Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #268

I’m grateful when my body tells me that I’m being emotionally triggered. One of the best things I’ve done for myself is to become aware of how my body is communicating with me. One of the areas I find this really helpful is when I’m emotionally triggered. If I’m reacting to a situation, person, or word from a place of fear, lack, and separation, my body instantly tightens up. If I feel rage coming on, I feel it in my head. If I feel anxiety coming on, I feel it in my chest. If I get the feeling like I’m walking on eggshells, I feel a giant knot in my stomach. If I’m in a place where I fear speaking my truth, I feel it in my throat.

I’ve discovered that not all people feel things in the same places, the same way, so it was important to me to spend time paying attention to every time I felt myself being emotionally triggered. Learning my body’s language is a true gift. I’ve written how to use the body as a tool multiple times through this series because the body is a accurate measure of where my energy ACTUALLY is. I’ve thought I was okay before and my body told me different. My body holds me accountable for where my energy is. I can’t lie to my body. That is a blessing, because my body shows me when there is an opportunity to heal.

I know that I’m one with my body, but when I’m emotionally triggered my mind sometimes plays tricks on me, because feeling separate is part of how I allow my stories to come in. When I feel the connection between my body, mind, and soul, I’m in my oneness. I have to feel the oneness inside me in order to connect with the oneness extended from me.

Fear, lack, and separation don’t have the ability hide as easily when I listen to what my body is telling me. Being aware is key.

Today, I commit to listening to what my body is telling me about where my energy is. My body is connected to my energy even when my mind is trying to convince me otherwise. My mind can be a bit of a trickster. If I’m feeling aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, my mind can take me into story land and come up with all kinds of stories convincing me my energy is in a great place even when it isn’t. This can be considered toxic positivity. When I’m not aligned with love, abundance, and peace, and my mind is trying to convince myself I am, the things I attract to myself are NOT fun! This is why I find is so important to listen to my body.

I learned to read my body by watching shows and reading things that I know would trigger me. Each time I was triggered, I would pay attention to where I felt it in my body. When I’m practicing this, because it does take practice, I try to get as specific as I can about exactly what I’m feeling and when I first remember being triggered. I allow my body to take me into the feeling. I’m amazed at how fast I’m getting at this now. I know when I hit the point when I feel a physical release of my body.

Our bodies have so much to tell us, we just have to be willing to listen.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me – Click the cover to get your copy today!

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #231

I’m grateful I believe in attracting and repelling energy. Just like magnets, I believe we attract and repel energy. If our energy aligns with someone else’s, we attract them into our lives in some way, shape, or form. If the energies repel each other, we will feel pushed a part. We move away from them or something comes up that a plan falls through. There is something about the two energies that are creating resistance in the present moment. I’ve learned to REALLY trust both when I’m attracted and when I’m repelled.

Energy doesn’t lie. Our energy is either aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation at any given moment in time. We will attract and/or repel people according to where our energy is. Even within those energy fields, where we focus our energy can determine who we will attract and/or repel at any given moment. I’ve seen this work so many times in my life. Even when I was attracting some pretty nasty stuff. It actually helped me become aware of when I was in negative energy field. I touched on this a few days ago, but let’s go deeper.

It took me attracting some pretty unhealthy romantic partners for me to get down deep enough to see that I wasn’t as positive of a person as the surface revealed. Deep down, I was hiding layers of shame, self-hatred, contempt, resentments, envy, and rage. That’s not even tapping into the unhealed trauma. The energy I was putting out was leaking toxic levels of fear, lack, and separation, which is why I attracted partners who were attracted to that energy. The healthier I got, the energies started repelling each other until one of us would left. I’ve never been so grateful for the power of energy in my life!! As I worked through the layers, the energies created more and more distance to the point where there is no emotional charge at all. Neither of the people is anywhere close to my life, but I have no toxic feelings for them. I absolutely trust that my energy is just in a VERY different place.

This doesn’t just happen romantically, that is just the most extreme. I’ve been attracted and repelled in all areas of my life: professional, spiritual, friendships, groups, organizations, loved ones, etc. It’s not about judgment, just how energy aligns. I trust whoever is in or out of my life is there for the exact time they are meant to be. I trust when people cancel plans, circumstances change, groups no longer feel right, and others do. I trust the energy.

When my agent and I were shopping my book, I knew exactly the energy I was looking for in a publisher, and that was the EXACT energy I got when I found Mango Publishing. I absolutely love the team there and I have great relationships with many of the authors, staff, and interns. I heard no and “We’re passing” A LOT before Mango Publishing revealed themselves to us. I trusted that the right person would align with the messages in the book. I wanted someone who saw vision and boy did she!

