Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #218

I’m grateful I can spot people lost in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. The longer I’ve been on the road of aligning with love, abundance, and peace, the faster I can spot people lost in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I don’t have to take them personally now. I know their beliefs are keeping them hostage. I also know that I can’t free them from themselves. That is their work to do on their timeline. Being able to spot other people’s fear, lack, and separation helps to keep my energy from unconsciously falling into the energy. It’s that reminder for me to stay present! Only in the present moment can I stay aligned with love, abundance, peace. The energy of fear, lack, and separation happens in the unhealed past and the unknown future that is attached to beliefs of fear, lack, and separation.

Today, I commit to being aware of when someone is lost in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I want to be clear, just because I see that someone is lost in this energy doesn’t mean I will confront a person on it. I found that is typically a VERY BAD idea! If someone in this energy feels like they are being attacked, it’s more likely to shift my energy into the energy of fear, lack, and separation than to help them shift out of being aligned there. Recognizing is simply there to help me to stay in the energy of love, abundance, and peace while I’m interacting with a person, and that takes me staying present.

I learned from my own experiences when we try to force someone to be where they are not, we can be helping to keep them in a shame spiral. Living in our shame and guilt keep us in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I love being able to spot people’s alignment, because the last thing I want to do is unintentionally make it worse or go down with them. Being able to spot it helps me to implement my healthy boundaries. When I spot someone in this energy, I do my best to focus my energy on staying in love, abundance, and peace. This helps me to stay calm, stay non-reactive, stay compassionate, and stay open for communication opportunities. This is one of the reasons I named this blog and my Facebook page, From A Loving Place. It’s the reminder to stay aligned with love no matter what the other person is doing.

When I’m responding to someone who is reacting to a post I do from the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I take a deep breath and say a little prayer asking for guidance on how to respond from a loving place. If I can’t spot that they are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I could quickly go into a defensive mode and react from a place of I’m right and they are wrong, which aligns me with fear, lack, and separation. When I see clearly that a person is in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I can respond and start out by saying, “That’s an interesting perspective.” This shows them that I heard what they said. Then I can go on to say, “My perspective is…thank you for letting me know how this effected you looking through your lens of perspective.”

I trust my intuition a lot in these interactions. I will get the guidance on how to proceed with this person. Sometimes that means to walk away and not engage with the person’s energy at all. Taking long deep breaths before I react is a good sign that I will be able to respond from a loving place, however that looks.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title to find out more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #210

I’m grateful for the feeling of release that comes from letting my fear, lack, and separation out on paper. I’ve learned some dangerous patterns in my life as it pertains to feelings. I’ve seen patterns of numbing, avoiding, and suppressing feelings passed down for generations. I’ve seen patterns of shame for feelings and actions that were aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation, which only made the energy stronger. I felt so much shame and guilt that I thought people were better off without me, yet I had a smile on my face as I pretended to be okay. It took me a long time to see that living a better life didn’t mean I spoke in shiny happy rainbow colors all the time. Just like everyone else who lives authentically, I have to FEEL THROUGH whatever challenges that come my way.

I have to face myself when I feel feelings that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I know the dangers of living in that energy for way too long. I know that pretending the feelings aren’t their only makes the feelings stronger. The people I love get hurt the longer I stay in this energy, because I start leaking the energy out all around me.

The best thing I can do for myself and others is to get my shit down on paper. I need to see the weeds I’ve planted in my internal garden in order to pull them out at the roots. Seeing my shadow on paper isn’t always easy, but there is something magical that happens when I see her on paper, I take away her power to destroy me. I get to exhale and the feel the release of her toxic energy on my body, mind, and soul. Let me make this very clear. We are not evil because we have a shadow, darkness, whatever you want to call it. We are human. The experiencing of feelings and having thoughts that are aligned with fear, lack, and separation isn’t EVIL. It’s a learning opportunity.

We only lose ourselves to our darkness when we refuse to look at it and take responsibility for it. When we blame others for our shadow, we make our shadow bigger and give it more power. The first step to working with our shadows in a healthy way is to recognize them. For me, recognizing mine is about physically seeing her. I do that by allowing myself to write in her voice. I feel such an amazing sense of relief getting her out of my body. It’s amazing the weight I feel when I refuse to look at her and the lessons she has to teach me about the perspectives of truth (beliefs) of mine that are still aligned with fear, lack, and separation.

I know when I feel the release, I’ve done my work. I went deep enough. I’ve seen what I was meant to see in this moment, because letting go of fear, lack, and separation happens in layers. We only get what we are equipped to face. The stronger we get, the more that is revealed. For me, this has happened in a natural progression. Anytime I’ve tried to force being ready for what I’m not ready for, I struggle and still don’t get the answers LOL. I’ve learned to trust the beautiful feeling of release to let me know that I’ve done my work. My physical sign that I’ve reached that point is this need to release a GIANT exhale. I imagine any toxic energy that I was holding onto shaking free and the exhale fully releases the blocked energy spot. AWE…release!

Today, I commit to writing down any feelings of fear, lack, and separation that I want to get out of me. I’m going to let it all come out—no filter! If I’m not willing to see it, I won’t be able to heal it. I will just keep shoving it down and it will get bigger and bigger. I’m not going to show this writing to anyone else, because it’s not for anyone else. This is my stuff. If I need to work on anything I see in what I write, I will ask for the help I need and trust whoever shows up to help me is the person intended to be there on this leg of my journey. If I have trouble knowing what my next step is, I pray. Then, I trust the path that is revealed to me. Sometimes it’s a book, person, Ted Talk, YouTube video, professional, supplement, etc. The path is always revealed as long as I’m willing to let go enough to take a step towards moving into the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Today, I’m just going to focus on getting out of my body.

One important step to this process is to DRINK A LOT OF WATER! While I’m doing this, I visualize the water flushing out the toxic build-up I’m loosening up. I see it as a physical cleansing! If you do this, don’t be surprised if your body physically releases more toxins from your body than normal.

If you would like to join me on this journey, I do have a suggestion to get started. First write down everything you associate with the word FEAR. On another page, write down everything you associate with the word LACK (not enough). Finally, write down everything you associate with the word SEPARATION. This work works for me because I’m clear about what those words mean to me. If I’m not feeling love, I’m in fear. I’m not feeling abundance, I’m in lack. If I’m not in peace, I’m feeling separation.

Here’s a little example of some of the things on my lists:

FEAR

  • Hate
  • Rage
  • Blame
  • The feeling of being frozen
  • Wanting to run
  • Wanting to numb
  • Wanting to avoid feelings
  • Shame
  • Revenge

LACK

  • I don’t have what I need in this moment
  • Happiness is outside of me
  • I don’t have enough
  • Failure
  • There is never enough
  • I don’t want to be where I am
  • I’m not enough
  • Jealousy
  • Envy
  • Shaming
  • Blaming
  • Resentments
  • Should have, would have, could have

Separation

  • Divided
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Prejudice
  • I’m better than
  • I’m less than
  • Unlovable
  • Unworthy
  • “ALL”—describing groups of people that create divides of better or worse and good or evil
  • Us vs. them
  • Them vs. us
  • Different—when I categorize myself or situation as different and it makes me feel separate from the whole. When I use it as an excuse to stay in a low energy of being separate.
  • Loneliness
  • Vengeance

Your lists may not look like mine. It’s however you interpret the words for you. If you just use my definitions, the exercise won’t work the same if my definitions don’t fully resonate with your feelings about these words. That’s why it is SO IMPORTANT to know how YOU feel about words when you are doing inner work. If a word is a trigger word, just the word can send us down a spiral of fear, lack, and separation. The key is be be aware. It doesn’t mean someone else is wrong about their interpretations, it just means you have had different experiences that have lead you to different beliefs. As I wrote above, the word different in one way fuels my energy of separation, but used in other ways, it fuels my energy of peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information, formats, and purchasing options)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #38

Sometimes we forget to check on our progress. Anytime our thoughts, feelings, and actions are aligning with the energy of love, abundance, an peace, CELEBRATE with GRATITUDE. Each moment we are making choices in what energy we feed. Those really tough ones are the ones I LOVE to celebrate. When others are wanting to fuel my feelings of fear, lack, and separation, and I CHOOSE love, abundance, and peace—I feel EMPOWERED. I feel like I’ve taken the reigns in that moment and am standing in MY TRUTH. I’m so incredibly grateful!

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Today’s challenge actually comes from my book. Writing our own personal mission statement is a way to committing to living in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Think of companies, especially non-profits aimed at helping others. When someone sees a mission statement, they know what that organization stands for. The best ones won’t say anything that they are against. When we can only talk about the things we are against, we are coming from a place of fear, lack, and separation.

How do you want to serve our planet and humanity from a place of love, abundance, and peace?

What does that look like to you?

Sit down and really figure this out. Once you have it down, write it on a 3×5 card and put it up somewhere you will always look at it. This is your reminder of how you want to be living. When you know this and can see it in front of you, it makes it easier to actually live, make choices, and stay focused on the bigger picture— instead of getting caught up in the chaos around you. Our mission statement brings hope and passion into our thinking, feelings, and actions. If you want to fully commit to living in the energy of love, abundance, and peace—Start now! Write out your mission statement. Notice how writing it and stating it feels inside you. Don’t be surprised when all these little sparks are created, because you are about to light the world up in the best of ways.

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With Love, ABUNDANCE, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

If you like this exercise, Letters from a Better Me is filled with practical ways to start living life as your best self.