Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #269

I’m grateful your journey is for you and my journey is for me. It feels so empowering to allow those words to flow through my fingers. I love that I’ve gotten to the place in my life where I can truly appreciate this sentiment. I’m not living anybody else’s journey but my own. I’m responsible and accountable for how I choose to live my journey. I’m not the judge of someone else’s journey and when I choose to be in that space, I’m operating from a place of fear, lack, and separation. If my energy goes into being responsible and accountable for what I allow in and what I project out, I better serve myself and others. I can only ever be an example through what I do.

I’m learning (notice present tense) to focus my energy not what someone else is doing wrong, but how to I contribute to the solution and not the problem. If I’m stuck in the problem, I’m not serving anyone from that energy because it’s coming from the energy of fear, lack, and separation—I’m manifesting more of it. If I’m embracing the solution mindset, my energy is coming from love, abundance, and peace and I’m manifesting more of it.

On my journey, I’m learning to see that judging other’s journeys doesn’t feel good. I like feeling good. I found that contributing to the world from the energy of love, abundance, and peace makes me feel good, so that’s the journey I’m committed working on daily to live in. Plenty of people choose this and our journeys all look different, because that is exactly how it is supposed to be. Universal messages of love, abundance, and peace feel connected on an ENERGETIC level, not a story level.

I connect to people with like energy (like magnets), it can take one brief interaction and I will feel connected to someone even if it’s just for a brief period of time. I also feel my energy keeping me at a safe distance from others because of where their energy is. The more I practice these skills, the better and faster I get at acknowledging the energy attracting and repelling. I wrote about that on Day #231 (click number to read more). I’ve actually written a lot about this throughout the series because, energy is what the series is all about —the energy of love, abundance, and peace and fear, lack, and separation.

My journey becomes less about judgments and more about where the energy takes me. I’m still practicing, because judging others is a long lived habit. Each time I do it, I get the opportunity to go deeper. I also work on not judging myself and allowing myself to be responsible and accountable for my choices. This helps me use every experience where I notice my energy in fear, lack, and separation to help me grow and expand into the best version myself I can be moment to moment.

I have so much respect for other people’s journeys who look much different than mine. I’ve seen people use all kinds of different types of pathways to align them with love, abundance, and peace. I love when I’m offered seeds from their journeys. Then I get to choose whether or not I want to plant them in my own garden. I get to decide whether to nurture the seed into a way of believing and living. I get to figure out if it’s a beautiful flower, but not right for my garden. I will simply appreciate the flower in their garden. Just because something is beautiful doesn’t mean we have the right environment to host it, and that is OKAY. Understanding that I don’t have to be right and appreciate different ways to feed the energy of love, abundance, and peace is one of the most beautiful gifts on my journey.

As a parent, I get a lot of opportunities to learn about what is mine and what is not. My hope is by leading by example and not by the do as I say and not as I do mentality, I will help my kids see examples of what it means to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace over fear, lack, and separation. My hope is through my honest communications they will get to see the opportunities to learn from each step they take on their journeys as I learn from mine. I know they will be learning from my example no matter what energy I align with moment to moment. With me, they see the example of of someone who takes responsibility and accountability for what is theirs. I don’t pretend in any way to be perfect and I don’t expect that of them. I keep remembering how important it was for me to experience life the way I did in order to be where I am today. How can it be any different for them?

Today, I commit to living my journey and letting you live yours. I have no idea what is best for someone else’s journey. There are so many ways that people can choose to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. There are also so many ways people will choose to live in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. My job is to tend to my own garden and offer seeds from what I grow and nurture. What someone else does with those seeds is not my business. I’m not hear to tell anyone that my way of aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace is the only way. I’ve had someone tell me that they can’t live like I do. That was them simply saying they didn’t want the seed I was offering at the time, and that’s okay. That’s their journey. There are people who are going to want to plant a lot of the seeds I offer, and that is their business too. I can celebrate others living their journeys without wanting to plant a single one of their seeds in my garden. I can also choose to plant seeds that people don’t understand why I would want that seed in my garden. It’s all okay.

Here are some questions I ask myself:

  • Am I living by example aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace?
  • Am I tending to my own garden?
  • Am I working through the obstacles that keep me aligned with fear, lack, and separation?
  • Am I offering my seeds to others?
  • Am I helping to empower others to live their journeys?
  • Am I open to planting seeds that will help me align with the energy of love, abundance, and peace even more?
  • Am I open to hearing Universal messages of love, abundance, and peace?
  • Am I working through my own emotional triggers?
  • Am I serving others from a loving place?
  • Am I communication with others from a loving place?
  • Am I guiding others by example from a loving place?
  • Am I holding myself responsible and accountable for my feelings, thoughts, beliefs, words, actions, reactions, and responses?

In AL-ANON I remember many shares about the importance of keeping our own side of the street clean. That was a seed I took from those rooms and planted. When I do this, I live better, I serve better, and I love better. Writing these pieces daily helps me to commit to doing the work of living my journey as best I can, while also letting you live yours. I’m grateful for you who are reading this piece. Most likely if you’ve read it to this point, there is something that resonates. If you feel called to come on this journey with me, you are welcomed with open arms. I trust that whoever is here is exactly who is meant to be. As they say in AL-ANON, “Take what you like, and leave the rest.” Wishing you a beautiful day and hoping that you embrace and enjoy your journey wherever it takes you.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World -Click the cover to start reading or listening to your copy today (also available in paperback)

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Rachael Wolff: Here’s My Why

MY WHY

I believe that the healthier our thinking is the more good we can do in the world. When we become more conscious of what is going on inside of us, we are empowered to make better choices for ourselves and the world around us. 