The deeper my belief gets in energies attracting and repelling each other, the less personal I take it when people don’t like me, what I write, who I am, or what I represent in the world. I trust whoever is meant to be close to me will. I trust whoever is supposed to read my work will. I believe that if it resonates with a person, it’s because our energies are aligned. I’ve picked up best-selling books that repel me. I’ve met best-selling authors who repelled me. They just aren’t meant for me. Those seeds are for someone else. If I’m meant to get something from a person or their work, I will be drawn to them and/or their work. I love picking out books to read this way. It’s one of the reasons I love when sample chapters or free previews are available of books and courses. They help me tap into the energy if the person has a voice that resonates or it doesn’t.

My friend and I read books together and talk about them every week. Years ago, we read a book and I swear the book was so hard for me to get through, but I knew there was a reason I still wanted to finish it. There was one chapter in the book that created a giant shift in my life around the way I prayed. I had to trust that even though the lesson was challenging, I was meant to go through it. My energy kept pulling me there, and I’m so grateful I trusted it. Reading and absorbing that one chapter is one of the best seeds I’ve EVER planted.

Here’s what else I learned about energy attracting and repelling: Just because energy attracts or repels doesn’t mean either person or group is bad or good. It simply means the energies don’t match up. Sometimes it may be because one person is in the energy of fear, lack, and separation and the other person is in the energy of love, abundance, and peace in that instant. It could be that even with the same energy fields, the focus of the energy doesn’t align. The beauty is if we are in a dangerous situation, and we trust the energy, people who are looking to do harm may completely avoid us because the energies don’t align. That part is not for me to judge. What is important to me is that I pay attention! When I notice definite examples of energy attracting and repelling, I thank God. The more I show my gratitude, the more I notice it. AND BONUS… because expressing gratitude keeps me in the energy of abundance. Win-win!

Today, I commit to focusing on the energy I’m attracting and repelling. This takes being completely present. I find that having a clear understanding of the energy fields of love, abundance, and peace and fear, lack, and separation are helpful. The more I understand these two groups, the more clearly I see when I’m attracting and repelling—AND what that means about where my energy is. This tool keeps me responsible and accountable for the energy I’m putting out there. It also helps me to be honest with myself, because energy doesn’t lie. There is no one I can blame or give credit to for my energy being where it is. Can people influence my energy? Only if I allow them to. I’ve given myself excuses a millions of times on giving others blame or credit, but the truth is if I didn’t want to be in an energy field, I wouldn’t be there. I’m the one who has to figure out what will help me get out of it, but nobody can do that part for me. They can nurture and support or attack and push buttons, but they can’t MAKE me shift.

When I want to attract people from the energy of love, abundance, and peace my energy needs to be in the place to see them in front of me or else I will repel them. If I’m not repelling people stuck in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, there is something inside me that is attracting the energy. That just means I have some learning to do as long as I keep my mind open to absorb the lesson.

My judgments of people be good, bad, or evil, really don’t serve me. This doesn’t mean I don’t get myself wrapped up in them sometimes, but they don’t serve me. They actually keep me from being open to see where my energy is aligning. My ego gets involved and I pretend I know better than what the energy is trying to teach me. That’s why today my focus is on just paying attention to the energy I attract and repel and thanking God every time I notice.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Available in audiobook, audio CD, ebook, and paperback—find out more by clicking the title)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #204

I’m grateful for the energy I get from exercising. When I started exercising on a regular basis, I realized I had an upswing in energy. I didn’t feel like I was hitting a brick wall around 4 PM. I felt better during dinner and clean-up. I slept better. My stress levels dropped way down, so the energy was a peaceful energy. When I stopped exercising on a regularly basis my energy dropped, mood dropped, and stress levels increased again. I’m grateful I got the reminder of how much exercise helped me in ways not related to losing weight. Exercise is such a positive tool for my physical and mental well-being. I know that when I’m making time to exercise, even if it’s 20 minutes, I’m doing something physical to align my energy with love, abundance, and peace. I’m so grateful for that.

Today, I commit to exercising to feel more energy. Right now, my weight is in the range I’m comfortable with. It’s in these times I need to remember there are other reasons to exercise beyond losing weight. One of those reasons is the increase in GOOD energy. Nervous, stressful, vengeful, angry, and/or chaotic energy is all linked to the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I don’t take actions steps to take care of my energy, I can easily slip into cycles that will keep me in the chaos. Exercising is one of the ways I like to physically shift my energy into the space of love, abundance, and peace. It took me decades, but I finally found a few exercise programs that work well for me while also getting me the results I want. We each have to find that for ourselves. I pay attention to my energy when I’m working out to see if it’s making me feel better physically and mentally. If it doesn’t, it’s not the right exercise for me. I have friends who do all kinds of different programs. Some I like, and some I don’t. Some I will do for a short time, and others I don’t like from the first time doing it.

