Book Launch Day: Letters from A BETTER ME

BEST FEELING EVER

Driving down the road to familiar words. They are my words coming through my speakers. The beautiful voice of Kate Mulligan fills my car as she articulates the messages of the book so clearly. You can feel the letters in her voice.

(Link to sample of audiobook here)

Barnes & Noble Naples, FL

Naples Barnes & Noble is like coming home to me. I’ve spent so many hours in these stacks of books. Tina Wainscott of the Seymour Agency, who is now my agent, and I used to come here when I was going through a very dark time in my life. I would look through books in the sections, where now my book sits. I would let the Universe guide my fingers as I would pull a book from the shelf. Now, I think about how just maybe, a woman struggling to find her worth will do the same thing and come across my book. She will look inside and realize, this is exactly what I’m looking for.

I have purchased so many of the books that got me where I am today from this store. There was no where else I wanted to be on launch day! Tina shows up with beautiful flowers with a Letters from A Better Me sign tucked in, perfect, just perfect! The President of the Seymour Agency pleasantly surprises us for this special moment.

My partner and my kids are by my side. They finally get to see the culmination of everything I’ve been working on. If you have or have ever had teenagers, you probably get the power of a moment like this. For the past two years, they have been listening to me talk about writing, but not seeing the bigger picture of what that means. In this moment, they got to see their mom’s name and book looking back at them.

I got there at 11:30AM, by the time I came down to sign stock copies, there were only two left. Ten more were ordered for the store before I left. On Wednesday, I heard that people were already beginning to reserve the upcoming order. I feel so incredibly blessed to not only have the support of this amazing community, but of Barnes & Noble for making sure people in Naples had a place to go to get their copy!

Celebrating on the Patio of CaNtina 109

Finishing the night with an AMAZING cake from my AMAZING agent and Soul Sister!

A Truly AMAZING DAY

Standing in a labyrinth feeling the desert breeze in Sedona, Arizona, I ask myself “Can I write a women’s empowerment book?”

YES!

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With So Much Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

Releasing My Inner Victim with Love: A Letter from A Better Me

Dear Inner Victim, 

I’m done with you. You have served your purpose, and now it is time to leave. My attachment to you is holding me back from the life I want. At one point, I needed you. Now that time is over. I don’t need to keep going back and getting stuck in the story of my past. I need to forgive, not for anyone else, but for me. For my sanity, I need to release the pain of my past traumas and find a new and lighter place to dwell. Through prayers, meditations, education, and actions I will find a more peaceful place to transform into the person I know is buried under all the pain.

I’m sorry for all the ways I helped your pain grow bigger and fester as I got stuck in the story of victim. Though I have been a victim, I don’t have to choose to live in the role for life. I can choose to move past the title and grow from the experiences that helped me find a greater compassion for myself and others who have their own struggles at overcoming traumas. 

I now know that how I feel on the inside will manifest a reality for better or for worse. I’m done with taking the “for worse” path. I’m committed to fix the inside parts of me where I didn’t love and honor myself. I have to stop focusing on you, my inner victim and focus on the love inside me instead. When the love inside me shines brighter than any darkness, I am ready to live life as a better me. 

I got the lessons I needed from the pain, and now it’s time to transform into love. In my caterpillar skin, I found my strength, power, and perseverance. Now, I will let the old hurts become the brightest colors in my wings of love. These wings will carry me and help me to see an outer world as beautiful as the one that has been created on the inside. When the transformation is complete, I will be one with life on my inside and my outside. Connecting to nature and all it’s magnificence will remind me to be at peace.

Thank you for serving me. Now,  I send you off with love.

Thanks for the lessons.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2018

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Voting for Humanity

Dear Voters,

I respect your right to choose what matters to you. I respect your right to make decisions according to your beliefs. Beliefs are perspectives of truth, and I have them too. Mine may be different than yours. That doesn’t make you better or less than I am. We might have been raised VERY differently or experienced VERY different realities, so the things that matter to me may not matter to you and vice versa. This doesn’t mean that one of us is ALL right and the other is ALL wrong. 

We can use our differences to create a better world, but not by condemnation of the other. That is how we stay separated. Separation is how we end up supporting corruption on both sides. If we spread hate, we are supporting more hate, crime, oppression, fear, chaos, and misery.

None of us are perfect. No one makes all the right choices. When we are open to see that truth, we learn and grow from life’s lessons. How does anyone expect a large political party to serve us perfectly when each individual is imperfect? Each person’s perspectives of truth vary from person to person based on how each of us chooses to live in our own minds. Our perspectives are our power or our prison.

