting than helpful.

This is the same for relationships, if we tell ourselves, there are no good men/ women, we will continue to put our energy into knocking people down, and attracting people to our lives that prove the point we sent out to the Universe. Keep the messages that you send out to the Universe clean. Embrace the feeling that the messages you send out are true. They will be, you choose if it is for your benefit or detriment. This is the Law of Attraction.

If we want better for our lives, we have to change the language we are putting out there. Every moment we spend knocking others down, we are taking time away from our own joy. Search out the good people in the world, put your energy there. They are not hard to find. Some sites are dedicated to showing people in their best lights. When we are ready to see the kindness in the world, it will start appearing all around us.

Most import, be kind to yourself, because you will have a harder time spotting it in the world if you are constantly knocking yourself down. You are worth more than that!!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff