90-Day A Better Me Series
Part II: A Journey of Perspective
What Launches Us Forward: The Stable Foundation
Day 33: How Love Transcends Fear
“Even in the darkness it is possible to create light.”
Yesterday, I talked about The Power of Love. Today, we will expand on how love transcends fear. Many people want to jump to fixing others and fixing the world before they take a look at themselves. We can’t change others so the efforts often will deplete us. Our light (love) is projected from the inside. We have to feel the love inside us in order to transcend the fear within and around us.
Have you ever noticed the difference in your actions if they have the pure intention of love instead of fear? Have you noticed how serving yourself and others feels different in your body based on the intention behind what you are doing? The difference is that deeds completed with love expand us.
Knowing an accurate definition of love is KEY to our understanding of the energy we are putting out there. If you missed yesterday’s post, I hope you will go back and check it out, because honestly, without an accurate definition of love, we can trick ourselves into believing that our fearful actions are because of love. This is a cycle that will only create more insanity and fear. Fearful actions done in the name of love just add darkness and our light gets dimmer.
Once we know our definition, we can measure our feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions according to that definition. When we do this, our world opens up and love truly transcends the fear just by becoming aware that it is there. It’s like using a dimmer switch to increase the light in the room. Once we notice how our own feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions are contributing to the light, or adding to the darkness, it makes it possible to see others feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions clearly. The love in us can serve the fear in them, if and only if, we stay within the light.
Think about parents, often unknowingly, they feel their fear is serving their child to protect them. I’ve fallen into this trap plenty of times. It is very easy to do because we want to keep our children safe. Our fears create fears in them. Then when they become adults, many parents try to use the same approach to their children that they did in childhood, but the adult children react much different. They are more conscious of the weight of their parent’s fears and they don’t want to carry it. The parent’s fears add to their child’s darkness. If adult children are fighting their own darkness, the exchange can become explosive. Both parent and child are fighting a war using darkness as their weapon.
Now, if a parent uses light (love), the adult child doesn’t feel that defensiveness towards their parent, because they don’t feel attacked. They still might react, but the parent won’t take the reaction personally and feel the need to attack back. The parent will know that the child is responding to their own darkness, and by sending love into the situation, the parent gets the opportunity to truly shine a little light, but in the end the child has to choose to accept it or deny it. When a parent is truly sending love, they are not insisting on their own way. That is ego and fear (darkness).
This scenario can easily be reversed or switched to friend, professional, intimate, sibling, and/or extended relationships. Love can only transcend fear if we don’t succumb to fear. When we feel the fear stir in us, our lesson becomes to be aware enough to take a step back and reframe our feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions. Don’t think for a second that I’ve mastered this one. I’m not sure I ever will, but I know I learn from my fears, which is sending light to them. I show my fears love and don’t beat myself up over them anymore. I still have to apologize to people when I project my darkness onto them, in turn sending light to the situation. Once again, love transcends fear. It’s a lot easier than a mind spinning makes it. The key is slowing down. If someone responds badly to something we do or say, we can ask ourselves was I acting/responding from a loving place, or were my fears playing into how I was treating the person. When I was being emotionally abused, I really had to dig deep when I was starting to find my way out of the darkness, but it is possible, even in the face of hate being spewed at you.
When we take responsibility for our darkness, we send light to it. In turn, our love transcends the fear. Other people are responsible for their own darkness. They can choose to see our light or turn away from it. That is their journey. When they are ready to let love transcend their fears, they will know where to find it.
Just for Today
Visualize the light of love inside you. Let is permeate through your body from head to toe. One of my favorite places to do this exercise is in the shower. I imagine the water is an all nourishing and loving light touching every part of me. When you do this exercise, feel the difference in your feelings, thoughts, and body. If it worked, love transcended fear. Feel the beauty of that! It may only last for the time you are doing the exercise—Embrace the moment! The brighter we shine, the less chance the darkness has in taking us over.
If you see me repeating messages, there is a scientific reason. In order to re-wire our brains we have to hear the same messages over and over. Just think about how many times you have repeated fearful messages to yourself over and over. I repeat them for me as much as I’m repeating them for the person reading this. If there are messages you want to really stick, write them down, hang them up, and repeat them to yourself until you feel and hear them in your head when you are faced with challenges. This is how we transcend messages of fear into love in our own heads.
Thank you for reading! I hope you are enjoying the 90-Day A Better Me Series and the 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series. My soul is filled when I can share about living life from a loving place. Writing expands the love within me and transcends my fears through seeing what comes up as I write. It truly is an amazing process. I’m so grateful to get up each morning and write with love in my heart. I do remember a day when my words were filled with darkness. Elie Wiesel’s quote above holds so much meaning to me, because by not giving up on myself and letting the fear consume me, I gave myself space to feel and give love in the most authentic of ways.
With Love and Gratitude,
Rachael Wolff ©2019
Did you read today’s companion piece? 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 33 – Converting Messages of Fear into Messages of Love
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