When we support what we are against having more of, we feed the chaos. When we support what we want to see, we are holding the vision and energy of positive change. If my vision is to see a UNITED country, my perspectives must be aligned with supporting unification. This doesn’t mean focusing on our differences, it means working within our differences and being open to see all sides, not just my own. This definitely doesn’t mean I will agree, but when I’m open to at least go a little deeper, I open the opportunity to find something that sparks a positive compromise. A balance that lifts us, and creates space to grow.

My hope is that our humanity wins. For that reason, I will choose to do my best to serve my country with love and respect for all. My choices will reflect what I want to see more of in the world.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me 

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2018 

#humanityWins

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Audible Release Day of Letters from A Better Me

Today is a very exciting day for me. I love audiobooks, and today mine comes out. It feels surreal. The narrator is the wonderful, Kate Mulligan. Her voice is the perfect fit for this book. You can hear a sample when you click on the link.

3 MORE DAYS UNTIL THE PAPERBACK AND EBOOK RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!

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Knowing Love

Dear Love, 

I spent a long time looking for you in other people; I never felt fulfilled. Heartache ate at my soul before I finally understood what people meant when they said, I could only love others as much as I love myself. I didn’t realize the opposite was true too—I could only receive as much love as I give myself.Anything beyond what I felt I deserved, I sabotaged. I spent so much time sabotaging my happiness because on the inside I was screaming horrible names and beliefs about myself. I believed it was okay to let people who said they love me call me names and belittle me like I meant nothing.  I didn’t understand how unlovable and unworthy of love I felt.

Love, the day I found you was the day I defined you. I never absorbed the definition of you before. Though I heard it many times, I took the words as a fairytale. When I finally saw the truth in the words; I healed the hole in my soul.

In “Corinthians” 13.4-13.7, I found you. 

(4) Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (6) it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. (7) It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

(Harper Collins Study Bible: Student Edition p.1950)

All the things I thought were love-LIES. I couldn’t remember having that kind of compassion and kindness towards myself. I remember thinking if a guy was jealous it was because he loved me. I thought it didn’t matter how I was treated. If a guy stayed, he must love me. I didn’t think for a second their negativity was fear and lack of trust.

I remember the day I finally embraced you with full conviction and started to have a love affair with myself. I committed my time to being, loving, and honoring the person I was and wanted to be. That’s when I began feeling authentic joy. I stopped putting my need for love on other people and realized I could give and receive love freely by loving myself first. When I feel complete with the love I have for myself, there is no consequence of losing myself in the process of loving others. 

I’m far from perfect at practicing your ways. I still need reminders not to let fear run my life and my relationships. I get lessons to practice being loving and being loved. I’m happy I finally know who you are. My life has improved in so many ways from knowing you.

Love, you are the source of all that is right in the world. With clarity, I look at life through your eyes. When I look at you for wisdom, I find compassion. When I look to you for strength, I find perseverance. Love, you are everything that gives life meaning.

I’m sorry I blamed you for all the hurt in my life. What did hurt me was fear, jealousy, hate, anger, rage, and not knowing you. I let other people’s lack of knowing you define your meaning. I accepted so much of their fear, hate, anger, and rage in the process. 

Thank you for showing me the way. I’m so grateful to know you. I’m grateful to live you.I’m grateful for the times I feel at ONE with you. I’m grateful to extend you to those around me. You are not fluff, you are truth.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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Healthy People Don't Intentionally Hurt Others

To Emotional, Mental, and/or Physical Abusers:

Your pain towards yourselves is very clear. If you were healthy and happy individuals you wouldn’t feel the need to tear someone else down. This is not just to men or women in romantic relationships. This is to the bosses, co-workers, friends, parents, sons, and/or daughters who are out there intentionally hurting others.

In my days of being in an abusive relationship, I became one of you. I called names and used manipulative cunning tools to get my way or to try to one up my abuser. I couldn’t stand the words coming out of my mouth. I couldn’t stand the thoughts going through my head.They were so against my innermost nature. The truth is I hated myself. That is the way I became you. My shame, guilt and lack of self-worth made me feel like there was no other way to escape from my abuser’s verbal attacks.

I believe that people can change, because I’ve been around to see too many people who have for better and/or for worse. One can’t be true without the other. However, I know a great deal of abusers who choose not to change. If you blame ANYONE else for any of your actions, you will not change for the better.

Taking our personal issues out on others doesn’t mean we are bad people, it means we are unhealthy people. There is an issue inside that has gone unhealed, and we are projecting an unhealed part of ourselves out to the world. Does this mean victims should try to fix the person abusing them, feel pity to the point of staying, or put themselves in unsafe situations? NO!!!

The people receiving the emotional, mental, and/or physical beatings aren’t MAKING you do ANYTHING! Your actions, reactions, and feelings are on YOU! You are accountable for every word and action you put out in the world. If you were a happy and healthy person, you would project that to the world. You can’t say you are healthy then tear someone else down in the same breath. If you want to change you have to take a deep hard look at yourself. You have to be honest about how your behavior is affecting your view.You have to look at the beliefs that make it okay for you to do what you do. Everything you say about someone else is a direct reflection of the person you really are. Your darkness comes through in your words. Healthy people don’t intentionally hurt others. 

