I’m grateful I understand agenda—the good, the bad, and the ugly. In school, I took a course in media & society. I also took time to study the psychology of sales and marketing because I was an International sales trainer for just under a decade. The one thing a person has to be crystal clear on is the story they are selling. That story must serve a person’s agenda to make the recipient hear a call to action. Some people will do this with good intentions, others may be bad, and then we have individuals who are very sick that have the ugliest of intentions. A person has to have a VERY sick mind to be in that category.
One of the greatest gifts is to be able to see agenda without attachment to the agenda. When I learned to be the observer, spotting agenda became an empowering experience. Some agendas are trying to trigger people’s energy of fear, lack, and separation. Others are trying to trigger the energy of love, abundance,and peace. When we are advanced enough to see the difference, we start seeing things in a very different way.
Understanding agenda has helped me in SO many ways. When I understand that people who want to get me to do something have an agenda, I can start asking questions and digger deeper to find out where that person’s agenda is coming from. If we assume because we are making a judgment about them as a part of a WHOLE group, we won’t see them clearly. If we put the group on a pedestal we may overlook important cues that tell us something about the person in front of us that may be a red flag. If we are judging them negatively by how we are labeling the group they are in, we won’t see their humanity clearly. The best thing we can do for ourselves is not restrict our own thinking.
One of the ways I do this is—I flip the script. What if someone I did like was saying what this person was saying? What if someone I didn’t like was saying what this person was saying? If it’s not the same, I need to open up my thinking. If I have to justify someone’s behavior, it’s usually coming from the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I feel good about what a person is doing or saying, I don’t feel the need to justify it. I pay close attention to how people are trying to sway me if I hear justifications in my mind. For me, that is an internal red flag.
I’ve found conspiracy theories are riddled with some of the darkest agendas. Anyone who wants me to hate a group of people, I know that I want to stay far away from it. If someone wants me to dehumanize someone else, that is an agenda that breeds fear, lack, and separation. I like to make sure I can see the human. When I look to see the human, I find I don’t get swept up in the bad and the ugly agendas.
If I want to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I have to make sure I’m not aligning with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Understanding agenda helps me do that.
Today, I commit to considering agenda to help me align my energy with love, abundance, and peace. When I’m considering agenda, I ask myself these questions:
- How is what this person is saying making me feel inside?
- What is this person wanting me to do?
- Does this person want me to judge myself of others negatively?
- Do they want me to love myself and/or others?
- How does it benefit this person if I hate this other person/group?
- How does it benefit this person if I love this person/group?
- Do I feel the need to justify this person’s actions?
- Is this person coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace?
- Are they wanting me to respond from a place of fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace?
These Questions help me get clear so that I don’t take in other people’s agendas unconsciously. I know that whatever I come up with is a perspective. That being said, the most important thing is how someone’s message feels inside of me. I’m not responsible for the other person’s energy, but I am 100% responsible and accountable for mine. If I want to stay aligned, it’s important that I feel connect to others who are spreading their energy of love, abundance, and peace. I’m very clear of how that feels when that is someone’s agenda.
I’ve noticed when I use these tools more and more, I feel it in others. It’s a beautiful thing. We get tuned in to see if someone is desperate and wanting us to pay. We can see if they are enjoying serving us from an authentic place or if they are doing it for a tip. We can see if someone wants to get us to pay attention to the good that they represent or distract us by telling us to focus our energy on hating someone else. We can see when a person is representing what they stand for (love, abundance, and peace energy) or what they are against (fear, lack, and separation energy).
This is a very interesting journey. Make sure if you go down this path, you stay focused on how you WANT to align your energy. If we don’t, we can easily slip into the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Revenge mentality comes from fear, lack, and separation. Forgiveness mentality comes from love, abundance, and peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we don’t hold a person accountable for their actions, it means that we aren’t willing to compromise our peace for their hate. It’s about us not tapping into the same energy as someone who’s agenda is aligned with the bad or the ugly.
With Love, Abundance, and Peace,
©Rachael Wolff 2021
Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World