90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 25 – Being Accountable for Attracting the Energy of Hate

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 25: Being Accountable for Attracting the Energy of Hate

Dear Universe,

I’ve recently been made aware of how I’m attracting the energy of hate into my life. I really didn’t think that my negative self-reflection could have that big an impact on the reality I was creating for myself. I lived wondering why others seemed to have it so much better than I did, and judging the ones who had it worse. The energy I was putting out was so judgmental towards myself and others. I couldn’t scan social media or watch the news without attacking someone in my head. I didn’t realize that even by doing that I was creating a negative force around me.

I kept wondering why the Law of Attraction practices didn’t work for me. I kept sabotaging myself by my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions. I turned feelings into obstacles. I’m accountable for attracting the hate into my life. I didn’t know better and now I do. I’m not going to expect to miraculously change overnight. I know that it took me many years to develop these patterns. I’m open an willing to look at my behaviors openly to see how I can re-frame my thoughts to perpetuate the expanding love inside me.

I will work on myself to make sure I’m being the kind of person that I want to see more of in the world. I will no longer let myself off the hook or come up with excuses. I will be and do better. That includes being gentle with myself even if I make a mistake.

I want to put the energy out there that will attract the energy of love to my life. I can only do that if that what is what I’m emanating. Universe, please provide me with the teachers who will help me follow this path.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Check out today’s installment 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 25 – Attracting the Energy of Hate

 

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 25 – Attracting the Energy of Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 25:Attracting the Energy of Hate

“Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

I never knew how much I hated myself until I attracted a severely verbally and emotionally abusive relationship to my life. I had no idea of the energy I was projecting to the world because on the outside, I was kind and loving to all the people around me. I was the friend who would do anything for anybody. I constantly ran around town like a little social butterfly and never stopped for a second to look at how I was treating myself. I had no idea at the core I felt unlovable and unworthy of being loved at all. Trying desperately, I grasped at straws for anyone to love me. I begged for love in all the wrong ways. I didn’t do ANYTHING to take care of myself or my self-worth. My self-hatred came out in self-blame and judgment of others. I would blame my childhood and my life choices for not being able to be loved. It was in the midst of one of my lowest points that I felt like a shell of a human being. I was trying to please everyone, except myself. I saw only titles (mom, wife, friend, co-worker, daughter, sister) but I had no clue of who I was. Like so many, I kept trying to find myself outside of myself. I avoided venturing in because I was scared of what I would find. I had no idea that by avoiding looking inward was the reason I was attracting (Law of Attraction) the energy of hate to my life.

When we start from a place of self-abuse and/or being the emotional victims of others (mentally not physically) and ourselves, we project out toxic energy. We can do good things; be kind to friends, strangers, and animals, but the energy we put out into the Universe will attract more traumatic life lessons. We aren’t being punished. Our Creator doesn’t hate us. The Universe isn’t against us. We are against ourselves, which hinders our personal/ spiritual growth.

A couple days ago, I talked about the energy of AGAINST (Day 23). If you have been following the 90-Day A Better Me Series, you might be seeing the problem with this. We have given ourselves the role of victim over our entire life any time we shame, judge, and blame ourselves and others. If we are victims of our lives, we attract (Law of Attraction) outer circumstances to be victims of. THIS FREAKING SUCKS!!! I know, and I have been there! We can be victims of traumatic events, natural or unnatural, without defining ourselves with the role of victim. We were victim of that particular thing, yes, but it is what we do with the experience that will change our lives for better or worse.

I kept getting these hard life lessons that were like getting bashed in the head with a baseball bat. I used that as an excuse to treat myself with more and more cruelty (violence). Looking back to how I used to talk to myself in the mirror, I can only be grateful that I learned another way to live, but it took me going through some hardcore traumatic situations for me to get here. I had to completely breakdown to the point where my only way out of the suffering was to break through it (I will talk about the process in Part II and Part III).

As I’ve said earlier in the series, I was diagnosed with P.T.S.D. I do understand that sometimes there are forces beyond what our mind is ready to handle, but I will tell you, the more I broke free from being a victim of my life, the less often I had episodes. Now, if they do come up, I can recognize them quickly, choose new thoughts, take the lesson from the episode, and move past it. Instead of becoming part of a bigger problem, the episode becomes apart of my growth…the experience feels so much better once I changed my perspective on it. Our thoughts are our choice! They are not a prison sentence.

