A Letter of Empowerment to Single Moms

Dear Single Moms,


I was raised by you, and I am you. I see you completely in your struggles and your joys. I know how easy it is to get lost in the title. There have been times when I feel like I have to struggle just because I’m a single mom. I’ve felt alone when I’m around all these families who are showing up for their kids. I’ve felt burdened by having to be both mom and dad in order to protect and nurture my kids’ mental/emotional growth. I’ve limited myself by saying things are hard because I’m a single mom. 

The truth is that it is my choice how I view my life as a mom. I can choose to see the many blessings that come with knowing the way I’ve chosen to parent. I can be grateful for the kindness we have received from the people who want to see my children thrive. I can choose to feel like I matter. My contribution to my kids’ lives matters. 

There are times when I feel like I’m operating in total survival mode, but I survive. There is always a lesson to be learned, and I continue to be better. I’m far from perfect. I can choose to do and be the best I can be. Each of us can make that choice at any moment we choose. We don’t have to listen to people who tell us how hard our lives are, we can change the language. When someone tells me how hard it is to be a single mom, I feel my energy sink. I believe them as I share one story after another letting them know just how hard things really are for me. The question is, do I want to focus on how hard things are and what a struggle it is to be a single mom? The answer for me is no! 

I want my kids to know how loved they are. I want to give them every opportunity I can to experience the best life possible. I’m a single EMPOWERED MOM,I want to put positive energy into my role. I don’t want them feeling like I was bitter or resented them for my position. I’ve been blessed in so many ways. I’ve learned so many great lessons, and I’ve received so much kindness and so have they. We are blessed, not cursed.


I’m choosing to parent a different way. My life is better for the choices I’ve made. The happier I am, the better my kids have it. I’m showing them the example of honoring and respecting yourself. They don’t have to be abused physically, mentally, or emotionally. They don’t have to be around excessive drinking or drugs. They don’t need someone just to be there, they deserve better than that. So did I, which is why I chose this road. We enjoy our life. Do we have many lessons to learn? Yes, but we all do. I believe we get opportunities to learn what we need to become the best versions of ourselves. That is the legacy I want to pass on to my children. I know God will never give me more than I can handle, and I feel the same way about the lessons God gives them.


With Love and Gratitude,


A Better Me & A Better Mom

Rachael Wolff ©2020, 2018

28 More Days Until the Release of Letter from A Better Me

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Get Rid of that Committee Spreading Lies

You are AWESOME!

We become what we tell ourselves we are, and then we shape how we view our reality around our perception of ourselves. We have to stop letting that negative committee up there tell us how to see our reality. Our perception is everything!

We can’t just say and spread positive messages to the outside world and expect things to be good. What is happening inside our minds is what matters. We train our brains to see what we are focusing on. Make sure you are fixing the messages you have programmed in there if you want to see real positive change in your life.

Are You Wondering How?

The fastest method I used to retrain my brain to focus on what I wanted was through gratitude and writing three things I liked/loved about myself daily. Doing the combination of these two things (consistently) for a period of at least 35 days or more can reshape your reality. If you haven’t stopped hearing the committee, it means you’r not ready to stop.

If that committee is really strong, you will have to be smart and use your creativity to shine light on them. This may mean digging in deep. Be open to hear where you are being led. If you really want to change, you will get signs showing you the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

29 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

A LETTER FROM A BETTER ME: A COMMITMENT TO SELF-CARE

Dear Self,

Today, I will make a commitment to take 30 minutes or more a day for me. In that time, I will not have my phone on and will do everything in my power not to be distracted by the outside world. I will use this time to show myself love, respect, care, and loyalty. I will do this because it is exactly what I deserve. I will not be too busy and ignore my own personal needs. I know that by being there for myself I will be able to show up more for all the people in my life. I will have a clearer vision of who should and shouldn’t stay in my life. 

I’m taking care of myself because I have a responsibility to myself in order to live the best life possible and fulfill my purpose with love and integrity. I’ve seen what happens when I don’t take care of myself and how it affects all the people in my life. By committing to myself, I’m committing to the betterment of all. 

I promise to be aware and pay attention to the signs when I’m not taking care of myself. I will not be hard on myself or abuse myself in any way. I will find my way to take one step in the right direction to put the focus back on me and commit to my journey one hour at a time. I know I need to slow down and be present, so I will commit to taking three deep breaths as a part of being there for myself. This gives me enough time to slow down and re-evaluate the situation. 

I’m worth the care I give to everyone else. I’m worth the love I give to everyone else. I’m worth the respect I give to everyone else. I’m worth the compassion I give to everyone else. From this day forward, I will give myself these things by taking good care of me. 

I know the more time I give myself, the more space will open up for positive things to come into my life. I will no longer be wasting my energy on being the victim of what everyone else wants. I will be the champion for me. I will give to others in a way that fills me up and doesn’t deplete me. This is the reward for taking care of myself. 

