90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 22 – The Toxic Foundation of Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation


Day 22: The Toxic Foundation of Hate

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

If fear is the beginning of what leads us to living a life in darkness, hate is the accumulation of all the fear, shame, blame, and judgment. Hate is the most toxic of all the energies we put out combined. Hate creates violence. Violence is the action of hate. Violence starts as an action we take against ourselves. If we don’t hold ourselves responsible for the energy we are putting out there, we perpetuate cycles of hate and violence. This toxicity spreads quickly and easily especially in the age we live in where a mere thought can go viral at the click of a button.

There are messages of hate and messages of love everywhere we turn. If you want to know where your comfort zone really is—You will see it in which messages you focus on. It’s about how much we are attaching to the messages. How do messages of hate or love resonate with you? Do you get caught up in fear, blame, shame, and judgment or in love, compassion, joy, and encouragement? Do you focus your energy on the perceived heroes or what you may consider villains or evil in the world? Do you find yourself having to spread negative messages or positive ones? Are you more likely to spread messages of love or fear on social media? The key is being aware of how the toxic energy is affecting your internal world.

Every person is a human being and no person is less than human. No human has less or more than another human. The second we value one human life over another we are contributing to energies that will attract negativity to our lives. Hate for ourselves and others is the accumulation of belief systems that can go back generations. Some beliefs systems encourage hate for other groups of humans, which gives individuals courage to kill and do harm. Other belief systems teach us to fear others for their different beliefs, which encourages hate and violence over things that don’t fit into our exact belief systems.

All hate feeds the global cycle of energy that feeds the negative media, tabloids, governments, wars, and mistrust of our fellow men and women. If we engage in verbal, emotional, or physical violence towards ourselves our others we are apart of the problem— even if we feel justified in our hate. Remember the energy of hate and violence has nothing to do with judgment, it’s the movement of energy. If we hate even the supposed villain, we are still contributing to the energy.

Shaming others or ourselves is an act of violence.  If we feed someone’s shame cycle to  self-hate and feel unlovable than we are just as much apart of the problem. This is where our judgments of what is right or wrong for others (Day 21) can come into the hate/violence cycle. The energy that moves with hate and violence is slick. It can sneak into the most vulnerable situations without most of us even knowing it. We actually can be thinking we are doing a good thing for someone, and actually be contributing to the toxic energy of violence. We have to be aware of where our energy is in order not to contribute to these vicious fear-based cycles.

The signs that fear, shame, blame, judgment, and hate are present can be felt in our bodies when we pay attention. The more aware we become, the more we will be able to spot it. The energy of hate is a great force. It permeates through your entire body. Rage is one of the violent energies that come from hate and can carry the most palpable energy fields. People can go to certain places and feel it in the rooms or on land that had rage-filled conflicts. The energy is incredibly heavy.

When we bring rage into what we are doing it will feel like fuel. We will feel like we are building this amazing momentum. It can even feel like a drug that needs to be fed. We can easily mistake our rage as a positive force because it can spark movements for positive change. We don’t understand that some of the intense backlash we get is because we used rage to fuel us. Rage’s energy will swing back and attack. No judgment, just energy being energy. Like Martin Luther King Jr. says, “Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

Martin Luther King Jr. is an amazing example of how a person who wants to create lasting change can use love as a guiding force. He refused hate in the face of hate and oppression. This didn’t mean he didn’t stand up for freedom, but when he spoke we knew what he stood for. This may not have protected him from the hate in his physical form, but his messages live on loud and strong as a reminder of what the power of love can do. No one has to feed the toxic energy of hate if they don’t want to. We have to consciously make the choice each and every day. Sometimes we have to make the choice in every given moment. Part II and Part III of the 90-Day A Better Me Series will show you many ways to break-free from any toxic cycles you are holding onto. Keep following!

Just for Today

Be aware of when hate creeps into your life. It could be sitting in traffic, watching the news, reading about politics, learning about hate groups, looking in the mirror, eating Brussels sprouts, feeling the cold, having freezing cold toes, or sweating in the heat. These are just some examples of things people can choose to hate. If you are at peace with everything on the list, just dig down and see if there are any areas of your life that you do let hate in. No matter how big or small, just be aware of how the hate feels in your body. Any amount of hate can cause internal and external damage. We are responsible for any energy we take in or release into the Universe.

Thanks for reading today’s message on the toxic energy of hate.  See today’s letter working with the Just for Today’s exercise, 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 22 – Becoming Aware of My Hate

With Love and Gratitude,


Rachael Wolff ©2019


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