Hate is the very energy that will endlessly sabotage anything good that comes our way. We will only attract as much happiness as we believe we deserve. If we think self-care is selfish, that will NOT help us. Without self-care we can easily become co-dependent on others to fulfill an emptiness that only we can fill. This pressure we put on someone else turns into resentment, which carries the energy of hate. Even if a relationship starts off just the way we want it, the hate will brew underneath the surface until it makes the floors so unstable that the other person will fight to match the hate or they will leave. The house we built on the foundation of hate will burn to the ground. Either way, the results are devastating. We sit alone wondering how it could happen when it started so strong.

If we can do that with one person’s personal energy, can you imagine what we do as a global community if so many people are feeding into this hate filled energy pool? We see and attract more things that attract violence and despair. How can we expect individuals to respect each other if they can’t respect themselves? We can’t know someone else’s true value to this life without judgment, until we see our own. We are all valuable, because we are here taking this journey. We each have things to learn. We each have lessons to offer. Some of us will be faced with very tough, hard-hitting lessons, but all lessons will hurt more when we resist them.

Numbing ourselves is RESISTING! Numbing is a guarantee that we will attract the energy of hate to our lives. It’s like the Universe is saying, you can learn this the easy way by facing what I bring to you, or you can learn the hard way and resist the process. The Universe has no choice but to give us lesson after to lesson until we learn and grow or shrink and die—No judgment just energy. Many of our numbing tools are literally killing us slowly. We have to make the choice to live or lives or hide in our caves. This is not the Universe being against us or judging us, this is us judging ourselves so harshly that we are scared to face the feelings that come up. The energy we put into this experience (journey through life) is the energy we will get out of it. Once again, I will remind you of the fear vs. hope exercise on Day 16. Where you put your focus is key, but the trick that many people forget to share is that the energy has to come from within. We can’t find this energy outside of ourselves. We can’t attract an energy that we don’t have. So, PLEASE be very conscious of how you are treating yourself. We attract whatever energy is at the core of how we really feel about ourselves. There is no hiding from it. We can choose to live in the muck or break free. The choice is ours.

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Tomorrow, we are going to start the journey of awareness inward. Here is a sneak peak of what is coming in the next few days:

  • Day 26: The Crumbling Foundation in the Mirror
  • Day 27:Looking for Value Outside of Ourselves
  • Day 28:Giving Ourselves Away
  • Day 29: Self-Abuse
  • Day 30:Anywhere but Right Here and Now

Just for Today

Anywhere you can, try to become aware of the energy you are projecting out without shaming or blaming yourself. Just know that becoming aware is the first step to changing the trajectory of your life. Our unknowing is simply just another lesson we must learn in order to live better. We don’t have to make it anything more or anything less.

A Reminder

This is one person’s gathered perspective. There are plenty others out there. It doesn’t mean one is right and the other is wrong, simply be open to hold on to what feels best for your life and let go of the rest. Seeing things differently is how we are all able to grow and expand. If you feel yourself judging material as right or wrong, simply try saying something like, “That’s an interesting perspective.” Just this simple phrase can do wonders to help shift our energy. It helps us leave our minds open for interpretation. We are all humans trying to interpret the information we are given the best we can. My material is supplemental to religious/spiritual practices, therapeutic processes, wellness programs, etc. No two people will ever think, feel, act, and react the exact same way. Celebrate the opportunities of the world of perspective.

I hope to see you back again tomorrow. If you missed a day, you can go to the Categories Section and pull up the 90-Day A Better Me Series. You will be see and explore all the days you missed. You can also follow via E-mail by scrolling down. I hope you have a great day! Thank you for reading.

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

Don’t forget to read today’s letter! 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 25 – Being Accountable for Attracting the Energy of Hate

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 24 – Manifesting Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 24: Manifesting Hate

“Of one thing we can be certain: a person that is engaging in violence is hurting deeply, because a healthy and balanced soul is incapable of harming another.”

