I’m grateful for my understanding of considering the source. I can’t even begin to tell you how much this has helped me in EVERY facet of my life. I really got good at this when I was dealing with a narcissistic abuser. One of my first steps to building myself back up to walk out the door was not taking his attacks personally, hence considering the source. I educated myself to learn that healthy people don’t attack other people. So, when someone is attacking me or someone else, I’m not dealing with a healthy person in that instant, even if that person is me. I don’t have to take it personal, and I don’t have to engage if what I’m going to say isn’t aligned with love, abundance, and peace.

Now, having to learn this lesson so personally helps me do it easily when I’m looking at situations and people removed from me. I make sure I question and investigate people’s motives and agendas for wanting me to believe something. This is why I NEVER trust people who try to tell me things like the Democrats are ALL evil, Republicans are ALL evil, Christians are the ONLY ones God cares about, Jews are crooks, whites are ALL racists, blacks are ALL lazy… I think you get the point. Anyone who dehumanizes people by putting them into a category, I consider the source. A person who wants me to HATE another group of people and ignore looking at the good specific individuals do…they have an agenda I will not buy into because it doesn’t align with love, abundance, peace, or FACTS!

People of similar religious, political, economic, and/or cultural backgrounds tend to have their views skewed by their bubbles of likeminded people. This can be a good thing if the group is aligned with love, abundance, and peace, because we are finding ways to connect with people outside the bubble and individuals in the group reach outward to support their fellow humans.

If we buy into HATE, we are aligning with fear, lack, and separation. We aren’t capable of seeing anything outside of our bubble of HATE. We are constantly in search of the chaos that keeps us in the energy of fear, lack, and separation because that is what fuels the hate. When we fuel fear, lack, and separation, we can easily get manipulated by people with dark agendas because they are feeding on the energy that goes along with blame, conspiracy, prejudice, hate, shame, and envy. Narcissists and sociopaths love tapping into that energy and they will use and manipulate anyone who will play. This is why I’m SOOOO grateful I’ve learned to ALWAYS consider the source.

I feel so blessed that after my experience with a narcissist abuser, I learned to dig deeper and investigate from sources outside of the bubble. It has helped me find so much more peace in my life. It takes a lot of energy to hate, which is why I choose perspectives that keep me from investing my energy there. I focus on what I can do to change and better the situations that I don’t like. As you have heard me say before, we are only ever responsible and accountable for the energy that we put out there. If I want to live life from a loving place, I’m responsible for investigating when I’m listening to someone who wants me to align with fear, lack, and separation. I consider the source.

Today, I commit to considering the source. I love this practice. I hope you will join me. Part of aligning with love, abundance, and peace is being conscious of when someone else is trying to get us to align with fear, lack, and separation.

If someone’s agenda is trying to get us to not trust anybody except them (fear)—consider the source. Think about all the people that person is asking you not to trust, not as a group, as individuals. ABUSERS use this tactic frequently to isolate their victims and get them dependent on them, so that their victim feels like they can’t leave. I can’t tell you all the amazing people I didn’t trust when my abuser was using this technique to isolate me.

If someone’s agenda is to get you to blame others for what you don’t have (lack)—consider the source. People who live in abundance are living in gratitude for what they do have. If we are surrounding ourselves with people that are constantly wanting us to align with what we don’t have, we are putting the energy of lack out into the world and amplifying it.

If someone’s agenda wants us to see ourselves as victims or better than someone else (separation)—consider the source. This is one of the most DANGEROUS ones. Feeding into this one can get people to justify violence. It gets us to operate from our darkest parts of us. Sociopaths THRIVE on this one. This is how they form their armies who follow them blindly.

Don’t think this is aimed at any group, because this happens within almost every group we could categorize. We are going to have INDIVIDUALS who thrive on feeding the energy of love, abundance, and peace (Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Dalai Lama, Mother Teresa, Byron Katie, Marianne Williamson…). This doesn’t mean the individuals are perfect and didn’t/don’t make mistakes, stumble, and make poor choices, but their overall mission was/is to contribute to the world from a loving place.

Then there are individuals who who thrive on feeding the energy of fear, lack, and separation (Hitler, Stalin, Charles Manson, Jim Jones, Jeffery Epstein…). This is why I talk so much in my blogs about know the definition of love, otherwise we can be swayed into dark and say it’s in the name of what is “good” or “right”. If what someone is saying, what is good or right contributes to fear, lack, and separation—PLEASE CONSIDER THE SOURCE. Be careful of following people who try to take ALL the credit, as if they are better than others. If a person wants you to put them on a pedestal—CONSIDER THE SOURCE.

When I was being emotionally, mentally, and verbally abused, I did some things that hurt myself and others. None of us are perfect, and we are all going to make mistakes and align with the wrong people from time to time to teach us valuable lessons in this life. I’m grateful for what I’ve learned because it has made me really take a deeper look at the people I’m aligning my energy with. I’ve made it my mission to align with love, abundance, and peace, so when someone tries to lead me away into fear, lack, and separation, I consider the source.

Most of us, at one time or another, have followed someone down the path of fear, lack, and separation. Sometimes we follow ourselves down our own rabbit holes. It’s not about beating ourselves up over it. We simply take responsibility for where our energy is and be accountable for what we can do to get ourselves out of it. It takes doing the work to re-align with love, abundance, and peace. This can happen on a daily basis. If we keep doing the work, we find that we are attracted less and less to align with the energy that we don’t want to see more of in ourselves and in the world.

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With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me

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