We don’t always know what the day will bring. Sometimes we have more unplanned, unexpected, and unpredictable things happen than others. For me, this is one of those days. I start my day off with having to give someone a ride that wasn’t planned. When I went out to my car, I rolled down my window, and it didn’t go back up. The day continued one thing after the other of unplanned, unexpected, and unpredictable events. Even to the point where I after I took my car down to the auto repair shop, and when I got home to noticed an oil leak in my driveway. Big long exhale, because that is my go-to on days like today.
Now, what I used to do and what I do now are two VERY different things. When I used to have these days filled with the unplanned, unexpected,and unpredictable events, I would load myself up with the worst possible stories. I AWEFULIZED EVERYTHING! “Why does this always happen to me?” “The world is out to get me.” “I’m going to break if just one more thing happens.” That’s just the beginning of what I would have playing on repeat to myself. There were times where I would tell myself, “Life is just too hard.”
Not today! Today, I’m very conscious of my narrative. I’m running behind today on my to-do list, but instead of wasting my energy on getting caught up in a vicious story, I just tell myself, It will all work out. When I think of all the things I haven’t done yet, I hear myself saying, Just focus on one thing at a time. Taking control of my narrative is very important in times like these, and that is something I do moment to moment. Doing this helps me to respond instead of react to events.
Every time I hear a story creeping into my head, I take three long deep breaths. This helps me get the space I need to think and process all the new information from those unplanned, unexpected, and unpredictable events. Don’t think I take this lightly either. Since I have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), the unplanned, unexpected, and unpredictable are not easy for me. It’s taken me a lot of work to be able to walk myself through the narrative and breathe.
Another tool I grab from my toolbox on days like today is using mantras. It really depends on what’s going on, but here are a some of my most used:
- Just one thing at a time
- This too shall pass
- Let go, Let God
- Faith in God includes faith in his timing
- Focus where my feet are
- Everything will work out
- Conscious breaths
- I write my own story
We are going to have the unplanned, unexpected, and unpredictable happen—That’s life! We write our stories with the our reactions or responses to these events. The healthier we are, the more we know the difference.
With Love and Gratitude,