“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”

Deepak Chopra

When I’m emotionally triggered, I have to be VERY careful around this truth. I have to remind myself that what I project out comes back. I’m only responsible and accountable for the the energy I’m putting out there. If I realize I’ve been blaming, I take the time to stop and look inward, but I don’t self-blame. I just notice where my energy is off in the situation and do what I can to fix the problem. It might mean I have to go back to people I was blaming and criticizing with and say I realize that I was triggered, but here is the truth of it… I remind myself that if I’m in a healthy space in my mind, I don’t get defensive. I look for healthy solutions instead of using gossip, criticism, and blame to make someone else feel smaller. I don’t have to make someone else at fault to be proactive and make healthier choices for myself, my family, and/or my community. I can’t help others move into a healthier energy if I’m not there myself.

I’ve found having safe people to process my feelings with is ESSENTIAL for my well-being. These are people who let me work through what I’m feeling and transition into healthy reflection. When I do this, I don’t hold the resentment inside my body and allow it to spew out on others. In one conversation, I can go from enraged to seeing opportunities for growth. I LOVE THAT!

I hope you’ve enjoyed these last 30 days of quotes. I know it has been a wonderful experience for me. I’ve even found some great ones to add to my next book, which I’m almost done writing. Three more chapters to go! I will keep you posted and share some sneak peaks along the way. I will tell you this much, I’ve LOVE writing this book.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy holiday season. If you are looking for support from a loving place, I hope you will take the time to explore my blog, which I’ve been writing just shy of six years now. If you are a woman looking for support, I have a whole book written just for you and it’s available in audiobook, CD, Ebook, and/or paperback at most major online book retailers. Letters from a Better Me is filled with exercises and wisdom that came from my 30+ years of self exploration that have helped me along the way.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me