Letters to Corona: Part 3

Dear Corona,

Today, I’m honoring the grief I’m feeling in the wake of your wave. My life was moving along in a way I was comfortable until your presence had us close our doors and proceed with caution. I’m grieving the loss of revenue from the events I can’t take part in. I’m grieving for all the broken plans that I was excited for. I’m grieving for my quiet time to work without kids. I’m grieving the loss of my norm. I’m grieving my way of participating in the world. 

Just because I’m grieving these things doesn’t mean I don’t have compassion for those who have lost loved ones, jobs, and homes—I do. My grief is not any less there because someone else’s grief is there too. Grief is not meant to be one-upped. We can grieve different things and each one matters. Each one affects our inner worlds.

I know some will not even get to the place where they are able to name what they are feeling as grief. Some will try to shove it down deep out of guilt for having it. Others will try to rationalize it away because they are blessed with so much, how could they possibly feel grief? Some will run to addiction in their denial. No thoughts or actions will stop grief from coming through the door. They will wreak havoc on our nervous systems. They will create internal war, pain, resentment, and shame. 

In hindsight, I was unknowingly resisting my own grief.  When it came in, the grief felt like a rogue wave knocking me down and catching me in it’s pull. I struggled to find my footing and kept fighting to breathe. Only because I’ve experienced, studied, and processed grief did I recognize it by name when it flooded in. I had moved through the denial and felt the loss fully with no control over the tears that came streaming down my face. I’m still not done, but I’m healing because I’m allowing myself to feel.

I’ve struggled for my footing after being knocked down by grief, but I know I will come out stronger than I was before. I went to people I knew would understand and where I didn’t feel alone. I’m taking the time and space to sit with my grief, while not denying the affect it has on me. I ask Spirit for assistance in moving through what I’m feeling in the healthiest way possible. I heard the call to write, and I’m listening. I got the message to breathe and stretch—I’m doing just that. I’m not alone. Experiencing this has shown me how much I’ve grown, and how much I still have to learn. 

Thank you for your continued lessons in compassion for myself and others. I’m grateful for the reminder that grief is apart of this process and we will each experience it in different ways. I honor my grief and I honor the grief of my fellow humans.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Letters to Corona: Part 1

Dear Corona,

When I started hearing how you were making it hard to breathe to the point where some are losing their lives, I wanted to blame you. When I heard how easy you were to spread, I wanted to blame you. When I heard that people were having to die alone and their families would never get to see their loved ones again, I wanted to blame you. 

Looking at you has opened my eyes to something so much bigger, and for that I thank you. You being here has helped me to see the ways many of us haven’t been putting humanity first. If we did, you wouldn’t have spread the way you have.  

I know I can’t go back, but what I can do is commit to be better from here. I can be more conscious of how I treat myself and others. I can look for ways my skills can help to make today a better day. I can do my part to stop allowing you to spread. 

I know that your presence has changed the world. I also know it’s up to humanity to make that change for better or for worse. I want to do my part so that all the people who have and will lose their lives will live on through the positive changes we choose to make starting now. 

My job is not to blame anyone for being where we are right now, but to hold myself responsible and accountable for my choices. I can only do this by taking this time you’ve given me to go within and pay attention to where I’m putting my energy. What changes do I want to see in myself and the world around me, AND what can I do about it? I will do better one choice at a time. 

I know that I want to see humanity rise up, so I will commit to RISE. I will be the best version of myself by putting my energy into what I can change, and that is me.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Book Launch Day: Letters from A BETTER ME

BEST FEELING EVER

Driving down the road to familiar words. They are my words coming through my speakers. The beautiful voice of Kate Mulligan fills my car as she articulates the messages of the book so clearly. You can feel the letters in her voice.

(Link to sample of audiobook here)

Barnes & Noble Naples, FL

Naples Barnes & Noble is like coming home to me. I’ve spent so many hours in these stacks of books. Tina Wainscott of the Seymour Agency, who is now my agent, and I used to come here when I was going through a very dark time in my life. I would look through books in the sections, where now my book sits. I would let the Universe guide my fingers as I would pull a book from the shelf. Now, I think about how just maybe, a woman struggling to find her worth will do the same thing and come across my book. She will look inside and realize, this is exactly what I’m looking for.

I have purchased so many of the books that got me where I am today from this store. There was no where else I wanted to be on launch day! Tina shows up with beautiful flowers with a Letters from A Better Me sign tucked in, perfect, just perfect! The President of the Seymour Agency pleasantly surprises us for this special moment.

My partner and my kids are by my side. They finally get to see the culmination of everything I’ve been working on. If you have or have ever had teenagers, you probably get the power of a moment like this. For the past two years, they have been listening to me talk about writing, but not seeing the bigger picture of what that means. In this moment, they got to see their mom’s name and book looking back at them.

I got there at 11:30AM, by the time I came down to sign stock copies, there were only two left. Ten more were ordered for the store before I left. On Wednesday, I heard that people were already beginning to reserve the upcoming order. I feel so incredibly blessed to not only have the support of this amazing community, but of Barnes & Noble for making sure people in Naples had a place to go to get their copy!