-Gary Zukav The Seat of the Soul

When we fight hate with hate, we manifest more hate in the world. This is not a judgment, it just is. I love the definition of insanity that says, “Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different result.” Our focus on the problem, the problem, the problem and looking outward to point fingers has created MORE problems. We’ve gotten  to the point where people are ready to fight and engage in war at second. This could be internal or external war, whether it be in the mirror, on social media, sitting in traffic, walking through a store, in school, at sporting events. We are trained to see the worst in people, so we are capable of taking anything like it is a personal attack against us. The only thing that happens by following these feeling, thought, action, and reaction patterns is the manifestation of more hate.

When people learn about the Law of Attraction one of the things they don’t see is the Law of Attraction goes both ways. It’s not just about making a vision board, a list of what your desires are, and some positive thoughts. The Law of Attraction goes to the roots of your core feelings, ideas, and beliefs. You are attracting what is happening in the core, not what is on the surface. If you are filled with inner hate towards yourself and/or others, that is what you will manifest in your reality. This means toxic relationships, traffic incidents, problems dealing with people, money problems and that is just on a personal level. Now, lets amplify the energy by all the people focused on hate, even if they think their hate is justified. Do you see the problem here? I’m not a person who believes in accidents. Even the darkest events have purpose to teach us and help us grow. We just have to be open to learn. If we shut our minds down because old beliefs systems tell us that can’t be true, and we turn it into a war, our minds are shut down and we are once again feeding the fear/hate cycle—Manifesting more hate.

Some will blame God, politics, media, left-wingers, right-wingers, men, women, Christians, Muslims, Jews, agnostics, violent games, violence in the media, and the list goes on and on. The truth is the second we point the finger, we are responsible for the energy we’ve fueled into the global manifesting of hate. Blame is a fear-based energy that manifests more fear—Hate is the build-up of fear (If you want to read more about fear and blame, go back to the main page and start the series from the beginning or pick and choose what you want to read about).

Some even believe that this build up of energy is the reason for terrorist attacks, natural disasters, and, any and all acts of violence. Once a traumatic event happens, many of our compassionate loving energy comes out and we feel a shift, which helps restore the energy balance. Just another perspective of thought to think about…

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

Hate manifested inward can lead to some devastating internal and external consequences such as (to name a few):

  • Addiction
  • Tumors
  • Cancer
  • Pain
  • Suicidal dreams
  • Violent dreams
  • Attracting violence (Tomorrow’s installment)
  • Narcissist Personality Disorder
  • Sociopaths

To me, that is way too big a burden. This is just another reason to be conscious of where our energy is going. Like I’ve said before, none of us are going to do this perfectly. We are all works in progress. We just focus on doing the best we can, and not making the mistake to self-abuse when we make mistakes or have feelings come up. We need to allow ourselves to FEEL fully, process the feelings, and then re-frame. We can’t stuff feelings that we don’t want. That just manifests more of what we don’t want. Journaling and letter-writing are GREAT tools to process feelings to get them out of our bodies, which helps not to create toxic blocks in the body. Then using those same tools it’s easy to process and re-frame. This is the safest way to make sure we aren’t taking OUR misplaced feelings out on others, and we can stop the process of using our feelings to attack ourselves too.

Just for Today

Write a letter to yourself to help you process feelings that feed fear and hate cycles. Be as honest as you can about the feelings. Don’t run from them! This is not a letter you will share with anybody. Don’t limit or do a surface swipe, DIG DEEP!! The feelings at the core are the ones that do the most damage. Don’t worry about how it looks on paper. This isn’t a place to judge yourself for what your feeling. The most important thing is that you take full responsibility for your feelings. DO NOT blame your feelings on anyone else. They are yours! Take ownership of them. Trust me, they have already taken up residents in your body. The weight you want to carry of unresolved feelings is up to you. You don’t need anyone else to release or do anything! Write it out, burn it and turn it over! Just get it out of you. If you do this exercise, drink a ton of water and remember crying is a very good thing. Visualize your tears cleaning the window to your soul.

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With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Did you read today’s companion piece? 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 24 – Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 23 – The Fight Against HATE

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 23: The Fight Against HATE

“Violence teaches only violence. Stress teaches only stress. If you can clean up your mental environment, we’ll clean up our physical one much more quickly.”