Finding the programs that fuels the energy we want to exude is important. I love the feeling of walking in nature, going on my Simply Fit board, and doing the Classical Stretch work out with Miranda Esmonde-White. I will go through times where I do other movement workouts, but I tend to go back to the activities that get my energy where I want it. When we pay attention to our energy, our bodies tell us what they need.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (for more information, formats, and purchasing click the title)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #145

I’m grateful that energy is more powerful than distance and time. Sometimes in our small minds, we forget we are made up of energy and our energy is connected to the vastness of the Universe as a whole. We forget that we are made up of water and the power energy has to move water. Energy isn’t about judgements, it’s what is. There is no fighting energy, because the truth will always be revealed in the energy we are putting out and what is being created from it. The best tool we have is to harness the energy we are putting out, which means staying conscious of how we are aligning it. Where are we contributing our energy the majority of time? Is it to thoughts, beliefs, and actions aligning with love, abundance, and peace? Is it to thoughts, beliefs, and actions aligning with fear, lack, and separation?

How does all this tie into why I’m grateful that energy is more powerful than distance and time? The answer is for SO many reasons! In 2020, the distance between times I’ve got to see friends, loved ones, and likeminded people has been stretched out. I’ve also had to connect to all my loved ones at a distance for extended periods of time. This has been such an opportunity for me to see how powerful energy is. Where I used to feel like I had to be face to face in order to connect to people at the level I did, I found out that was a complete MYTH. No matter what distance I am from someone, our energies can still connect in ways that defy all space and time. I’ve created so many meaningful friendships over the course of this pandemic that aren’t lessened by the fact that we have never met in person. As I’ve talked about before, video calling has opened up connections in so many different fields to help people align with likeminded people.

When I’m aligned love, abundance and peace time stops being an issue. I know longer have to fight time, which includes aging, progress, and where I am in this moment. Here’s what I know, when I align my energy with love, abundance, and peace time becomes my friend. My internal stories are wasting energy fighting where I am in time, so they are putting energy into places that matter. During the holiday season, I tend to challenge myself with this, because I can easily slip into fear, lack, and separation trying to get everything done on a timeline, but when I really look at my story, I see I’m exuding energy in areas that are creating obstacles of time. If I let go of the story and align my energy, I’m right where I need to be in this moment.

All of this has also made me see the absolute DANGERS of aligning my energy with fear, lack, and separation for any period of time, which is one of the many reasons I keep up with this daily blog. If I was to allow my energy to align there, I would be going between constant states of anxiety, depression, rage, hate, separation, lack, and fear in my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions. I wouldn’t see facts, because the facts don’t align with extreme states of fear. We attract people with like energy, so we attract more fear, lack, and separation to the point where we create an alternate reality from that space. We strengthen wherever we put our energy, so if we for our energy in fear, lack, and separation, we can create dark places with distance and time. It’s not the distance and time that we need to be worried about, it’s the energy we are putting into what we are creating right now in this moment with our own energy.

These realizations keep me in such gratitude for the people who are attracted to what I do and what others do that are or are becoming conscious of the power of the energy we are contributing to the whole. When we clean up our own energy, we contribute to the energy of the Universe. Doing this can help heal and restore what is good in the world both in our humanity and in our environment. When I know longer fear time, I create space to contribute my energy to something that matters in this MOMENT. It doesn’t mean I’m in a constant state of doing. BEING is just as important. When I’m BEING peace, BEING love, and BEING abundance, which means I’m in a present state where my energy is fully aligned, I’m contributing to the healing of the world just by being there. Someone else who is in the state of doing may need the energy I’m putting out there, and that helps them.

Today, I commit to focusing on energy over distance and time. When my energy is fully aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I feel it in my body. When my energy is fully aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I feel it in my body. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. If we stay in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, it will eventually wreak havoc on our bodies as well as our minds. One of the dead giveaways when my body is aligned with fear, lack, and separation is this feeling of heat and pressure (tightening) that builds up in my chest and feels like fire coming out of my head. My body clenches up. My hands will even sometimes change color because of the restriction of blood flow. When I’m fully aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I feel things tingle throughout my body, and sometimes in concentrated areas. They feel light, and expansive. When I really focus on them, I get a joy surge that makes the energy even stronger. THOSE ARE MY FAVORITE! I am often brought to tears because the energy literally can’t be contained within my body.

