Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #30

“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”

Deepak Chopra

When I’m emotionally triggered, I have to be VERY careful around this truth. I have to remind myself that what I project out comes back. I’m only responsible and accountable for the the energy I’m putting out there. If I realize I’ve been blaming, I take the time to stop and look inward, but I don’t self-blame. I just notice where my energy is off in the situation and do what I can to fix the problem. It might mean I have to go back to people I was blaming and criticizing with and say I realize that I was triggered, but here is the truth of it… I remind myself that if I’m in a healthy space in my mind, I don’t get defensive. I look for healthy solutions instead of using gossip, criticism, and blame to make someone else feel smaller. I don’t have to make someone else at fault to be proactive and make healthier choices for myself, my family, and/or my community. I can’t help others move into a healthier energy if I’m not there myself.

I’ve found having safe people to process my feelings with is ESSENTIAL for my well-being. These are people who let me work through what I’m feeling and transition into healthy reflection. When I do this, I don’t hold the resentment inside my body and allow it to spew out on others. In one conversation, I can go from enraged to seeing opportunities for growth. I LOVE THAT!

I hope you’ve enjoyed these last 30 days of quotes. I know it has been a wonderful experience for me. I’ve even found some great ones to add to my next book, which I’m almost done writing. Three more chapters to go! I will keep you posted and share some sneak peaks along the way. I will tell you this much, I’ve LOVE writing this book.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy holiday season. If you are looking for support from a loving place, I hope you will take the time to explore my blog, which I’ve been writing just shy of six years now. If you are a woman looking for support, I have a whole book written just for you and it’s available in audiobook, CD, Ebook, and/or paperback at most major online book retailers. Letters from a Better Me is filled with exercises and wisdom that came from my 30+ years of self exploration that have helped me along the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #15

“The most attractive thing about the Buddha was that he saved one person: himself. That’s all he needed to save; when he saved himself, he saved the whole world.”

Byron Katie, Hope Beneath Our Feet

Yesterday’s quote was the first of the three quotes I used in my book, Letters from a Better Me. This is the second one. I read this one while I was in college too. It hit me right at the core. Being accountable and responsible for the energy I project out to the world is the key to me living and contributing to the best of my ability. I’m not responsible for other people’s thoughts, beliefs, actions, or reactions, but I’m 100% responsible and accountable for anything that comes from me. When I clean-up my inner world, my outer world changes.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

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In Case You Missed It: Here’s What’s been Going on

In case you missed what’s been going on, here’s what I’ve been doing…

Guest Facilitator on the Heart Wisdom Panel—Handling Grief During the Holidays (Nov. 11, 2021)

Guest Facilitator on the Heart Wisdom Panel—Feel Good About Your Life (Nov. 3, 2021)

Guest Facilitator on the Heart Wisdom Panel—Fabulous Females (Sept. 1, 2021)

365-Day Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace

On FromALovingPlace.com, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn I’ve spent the last 365 days focusing my energy on daily aligning with love, abundance, and peace. It has been an amazing journey, and the shifts in my life have been incredibly rewarding along the way. If you would like to see where the journey takes you, you can search “Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace” on home page—Click here for category search. You can also find them all on Twitter, Facebook.com/LettersfromabetterMe, or LinkedIn.

Facebook.com/FromALovingPlace

This is my on-going project of contributing to Love on social media. The Facebook page now has over 9.6K followers and growing daily. I love being a part of spreading love on social media.

YouTube Channel

I have some videos available here (click to go to channel) and will keep posting when I feel inspired. You can also search “Letters from a Better Me” on YouTube. Here is one of the videos I created:

Beyond Talking Points Interview (July 12, 2021)

Polly Campbell, Simply Said Podcast Interview Episode 113 (May 18, 2021)

Nita Sweeney Author Interview (April 2021)

https://nitasweeney.com/2021/04/author-interview-rachael-wolff/

Heart Wisdom for Challenging Times (March 2021)

Postcards from the Universe with Melisa Caprio (Dec 2020)

Here are a couple of listening options:

See More here: https://fromalovingplace.com/2020/05/11/the-ongoing-journey-of-letters-from-a-better-me/

If you want to make sure to stay in the loop…Follow Along:

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #152

I’m grateful that my book came out in 2020. Honestly, if you asked me a few months after my book was released in February, I probably wouldn’t have said this. I was able to do one signing before everything shut down and all future events were cancelled. I had all these plans of how 2020 was going to look, and it turned out quite differently. I was introduced to so many people from across the world that I wouldn’t have met if my plan for 2020 had worked out. I’ve gotten to do panels and interviews that didn’t even exist before the pandemic. Then there is the actual book. Unknowingly there is a ton of tools in the book that can help women through all the different circumstances we’ve faced in 2020.

