90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 24 – Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 24: Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate

Please read 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 24 – Manifesting Hate before reading this letter.

Dear Self,

I’m feeling a mix of feelings, which include anger, rage, frustration, sadness, and fear. I’ve noticed I’m projecting these feelings out in unhealthy ways and I’m left feeling drained, depressed, and withdrawn. I’m letting my fear’s energy take over me. I’m contributing to the hate by letting myself get triggered by media reports and social media posts. I feel the rage inside me well up like a fireball as I hear about all the hate coming from people who are refusing to listen to each other. I’m contributing to the energy by silently brewing and letting the anger fester inside me. I’m steering my energy to a place that I don’t want to attract it back. Here’s my plan to change the direction my energy is going:

I’m choosing to let go of the anger because it has no place in my body. I’m choosing to focus my energy on the love I see in the world. I’m looking up stories of inspiration, hope, and positive change. This inspires me! My tears well up with joy when I see people being good to one another. I love seeing the stories of the strangers who drop everything and step up for others. I want to keep this joy in love in my heart.

Instead of focusing on all the wrongs in the world including all the corruption and violence, my attention is going to go towards officers who are doing the right things. Politicians who I see as a genuinely good people who care about the countries they serve. I’m not going to limit myself to particular parties, I will focus on the people who help us come up with solutions to think of the whole, not one side vs. the other. I’m not going to manifest more separation by seeing my ideas and myself as separate. I will focus on the people who spread messages of love, it doesn’t matter if I believe every word they say, as long as I genuinely feel what they are spreading is love, I will support that. Doing these things makes me feel good inside. I feel lightness and so much gratitude for all the people who inspire loving action.

I’m becoming more conscious of how I’m talking to myself and how when I belittle myself I’m feeding into the hate cycle. I’m doing the work to fuel my self-love so I project that instead of self-hate. I’m responsible for my feelings, but I’m not going to blame myself for having them. I just need to work through them step by step so I don’t take them out on someone else and manifest more hate.

As for my actions and reactions, I will consciously choose actions that support living life from a loving place. I will do my best to remain present, so that I consider the people around me as well as myself. I will smile and laugh more to focus on spreading joy. I will do my best in conflict to stay present to what I stand FOR instead of Focusing on what I am AGAINST.

I’m grateful for all my feelings that come up in me. I can learn from every feeling and thought that I experience. I’m committed to my journey of becoming the best version of myself.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

January 24, 2019April 6, 2019

Rachael Wolff1 Comment

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 22 – Becoming Aware of My Hate

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 22: Becoming Aware of My Hate

Dear Self,

I’m ready to start becoming aware of my hate. I realize now that I’ve been letting hate unconsciously guide me in a direction that I don’t want to be going. I’ve been acting in a way that is contributing to the cycle of violence that I’ve feared for so long. I know that my hate has been creating only more hate and I’ve been watching it build up inside of me.

I can see it on the roads when I’m driving in traffic. I can see it in my judgments of people who dismiss other human beings in front of them in the stores I shop in. I can see it when I think of words being used that make my skin crawl. I even see it when I think of textures of food. That’s just everyday ways I let hate seep into my life.

I haven’t even begun to cover my feelings about narcissists, sociopaths, child molesters, rapists, oppressors, chauvinistic leaders, murderers, and hate groups. I feel my body shift and stir as the thoughts of violent and hateful individuals work their way into my thoughts.

What I realize now is that I’m responsible for the energy that I’m letting into my internal world. I can’t make these individuals different than they are. My negativity isn’t going to change something in them, all it will do is change something in me and it won’t be for the better. I’m giving them the power over my thoughts and energy and that is the last thing that I want to do.

I’m committed to focus my energy on what I want to be feeling and spreading. I have to really become aware of when I’m not paying attention to the hate-filled energy building up inside of me. I will work to re-frame my thoughts to be more constructive. I will search out different perspectives that will help me stay in a loving energy.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Read today’s installment 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 22 – The Toxic Foundation of Hate

January 22, 2019April 6, 2019

Rachael Wolff1 Comment

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 22 – The Toxic Foundation of Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 22: The Toxic Foundation of Hate

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

If fear is the beginning of what leads us to living a life in darkness, hate is the accumulation of all the fear, shame, blame, and judgment. Hate is the most toxic of all the energies we put out combined. Hate creates violence. Violence is the action of hate. Violence starts as an action we take against ourselves. If we don’t hold ourselves responsible for the energy we are putting out there, we perpetuate cycles of hate and violence. This toxicity spreads quickly and easily especially in the age we live in where a mere thought can go viral at the click of a button.