Once we consciously become aware of our energy, we gain the power to shift it in either direction. When I’m in a place where I’m fully aligned, I focus my energy on people, goals, and dreams to give them power. I focus on making positive changes in the world. When I do this, I feel closer to the people I love and likeminded people, no matter how far we are from each other. I also feel like I’m helping to put more light in the world.

Today, When I find myself starting to focus on time over energy, I will be conscious of where my energy is going. How is it serving what I’m doing by stressing over time? Stress over time just creates more obstacles. I don’t know what is going to happen in the future, but I know where I do have control is the energy I put into this moment. If I contribute my energy to being in this moment and showing up to the best of my ability, right now—time doesn’t matter. I’m going to make the most of this moment, which is the only time that really counts.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me

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Daily Aligning with Love, abundance, and Peace #62

I’m SO grateful for people who work on themselves. When I interact with people who work on themselves, I leave the conversation feeling inspired, even if our perspectives are different. The beautiful thing about people who work on themselves is they have already began the process of seeing that we can believe perspectives that don’t serve us. When we are open enough to see that, we listen and learn from each other in the most beautiful way. I love those conversations that go, “I used to believe…, but I realized…” or “I used contribute my energy to…, but now I realize how unhealthy it is for me to think that way.” I love being in conferences where the messages resonate through everyone watching and you can see the heads nodding together. The energy is palpable. When someone is working on aligning with the energy of love, abundance,and peace, I can feel it through their words, actions, and responses. It truly is a beautiful thing, and I love the energy it puts off. To me, there is nothing more special than someone sharing their self-work, because I can feel that person’s light shining. It’s part of the reason I like working with people on this journey. Just feeling their light helps mine shine brighter. This is how we light up the world.

Just like the energy of love, abundance, and peace is contagious, so is the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Unhealthy people set unhealthy traps to bring people into their energy. If a person isn’t working on themselves, it can happen unconsciously. That’s what happened to me when I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I had no idea the slippery slope of attaching to the energy of fear, lack, and separation would take me down. I couldn’t see facts because my lens could only see in the direction of fear, lack, and separation. I didn’t realize how sick I got the longer I stayed in that energy. When I was in that energy, I was weak and easy to manipulate. I learned through years of research how important it is to align my energy love, abundance, and peace. The blessings are we can see other people who are aligned, who aren’t, and/or who are working on it. Nobody is perfect. When we can admit that we are learning and growing, it opens us up in the most beautiful ways.

Today, I commit to focus on how I can contribute to the good in the world. We cannot contribute to the authentic good in the world if our energy is trapped in the prison of fear, lack, and separation. Our path becomes jaded. We can’t see clearly because we are blinded by our own dark thinking. We can take a good and beautiful cause and bring toxic energy to it, which then contributes to the chaos. Part III of Letters from a Better Me is all about how to represent what we STAND for, instead of what we are against. That against energy can be powerful and unconsciously take us deep into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When we don’t take the path inward to focus on where we are contributing our energy, we sabotage the good by bringing in the darkness.

Today, all my energy is going towards how I can create more good in the world. This is one of the reasons I’ve felt called to do these daily aligning posts. It’s also why I wrote, Letters from a Better Me. I know that when my energy is in the best place possible, I have a better chance of creating lasting change in the world. It is essential that I keep my energy aligned with this mission, because with so much fear, separation, and lack happening around the world, I want to contribute as much light as I possibly can.

Yesterday, I had to work extra towards aligning my energy after seeing too much fear, lack, and separation. My body makes it very clear when I need to do the extra work. We definitely need to listen to ourselves and tune in! When we don’t, it’s easy to go down the rabbit hole. The quickest way out is to do something right now towards shifting our energy and creating more good, even if that good is within ourselves. If we sit and do nothing, the inner darkness will get the opportunity to take over.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me (click here to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #42

I feel so blessed and grateful I attract the energy I put out into the world, because I know if I don’t like what is coming back to me or where my focus is going, I can change it. My energy being aligned with love, abundance, and peace attracts people to me and/or my work that are aligned or noticing they want to be aligned too. I’m contributing to the collective energy that I want to see more of in the world. I see so many people aligning, questioning, shifting, growing, and expanding. If my energy wasn’t aligned, all I would see is the ongoing chaos created by the same cycles of thinking that come from fear, lack, and separation. I have to make choices daily to project, reflect, and attract, but they are MY choices. I find that incredibly empowering!

