Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #16

Avoiding, suppressing, and numbing feelings does us a great disservice. When those hard feelings show up, they are giving us beautiful signals just like when what we may consider the “good” feelings show up. Here is a secret that will set you free, they are ALL good feelings if you know how to work with them. It’s when we avoid, suppress, and numb them that they fuel the energy of fear, lack, and separation in our lives. It is a path that creates addiction, prejudice, oppression, violence, and so much more. Look around and you will see it. Unfortunately, many of us are taught that to feel anything that doesn’t put a smile on our face isn’t good. If that isn’t sad, I don’t know what is. Feelings are one of our greatest gifts because they have so much to teach us about ourselves if we just start giving them the respect they deserve.

I find it fascinating when people assume I haven’t been through trauma when I talk about living life from a loving place. It reminds me of old perspectives of truths (beliefs) I used to have. I used to believe that my traumas had control over how I lived. When I would have a Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD) episode, which is reliving the trauma, I thought there was nothing I could do, and it would be this way forever. People would feel sorry for me and treat me like I was damaged, and I believed them for a VERY long time. Until I didn’t. I got enough seeds from people who thought about past trauma differently, and with that the flame was lit and I grow stronger and brighter with each revelation that comes from FEELING the FEELINGS that come up, when they come up! YES!!! My feelings are the windows into my healing and I’m so grateful for every single one of them.

Long ago, someone said to me, “You are rarely reacting to the person in front of you.” There is usually a trigger that takes us back to another time where our boundaries, safety, self-esteem, and/or feelings felt violated or threatened. Our feelings can be a guide to release us from something that no longer exists. They also help us to figure out when we are stuck in a cycle of energy revolving around fear, lack, and separations. WHY would we want to numb or avoid this? I’m grateful when my feelings show up to teach me something about myself! When we learn to truly appreciate ALL our feelings, we learn not to be so scared of them.

Today, I’m writing down any perspectives of truth that are making me feel trapped in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Then, I’m going to write down as many other perspectives I can that can move the energy to love, abundance, and peace. I can take this to the point where it is comical, but the point of this exercise is to realize we have options in how we look at things. We can look at beliefs we have about politics, the pandemic, social justice, past trauma, judgments about ourselves/others, or even traffic. We just need to check in with ourselves on a variety of subjects and see where our energy goes. This can actually be really fun to do with friends. I’ve definitely had some tears running down my face, snorting, and hyperventilating from laughing so hard over doing this exercise in the past with people. I’m laughing just thinking about it. I’m going to enjoy this! I hope you do too!

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #9

Animals have a way of aligning us with love, abundance, and peace VERY quickly. Let’s take this moorhen family in the picture below. Each day I watched this family, joy emanated through me. Joy comes from aligning with love, abundance, and peace. My energy felt completely aligned with the present moment as I watched this little family work together in such an extraordinary way. I also love how I can watch a cute animal video and my energy will immediately shift. That in itself is a reason I’m so grateful for animals. As an animal owner and lover, my animals tend to keep me entertained and my heart soft on a daily basis. I know I can come up with a lot more than three reasons I’m grateful for animals. Really get into the energy of this one. If you need to watch a cute animal video, go do it.

Check out more about the Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace Challenge by going to Day #1 here.

Being aware of the tools we have for self-care is essential on this journey of aligning with love, abundance, and peace. If we slip out of the energy we know we want to live in, we need to make sure we know how to get back. When I mentioned the animal videos, I was very serious. If those help to keep you in a loving mood, watch them. In the beginning of my practice, I had a challenging time spotting when I was going to fear over love. As I learned to pay attention to my body’s reaction to the energy of love and the energy of fear, I started to REALLY able to spot the difference. Being able to do that makes it much easier to get the love flowing through you again. A few things I do is watch Ted Talks, videos of people from different walks of life being good to each other, animal videos, write in my gratitude journal, talk to specific people, make posters for Facebook.com/FromALovingPlace…and of course write blogs, which is why I’m here in the first place. Being here keeps me connected, because I know my energy has to be aligned in order to write. So, what will you do today?

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #8

Sometimes we can be brutal to our bodies in our feelings, thoughts, words, and actions. Doing this aligns us with fear, lack, and separation. We tell our bodies that they aren’t enough and that we don’t appreciate them. Is that a way to treat our life partners? Our bodies are with us from the cradle to the grave. It’s time to start treating them like the love of our lives and show them some appreciation. When we align with our bodies in love, abundance, and peace, we stop going to war with them. We start feeling better and start wanting to do right by them. Then, they start doing right by us.