I accepted abuse for way too long because I hated myself. My abuser couldn’t treat me worse than I treated myself. For every insult I was given I could match it with three. I couldn’t get out until I saw my own worth. I did the same digging. I questioned my beliefs and my behaviors. I had to truly believe that I deserved better than the treatment I was getting. When there was no question about my worth, I left.

My energy level no longer matches that of an abusers’ energy. I now love and respect myself enough to attract healthy people to my life. I know I am lovable and deserve to feel love. I am whole. Therefor, a boss, co-worker, partner, or family member who attempt to abuse me will be met with clear-stated boundaries. Most of all, I will not tear down who I am. I will continue to treat myself the way I deserve to be treated, with love.

I forgave the abusers in my life, but the most important person I forgave is myself. I treated myself horribly. I let how I felt about myself hurt other people I love. That apology was crucial, because without forgiving myself I might have let another one of you affect my inner well-being. I might have went down the shame cycle again doing things that weren’t in the best interests of myself, family, friends, and community. As long as I continue to love myself, I don’t have to take your words and actions personally, because they are just a reflection of your self-hatred. I will pray that you will one day love yourself, so that you no longer hurt the people around you. That is the only interaction I choose to have.  

My goal is to stay healthy and happy so that I will not find my way back to another person like you or become you again. If I see you out there abusing others, I will call you out. I won’t do this to shame you, but in hopes that one day you will see yourself in the eyes of your victims and decide to be better. I will stand up for the victim you are hurting.

Thank you for showing me how important it is to love myself and not believe other people’s opinions of me. Anything I want others to feel about me, I have to feel for myself first. Your actions forced me to move and make the changes I needed in order to have a life I’m proud to be living.

Please, if you find that you are having any thoughts of hurting others, get help. There is a healthier way to live that doesn’t involve anyone having to suffer, including you. We have to stop taking the way we feel inside out on others, and the ONLY way to do that is to get honest with ourselves so that we can heal.

With Forgiveness, Empowerment and Gratitude, 

A Better Me 

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

7 Days Until the Release of Letters from a Better Me!

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Appreciating the Teachers in the Classrooms

Dear Teachers,

I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for all that you do in and out of the classroom. I know being a teacher is not a job you leave behind when you leave school. You invest so much of your personal time and energy to make sure you are doing the best job that you can. You are hit with an unrealistic amount of demands from parents, administration, school boards, government, and committees all asking you to give more and more. 

All that would wear the average person down, but here you are in classes of 20 + kids and trying to give each of them a chance to succeed in an unknown world that changes faster than textbooks can be written. You make the impossible possible five days a week. 

Even accomplishing all the daily riggers, you still take the time to spot kids who need more of you than the subject you’re teaching covers. You still have the ability to spot those opportunities to mentor and potentially change the trajectory of a child’s life. Now, more than ever with the pressures put on these kids, this connection can save lives. You have the ability to catch things we can’t always see. I’m so grateful to the teachers who have helped me see where my kids needed more attention. Without you, I wouldn’t be able to do my part in my child’s success. 

You have so many jobs the second you decide to become a teacher. You answer to so many different people. I want you to know, I see you! I notice you! I appreciate you! Most parents have a few kids to balance and can’t get it all done. You have 20 + and sometimes you make it look so easy when we ask you to do just a little more for our child. I know how big that is! You are a hero. 

If there are days you feel like giving up, I hope you find this letter and it reminds you that it is people like you that are remembered. You are the voices that stick with us as we face all the hurdles in life. We may remember random lessons or moments as we face some of our greatest successes. You are important! You Matter! 

Learning is for you! It’s not for your parents, your teachers, or your friends. It is the one thing nobody can ever take away from you, and what you put into it, you get out of it.

-Lynn Gesdorf (1988) 7th Grade Language Arts teacher

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2018

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Committing to Live Life Fully: A Letter from A Better Me

Dear Life, 

I’ve officially decided, I’m going to live you to the fullest. I’m tired of being scared of what the future holds and drained from my past mistakes. I’m finally going to forgive myself for all the times I didn’t know better and start living. 

I know longer want to be envious over what adventures other people are taking or come up with excuses why I can’t do it. I’ve been putting so much negative energy out there that the good stuff stays just out of my reach. No more! 

Today, I will shift my energy towards gratitude and keep track of the things I’m grateful for. I will make a daily effort to be happy for others who are experiencing and living their best lives. I will look for encouraging uplifting stories instead of ones that focus on hate, gossip, and keeping others down. I will live!