Today, I commit to paying close attention to what I’m attracting to me with the energy I’m putting out in the world. When I finally got this lesson, it truly changed the trajectory of my life. I repel and attract according to the energy I’m putting out in the world. Knowing this empowers me to make necessary changes to align my energy with love, abundance, and peace. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have challenges, I do. My perspective on my challenges is what I choose to dig into. If I don’t like where my head is going, I know it’s my job to work on that energy to shift it away from fear, lack, and separation. If I’m stuck in the energy of blame, I’m in a unhealthy cycle that projects, reflects, and attracts more situations and people I can use to strengthen that energy, which comes from fear, lack, and separation. If I choose to project the energy of love, abundance, and peace (we have to have inside us in order to project), I attract people and situations that help me to stay aligned with that. It’s so important to pay attention and notice where our energy is going and what we are attracting with it. When we do, it empowers us to take charge of where our energy goes.

Sending prayers out to all of those who have not discovered their power. When you are ready to embrace the energy of love, abundance, and peace on a daily basis your life WILL change. The reality you see will change.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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#PerspectiveChallenge: I Can’t Stand When People Use the Word…

PERSPECTIVE: I CAN’T STAND WHEN PEOPLE USE THE WORD…

Our attachment to words can create a lot of conflict in our lives, and often times when other people use the words that we HATE they aren’t using them in the same way as we are interpreting them. I’m amazed at the amount of verbal attacks that happen over the use of words, and it gets even more complicated when we think about some of the words that people hate, empower others. This can make communication quite the challenge. 

What words get under your skin?

What words have a negative impact on you but a positive impact on someone else? 

If a word has a negative impact on the way you feel, what you think, how you act, and or react towards others, you are giving the word power over you. Do you really want a word that someone else uses to create stress in your world? The words others use reflect their reality. Knowing our own trigger words can help us to not give them power over us. When we hold ourselves accountable and responsible for the energy we exude, we start changing how we let things get to us.

There are ways we can communicate with others without creating a war with words. If we tell people how a word makes us feel, they may explain to us how they actually meant it. We can also simply ask them, “Why did you chose to use that word?” When we approach a situation with curiosity instead of judgment, we diffuse the situation and the power it has over us. If you don’t like their perspective of truth, you don’t have to live by it, but creating more negativity around a word, will affect YOUR energy, so be conscious of what you want to put out into the world. You have to ask yourself— Is another person’s use of words worth you losing your peace?

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Take a word you have a negative attachment to and come up with three different thoughts about the word that take away the power it has over you. You will be amazed at how well this works the next time the word comes up in conversation.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2019

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Do You REALLY Want to Live Better?

7 Steps to Living Better NOW

1. Living Better Doesn’t Happen in the Future

Living better happens right now in this very moment. It doesn’t start this afternoon, tonight, or tomorrow. If you are not willing to make a change right now, your story of wanting without getting will continue. Right now, you can write three things you are grateful for. Right now, you can change a thought that you don’t like. Right now, you can choose to take a walk, lift weights, eat better, or dance. Right now, you can improve your mindset. Right now, you can make a list of all the things you do right. OH— You don’t have time? Right now, you can take three long breaths in and exhale them completely. We have time to do something better in each moment we are given. We have to make the conscious choice to make the most of the moment. 

2. Take Control of Your Story

We can choose to believe the things that make us feel worse, or we can choose to believe the things that make us feel better. We weave our stories based on our mindset not on the people, events, and/or situations we are in. The same event can happen to ten different people and each person will process the event differently. Even the most brutal situations like the Holocaust can create some to rise and others to sink. It’s not about the events that happened, it’s about the mindset of the people who survived. I always think of the AMAZING Elie Wiesel, author of Night and Viktor E. Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning. They found meaning in the madness, which led them to lead an amazing lives after their experiences during the Holocaust.  They took control of their stories. We all have that power. For me, I didn’t want any of the trauma I experienced to be a crutch. I needed to find meaning in my madness. Everything got better when I took back control of my story and embraced the concept that my experiences were all necessary for me to live my best life. If we are the victims of our own stories, we are living within our own prisons. 

3. Start the Work Within

Nothing outside of you will fix an inside problem. If you don’t do the inside work, all you are doing is wasting time, money, and energy. Things might feel better for short periods of time, but the results you are searching for won’t stick around if you don’t change what is going on inside. If you don’t look at the person you are and know that you are loyal to what’s in your best interests, trustworthy of your own moral code, loving to the person looking back at you in the mirror, and honest about who you are and want to be—You will never find it outside of yourself. NO person, place, or thing, can MAKE you feel complete except for the person in the mirror. Some have argued to me about their spiritual lives, but if we don’t know how to love ourselves completely, we can’t experience the love that the Universe is offering. When we love ourselves, our connection to our spiritual path strengthens beyond the imaginable. The work starts by committing to love the person you are. It took me writing three things I like/ love about myself for 35 days in order for me to truly embrace the person I am. It will take some shorter periods and others longer, but what is important is to commit to the process. Being cruel to yourself doesn’t get you anywhere. When we self-abuse we feed our stories of why we can’t have the life we want and or own victimhood. Make sure you are treating yourself with the love and respect that you deserve.

