I’m grateful for the times I had with loved ones who passed. Life is a precious gift. The people we spend time with leave imprints on our souls. We are with the people we love as long as we are meant to be, if we expected more time with them than we got, we are fighting the reality that is. It’s a perception that can cause many people great pain that goes well beyond grieving. Years ago, I learned the importance of focusing on the time I did have. This perception of thought has helped me so much through times of grief.
Not everyone will understand it or want to believe this perception for themselves, and that is okay. We each have to find perceptions of truth that align with the lives we want to be living. My perceptions of focusing on the times I was given with a person help me to align with love, abundance, and peace. Even in my grief, when I focus on the the times I did have, I find peace in my heart. Expectations of more time or beating myself up over things I should have done, keep me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. When I look back at all my loved ones who passed, I’m grateful for the memories I do have; I smile at the stories other share; and I feel blessed that I got the time I did. This doesn’t lessen their places in my my heart.
Today, I commit to celebrating the times I DID HAVE with loved ones who passed away. Around holidays and milestones I think about the loved ones who passed more than on any average day. It’s the memories of the holidays spent together, which usually were filled with joy and laughter. I know I’m not alone in this. In the past, I’ve written them letters; I’ve talked to them on walks; I’ve written to others about them; and I’ve went through old pictures and videos remembering the times I was given. Just to write this piece, I went through over 10,000 pictures tracking down special memories. I’m so grateful I have the picture and got the moments, even if some of the moments were shared through others. I have the memory.
I know loss can be extremely painful. I’m not saying that tears aren’t running down my face sometimes when I’m thinking about the people who are no longer with me, but what I love is that when I put my energy into celebrating the times I DID HAVE, as sad as I may feel, I still feel aligned:
- I’m aligned with love, because I’m celebrating the memories.
- I’m aligned with abundance, because I was given the opportunity to share love with someone else for however long I was given. I’m grateful for the moments I got.
- I’m aligned with peace, because I know I’m honoring their legacy by living in the energy that keeps them alive in my heart and empowers me to keep doing the best I can.
My goal is to honor the lives of the people I love by living the best I can with the time I have left. I know by aligning with love, abundance, and peace, I’m doing just that. This piece is dedicated to all the people who have lost people they loved and are struggling. My prayers are with you.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2020
Author of Letters from a Better Me