90-Day A Better Me Series
Part II: A Journey of Perspective
What Launches Us Forward: The Stable Foundation
Day 42: The Smooth Edges of Perspective
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
When we think about a foundation, we want it smooth. We want to make sure our foundation works with what we set on top of it. Smooth edges lessen potential for instability and injury. They open up the possibilities to do more without the worry of the structure we create crumbling. Perspective helps us to spot the darkness and appreciate the light. Perspectives are the directions to get out of the boxes we create for ourselves. The more open we are, the smoother our edges are. This means what others do won’t trigger us. We understand that it is their stuff so it slides off of us instead of us absorbing their stuff like it is our own.
Perspective allows our minds to expand and see more. If we see more, we can create more. If we truly want to be on this journey of perspective and be able to see what will launch us forward—we have to OPEN OUR MINDS! The answers are often beyond the reach of where our old beliefs take us. We have to be ready look at ourselves deeper. We are projecting out what is inside of us. If we don’t like the way our life looks, we have to get real with ourselves. No more protecting ourselves with defense mechanisms built on a foundation of our fears (PART I). The sharp edges have wounded us and our relationships for long enough. It’s time to smooth down our edges so we can see with clarity our ability to move forward—PERSPECTIVE!
On day 41, we tackled one of the biggest beliefs that can keep people in their toxic patterns—The victim role. We have to be willing to release and let go our inner victims for us to even begin to open our perspectives. We have to be able to see that we have choices about how we want to live our lives no matter what our circumstances. We have to be ready to shine our own light on our dark corners so we can clear out the cobwebs, get rid of the hazardous waste, eliminate the threats from our sharp edges, and be able to re-build. You have to know that the power is in your hands to change the trajectory of your life. No one can make us make the choice. Each of us has to come to it when we’re ready.
It can be an overwhelming process to invite perspective into your life when you’ve been living life in fear. This is a one-step at a time process. You are not just going to open the door and see this perfect utopia. We have to undo a lot of past damage, and that will come off in layers. I haven’t talked too much in the series about faith, but this is when we need to have faith in the process. Every step we take will have blessings, but some will be hidden in the dark corners. Finding perspectives that keep our faith lighting the way is part of the journey. We are literally in the beginning stages of re-wiring our brains to behave differently. Be Patient with yourself!
Once we’ve opened this door, things will shift. Some things may even seem to get worse before they get better. Sometimes we are holding onto beliefs so tight that we will have to grieve them; even if the beliefs were keeping us in our own private hell. There was a sense of familiarity about them. Most times it’s because the beliefs that came from our childhood or after a trauma. They served as protective layers, yet they were really keeping the light out.
Think about how rocks in the ocean become smooth or the process of using a rock tumbler. It takes friction to smooth the edges. If you’ve been with me on this journey since the beginning, I’m sure you have felt some already in Part I. Part I takes you through the rock tumbler process very quickly, but if you know anything about the process, it takes time. Be patient with yourself. The process has taken me years, thousands of books, courses, personal guides, therapy, spiritual practices, meditations, exercises, healings, and so much more to give me the ability to live my life according to the perspectives I have now. I’m trying to streamline the process for others, but it doesn’t mean that it won’t take a lot of work if you really want to get the most out of it. For some, my work may be the first opening into this world. For others, it may be a step on the journey.
I will talk about perspectives that feel right for you and others perspectives that won’t, and with clarity you feel the power in chooses what works and what doesn’t without judgment. It’s an AMAZING feeling. You will see more about that in the days to come. Be open! As we begin to really dig in and learn about ourselves, we will see more and more choices appear.
Just for Today
Write a letter to yourself committing to be open to the process. You can see today’s Letter from A Better Me “Making the Choice to BE OPEN” that will be posted later today for inspiration.
With Love and Gratitude,
Rachael Wolff ©2019
Did you read today’s companion piece? 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 42 – Making the Choice to BE OPEN
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