It is not my business how other people take this change. I must trust that others will have their own journeys through it. Some may realize how much they can do for themselves by not depending on me. Others may get angry and walk away. Then, there will be those who will be happy to see me make better choices for myself. No matter what the case, I need to do this for me. If I do it for anyone else, I will fail. This is my journey. I trust that whatever the result is with the people around me, it will be what is best for me. 

I will be gentle with myself. I will make mistakes as I figure out what works and what doesn’t. I won’t use that something isn’t working as an excuse to give up. I will simply make a new commitment and move on. I understand that just because something works for someone else doesn’t mean it will be the right fit for me. It is my job to customize my own self-care program. The goal is to feel better about who I am, where I am, and how I am. I know this can only happen by taking care of myself, because no one else can know me if I don’t know me. I want to project to the world the magnificent person I am. Today I commit to me.

With lots of love and gratitude, 

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2017,2020

ONLY 30 DAYS UNTIL THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Love Yourself enough to Light Up the World

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Our light inside has the ability to shine brighter than any of the darkness around us. Our light comes from the love inside us. The stronger the love, the stronger the light. The love we have for ourselves is the amount to light we can give to the world. If we want to support the healing of our friends, family, community, and world, we have to heal ourselves in order to brighten our own light first. Fear acts as a dimmer switch on our light. The more fear we have inside, the more darkness takes over our lives.

Rachael Wolff, Letters from A Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World, (Mango Publishing: Miami, FL,2020), pages 150-151.

If we want to change the world, we first have to light it up.

We each have to learn how to turn our own lights brighter and limit the power of the shadows on our lives. We will only ever know the reality that we create from inside us, so make sure you are creating a good one.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

We are officially one month away from the release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!

#PerspectiveChallenge: You Have to Work Hard to Succeed

PERSPECTIVE: YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO SUCCEED

This is a very common perspective—naturally. I’ve heard it all growing up and I continue to hear it. I’ve heard it as a compliment on countless occasion. I’ve heard community leaders, inspirers, entrepreneurs, teachers, and business leaders preach these words. Some people have a positive reaction to these words and the belief has been the foundation of their hustle to succeed. 

I’ve also seen the dark side of this belief when people work so hard that they forget to live. I’ve seen families get neglected due to the countless hours their family member is gone. I’ve seen people get diseases because of the amount of stress they put themselves under from working so hard.

I just want to introduce a small shift in this perspective that can make a BIG difference in where your energy goes. This is not new. I didn’t come up with this. It’s just not as popular as the “WORK HARD” motto. 

WORK SMART

Working smart means that we are conscious of our choices. We are conscious of our efforts. We are conscious of our sacrifices.  We make choices accordingly. Working smart can eliminate some of the undue stress and pressure from the situation. I can’t even begin to tell you the difference it’s made in my life. Working smart helps me to enjoy the journey and the process so much more than the thought of working hard ever did.  It doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate when people compliment me on my “hard work”. It just means I’m conscious that the work didn’t feel HARD to me, but I do understand what they are saying so I’m grateful for the compliment. Working smart can help us to use our time more efficiently. Working smart can empower us to make important choices in delegating. Along with making choices to add in time for self-care and personal development to make sure our energy is aligned with what we are trying to accomplish with our work.

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Get a blank piece of paper and create two columns. At the top of one column write “Work Hard” on the other write, “Work Smart”. Make lists under each one to see how your mind differentiates the two of them. Then check-in with your body to see how your body feels responding to your lists. You might just be AMAZED in what you find just by focusing on a slight change in words. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

32 Days Until the Release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!! 

A Better Me Does NOT Mean a Perfect Me

I’m committed to living life as a better me. I know that a better me doesn’t mean a perfect me. I will make mistakes. I will make poor choices. I will have unhealthy reactions. But here’s the thing—I will learn from ALL of them. As long as I’m learning, I stay committed to living life as a better me.

I know I’m not alone. We are going to have days where we don’t make the best decisions. We are going to have days when we feel too lazy to do what is best for our health. We are even going to have days when we take our stuff out on others. Living life as a better me isn’t asking or pretending like perfection is an option.

Living life as a better me might mean we do one thing different today that creates a healthier pattern. We may just be reminded to stop and be grateful, or to slow down and be present. Each step we make is a choice. We choose which direction we are going. Living life as a better me is a commitment to be conscious of the choices we make, then do our best to live this life in the best way possible. When we do that, we not only live better, we serve others better. We simply put the oxygen masks on ourselves first, so that we could see with clarity how to best serve others.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

33 Days Until LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

Bring your Dreams to the Light

Wake up your dreams by moving towards them. Bring them to the light. Take one step right now that will bring you closer. If we want to live in the light of our dreams, we have first create the light by our actions. Only then will we have enough light to see where we are going.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

34 Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

When Dreams Take Physical Form

I’m high, and I didn’t need a single drink or drug to get me here. Every nerve feels ignited. My head is tingling as if I’m in a different world. I’m so overwhelmed with joy that even my toes are tingling. In this moment I feel completely alive.