See, our bodies have a way of telling us that something is wrong, but when we are not attune to them, we miss the signals. The reason why is because when we are aligned with fear, when we really need our intuitive fear button, it’s broken from being over used. Today, I’m working on the relationship with my body. Join me if you know you haven’t been appreciating yours.

If you want to learn more about the Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace Challenge, go to Day #1 here.

If I really want to show another person how much I love them, I can come up with endless ways. The reason I can do this is because that person is important to me. That person is on my priority list. I feel that person is worthy of my affection, time, and love. Are you getting the point? Today, let’s commit to treating our bodies like they are the loves our our lives, because quite frankly the choice is they are our love or our enemy. Who do you want to live with for the rest of your life? If you are having a hard time figuring out ways to to treat your body like it is the love of your life, think of it like it is your ideal romantic partner outside of yourself. How do you think that person would feel loved? We can feed them, bathe them, take a walk with them, help them stretch, massage them, etc. Today, I’m going to be the absolute love of my body’s life and show it how much I appreciate what it does for me.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #7

I love making time to appreciate skills I’ve learned. This one puts me in a great mood. Sometimes when we get stuck in the daily grind, we forget to see how far we’ve come with the skills we’ve learned along the way. Appreciate the time you’ve committed to learning skills that have helped you and in turn, others. If you missed the first day explaining this daily aligning project, you can find it here.

There will be times when we experience blocks where our energy fights us to stay in fear, lack, and separation. Many times these are old beliefs that we either are so unconscious of or we know we have them and we are scared to let them go. These blocks may been have presented themselves after a trauma as a way of protecting ourselves. Unfortunately, many of us are taught to numb, ignore, and avoid our feelings. The feelings that created the beliefs or enforced the beliefs are being projected from us whether we are aware of them or not. There is even new science that is saying that trauma can be passed down in our DNA! Old recognized feelings and unhealthy beliefs will come off in how we interpret situations, in our body language, in our immune systems, and they will EXPLODE in our intimate and close relationships. Anything we try to keep down, will re-surface in one way, shape, or form. It is SO IMPORTANT to learn techniques to properly feel through feelings that are creating blocks to aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. What you may discover is you are holding on to beliefs that were passed down from previous generations that no longer serve you. Feelings in themselves aren’t bad, they are necessary for us to see where we are, avoiding them, numbing them, and suppressing them does a disservice. We actually will hurt more people including ourselves when we don’t face what is going on inside of us.

Today’s exercise isn’t a one time thing, it’s important to check in with yourself on a regular basis. It is interesting how our alignment with fear, lack, and separation manifests, I actually just found a buried block of my own recently. I live a very abundant life in many areas, but I seemed to have a financial block. I knew it was there, I knew it was something inside of me creating it, but I had NO clue what it was. It took a few days of praying, meditations, and actually paying attention where the Universe guided my attention for me to hear the message. I was led to a friend of mine who had been doing an abundance course. She listened to me, and started talking about feeling the “weight of debt” and how if we put our energy there, we create more of it. Have you ever heard of Oprah’s Aha-moment? Well this was definitely one of mine.

If you are thinking, how do I know if I have a block? If you feel pulled into fear on a daily basis, there is a block. If you feel like your needs aren’t being met (lack), there is a block. If you feel trapped in chaos or you can’t separate yourself from other’s chaos by taking their chaos personally, there is a block.

We can get very comfortable in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. The first step is becoming aware of when your energy goes there. Pay attention to where you feel this in your body. Try to remember the first time you felt the feeling. You can do things like pray, meditate, talk to trusted friends, read, seek professional help, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) a.k.a. Tapping, etc. What I’m ALWAYS amazed by is when I put my energy into releasing a block, the tools will start showing up. I’m reading two books that I was led to that have great tools for me, and I was also guided to Tapping.com to work through the emotional blocks with EFT, which is AMAZING by the way. Just stay open to where your guidance leads you and COMMIT to the journey. When you set the intention to heal something inside of you without blaming someone else for the problem, YOU will be amazed how much faster you get re-aligned with love, abundance, and peace. My book (down below) helps guide women through some of the most common blocks. I also have the FREE 90-Day A Better Me Series right here on this blog for any gender. If either is what is meant to help you, you will have a feeling about it. The wonderful thing about this journey is when we become more aligned, the messages become clearer and clearer on what to do to help ourselves align even more (I hope you can sense my excitement here).