4. Be Conscious of the Energy that YOU are Inviting In

We have to invite energy in order to let it effect our lives. This is why someone isn’t capable of making us happy or sad. We choose to invite the energy of those feelings in. The power is in our hands. I know this can be challenging, and I’m the last to tell you that I do this perfectly. It’s okay, because I’m aware and accountable when I’m choosing to experience different energies. When my kids aren’t listening to what I’m telling them to do, they are talking back, and/or screaming at friends during video games, I have lots of choices about the energy I’m going to invite in. I know the calmer I am, the more effective I am. In order to be the best communicator, I have to choose the energy I invite in VERY consciously. I won’t remain calm if I let my hormonal teens’ actions dictate my energy. Just like, my partner can do something to show his love to me, and if I don’t choose to feel the energy of his love, I could spin it into something that stirs my energy in the opposite direction. What energy are you inviting in? When you feel something you like and/or don’t like it’s important to be conscious that you have chosen to engage with whatever energy you are feeling. You have more power than you know. When you become conscious of this, life gets better, because you know you can re-write a piece of your story and the energy you invite in will shift along with it. 

5. Conscious Breaths

In order to keep ourselves present and focused on living better now, we have to stay conscious. One of the easiest ways to do this is by remember to breathe consciously by inhaling to the count of ten, then exhaling to the count of ten for a minimum of three cycles. REMEMBER TO EXHALE! When we stress and/or feel pain, we tend to hold our breath. This limits our oxygen, so you can imagine the effects on our entire system. Our brains need oxygen to work at their greatest capacity, so BREATHE!! Just taking the time to consciously breathe can help you find the answers you need in any given situation. Doing this keeps us from reacting from our old stories and gives us time to create a new and better ones. When we respond to life’s challenges from that place, we live better. 

6. Take Action

You are living in the moment, taking control of your story, working within, inviting in energy consciously, and breathing fully. What better time than right now to take action? What are you going to do right now to live better? 

7. Write it Down

Make the time to write down your new story. This doesn’t have to be complicated or take you hours, it is just about taking time to commit to the new story you are writing for your life. You can put a notebook in your bag, write lists on your phone (YES, there are apps for that), create a file on your computer and/or tablet, have a notebook on your nightstand (I do), etc. Just make the time. We can always find time for what’s important to us. If we want to live better, we have to change the old patterns and excuses that keep us from doing it.  Here are a few examples of what writing it down can look like:

  • A daily gratitude list—gratitude is a story of abundance. 
  • A daily intention list—Gives you goals to help guide your thoughts, feelings, and actions throughout the day.
  • A daily accomplishment list—documenting how you chose to make your life better today builds on the positive impact of your new story.
  • Write out today’s story—Choose positive perspectives to write out your daily story. Even if you may not have reacted the way you wanted to in the moment: What did you learn from reacting that way? If something like that happened again, what are some positive responses?

You can do one, or do them all. Just commit to what feels right. There is no place for blaming others or self-blaming here. We simply are taking responsibility for the lives we want to live and doing it to the best of our ability in the moment. When we don’t do it in a way that aligns with living better, we take responsibility and learn from it. If we document these things, we have less chance of needing to repeat the lessons. 

I hope you choose to live better now. This is a one step at a time process. It all happens in the moment of Now. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2019 (You can follow me on Facebook)

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Whatever you choose to do today, be kind to yourself. You deserve love and respect. Give it to yourself!

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 70 – Doing What We Love

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 70: Doing What We Love

“Doing what you love is freedom. Loving what you do is happiness.”

-Lana Del Ray

We’ve reached a point where it’s not enough to KNOW what we love doing. Now, we need to do what we love. There is no more room for excuses why we aren’t taking steps towards doing what we love. The only reason we don’t is because we don’t love ourselves enough to experience the joy of it. Taking the steps is the key to having the ability to do what we love. Without taking steps, we will never get there. I can say I love doing this or that all day long, but until I do something about it, it will be the cause for the feeling of lack. That feeling of lack will permeate through everything I do and don’t do. That feeling of lack takes our energy down and we start manifesting and attracting things that will bring us more feelings of lack. THAT IS NOT WHAT WE WANT TO BE DOING!!

“Let’s do what we love and do a lot of it.”

