One of the biggest excuses to not align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace is our challenging times and past traumas. When we say we can’t do this because… that is a CHOICE not to do it. We are telling ourselves we are comfortable in our pain states and we don’t want to change. As a survivor of multiple traumas, I used to make this choice and it landed me in the psychiatric ward after trying to attempt suicide at age seventeen. It would be a long time and a lot more trauma before I realized that I was projecting the energy of fear, lack, and separation into the world by holding on the way I was. I believed (a perspective of truth) that I was protecting myself, when really I was not only causing myself harm but bringing that energy into ALL my relationships (EEEK).
Whatever we tell ourselves is true, is true to us. This is why it is SO important to be conscious of where we are putting our energy in each moment. We have the power to re-wire/ re-train our brains to go to different thoughts when we face challenges, what better time to practice this than right now. Byron Katies work taught me to REALLY question my thoughts. If a thought creates dis-ease in my body, I pay attention and ask myself, “Where would I be without the thought (name the thought)?” This practice truly helps me to see that my thoughts can be changed, if I CHOOSE to change them. One of the steps I use to keep my brain wired for love, abundance, and peace during challenging times is to find lessons to be grateful for.
This might not be easy in the beginning if your brain is used to staying in the chaos, which mine was. Now, it is one of the first places my mind goes after I fully feel my way through whatever is happening around me (come back tomorrow for more on that). For today, think about some lessons you got from challenging times that have helped you in SOME way, whether that be in relationships, work, school, parenting, dealing with negative people, etc. If you want to learn more about why I’m doing these posts, go back to day 1 here.
Now, breathe. Our conscious breath taking is a crucial piece of aligning our energy. When we slow down and breathe through our stressful thoughts, it not only lessens their impact on our bodies, but in the functioning of our brains. Sometimes just taking three conscious breaths in and out is all we need to gain a little space from the stressful thought. This gives a place to question the thought and re-access it. If you have a stressful thought today, pay attention to what happens to your breathing. Stress creates us to hold our breath. Make sure you are taking a long and deep breath in and FULLY releasing it. If you can get into the habit of doing this, you will be able to re-align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace much faster.