There are messages of hate and messages of love everywhere we turn. If you want to know where your comfort zone really is—You will see it in which messages you focus on. It’s about how much we are attaching to the messages. How do messages of hate or love resonate with you? Do you get caught up in fear, blame, shame, and judgment or in love, compassion, joy, and encouragement? Do you focus your energy on the perceived heroes or what you may consider villains or evil in the world? Do you find yourself having to spread negative messages or positive ones? Are you more likely to spread messages of love or fear on social media? The key is being aware of how the toxic energy is affecting your internal world.

Every person is a human being and no person is less than human. No human has less or more than another human. The second we value one human life over another we are contributing to energies that will attract negativity to our lives. Hate for ourselves and others is the accumulation of belief systems that can go back generations. Some beliefs systems encourage hate for other groups of humans, which gives individuals courage to kill and do harm. Other belief systems teach us to fear others for their different beliefs, which encourages hate and violence over things that don’t fit into our exact belief systems.

All hate feeds the global cycle of energy that feeds the negative media, tabloids, governments, wars, and mistrust of our fellow men and women. If we engage in verbal, emotional, or physical violence towards ourselves our others we are apart of the problem— even if we feel justified in our hate. Remember the energy of hate and violence has nothing to do with judgment, it’s the movement of energy. If we hate even the supposed villain, we are still contributing to the energy.

Shaming others or ourselves is an act of violence. If we feed someone’s shame cycle to self-hate and feel unlovable than we are just as much apart of the problem. This is where our judgments of what is right or wrong for others (Day 21) can come into the hate/violence cycle. The energy that moves with hate and violence is slick. It can sneak into the most vulnerable situations without most of us even knowing it. We actually can be thinking we are doing a good thing for someone, and actually be contributing to the toxic energy of violence. We have to be aware of where our energy is in order not to contribute to these vicious fear-based cycles.

The signs that fear, shame, blame, judgment, and hate are present can be felt in our bodies when we pay attention. The more aware we become, the more we will be able to spot it. The energy of hate is a great force. It permeates through your entire body. Rage is one of the violent energies that come from hate and can carry the most palpable energy fields. People can go to certain places and feel it in the rooms or on land that had rage-filled conflicts. The energy is incredibly heavy.

When we bring rage into what we are doing it will feel like fuel. We will feel like we are building this amazing momentum. It can even feel like a drug that needs to be fed. We can easily mistake our rage as a positive force because it can spark movements for positive change. We don’t understand that some of the intense backlash we get is because we used rage to fuel us. Rage’s energy will swing back and attack. No judgment, just energy being energy. Like Martin Luther King Jr. says, “Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

Martin Luther King Jr. is an amazing example of how a person who wants to create lasting change can use love as a guiding force. He refused hate in the face of hate and oppression. This didn’t mean he didn’t stand up for freedom, but when he spoke we knew what he stood for. This may not have protected him from the hate in his physical form, but his messages live on loud and strong as a reminder of what the power of love can do. No one has to feed the toxic energy of hate if they don’t want to. We have to consciously make the choice each and every day. Sometimes we have to make the choice in every given moment. Part II and Part III of the 90-Day A Better Me Series will show you many ways to break-free from any toxic cycles you are holding onto. Keep following!

Just for Today

Be aware of when hate creeps into your life. It could be sitting in traffic, watching the news, reading about politics, learning about hate groups, looking in the mirror, eating Brussels sprouts, feeling the cold, having freezing cold toes, or sweating in the heat. These are just some examples of things people can choose to hate. If you are at peace with everything on the list, just dig down and see if there are any areas of your life that you do let hate in. No matter how big or small, just be aware of how the hate feels in your body. Any amount of hate can cause internal and external damage. We are responsible for any energy we take in or release into the Universe.

Thanks for reading today’s message on the toxic energy of hate. See today’s letter working with the Just for Today’s exercise, 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 22 – Becoming Aware of My Hate

With Love and Gratitude,

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