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #6

One of the biggest excuses to not align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace is our challenging times and past traumas. When we say we can’t do this because… that is a CHOICE not to do it. We are telling ourselves we are comfortable in our pain states and we don’t want to change. As a survivor of multiple traumas, I used to make this choice and it landed me in the psychiatric ward after trying to attempt suicide at age seventeen. It would be a long time and a lot more trauma before I realized that I was projecting the energy of fear, lack, and separation into the world by holding on the way I was. I believed (a perspective of truth) that I was protecting myself, when really I was not only causing myself harm but bringing that energy into ALL my relationships (EEEK).

Whatever we tell ourselves is true, is true to us. This is why it is SO important to be conscious of where we are putting our energy in each moment. We have the power to re-wire/ re-train our brains to go to different thoughts when we face challenges, what better time to practice this than right now. Byron Katies work taught me to REALLY question my thoughts. If a thought creates dis-ease in my body, I pay attention and ask myself, “Where would I be without the thought (name the thought)?” This practice truly helps me to see that my thoughts can be changed, if I CHOOSE to change them. One of the steps I use to keep my brain wired for love, abundance, and peace during challenging times is to find lessons to be grateful for.

This might not be easy in the beginning if your brain is used to staying in the chaos, which mine was. Now, it is one of the first places my mind goes after I fully feel my way through whatever is happening around me (come back tomorrow for more on that). For today, think about some lessons you got from challenging times that have helped you in SOME way, whether that be in relationships, work, school, parenting, dealing with negative people, etc. If you want to learn more about why I’m doing these posts, go back to day 1 here.

Now, breathe. Our conscious breath taking is a crucial piece of aligning our energy. When we slow down and breathe through our stressful thoughts, it not only lessens their impact on our bodies, but in the functioning of our brains. Sometimes just taking three conscious breaths in and out is all we need to gain a little space from the stressful thought. This gives a place to question the thought and re-access it. If you have a stressful thought today, pay attention to what happens to your breathing. Stress creates us to hold our breath. Make sure you are taking a long and deep breath in and FULLY releasing it. If you can get into the habit of doing this, you will be able to re-align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace much faster.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #5

Oh yes, today we are focusing our gratitude on HERE and NOW. Right now, look around and find three things you are grateful for. To find out more about the daily aligning practice, go to #1 here.

The path to peace is an inside job. If we aren’t at peace inside, we will tend to spread chaos around us (most times unconsciously). One of the important steps to inner peace is showing ourselves respect. This also helps us have healthy boundaries with others. Part of showing ourselves respect is taking care of ourselves. Over indulging in things that do damage to our minds, bodies, emotions, and/or souls is us NOT respecting ourselves.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #4

Living in gratitude is living in abundance over lack. When we take time to focus on gratitude daily, we start noticing more and more to be grateful for. Our energy is aligned with our blessings, and that is what it means to live in abundance. Today’s focus on gratitude is focused in the wonderful world of nature. When we start looking at nature for gratitude, we have an endless supply. If you missed the details of this daily challenge, you can find them here.

You heard me, THREE NEW things, just for you! I’m so excited to hear what people will come up with. Think outside of your own box. The more often you can do this, the more you will open your mind to possibilities. That is when miracles REALLY begin to reveal themselves.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #3

I’m so excited to be keeping my energy aligned, I know I need it. My head is so much clearer when I make sure I’m aligned. I have more energy, I eat better, I communicate better, and I serve better. Those are just a few of the benefits. If you missed the original post about these daily exercises, you can find it here.

What are you going to do today to align yourself with the energy of love, abundance, and peace instead of fear, lack, and separation? While you are sitting here reading this, If you are having a hard day, try thinking in as simple of terms as possible. It could be that there is a roof over your head, breathable air, comfortable shoes, etc. Make sure to write it down. It can be on your phone, in a notebook, to me, to a friend, etc.

Really commit to doing three things. They don’t even have to be big. I can be something like drinking 64oz of water, writing in a journal, eating healthy, exercises, taking a walk, reading (personal growth, spiritual, etc.) praying, meditating, watching an inspirational Ted Talk, dance, etc. Whatever it takes to move your energy in the direction of inner peace. Remember, we can’t project peace to our relationships or the world unless we are carrying it inside of us. One of our greatest challenges can be re-wiring how we treat ourselves, but nothing is going to change if we don’t. Make sure you are only saying kind and compassionate things to yourself.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with love, Abundance, and Peace #2

Welcome to day 2 of the journey of daily alignment with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. This journey is about being responsible and accountable for the energy we are putting out in the world. You can start at any point you want. The important part is that we write it down and commit to becoming apart of the shift we want to see in the world. Each moment we choose to live in love, abundance, and peace OR fear, lack, and separation. Wherever we ALLOW our energy to be is what we project to the world. For more details about this journey you can find them here.