-Marc Jacobs

If we want to manifest and attract abundance in our lives we have to be in the energy of abundance. We have to do the work. The work is to do what we love with energy of fulfillment, joy, and love. Why do we make this so hard? If we don’t love ourselves, and I mean really love ourselves, we sabotage any level of love that goes above what we feel for ourselves. That’s why I talked yesterday about loving our bodies and actively showing our bodies they are valued. They are the structure of our internal homes, yet many of us don’t take the time to care and love the vessel that is carrying us through this life. Instead, we focus on the lack of what it does or doesn’t do and the lack of what it doesn’t look like or feel like…this all ties into how our energy affects what we are attracting to our lives.

Why not love what we do and do what we love? What do we have to lose by investing some of our time taking steps to doing what we love? This isn’t just about work—This is about life! We have to start taking steps somewhere, and once we do all the rest begins to fall into place with the energy we are aligning ourselves with. Start doing what you love today! Don’t wait to take a step tomorrow.

“Believe in yourself, listen to your gut, and do what you love.”

-Dylan Lauren

What CAN YOU DO TODAY THAT WILL START CONTRIBUTING TO THE ENERGY OF DOING WHAT YOU LOVE?

If you love hiking—Start walking! Take walks daily. Find local areas to walk in nature. Don’t be surprised when hiking shoes come into your life, and the dream hiking trip falls into your lap. This is what happens when we start taking the steps.

If you love art—Start watching how-to videos EVERYDAY and practicing your skills! Don’t be surprised if one day someone offers to buy your work or you have your own spot in an art show. This is what happens when we start doing the work.

If you love to write—Start writing EVERYDAY! You can write in a journal, a blog, a book, social media posts, etc. Keep writing, study techniques, and reading other people’s writings who you admire. Don’t be surprised when opportunities to write come to your door. You’re attracting this to your life by the energy you’re putting out.

If you love helping others—Start volunteering your time EVERYDAY to help others in some way! If you are doing this from a pure place of love, not of trying to win points, or thinking it’s what you should be doing, you will start attracting people who truly want help to get past the position they are in right now. You will be helping, without enabling and the results will keep the love in your heart full. Don’t be surprised when all kinds of blessings come to your life for being in this place.

If you love being a parent—Do things EVERYDAY that support this love! Be present and see how the energy shifts and expands through your home. Your kids will feel that energy of love and it will permeate into what they do too. Don’t be surprised if parenting becomes a lot easier all because of where your head is.

If you love working numbers—Push yourself daily on number problems to solve! You can find all you need and more on the Intranet. Your skills start increasing and problem-solving becomes even more fun as you work the numbers. Don’t be surprised when opportunities start coming your way.

If you love acting—Start running lines, doing the exercises, and honing your craft DAILY! Don’t be surprised when the opportunity shows up with an opportunity to act for others.

If you love cooking—Spend time learning techniques and cooking DAILY. There is nothing we can’t learn today in this day and age. Everything we want to know is only a few finger strokes away. Don’t be surprised when more people start acknowledging your food and giving you opportunities to spread your love for cooking.

WHAT ACTION STEPS ARE YOU CHOOSING TO TAKE TODAY?

STOP TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVE AND START DOING IT! Doing what you love might not lead to a paying gig, but it will improve your life in so many ways because you are taking the time to DO what you love. You will attract blessings beyond what you can even imagine. The way you approach the job you do will change even if your job title doesn’t. Eventually if you stick with the energy of doing what you love, you will start attracting job opportunities that will help you to grow and expand your love. It really is a truly AMAZING process to watch how this works in people’s lives.

So many amazing things have happened in my life once I started putting my whole heart into doing what I love. Once you start taking the steps, miracles start unfolding in front of your eyes. I feel complete AWE when I can see this energy working in my life and the lives of others. It gives me goose bumps EVERY time I hear someone tell me stories of how this has worked in their lives.  It will work for anyone who does the work to puts their energy in the place of love and abundance.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 70 – Doing What I Love

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 39 – Welcoming the Unknown

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part II: A Journey of Perspective

What Launches Us Forward: The Stable Foundation

Day 39: Welcoming the Unknown

“Uncertainty is the essence of life, and it fuels opportunity.”

-Tina Seelig

Why focus on happily ever after? That adds a lot of pressure and expectations to life, love, work, family, and friends. We can’t appreciate the moment we’re in if we always have one foot in a place we think we should and/or could be. Do we think that future place is a place we deserve to be? If we aren’t there—there is a reason. We don’t deserve to be anywhere we’re not. If we are in the midst of a challenge, that is exactly where we are supposed to learn. That is our classroom. We can’t get to the future we think we deserve if we don’t believe and act like we deserve it in the moment we are in. Once we get comfortable with accepting that the future is unknown, we get the space to make better choices on what we are doing right now.

