This year for my birthday I received a beautiful surprise, my boyfriend of almost three years took me ring shopping. Wait, I know where some of your heads are going, because most of the people I said this to went there too… this is about happily ever now, not happily ever after. We went from jewelry store to jewelry store looking for a ring that was right. Finally, in one jewelry store, I narrowed it down to two rings. I couldn’t decide. He told the salesmen, “We’ll take them both.” I thought about it, these are both ring finger rings. I’m the type of person who wears the same necklace for months and/or years; I don’t want to be switching out my rings. I needed to make sure that he’d be comfortable with me wearing the rings at the same time. I said cautiously, “That means one will have to go on my left ring finger.” Just like I guessed, it didn’t bother him, so graciously accepted both rings.
As I told people, of course they didn’t know if it was “the ring”, so reactions ranged from cautious to curious to say the least. People also didn’t know how I would feel about it not being “the ring”. I understood every reaction. They actually made me become aware of how I really felt about receiving my presents. The answer, I felt and feel great about it. I’m at a time in my life where I’m not looking for a fixed future; I’m completely submerged in my journey of the now. I love the adventure I’m on with my partner and in my life as a whole. Right now, I have no idea what any of my future looks like. I don’t know where my kids, career, or relationship will take me.
I wanted to come up with something if I was going to wear a ring on my left hand. Then it came to me, this is my Happily Ever Now Ring. Calling it this, encapsulates my joy in wearing the ring and in the moment I’m in.
Him and I are adventurous souls. We love and respect that about each other. As the saying goes, “We go where the wind takes us.” So, marriage and planning a future like that of marriage is just not where either of us are. I have never been more in love with a man. I fall deeper in love and respect for the person he is with every passing year. I know if the wind takes us away from each other, we will be there to support each other’s adventures.
When I get out of the now, I get stressed. If I start wondering about what the future holds; forget it!! I start doing self-sabotaging and my walls start to go up. When I stay present, I can see each moment and enjoy the process. Everything becomes about enjoying the experience. I have no idea what tomorrow will bring. I want to be open to the best that life has to offer for all of us. Today, by enjoying my happily ever now, I am doing just that.
With Love and Gratitude,
Rachael Wolff ©2017