Tonight I got to see, touch, feel, and smell my book for the first time. I felt the smoothness of the cover and flipped my fingers through the pages in AWE of it all.

I did my first Facebook Live event to cover the momentous occasion of my dream coming to life in a physical form. I’m still flying.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

5 Weeks until the release of Letters from A Better Me

The Box: A Writer’s Dream

Did you know that when some authors publish a book they receive a box of their books before it is released? There are all kinds of videos online showing this magical reveal of the author seeing, smelling, touching, and listening to the sounds as the pages move through their fingers.  A writer’s dream comes to life before your eyes. Many authors have told me that there is nothing like that moment. All the time, work, love, devotion, and passion that were poured into every page are now a real physical entity. 

As I began my journey writing a book, I witnessed some of these videos. I could feel the joy through the screen. I pictured myself one day opening this mysterious box. At the time, I had no idea what the book cover would look like or even what the book would be about. The only thing I knew is that I wanted the title of the book to be, Letters from A Better Me

Now in front of me sits this box of books begging to be opened, but like a first date, kiss, and well you-know… I want this moment to be as fitting to the way I live my life as possible, so I will wait to open the box in the place that gives me the most inspiration. It’s my way of returning the AWE to nature, because it is in nature that most of my clarity comes from. Being out there will also help calm my nerves as I do my first-ever public Facebook Live. 

If you want to see what it’s like for someone’s dreams to become real before your eyes, you can join me on Facebook Live Tuesday, January 14, 2020 @ 5:15pm EST. If you miss it, you will be able to see it on my Facebook Page, Facebook.com/Lettersfromabetterme.

Life is made up of moments that are a combination of everything we put into them. Some of the emotions I had to stir up in Part I to make this journey as authentic as possible were very trying for me. I had to go back into traumatic events to remember feelings and actions. I needed to tap into a time where I had NO self-worth. Then I got to move from those dark times of struggle into the transformation process, which fills me with such joy and AWE that I spent many hours crying tears of joy as I typed page after page.

 This is one of those moments that is like taking a first step. Letters from A Better Me is my first book, so I’ve never experienced anything like this before. Just like a proud mama wants to capture those first steps, I want this moment to stay with me forever.  

Dreams do come true. First we have to make a choice to start doing the work to draw them closer. Otherwise they will just stay out of reach.

Wishing you all a dream-fulfilling journey. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

36 More Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

#PerspectiveChallenge: People Suck

PERSPECTIVE: PEOPLE SUCK

There is a difference between not liking a particular person’s choice and the belief PEOPLE SUCK. When we tell ourselves and/or anyone who will listen that people suck, we are asking the Universe to show us the people who suck. We put our focus on seeing it. There could be an unhealthy person making poor choices and a healthy person making positive choices, and guess who we will put our energy on? 

We see this every day in social media. There are people who are constantly seeing and spreading their belief that people suck, alongside the people who celebrate the amazing acts of humanity in the world. In honesty, what sucks is our perception when we believe the thought—people suck

People can and will make poor choices when they have unhealthy perceptions of themselves and the reality they are living in. We each have to make the choice if we will allow our thinking to benefit our lives or cost us our peace. We are only ever one healthy perception away from making a positive change in our life. 

When we believe people suck, we are giving ourselves permission to suck too, because last I checked, if you are reading this it qualifies you as a person. I don’t believe that you suck. 

I believe that each person makes choices that have NOTHING to do with me. Just like I make my own choices on what I think, believe, perceive, and do. No one can MAKE me believe anything that doesn’t feel true to me. Hence, I focus my energy on the amazing heroes in the world. Those are tears I LOVE shedding watching the power of humanity shine through.

When someone makes a choice that hurts themselves and/or others, I want you to take a second to go deeper. This is a sick person making a sick choice. This is not a representative of all the humanity in the world. Don’t let their negative choices pull you down into their energy field. Because I guarantee you, they think people suck too. Someone who is acting in a healthy manner doesn’t try to take another human down or want to be tied to low energy. Their energy field actually won’t even allow it to happen—like attracts like. People making healthy choices process information in healthy ways. 

TODAY’S PERSPECTIVE CHALLENGE

Go on the Internet and look into acts of kindness, humans being better humans, humanitarian causes, inspirational websites and pages, along with acts of forgiveness. If you want to see the best in humanity, you have to put your focus there. 

Have a perspective-filled day!

With Love and Continuous Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

37 More Days until the release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!