Since the book is about seeing ourselves clearly, it’s a book that can help people pivot with the times we are faced with and represent what we stand for, instead of putting our energy into what we are against, making it stronger. What I realized was that the book came out in perfect timing for the people who were meant to read it. I find peace in that.

Today, I commit to keep doing the work to live life as a better me. I’ve had to use many of the tools that I use in my book throughout 2020. I know that whatever energy I feed, I make stronger. I want to make sure I’m strengthening the amount of love, abundance, and peace I can project daily! A better me has nothing to do with anything outside of me. A better me is the energy that lives inside of me. It’s the energy that I bring into every new day.

Living life as a better me gives me plenty of space to learn and grow. I don’t have to beat myself up over any of lessons I have the opportunity to learn from. I just show up, be accountable for my choices, and be responsible for making any wrongs right.

The more aligned I am with love, abundance, and peace, the more tuned in I am to my intuition. I go with what feels right, and I thank God for blocking what doesn’t. My life runs so much smoother when I stop fighting what is and taking responsibility for what I do have control over, which is how much I work I put into keeping my energy aligned with what keeps me living my best life.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters from a Better Me

I Can’t Change You, You Can’t Change Me

My beliefs have never been changed by force. Each perspective of truth (belief) I’ve changed in my life has been based on if that belief serves the person I want to be and how I want to serve others. When I was younger, I didn’t consciously see my choice in how I viewed myself and the world around me.

Certain beliefs made me feel tense, angry, and rage-filled. When I would think about the thought/belief, my whole energy shifted and I often would feel sick and depleted. It took me a VERY long time and a whole lot of seeds from other people that got me to see I was making choices in my perspectives that were holding me back and keeping me prisoner.

There were some so deeply imbedded that it took voices from the Holocaust like, Viktor Frankl & Elie Weisel. Along with people like, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, Byron Katie, and stories about Jesus and Siddhartha to help me see that I didn’t HAVE to continue to feel this inner world of pain. Those people were just the tip of the iceberg. I’ve talked to millions of people throughout my life. I read thousands of books. Nobody changed me, but I got the seeds and made choices on what to plant in my internal garden.

When I was young, I thought the world was against me. That belief didn’t feel good to me, because I can’t control how anyone else views me. 

What I do have power over is how I view and treat myself and how I treat others.

If I’m believing something that makes me feel like a prisoner of my perspective, I work on changing that. I found that EVERY time I engage in a perspective based out of fear, I feel like I’m a prisoner. Here is an example of another change I made:

I used to feel like a prisoner when other people would judge me based on a category/title they gave me or that I am naturally.

I changed my perspective to the understanding that people are going to judge me from their own perspectives of truth. That has nothing to do with who I AM. I know if someone speaks to me in a category of ALL: all women, all trauma victims, all white women, etc. that person won’t come close to seeing me, a person is only ever looking at me through their own perspectives of truth. If they want to lump me in an ALL category— That is their loss.

I love and respect myself. I take responsibility and accountability for my thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions.

IN THAT ENERGY, I FEEL FREE. In that freedom, I attract amazing people to my life from different genders, races, cultures, religious followings, political backgrounds, economic statuses, and so much more.The more open I stay, the more I change and grow. Not by force, by choice and action.

Though, no one else changed me, I didn’t change on my own. I got the opportunities to SEE through different perspectives. I got the tools to change. I could only do that by being open to listen to ALL different perspectives to see what fit and what didn’t based on the place I wanted to live from, which is FROM A LOVING PLACE. I’ve disagreed with many of people along the way who tried telling me how I “had to” or “should” think. I know that is part of their journey. I don’t have to make it mine.

I know from my education in science, religion, psychology, spirituality, and personal growth, I can’t project out what I don’t already have inside. If I wanted to live from a loving place, I had to love myself FIRST. I had to experience love from the source of self to even know what I was projecting out to the world. I had to find the voices of leadership through love and not fear.

I can’t make anyone else change, but I will do my best to project the energy that I want to see more of in the world. I will do my best to give the people who want to listen the same opportunities I got. I will listen to the voices of the unheard, and learn and grow from them.

I will keep choosing to do my best to contribute to LOVE in my thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions towards myself and others. You do you! I will be here to representing my perspectives of truth FROM A LOVING PLACE.

With Love, Gratitude, and Compassion, 

Rachael Wolff
Author of Letters from A Better Me
FromALovingPlace.com/book

The Ongoing Journey of Letters from A Better Me

https://FromAlovingPlace.com/Book

Ebook and Audiobook Samples

The Latest

This section will be updated with the latest articles, interviews, events, and videos about Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World.

3/2021 Heart Wisdom Panel

2/2/21 Sherry Richard Belul- Escaping Groundhog Day!