I’m focusing my attention on the choices I’m making to guarantee they are aligned with the life I want. I’m done beating myself up. I’ve had it. I can’t take my own abuse anymore. I don’t deserve it. When I look in the mirror, I will see a person who is living their life the best they can. I would be happy to see anyone I love doing that, so I need to do that for me. 

Looking around at a home full of clutter, I realized I don’t need all this stuff. I want memories and adventures. How can I have money for these things and not for memories? I’m going to start small by looking at local things to do. I’m going to see what my own town offers such as trails, gardens, sights, historical locations, and entertainment. Then, I will let that energy build up into bigger adventures. I know the possibilities are limitless once I stop blocking the fun from my life. 

Please send me friends with adventurous spirits to help keep me on this amazing path.  

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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Letting Go of Past Relationships

Dear Past, 

I’m letting you go of my attachment to you. I’ve let you hold me back for far too long. I will take the lessons you taught me without the attachments to the fear, anger, and pain. I’ve ruined too many relationships treating people like they were the people before them and that’s not fair. Trust has been non-existent, and then I wonder why they leave. I have sabotaged so many relationships by not giving them a chance. 

I don’t want to live like that anymore. I want to be able to treat situations, people, and events as new adventures. I’ve confused trusting my gut with trusting my fear from repeating the past. I get signs of red flags, but instead of listening to them I’ve tried to manipulate them into swinging in a different direction. Really, what I was doing is try to fix past relationships. They didn’t work and neither will one that is full of red flags.

I’ve finally learned that it is better to be alone than in a relationship without trust. I don’t have to trust them as much as I need to trust me. I need to trust the reality of the situation, and I can’t do that if I’m attached to all my previous hurts. I know there will be times where I call on you, because I’m not perfect. I will slip in order to learn. My hope is that when I look back, I will acknowledge what I’m doing and not take it out on the people around me. If I do, I will be aware enough to apologize and own my overreaction to the current situation. 

I’m also letting go of my shame and guilt over my past mistakes. I’ve used my past as a weapon of mass destruction against myself. My abuse has reached to the point where I don’t even like looking in the mirror. I’m over not feeling worthy enough to look at myself. I’m tired of cutting myself down. I’m projecting how I feel about myself into every relationship I have and I’m sick of what is coming back to me. 

Today, I’m going to look at myself with fresh eyes. It is a new day. I I will focus on my best attributes and what I want to give to my relationships today.

Thank you for your lessons. I’m ready to use them wisely. I will create a reality I want to be in. 

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

10 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

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Sorry for the Times I Didn't Put Humanity First

Dear Humanity,

I owe you an apology. I got lost in what I was against, I lost sight of what I stood for. I’ve seen politics get uglier and uglier through the years and have felt enraged about some of the mud slinging. Yet, in my rage, I became one of them. One of the people I’ve said I didn’t want to be. I became a person who put agenda before people. I forgot to ask questions before damning other people’s beliefs. This is NOT who I am.

Even if I don’t believe in other people’s beliefs or agendas, I still must be held accountable for the energy I’m contributing. If I forget MY humanity because of politics, injustices, social causes, religious beliefs, etc. My energy is going towards the very thing I’m against. That will only make the hate stronger and that is NOT WHAT I WANT. I’m just as guilty as the person who used the same tactics to keep someone else down. THIS IS NOT WHO I AM

If I really want to make positive change in this world, I have to remember who I am and what I stand for. No life is more or less valuable than my own. The people I don’t understand have taught me some amazing lessons, but I only learn them if I apply the lesson in a positive way. I will not allow other people’s prejudices and entitlement ruin my beliefs about humanity. 

I’m going back to putting my energy toward the changes I WANT TO SEE in the world. I’m going to look for the best in humanity. My energy is going towards the people who are creating change to better and strengthen our communities, communications, relationships, human rights, environment, foods, resources, and positive treatment of children and animals. These are the people I want to give my energy to. These are the people I want to align myself with. I will no longer contribute my energy towards hate. 

I have many friends who don’t have the same beliefs as I do, if I don’t understand I can ask questions. I don’t have to consider them a horrible person because they believe differently. I love my life. I love the way I live my life. My beliefs create my life to be what it is. If someone’s beliefs cause them pain and stress, it’s their job to re-evaluate their perspective if and when they get sick and tired of it. My beliefs tell me to show up with compassion, empathy, and love—THIS IS WHO I AM. 

I hope you accept my apology for losing my way. Whether you heard my angry thoughts or not, I’m still holding myself accountable. I want to be better. I will do my best to put humanity first in all my daily exchanges. I will remind myself what I stand for in the face of hate, injustice, and oppression. I will contribute to the solutions instead of exasperating the problems that hold humanity back. This is my commitment to you. 

#ABetterMe #HumanityFirst #humanitywins

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

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