-Byron Katie Hope Beneath Our Feet

I’ve been slowly approaching the fight AGAINST in this series. I know the attraction to fighting against things like racism, unfair wages, drunk driving, cancer, drugs, sexual harassment, sexism, inequality, rape, pollution, human trafficking, terrorists, and violence. The statement feels powerful and it can easily fuel our rage, which can give many of us the jumpstart to do something. We want people ACT! Right now, the easiest way to get people to act is to engage their rage. I hope you read yesterday’s post where the toxic energy of hate was covered. We are trying to fight these things with the same energy we are trying to get rid of. Do you see the problem? Our energy is focused on what we don’t want. Does this mean we have to change the names of these important causes? No, but if we really want our energy going towards the best solutions, we have to refocus the energy we are putting into the causes by putting a complete focus on the changes we want to see, not what we don’t want to see more of.

Can we do this by using force or violence? Can we do this by shaming people who are acting in the mentality of against? NO and NO! We just have to inject energy that works for what we want. It’s all about energy, not judgment. The second we engage in the judgment we are once again focusing on the energy we don’t want…I know it is tricky to navigate. Most, if not all of us, will not do this perfectly even if we try. We simply do the best we can and do our best to hold ourselves accountable for our own feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions. We are only responsible for our own energy. We can’t control what someone else does.

Now, on a personal level this is true too. If we focus our energy on the things we don’t want in our personal lives, we are going to contribute to a negative energy that has to come back to us…EEK! So if we hate our weight and we fight against it, we are actually going to cause more problems. We may lose weight but it may come back easily or it may have negative ramifications in other areas. If we don’t want a certain kind of relationship that may include abuse or addiction, and we are focused against it, we will be pulled towards it. This can be a lot to take in. I know it was for me, but when I figured it out, my life got SO MUCH BETTER!!

The energy of AGAINST works againstwhat we are trying to do. Once again, we go back to the Law of Attraction, what we focus on we get back. Hate can feel very justified when we are fighting AGAINST things that hurt the people we care about or us. There is a difference between having feelings that we process and release and feelings that we turn against ourselves that become resentment, violence, and vengeance. When we feel scorned by someone who we thought loved us, we can want to lash out, the lashing out is the violence. If we can just SLOW DOWN, process the hurt, anger, pain, sadness, and feelings of disappointment, we can open ourselves up to growing from the situation without blame, shame, judgment, and vengeance. This is why so many say that the act of forgiveness isn’t for the person we feel wronged us, it’s for us not to carry energy that will continue to harm us, which I will discuss in a lot more detail in Part II.

For now, we just want to become aware of anytime we are using the energy of AGAINST to attract change to the lives of ourselves and/or others. We will feel it in our bodies. A rage stirring inside us feels different then when we use loving energy to find solutions with a focus on what we want. I’m not saying that good changes haven’t come from the fight against, but there is severe backlash. Sometimes the energy will keep us from listening, finding creative solutions, being open to new research, etc. AGAINST shuts us down with a narrow focus on one thing. We can get blindsided when we don’t open our vision. We can miss the true causes, contributing factors, opportunities, and so much more.

A great example is the war AGAINST drugs. Ok, violence is initiated in the very title. Instantly we are encouraged to attack the drugs. This has hurt us in research of a natural plant remedy called, I know you know, cannabis. Some people who are so AGAINST the recreational use of marijuana will do anything to avoid looking at factual information of how it medicinal uses have helped not only adults, but children. The act of AGAINST could actually be slowing down research that could lead to cures…hmmm. They aren’t looking at how bad some of these chemicals that people have to use to tame symptoms their ailments are actually destroying other organs. The side effects alone on some of the pills people have to take are heartbreaking just to listen to, but the WAR ON DRUGS, makes us feel justified in attacking even the research of the possibility that benefits of cannabis are staggering. I know I was AMAZED in the research studies I was finding.

The war on drugs also keeps us focused on the drugs instead of looking at the WHY behind the people using the drugs. What are people so shut down by that they want to numb themselves? Are you thinking that there is plenty of other ways people try to numb themselves besides using drugs? EXACTLY!! We have to find the answers about why people are scared to feel and process their feelings in a healthy way. Are their belief patterns passed down from generations that we can help individuals sort out? Are there ways we can start helping children and families before the addictions begin? Are there things schools are doing to encouraging youth to want to numb themselves?