12/20/20 Heart Wisdom Panel I facilitated the amazing conversation

10/23/2020 Are Your Perspective Keeping You Prisoner or Setting You Free?

10/12/2020 Marlena Fiol—featured author

https://marlenafiol.com/cof-blog-rachaelwolff/

7/30/20 Seek the Joy Podcast—Joy Corner featured author

https://www.seekthejoypodcast.com/joy-corner/rachaelwolff

7/1/20 Heart Wisdom Panel #2

6/18/20 Contribution to an Article about Apology Writing

UpJourney—How to Write an Apology Letter to a Friend

6/4/2020 Contribution to Article about Controlling Men in UpjourneY

UpJourney- Signs of a Controlling Man and How to Deal with Him

5/29/2020 Conversation about Interpretation, Perspective and Purpose with Author Madeline Dyer

5/21/20 diving into Self-Abuse

5/16/20 Audio CD Release

5/16/20 Choices and Perspectives Facebook Live and Youtube

5/11/20 Ravishly.com

As a reader of this wonderful on-line magazine, I dreamed about having a piece featured here. I feel the adrenaline pumping through me as another dream has come true! Learn more about the Letters from A Better Me Journey in this question and answer piece with Erin Khar.

https://ravishly.com/letters-better-me-qa-author-rachael-wolff

5/7/20 Facebook Live Consciously Defining Love and Not Accepting Less

4/29/20 Author Panel: Heart Wisdom in the Coronavirus Crisis

4/29/20 Twitter Interview with Laura Zam #BookPartyChat

https://fromalovingplace.com/2020/05/04/bookpartychat-twitter-interview-about-letters-from-a-better-me/

4/23/20 A Reading from Letters: Accepting Who and Where We Are

4/3/20 Mango Publishing Facebook Live

3/26/2020 Reading recorded from Phoenix & Dragon BookStore on 3/15/20: Finding Our Center

Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore in Atlanta, GA was the first stop on what was supposed to be the Letters from A Better Me Book Tour, but the coronavirus took me on a much different journey from home.

2/18/20 Book Launch Day

Letters from A Better Me was released to the world on February 18, 2020. This piece talks about that AMAZING day.

https://fromalovingplace.com/2020/02/20/book-launch-day-letters-from-a-better-me/

I hope you keep following and enjoying this journey with me! Please feel free to contact me for more information about Letters from A Better Me (you have to send me a comment or question if you want me to respond. If you want to follow the blog, please find the follow button on your device):

#BookPartyChat Twitter Interview about LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Last Wednesday, I was honored to be a part of a #Bookpartychat. This was my first-ever Twitter interview about Letter from A Better Me and the writing process with the incredible author Laura Zam, The Pleasure Plan.

Below, you will find the interview in its entirety. Each post is embedded from Twitter. You will be able to go into your Twitter account, like, comment, and retweet anything that moves you or you want to talk a little more about. I hope you enjoy this #Bookpartychat.

A Little Bit about Me

About Letters from A Better Me

“Why do you use letters?”

“Are these your personal letters?”

“What do the three parts of the book represent?”

“Was it difficult to write Part I?”

“Did the book help you deal with our current moment?”

“Can you tell us about your writing process?”

“Did you go right to a publisher, or did you use an agent?”

“Can you tell us about your publisher?

“How long did the process take?”

“What do you believe your book has to offer in the midst of the pandemic we are in?”

“If readers could only take one concept from the book, what would it be?”

“What are you working on now?”

“What’s the best way for people to find you?”

You are here, so you have most the links to find me, the only one you may not have is my YouTube Channel: Letters from A Better Me

Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World is available in ALL formats. The booksellers listed in the links below are for the United States, but it is available in multiple countries. Please go to your trusted book sellers to find your copy!

https://fromalovingplace.com/book/

You can find samples of both the ebook and audiobook here:

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

Letters From A Better Me: Facebook Live on April 3rd at 5PM EDT

JOIN ME LIVE

Hello From A Loving Place Readers,

I hope you will join me on Facebook Live today, April 3rd at 5PM/EDT. If you are seeing this post too late, you may have missed your chance to ask questions but you will still be able to see the video at https://facebook.com/MangoPublishing.

I know we are living in some interesting times right now. Like many, I’ve had times where I’ve struggled to stay centered in grounded when I get caught up in watching the spread of coronavirus along with people who aren’t taking personal responsibility for their choices.

I know I have the tools to put my mind in a healthier place, I even wrote about many of them in my book Letters from A Better Me. What I wasn’t doing is using them. Now, I’ve re-committed myself to using those tools, and I’m feeling such a HUGE difference. This time we’ve been given to slow down seems like the perfect time for self-reflection and moving my thoughts to a place of A BETTER ME.