I didn’t come up with this belief. It’s been written about for as long as people have been passing down stories. It’s been studied over and over again. Yet, for some reason, the majority of us resist it out of fear. With that, we keep trying to use fear and accept fear-based thinking to guide us. You see this in our social media, news, politics, and daily interactions with others. 

Even though this has been written about time and time again, the way some people try to get us there is through fear.

Since many individuals are stimulated to move and change through fear, why wouldn’t this method work? 

When we do things from a place of fear, we are NOT focusing on the energy we want. We are focused on what we don’t want. Here’s an example, a God-fearing individual might do things because they don’t want to go to hell. That is a fear-driven way to live and when we fail, get lazy, resist, or make a poor choice, our fear kicks in to high swing and we belittle ourselves and start a shame cycle.  We are not worthy of God’s love. We are not worthy of getting into heaven. 

Not all religious practices are driven by fear, and some have changed it’s messages over time. Even with the changes, individuals still will take the route of shame and fear-based living because they are unconsciously living with beliefs that have been passed down from generations even if the belief has been proven unhealthy or false—The beliefs are embedded. This isn’t just tied to religion. This can be tied to ANY belief system we hold. 

WHY FROM A LOVING PLACE?

This is WHY I do what I do, write what I write, practice what I practice, read what I read, etc. This is WHY I named this blog, From A Loving Place and named my book, Letters from A Better Me. My Why represents the work of thinking from a loving place, believing from a loving place, and doing from a loving place. My goal is to help others open themselves up to live from a loving place too. The larger the community we have living from a loving place, the more our conversations will change on social media, in the news, in politics, with each other, and in the world. This is not a fluff or woo-woo conversation. We can choose to live in fear or love at any minute of the day.

What is wrong with our thinking that living in fear has become an acceptable norm and living in love is woo-woo? 

I know I’m not alone in my why. I see it in the social media I focus on. I see it  in the stories and research I spend my time reading. I see it in  many of the people I choose to have in my life. When I feel better about me, understand where my shadows come from, and see the power my light creates—I soar. I then connect to the energy and people who feel this too. It’s amazing how many amazing people have come into my life since I started connecting to my why.

MY JOURNEY

I’m on a transformative journey. I’m open to learn and grow, so I can pass on what works for me. It doesn’t have to work for you. Our whys don’t have to be the same. I have plenty of friends and loved ones who don’t have the same why. What we do have is some of the same joys, laughter, experiences, triumphs, lessons, fears, sadness, humor, sarcasm, love, happiness and sorrows. Those are the things that connect me to others. When I choose to connect and live my why, I feel free within all those connections. I don’t take our differences personally. I know how I want to live, and I know that I’m making my choices consciously. The healthier I am, the healthier my relationships with others are.  I also am clear on healthy boundaries and trusting my gut when I don’t feel comfortable around particular people. It all works together. 

My happiness in my life comes in large part to figuring out my why. My why is what guides me in my daily choices of how I want to be living. It helps me to learn from my fears, and to change what doesn’t work in my life. This doesn’t mean I ALWAYS choose to live in my why.

WHEN I DISCONNECT FROM MY WHY

I learned important warning signs for when and how I would fall out of living my why in a 12-Step program called AL-ANON.

H.A.L.T.

  • Hungry
  • Angry
  • Lonely
  • Tired

H.A.L.T. is a reminder to check-in with ourselves when we are feeling emotionally triggered. It’s the reminder to stop, take a breath, and reflect. When I’m experiencing one or all of these things, it’s a struggle for me to live my why, because I’m irritable. I take other people’s actions personally. I also, play fear-based messages in my mind because my lack of focus is guiding me to unconscious living. I’m not perfect by any means. I’ve screamed at my kids, I’ve blamed others, I’ve held personal pity-parties more times than I can count, but I do all of this when I’m lost somewhere in the hungry, angry, lonely, and/or tired. I don’t want to take care of myself when I’m there, so I’m not present. I’m defensive and lost somewhere in my unhealed past or the unknown future. My head is definitely not where my feet are. 

When I realize that I don’t like the space where I am, I have HALT to help me find my way out: 

  • If I’m hungry—I eat.
  • If I’m angry—I write, exercise, dance, or talk to someone I trust not to commiserate with me but to help me be responsible and accountable.
  • If I’m lonely—I write a gratitude list, call a friend, hug one of my kids, write a letter to myself, or go do something I love to do.
  • If I’m tired—I sleep and if I can’t sleep, I meditate, get on my Simply Fit Exercise Board, or go outside and walk. 

These are just a few of the tools I use to get me back to living my life from a loving place and showing myself the love that I deserve. This is how I get my thinking to a healthy place, so that I can make the best choices for myself and with that—the world I live in. 

DEFINE YOUR WHY

Take the time to define your why. The how, what, where, when, and who hold more meaning when we allow our why to lead us on our journeys. We start understanding that we have to stumble to learn. We don’t have to let our stumbles define who we are, we can let the lessons we learned be our driving force to make better and wiser choices.

WHAT’S NEXT?

 If you feel connected to what I’m saying, make sure to follow the From A Loving Place blog. You can also follow me on Facebook.com/FromALovingPlace for daily inspiration to help you stay connected to your WHY.

I’m also very excited because I will be speaking in St. Petersburg, Florida at Dream Con on February 29, 2020. This will be my first event after my book, Letters from A Better Me launches in 45 days (Feb.18, 2020).  You will also be able to find me in Atlanta, GA at Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore from 4-6PM on March 15, 2020 for a book-signing event. If you can’t make it to see me in person, the 35-Day A Better Me Boot Camp’s next session will be available in March 2020. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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