Are there schools using programs that are helping students develop on a healthy emotional level? Yes, there actually are more and more schools taking on things like mindfulness, small groups for emotional support, and feeling-centered activities to help with the understanding of feelings.  Funny thing, there are plenty of answers already out there, but we have to keep our focus on finding solutions to the WHY. I majored in human development and read research study after research study that gave plenty of avenues to explore, but by keeping the energy and resources tied up in the war against will keep the problem growing. Thankfully, we will always have people who ask why. We do have people who have their focus in the right places for positive change to happen. Sometimes it starts on a very small level. It may be one teacher in a school. Then the principal notices what the program is doing and it grows into a program that is used for the school. As they see more and more results people who are looking for solutions find the model and start using it too. The great thing about our global community is that we can see just as much good in the world as we can see bad in the world. It’s all about where we put our focus.  As we become more and more aware of how our energy helps or hinders the results we are looking to find, we will have the opportunity to solve more and more of the world’s and our own road blocks.

Just for Today

Here’s a little experiment for you:

Step 1:

I want you to take something you feel that feeling of AGAINST about. It can be something personal like your weight, addiction, or food. It can also be something bigger like a cause you support, for instance the ones listed at the beginning of the article.

Step 2:

Be present to feel what the FIGHT AGAINST brings up inside of you. What do you feel creeping up inside you? Where is the focus of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions?

Step 3:

Turn the focus of what you were against to what you are actually FOR. For Instance:

  • You are AGAINST your Weight = You are FORliving a healthy lifestyle. You are FOR feeling comfortable in your clothes.
  • You are AGAINST discrimination = You are FOR seeing people as equals. You are FOR each individual being valued for his or her unique skills. You are FOR the acceptance of others.
  • You are AGAINST abuse = You are FOR being treated with dignity and respect. You are FOR having a partner who knows how to effectively communicate with love.

Pay attention to how the shift in energy makes you feel. Try to find as many positives as you can for anything that you feel the energy of against towards. Become aware of how that makes you feel, think, act, and react?

Step 4:

Look at the lists you wrote in Step 3. Do you treat yourself in a way that represents what you stand FOR? Examples:

  • If you are FOR living a healthy lifestyle…what are you doing/not doing that reflects you living a healthy lifestyle?
  • If you are FOR being treated with dignity and respect…in what ways are you showing/not showing yourself dignity and respect?

Just become aware of how you are contributing to the energy you are feeding. This can help you dig to the bottom of what you really want instead of what you are fighting AGAINST.

Thank you to those who have been following along with the 90-Day A Better Me Series and the 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series. I’m so grateful for your time and consideration for the perspectives being shared. Open minds give us so many opportunities to better our personal and global environments. Don’t forget to read today’s letter, 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 23 – Where Am I Holding Energy of AGAINST?

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 22 – Becoming Aware of My Hate

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 22: Becoming Aware of My Hate

Dear Self,

I’m ready to start becoming aware of my hate. I realize now that I’ve been letting hate unconsciously guide me in a direction that I don’t want to be going. I’ve been acting in a way that is contributing to the cycle of violence that I’ve feared for so long. I know that my hate has been creating only more hate and I’ve been watching it build up inside of me.

I can see it on the roads when I’m driving in traffic. I can see it in my judgments of people who dismiss other human beings in front of them in the stores I shop in. I can see it when I think of words being used that make my skin crawl. I even see it when I think of textures of food. That’s just everyday ways I let hate seep into my life.

I haven’t even begun to cover my feelings about narcissists, sociopaths, child molesters, rapists, oppressors, chauvinistic leaders, murderers, and hate groups. I feel my body shift and stir as the thoughts of violent and hateful individuals work their way into my thoughts.

What I realize now is that I’m responsible for the energy that I’m letting into my internal world. I can’t make these individuals different than they are. My negativity isn’t going to change something in them, all it will do is change something in me and it won’t be for the better. I’m giving them the power over my thoughts and energy and that is the last thing that I want to do.

I’m committed to focus my energy on what I want to be feeling and spreading. I have to really become aware of when I’m not paying attention to the hate-filled energy building up inside of me. I will work to re-frame my thoughts to be more constructive. I will search out different perspectives that will help me stay in a loving energy.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Read today’s installment 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 22 – The Toxic Foundation of Hate

 

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 22 – The Toxic Foundation of Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

 

Day 22: The Toxic Foundation of Hate

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

If fear is the beginning of what leads us to living a life in darkness, hate is the accumulation of all the fear, shame, blame, and judgment. Hate is the most toxic of all the energies we put out combined. Hate creates violence. Violence is the action of hate. Violence starts as an action we take against ourselves. If we don’t hold ourselves responsible for the energy we are putting out there, we perpetuate cycles of hate and violence. This toxicity spreads quickly and easily especially in the age we live in where a mere thought can go viral at the click of a button.

