UPDATED MARCH 2024

In order to align ourselves with love, abundance, and peace we have to stop taking what other people say and do personally. If their energy is aligned with fear, lack, and separation, that is what they will project onto whoever will listen and/or align with their energy. My mom has been telling me, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you” since I was thirteen years old. What people think of us and others is based on what beliefs (perspectives of truth) they are attaching to within themselves and the SAME is true for us. We have choices in how we respond to others through acquiring new ways to look at things and that is something to be VERY grateful for.

I have a choice to internalize what someone says, or I can be grateful that I can come up with other ways to look at it that trigger my compassion. The things I choose don’t have to be true for someone else, I’m only responsible and accountable for how my thoughts make me feel and what energy I project.

If it helps me feel better by not taking it personally and it helps me to see other perspectives to align me with love, abundance, and peace—I’m okay with that. I’m grateful for my choice Not to take others personally by seeing seeing these options in perspectives instead:

• Others are only ever projecting what is inside them.
• Someone who says hurtful things to others is really saying those things to themselves (They are their own mirror).
• Some people who are supporting abusive people or are abusive see abuse as normal, so they don’t even see what they or another person is doing doing as abusive. Possibly because they have been abusing themselves on an unconscious level or they have suppressed verbal, mental, emotional or physical abuse from someone else. It’s not my job to CHANGE them, just be aware that I don’t have to align or agree with any energy I don’t want to be a part of.
• I make the healthiest choice for me and my energy.

In one of my suggested daily aligning practices I love doing as I scroll social media looking at posts and comments. I choose to see what anyone is saying and doing as a projection of what is going on inside of them.I love figuring out if a person is coming from a place of love, abundance, and peace OR fear, lack, and separation. Doing this makes me feel more empathetic towards others over judging them based on whether I believe they are right or wrong. Focusing my energy on seeing through this lens also helps me see where I am more consciously. That self-awareness is key.

If someone in my family or any of my other relationships interacts with me in any other way than loving, respectful, and considerate, I take my ego out of it (making how they are acting about me), and try to ask questions that help me to see what is going on inside of them. I find questions are so much more productive than any statements I make, not saying I don’t do it sometimes (LOL). If my ego is involved and I’m taking it personally, I know it because I get defensive. I find that making statements doesn’t tend to get me to the heart of the issue, and it also doesn’t help the person I care about figure out why they are projecting their energy of fear, lack, and separation onto me. I really hope you will try today’s practices and see what a difference it makes in your energy. I get a natural high when I do it, which is how I know my energy is aligned with love, abundance, and peace.

Today’s Aligning

Love

Repeat as often as you can throughout the day: What people think of me is none of my business. What I think of me is 100% my business, and that is what I will give my energy to today.

Abundance

I’m grateful for other people’s perspectives for these reasons…

Examples: I’m grateful people think differently, because it means we will have different strengths.

I’m grateful for different perspectives because it keeps me open to see we all how choices in how we want to believe. I’m grateful for different perspectives because it helps me see love, abundance, and peace from many different angles.

Peace

Today, I commit to practice seeing what others say and do as a projection of what is going on inside of them.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020, 2024

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