I’m grateful I believe in attracting and repelling energy. Just like magnets, I believe we attract and repel energy. If our energy aligns with someone else’s, we attract them into our lives in some way, shape, or form. If the energies repel each other, we will feel pushed a part. We move away from them or something comes up that a plan falls through. There is something about the two energies that are creating resistance in the present moment. I’ve learned to REALLY trust both when I’m attracted and when I’m repelled.
Energy doesn’t lie. Our energy is either aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation at any given moment in time. We will attract and/or repel people according to where our energy is. Even within those energy fields, where we focus our energy can determine who we will attract and/or repel at any given moment. I’ve seen this work so many times in my life. Even when I was attracting some pretty nasty stuff. It actually helped me become aware of when I was in negative energy field. I touched on this a few days ago, but let’s go deeper.
It took me attracting some pretty unhealthy romantic partners for me to get down deep enough to see that I wasn’t as positive of a person as the surface revealed. Deep down, I was hiding layers of shame, self-hatred, contempt, resentments, envy, and rage. That’s not even tapping into the unhealed trauma. The energy I was putting out was leaking toxic levels of fear, lack, and separation, which is why I attracted partners who were attracted to that energy. The healthier I got, the energies started repelling each other until one of us would left. I’ve never been so grateful for the power of energy in my life!! As I worked through the layers, the energies created more and more distance to the point where there is no emotional charge at all. Neither of the people is anywhere close to my life, but I have no toxic feelings for them. I absolutely trust that my energy is just in a VERY different place.
This doesn’t just happen romantically, that is just the most extreme. I’ve been attracted and repelled in all areas of my life: professional, spiritual, friendships, groups, organizations, loved ones, etc. It’s not about judgment, just how energy aligns. I trust whoever is in or out of my life is there for the exact time they are meant to be. I trust when people cancel plans, circumstances change, groups no longer feel right, and others do. I trust the energy.
When my agent and I were shopping my book, I knew exactly the energy I was looking for in a publisher, and that was the EXACT energy I got when I found Mango Publishing. I absolutely love the team there and I have great relationships with many of the authors, staff, and interns. I heard no and “We’re passing” A LOT before Mango Publishing revealed themselves to us. I trusted that the right person would align with the messages in the book. I wanted someone who saw vision and boy did she!
The deeper my belief gets in energies attracting and repelling each other, the less personal I take it when people don’t like me, what I write, who I am, or what I represent in the world. I trust whoever is meant to be close to me will. I trust whoever is supposed to read my work will. I believe that if it resonates with a person, it’s because our energies are aligned. I’ve picked up best-selling books that repel me. I’ve met best-selling authors who repelled me. They just aren’t meant for me. Those seeds are for someone else. If I’m meant to get something from a person or their work, I will be drawn to them and/or their work. I love picking out books to read this way. It’s one of the reasons I love when sample chapters or free previews are available of books and courses. They help me tap into the energy if the person has a voice that resonates or it doesn’t.
My friend and I read books together and talk about them every week. Years ago, we read a book and I swear the book was so hard for me to get through, but I knew there was a reason I still wanted to finish it. There was one chapter in the book that created a giant shift in my life around the way I prayed. I had to trust that even though the lesson was challenging, I was meant to go through it. My energy kept pulling me there, and I’m so grateful I trusted it. Reading and absorbing that one chapter is one of the best seeds I’ve EVER planted.
Here’s what else I learned about energy attracting and repelling: Just because energy attracts or repels doesn’t mean either person or group is bad or good. It simply means the energies don’t match up. Sometimes it may be because one person is in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and the other person is in the energy of love, abundance, and peace in that instant. It could be that even with the same energy fields, the focus of the energy doesn’t align. The beauty is if we are in a dangerous situation, and we trust the energy, people who are looking to do harm may completely avoid us because the energies don’t align. That part is not for me to judge. What is important to me is that I pay attention! When I notice definite examples of energy attracting and repelling, I thank God. The more I show my gratitude, the more I notice it. AND BONUS… because expressing gratitude keeps me in the energy of abundance. Win-win!
Today, I commit to focusing on the energy I’m attracting and repelling. This takes being completely present. I find that having a clear understanding of the energy fields of love, abundance, and peace and fear, lack, and separation are helpful. The more I understand these two groups, the more clearly I see when I’m attracting and repelling—AND what that means about where my energy is. This tool keeps me responsible and accountable for the energy I’m putting out there. It also helps me to be honest with myself, because energy doesn’t lie. There is no one I can blame or give credit to for my energy being where it is. Can people influence my energy? Only if I allow them to. I’ve given myself excuses a millions of times on giving others blame or credit, but the truth is if I didn’t want to be in an energy field, I wouldn’t be there. I’m the one who has to figure out what will help me get out of it, but nobody can do that part for me. They can nurture and support or attack and push buttons, but they can’t MAKE me shift.
When I want to attract people from the energy of love, abundance, and peace my energy needs to be in the place to see them in front of me or else I will repel them. If I’m not repelling people stuck in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, there is something inside me that is attracting the energy. That just means I have some learning to do as long as I keep my mind open to absorb the lesson.
My judgments of people be good, bad, or evil, really don’t serve me. This doesn’t mean I don’t get myself wrapped up in them sometimes, but they don’t serve me. They actually keep me from being open to see where my energy is aligning. My ego gets involved and I pretend I know better than what the energy is trying to teach me. That’s why today my focus is on just paying attention to the energy I attract and repel and thanking God every time I notice.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Available in audiobook, audio CD, ebook, and paperback—find out more by clicking the title)