Celebrating on the Patio of CaNtina 109

Finishing the night with an AMAZING cake from my AMAZING agent and Soul Sister!

A Truly AMAZING DAY

Standing in a labyrinth feeling the desert breeze in Sedona, Arizona, I ask myself “Can I write a women’s empowerment book?”

YES!

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Thank you to the amazing team at Mango Publishing and Blackstone Publishing for bringing this book, ebook, and audiobook to life!

With So Much Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

A Letter to Self: Staying Open to Learn

Dear Self,

Please, keep your eyes open to what is beyond physical sight. Help me to be aware of how my thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors are guiding me. If I’m focused on fear, please make me aware of seeing my situation through eyes of love. Let me see there is a choice in how I perceive each experience in my life.

When I focus on love, let me revel in the feelings that bring me great joy. Help me find ways to see love in action all around me. Help me to focus on being present so I don’t miss a moment. I want to be available to see all the doors opening in front of me and to know which ones I need to close. 

Please don’t run from yourself. When things come up, face them! I know how important it is to feel the way through the pain so it doesn’t become suppressed shame. When that happens, I end up taking it out on others and it is not their stuff. My awareness will set me free. If I’m aware of where the pain first started, I can heal it. I don’t have to punish myself for things that happened when I was a child or even a young adult. I can see them as growth experiences and just stay focused on being aware of not repeating harmful patterns. 

Lastly, let me be aware of when I am trying to self-medicate through toxic sources. This means, I’m picking friends who are stirring up drama, or I choose to stir up drama; I find abusive relationships whether verbal or physical as a way to abuse myself; I drink to get numb and drunk; I take substances to avoid facing my own darkness; I do anything in excess such as eat, watch TV, play games, and get caught up in social media. If I have a negative vice, please make me aware of a positive one to steer me in the direction of love, peace, and gratitude in my life.

With Loving Thoughts,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2017,2020

17 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me!

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Centering Brings Clarity

I used to believe I had to go to specific places to feel centered. Each one was in nature. Each one provided me with an open space for peace and quiet. I remember getting frustrated and giving myself the excuse that I didn’t have time or resources to go to one of my places, so centering was out of the question.

I went a long time believing this thought. Today,I realize I have the ability to center myself where and when I’m ready to do it. I learned that the spaces I went to gave me the imagery to find that peace within. Now, I can just look at a picture of a place, take a few deep breaths, and feel a sense of clarity.

This is just one of the many tools I use to gain clarity on a situation, and being able to go there, no matter where I physically am has become such an empowering tool, which is why I wanted to share it with you.

Find a space you feel centered. Then create that space in your mind. When we can get centered, before we react, we may just find the clarity we need to create positive solutions even under trying circumstances.

Peace and love is what we find when we are clear and centered. If we aren’t centered, fear can easily take over.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

25 More Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

A Letter of Empowerment to Single Moms

Dear Single Moms,

I was raised by you, and I am you. I see you completely in your struggles and your joys. I know how easy it is to get lost in the title. There have been times when I feel like I have to struggle just because I’m a single mom. I’ve felt alone when I’m around all these families who are showing up for their kids. I’ve felt burdened by having to be both mom and dad in order to protect and nurture my kids’ mental/emotional growth. I’ve limited myself by saying things are hard because I’m a single mom. 

The truth is that it is my choice how I view my life as a mom. I can choose to see the many blessings that come with knowing the way I’ve chosen to parent. I can be grateful for the kindness we have received from the people who want to see my children thrive. I can choose to feel like I matter. My contribution to my kids’ lives matters. 

There are times when I feel like I’m operating in total survival mode, but I survive. There is always a lesson to be learned, and I continue to be better. I’m far from perfect. I can choose to do and be the best I can be. Each of us can make that choice at any moment we choose. We don’t have to listen to people who tell us how hard our lives are, we can change the language. When someone tells me how hard it is to be a single mom, I feel my energy sink. I believe them as I share one story after another letting them know just how hard things really are for me. The question is, do I want to focus on how hard things are and what a struggle it is to be a single mom? The answer for me is no! 

I want my kids to know how loved they are. I want to give them every opportunity I can to experience the best life possible. I’m a single EMPOWERED MOM,I want to put positive energy into my role. I don’t want them feeling like I was bitter or resented them for my position. I’ve been blessed in so many ways. I’ve learned so many great lessons, and I’ve received so much kindness and so have they. We are blessed, not cursed.

I’m choosing to parent a different way. My life is better for the choices I’ve made. The happier I am, the better my kids have it. I’m showing them the example of honoring and respecting yourself. They don’t have to be abused physically, mentally, or emotionally. They don’t have to be around excessive drinking or drugs. They don’t need someone just to be there, they deserve better than that. So did I, which is why I chose this road. We enjoy our lives. Do we have many lessons to learn? Yes, but we all do. I believe we get opportunities to learn what we need to become the best versions of ourselves. That is the legacy I want to pass on to my children. I know God will never give me more than I can handle, and I feel the same way about the lessons God gives them.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me & A Better Mom

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

28 More Days Until the Release of Letter from A Better Me

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Get Rid of that Committee Spreading Lies

You are AWESOME!