Join me on this Facebook Live interview where I will be sharing what I’m doing and answering questions about the book and how to stay grounded, centered, and present while we move together for the health of our world.

LIVE LINK, REMINDER, and COUNTDOWN

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

Letters from A Better Me and YouTube: Answering the Calls

A Call to Move

I’m a person who trusts my intuitions, instincts, and signs. I’ve felt calls to do things for as far back as I can remember. Each time I feel clear about the call, I feel safe in where they bring me. I’ve called people in the exact right timing. I show up at a place where I meet someone I either learn from or have something to teach. I miss a major accident. I’ve learned to trust the calls I get about when and when not to show up, along with what and what not to do. Sometimes, I have lessons to learn, so I don’t expect that just because I answer the call it’s going to be sweet and rosy. No matter where I’m led, there are blessings. Sometimes I have to dig a little deeper to find them, other times I can see the beauty in the instant I start taking action.

As the coronavirus moved into the United States is exactly when my book tour for Letters from A Better ME was getting started. I was able to do one event before the rest of the tour was shut down. The one event was in Atlanta, Georgia at a new-age store called, Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore. This setting was perfect. I felt like I was surrounded by people (and cats) who were conscious of each other’s spaces. The room I was in had plenty of space for people to spread out safely, and the numbers were very small. I knew that the people who were there were the ones who were meant to be there. I felt called to go there and I’m so happy I followed the call. Being there was just what I needed to go into the next call I received, which was to completely stay at home.

A Call to Stay Home

I knew that after the event, I had no further need for being out and about. I spent the rest of my time in Marietta, GA listening to the birds and trying to spot deer. When I got home, I felt content in my space. I’ve left the house to be in nature, walk, and get necessities. I read something on Facebook, which sat with me.

Do not change your behavior to avoid being infected. Assume you are infected and change your behavior to avoid transmitting.

-Anonymous

Being a very healthy individual, I’ve been driven more by the possibility of me carrying coronavirus and not knowing it. I’ve also considered all the people who HAVE to be working with the public right now and trying to make life easier for them. The best I can do to reduce my potential of being a carrier is to stay centered and grounded at home, so that is what I’m doing for my family, community, and myself. The more conscious and calm I am, the healthier I stay. This enables me to hear the Universe’s call to serve when it’s my turn.

A Call to Remain Conscious and Calm

If there is any call in my head that is stronger than anything else right now, it’s the call I feel to be conscious and calm. I’ve had to use many of the tools I’ve learned through the years to keep bringing me back to this place, because I do slip. I keep reminding myself to do the best that I can. I’m not going to navigate this perfectly. I do feel like it’s my job to remember that wherever I go in my head is my choice. Chapter 8 of Letters from A Better Me is focused on practices to keep us grounded and centered in the present moment. Beyond the tools in the book and the ones available in the 90-Day A Better Me Series (Free), I go back to these statements that I’ve shared before from my Becoming the Butterfly Workshop:

A Call to Serve

If you follow my work, you know I offer A LOT of tools to navigate the dark places in our lives and in our heads. With the cancelled book tour, I’ve been remaining open to figure out ways I can serve. One of the signs that became very apparent after multiple nudges from the Universe was to make videos of some of the reading I did at Phoenix & Dragon and to share different tools and practices that can really help people who are not used to slowing down like we’ve been asked to do.

The funny thing is that I’ve been putting off creating a YouTube channel for years, which is when the nudges began. I just didn’t FEEL called to make anything. The timing just never felt right, because it wasn’t. With a cancelled book tour and time on my hands—Now is the time. I watched a YouTube video on how to use my iMovie app and got to work. I’m serving double-duty of getting my book out there and offering readings and tools from the book that I know could help people during this challenging time. I will keep posting what I feel called to share. It’s important to me to honor the calls.

A Call to Use YouTube as a Tool

During this time, I’ve noticed I’ve been using YouTube more than I ever have before. I find it’s giving me bite-sized pieces of what I need in the moment. I’ve found my facts, inspiration, comic relief, meditations, and how-to projects all with taps of my fingers. I’m choosing what I watch wisely! When I’m not conscious of what information I’m filling myself with, I start feeling stressed and my sleep patterns pay. I have to reel myself back in. When I do that, I sleep better. We can get the information we NEED without being inundated and getting drug down into the darkness. It’s more important than ever to BE WHERE OUR FEET ARE! Practice mindfulness and staying present wherever you can.

Making Myself Available

I’ve been doing my best to make myself available to anyone who needs some extra support right now through all my social media channels. I hope you will find the support and encouragement you need on my pages. If you need more, please feel free to contact me (here). I will do what I can, because I know if you are called to reach out, there is some form of emotional support that I can offer.

I hope if you read this, my words bring you comfort.

With Love, Compassion, and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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