To align with abundance, we are focusing on the blessings in life. We each contribute beautiful qualities to the world that have the ability to make the world a better place. Today, the focus is on what three beautiful qualities we are so grateful we have to share with the world.

Maintaining our energy is a daily practice. If we want to be aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, we have to commit to taking care of ourselves body, mind, and soul. Holding ourselves accountable for our self-care and self-love are two very important parts of brightening our own lights. The brighter we shine inside, the more light others will feel. It’s not about what we say, it’s about what we actually project out to the world in our thoughts, perspectives of truth (beliefs), actions, and reactions. We have to love and nurture ourselves, to be able shine love, abundance, and peace to the world.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

HATE is HATE. LOVE is LOVE!

I’ve been listening and observing to what is going on in me and the world around me. These are my perspectives on what I’m seeing. Hate, no matter where it is aimed, is still hate. I can see this in every area: race, gender, religion, intimate relationships, familial relationships, workplace, law enforcement, politics, economics, sexual preferences, community, the list goes on. Hate is hate! 

Hate divides, separates, and causes horrible devastation wherever it touches. Hate destroys the person who is feeling it too. Think of the way our bodies respond to hate in just one day. Now, imagine that hate festering inside you for months, decades, and centuries. When we project out hate, it often lands on the people closest to us. Hate destroys relationships, communities, countries, and the environment. 

Love is love. Love opens people’s ability to see a person behind the category or title (including ourselves). Love allows space for connection, compassion, and forgiveness. No group, category, or label own love. Love can be felt by any individual who is willing to be vulnerable enough to look in the mirror and embrace their own beautiful being. Love is the purest light within in our souls. The path to seeing love lies within us, and we only can project out unconditionally (which is the only authentic love) when we see and love ourselves. We have to know love from the inside in order to see and recognize it in someone else. Love is a gift that keeps on giving. We sabotage anything we don’t feel worthy of. We have to know we are WORTHY of love by giving it to ourselves. If we depend on the outside world to give us love, when that love goes wrong it can quickly turn to hate because that love isn’t coming from a solid foundation. Love is solid when it comes from within.

Hate suffocates love. When I see people lost in their hate, I feel for them. I have compassion for them. I pray for them. Their hate doesn’t dampen my love. If I feel like I am taking on their energy, I have to remember that I am responsible and accountable for the energy inside me. If I’m that person projecting hate, I pray for me, and feel compassion for me. If I don’t want hate inside me, I have to do the work to return my energy to love. That can mean:

  • Set healthy boundaries for myself
  • Stop watching, following, and engaging in things that trigger feelings of hate
  • Remove myself from a person’s life if their energy feels dangerous to my well-being
  • Seeking justice by reporting wrong-doing even if it is within a group I am connected with
  • Meditate more to restore my sense of calm
  • Write out my feelings fully to be able to see them and work through them
  • Find a professional or a HEALTHY person/group to talk to who will help me move away from the feelings of hate
  • Remove myself from groups that amplify the energy of hate
  • Find a physical outlet to work through hate and/or rage’s physical hold on my body (swimming, punching bags, trampoline, running, lifting weights, basketball, “Dammit dolls”, punching pillows, martial arts, etc.)
  • Take deep breaths in and fully release them, because we hold our breaths when our energy is tensed up. That is NOT good for our brain or body function.

If my energy is attached to the hate in anyway, it becomes my problem. It is my job to fix whatever is inside of me that is not aligned with how I want to be living. It is my responsibility ALONE to change the energy that is moving through me. My life and the lives of the people I love are going to be affected by the energy I’m carrying around with me.

Even with all I’m aware of, studied, observed and practiced, I’m not perfect. I still have to do the work and be reminded that I’m responsible and accountable for the energy that moves through me. I still have conversations with my kids that involve how they saw something I did or said differently than what was intended. That is within my own home!! Let that serve as a reminder. People will only ever see us through their perspectives of truth (beliefs). We will only ever see others through our perspectives of truth. The question is: How do you want to see yourself and the world around you? Choose perspectives of truth that define how you want to live your life. Love is a CHOICE! Hate is a CHOICE! If someone else chooses to hate, that is on them. I know their is a lot of love in the world. I want to amplify and align with that energy, because that CHOICE feels ABSOLUTELY AWESOME to me.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff

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