There are messages of hate and messages of love everywhere we turn. If you want to know where your comfort zone really is—You will see it in which messages you focus on. It’s about how much we are attaching to the messages. How do messages of hate or love resonate with you? Do you get caught up in fear, blame, shame, and judgment or in love, compassion, joy, and encouragement? Do you focus your energy on the perceived heroes or what you may consider villains or evil in the world? Do you find yourself having to spread negative messages or positive ones? Are you more likely to spread messages of love or fear on social media? The key is being aware of how the toxic energy is affecting your internal world.

Every person is a human being and no person is less than human. No human has less or more than another human. The second we value one human life over another we are contributing to energies that will attract negativity to our lives. Hate for ourselves and others is the accumulation of belief systems that can go back generations. Some beliefs systems encourage hate for other groups of humans, which gives individuals courage to kill and do harm. Other belief systems teach us to fear others for their different beliefs, which encourages hate and violence over things that don’t fit into our exact belief systems.

All hate feeds the global cycle of energy that feeds the negative media, tabloids, governments, wars, and mistrust of our fellow men and women. If we engage in verbal, emotional, or physical violence towards ourselves our others we are apart of the problem— even if we feel justified in our hate. Remember the energy of hate and violence has nothing to do with judgment, it’s the movement of energy. If we hate even the supposed villain, we are still contributing to the energy.

Shaming others or ourselves is an act of violence.  If we feed someone’s shame cycle to  self-hate and feel unlovable than we are just as much apart of the problem. This is where our judgments of what is right or wrong for others (Day 21) can come into the hate/violence cycle. The energy that moves with hate and violence is slick. It can sneak into the most vulnerable situations without most of us even knowing it. We actually can be thinking we are doing a good thing for someone, and actually be contributing to the toxic energy of violence. We have to be aware of where our energy is in order not to contribute to these vicious fear-based cycles.

The signs that fear, shame, blame, judgment, and hate are present can be felt in our bodies when we pay attention. The more aware we become, the more we will be able to spot it. The energy of hate is a great force. It permeates through your entire body. Rage is one of the violent energies that come from hate and can carry the most palpable energy fields. People can go to certain places and feel it in the rooms or on land that had rage-filled conflicts. The energy is incredibly heavy.

When we bring rage into what we are doing it will feel like fuel. We will feel like we are building this amazing momentum. It can even feel like a drug that needs to be fed. We can easily mistake our rage as a positive force because it can spark movements for positive change. We don’t understand that some of the intense backlash we get is because we used rage to fuel us. Rage’s energy will swing back and attack. No judgment, just energy being energy. Like Martin Luther King Jr. says, “Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

Martin Luther King Jr. is an amazing example of how a person who wants to create lasting change can use love as a guiding force. He refused hate in the face of hate and oppression. This didn’t mean he didn’t stand up for freedom, but when he spoke we knew what he stood for. This may not have protected him from the hate in his physical form, but his messages live on loud and strong as a reminder of what the power of love can do. No one has to feed the toxic energy of hate if they don’t want to. We have to consciously make the choice each and every day. Sometimes we have to make the choice in every given moment. Part II and Part III of the 90-Day A Better Me Series will show you many ways to break-free from any toxic cycles you are holding onto. Keep following!

Just for Today

Be aware of when hate creeps into your life. It could be sitting in traffic, watching the news, reading about politics, learning about hate groups, looking in the mirror, eating Brussels sprouts, feeling the cold, having freezing cold toes, or sweating in the heat. These are just some examples of things people can choose to hate. If you are at peace with everything on the list, just dig down and see if there are any areas of your life that you do let hate in. No matter how big or small, just be aware of how the hate feels in your body. Any amount of hate can cause internal and external damage. We are responsible for any energy we take in or release into the Universe.

Thanks for reading today’s message on the toxic energy of hate.  See today’s letter working with the Just for Today’s exercise, 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 22 – Becoming Aware of My Hate

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

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