We become what we tell ourselves we are, and then we shape how we view our reality around our perception of ourselves. We have to stop letting that negative committee up there tell us how to see our reality. Our perception is everything!

We can’t just say and spread positive messages to the outside world and expect things to be good. What is happening inside our minds is what matters. We train our brains to see what we are focusing on. Make sure you are fixing the messages you have programmed in there if you want to see real positive change in your life.

Are You Wondering How?

The fastest method I used to retrain my brain to focus on what I wanted was through gratitude and writing three things I liked/loved about myself daily. Doing the combination of these two things (consistently) for a period of at least 35 days or more can reshape your reality. If you haven’t stopped hearing the committee, it means you’r not ready to stop.

If that committee is really strong, you will have to be smart and use your creativity to shine light on them. This may mean digging in deep. Be open to hear where you are being led. If you really want to change, you will get signs showing you the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

29 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

A LETTER FROM A BETTER ME: A COMMITMENT TO SELF-CARE

Dear Self,

Today, I will make a commitment to take 30 minutes or more a day for me. In that time, I will not have my phone on and will do everything in my power not to be distracted by the outside world. I will use this time to show myself love, respect, care, and loyalty. I will do this because it is exactly what I deserve. I will not be too busy and ignore my own personal needs. I know that by being there for myself I will be able to show up more for all the people in my life. I will have a clearer vision of who should and shouldn’t stay in my life. 

I’m taking care of myself because I have a responsibility to myself in order to live the best life possible and fulfill my purpose with love and integrity. I’ve seen what happens when I don’t take care of myself and how it affects all the people in my life. By committing to myself, I’m committing to the betterment of all. 

I promise to be aware and pay attention to the signs when I’m not taking care of myself. I will not be hard on myself or abuse myself in any way. I will find my way to take one step in the right direction to put the focus back on me and commit to my journey one hour at a time. I know I need to slow down and be present, so I will commit to taking three deep breaths as a part of being there for myself. This gives me enough time to slow down and re-evaluate the situation. 

I’m worth the care I give to everyone else. I’m worth the love I give to everyone else. I’m worth the respect I give to everyone else. I’m worth the compassion I give to everyone else. From this day forward, I will give myself these things by taking good care of me. 

I know the more time I give myself, the more space will open up for positive things to come into my life. I will no longer be wasting my energy on being the victim of what everyone else wants. I will be the champion for me. I will give to others in a way that fills me up and doesn’t deplete me. This is the reward for taking care of myself. 

It is not my business how other people take this change. I must trust that others will have their own journeys through it. Some may realize how much they can do for themselves by not depending on me. Others may get angry and walk away. Then, there will be those who will be happy to see me make better choices for myself. No matter what the case, I need to do this for me. If I do it for anyone else, I will fail. This is my journey. I trust that whatever the result is with the people around me, it will be what is best for me. 

I will be gentle with myself. I will make mistakes as I figure out what works and what doesn’t. I won’t use that something isn’t working as an excuse to give up. I will simply make a new commitment and move on. I understand that just because something works for someone else doesn’t mean it will be the right fit for me. It is my job to customize my own self-care program. The goal is to feel better about who I am, where I am, and how I am. I know this can only happen by taking care of myself, because no one else can know me if I don’t know me. I want to project to the world the magnificent person I am. Today I commit to me.

With lots of love and gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2017,2020

ONLY 30 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Love Yourself enough to Light Up the World

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Our light inside has the ability to shine brighter than any of the darkness around us. Our light comes from the love inside us. The stronger the love, the stronger the light. The love we have for ourselves is the amount to light we can give to the world. If we want to support the healing of our friends, family, community, and world, we have to heal ourselves in order to brighten our own light first. Fear acts as a dimmer switch on our light. The more fear we have inside, the more darkness takes over our lives.

Rachael Wolff, Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World, (Mango Publishing: Miami, FL,2020), pages 150-151.

If we want to change the world, we first have to light it up.

We each have to learn how to turn our own lights brighter and limit the power of the shadows on our lives. We will only ever know the reality that we create from inside us, so make sure you are creating a good one.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

We are officially one month away from the release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!

A Better Me Does NOT Mean a Perfect Me

I’m committed to living life as a better me. I know that a better me doesn’t mean a perfect me. I will make mistakes. I will make poor choices. I will have unhealthy reactions. But here’s the thing—I will learn from ALL of them. As long as I’m learning, I stay committed to living life as a better me.

I know I’m not alone. We are going to have days where we don’t make the best decisions. We are going to have days when we feel too lazy to do what is best for our health. We are even going to have days when we take our stuff out on others. Living life as a better me isn’t asking or pretending like perfection is an option.

Living life as a better me might mean we do one thing different today that creates a healthier pattern. We may just be reminded to stop and be grateful, or to slow down and be present. Each step we make is a choice. We choose which direction we are going. Living life as a better me is a commitment to be conscious of the choices we make, then do our best to live this life in the best way possible. When we do that, we not only live better, we serve others better. We simply put the oxygen masks on ourselves first, so that we could see with clarity how to best serve others.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

33 Days Until LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!