Making choices that contribute to the energy that we want to see in ourselves, our futures, and in the world changes our reality. It’s different then attaching to the unknown future, because focusing on the energy focuses us on the journey. We begin to welcome the unknown because of the energy we know we are feeding into it. We know that what comes is because of the energy we are putting out, so what we really feel inside comes to life. If we need to learn from a spot of darkness we carry, we will get a lesson that shows it to us. If we feel the light within us permeating into our current moment, we bring that energy into the unknown. That has the power to manifest things beyond what our human minds can comprehend—MIRACLES!

One of my favorite expressions is “I plan, God laughs.” I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve had my focus on the perfect future. I thought I just knew what my future would look like. I had no idea the biggest blessings in my life were the things that didn’t go as planned. I had so much to learn from every moment I would have chosen to miss. Even surviving attempted suicide, rape, abuse, and some lessons that involved the people I love most were necessary for my life to be where it is today. I much rather be creating a life from the energy I have now than what I would have created if I stuck to the energy I was in then.

Accepting the unknown is scary when you are lost in the energy of fear, if we can’t accept the unknown—We miss the opportunity to embrace the unknown and keep our focus on the energy we are putting into it. When we can accept the past, become secure in the present, and welcome the unknown—We find peace and stability. We let go of the chaos and put energy into ourselves and the world that we actually want to be there.

Years ago when I started reading transformational books, I would read things like I’m writing and think they were telling me NOT to have dark feelings about my past, my present, and my future. I would feel like a failure when I felt my dark feelings come up. Then I would give up on the process because I felt like I was too weak to live the way these authors were telling me it’s possible to live. In the act of trying to find peace I found more chaos. That is why in this series I try to make sure I repeat, messages to encourage you FEEL, FEEL, FEEL! Feel all the feelings that come through you whether they have dark or light in them. Avoiding, suppressing, and numbing feelings keeps us in the dark and we forget to be grateful for the light.

Acknowledging feelings, allowing them to come up, feeling through them, and processing them makes it so we release the dark energy of them, so they don’t build up toxic blocks in our bodies. It helps us see, appreciate, and sustain light energy too. By really looking at them and taking responsibility for them keeps us from taking our dark feelings out on others and helps us to spread our light. Don’t purge your dark feelings all over others. The ones that commiserate with you are actually increasing the dark energy around you. Now if you have friends that you can talk to that will help you process and take personal responsibility for your feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions, that brings light to the dark. If you don’t have that, you will need to depend on your own light (Journaling) coming through or hire someone who will help shine light on your situation. I will talk more about all that in Part III. For now just know, I’m not telling you not to feel dark feelings. They are apart of you and they have plenty to teach you and help you grow. Your light feelings need to be acknowledged in order to actively spread them with intent. The key is to look at all the feelings that come through us.

I will use an example of relationship. This can be any kind of relationship intimate partner, family member, friend, and/or co-worker. Let’s say when we are with this person we judge the moment we are in on the basis of what we think the situation will look like in the future. That judgment creates us to act in fear, which creates expectations, disappointments, anger, resentment, and chaos. If we don’t look at the feelings that are coming up inside of us, we take out all these feelings on them. The energy we put out comes back to us and their reactions reflect our own future fears about the situation. This creates a toxic cycle between all the parties involved. Then you talk to other people and the dark toxic energy spreads.

If we go back, feel the fear and judgment coming up, step back to take the time to process the feelings. We will realize that those feelings are our responsibility to clean up. We ask ourselves why are these feelings coming up right now? What about this situation is really scaring me? What energy am I putting into this situation? We then have taken our dark feelings and learned from them because we became responsible for them. If we were stuck playing the “What if” game about the future, we could slow ourselves down and say what is happening right now? Where are my feelings coming from? Am I reacting to someone else’s dark feelings? Am I not taking responsibility for my self-care by being in this relationship? How can I take care of myself in this situation? These are all forms of processing that will help get our fears out of the future and into the current moment. We can change any future by the energy we give it. Our peace, joy, contentment, and happiness don’t depend on what other people are doing. They depend on our perceptions of the moment, what we are doing, and what energy we are putting into it. We can feed the darkness or feed the light. When we feed the light we can welcome the unknown because we know it will offer us plenty of opportunities to shine our light and learn from our dark. We find clarity in processing our feelings. We can see where we have made other people responsible for our lives, and then take that power back by taking charge of our choices to feel, think, act, and react. We become fully empowered to change the trajectory of our lives.

Welcome the unknown and give yourself the power to experience life better than you ever knew was possible.

Just for Today

What thoughts do you have about the future that are keeping you from embracing the unknown? What energy are you putting into your future thoughts? What are some knew thoughts that could help you to focus more on the energy you are putting into the future instead of pretending you can predict it?

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

Check out Today’s Letter from A Better Me 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 39 – Getting Comfortable With the Unknown