90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 24 – Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate

Letters From A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 24: Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate

Please read 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 24 – Manifesting Hate before reading this letter.

Dear Self,

I’m feeling a mix of feelings, which include anger, rage, frustration, sadness, and fear. I’ve noticed I’m projecting these feelings out in unhealthy ways and I’m left feeling drained, depressed, and withdrawn. I’m letting my fear’s energy take over me. I’m contributing to the hate by letting myself get triggered by media reports and social media posts. I feel the rage inside me well up like a fireball as I hear about all the hate coming from people who are refusing to listen to each other. I’m contributing to the energy by silently brewing and letting the anger fester inside me. I’m steering my energy to a place that I don’t want to attract it back. Here’s my plan to change the direction my energy is going:

I’m choosing to let go of the anger because it has no place in my body. I’m choosing to focus my energy on the love I see in the world. I’m looking up stories of inspiration, hope, and positive change. This inspires me! My tears well up with joy when I see people being good to one another. I love seeing the stories of the strangers who drop everything and step up for others. I want to keep this joy in love in my heart.

Instead of focusing on all the wrongs in the world including all the corruption and violence, my attention is going to go towards officers who are doing the right things. Politicians who I see as a genuinely good people who care about the countries they serve. I’m not going to limit myself to particular parties, I will focus on the people who help us come up with solutions to think of the whole, not one side vs. the other. I’m not going to manifest more separation by seeing my ideas and myself as separate. I will focus on the people who spread messages of love, it doesn’t matter if I believe every word they say, as long as I genuinely feel what they are spreading is love, I will support that. Doing these things makes me feel good inside. I feel lightness and so much gratitude for all the people who inspire loving action.

I’m becoming more conscious of how I’m talking to myself and how when I belittle myself I’m feeding into the hate cycle. I’m doing the work to fuel my self-love so I project that instead of self-hate. I’m responsible for my feelings, but I’m not going to blame myself for having them. I just need to work through them step by step so I don’t take them out on someone else and manifest more hate.

As for my actions and reactions, I will consciously choose actions that support living life from a loving place. I will do my best to remain present, so that I consider the people around me as well as myself. I will smile and laugh more to focus on spreading joy. I will do my best in conflict to stay present to what I stand FOR instead of Focusing on what I am AGAINST.

I’m grateful for all my feelings that come up in me. I can learn from every feeling and thought that I experience. I’m committed to my journey of becoming the best version of myself.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2019


90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 24 – Manifesting Hate

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part I: A Journey of Awareness

What Holds Us Back: The Unstable Foundation

Day 24: Manifesting Hate

“Of one thing we can be certain: a person that is engaging in violence is hurting deeply, because a healthy and balanced soul is incapable of harming another.”

-Gary Zukav The Seat of the Soul

When we fight hate with hate, we manifest more hate in the world. This is not a judgment, it just is. I love the definition of insanity that says, “Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different result.” Our focus on the problem, the problem, the problem and looking outward to point fingers has created MORE problems. We’ve gotten  to the point where people are ready to fight and engage in war at second. This could be internal or external war, whether it be in the mirror, on social media, sitting in traffic, walking through a store, in school, at sporting events. We are trained to see the worst in people, so we are capable of taking anything like it is a personal attack against us. The only thing that happens by following these feeling, thought, action, and reaction patterns is the manifestation of more hate.

When people learn about the Law of Attraction one of the things they don’t see is the Law of Attraction goes both ways. It’s not just about making a vision board, a list of what your desires are, and some positive thoughts. The Law of Attraction goes to the roots of your core feelings, ideas, and beliefs. You are attracting what is happening in the core, not what is on the surface. If you are filled with inner hate towards yourself and/or others, that is what you will manifest in your reality. This means toxic relationships, traffic incidents, problems dealing with people, money problems and that is just on a personal level. Now, lets amplify the energy by all the people focused on hate, even if they think their hate is justified. Do you see the problem here? I’m not a person who believes in accidents. Even the darkest events have purpose to teach us and help us grow. We just have to be open to learn. If we shut our minds down because old beliefs systems tell us that can’t be true, and we turn it into a war, our minds are shut down and we are once again feeding the fear/hate cycle—Manifesting more hate.

Some will blame God, politics, media, left-wingers, right-wingers, men, women, Christians, Muslims, Jews, agnostics, violent games, violence in the media, and the list goes on and on. The truth is the second we point the finger, we are responsible for the energy we’ve fueled into the global manifesting of hate. Blame is a fear-based energy that manifests more fear—Hate is the build-up of fear (If you want to read more about fear and blame, go back to the main page and start the series from the beginning or pick and choose what you want to read about).

Some even believe that this build up of energy is the reason for terrorist attacks, natural disasters, and, any and all acts of violence. Once a traumatic event happens, many of our compassionate loving energy comes out and we feel a shift, which helps restore the energy balance. Just another perspective of thought to think about…

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

Hate manifested inward can lead to some devastating internal and external consequences such as (to name a few):

  • Addiction
  • Tumors
  • Cancer
  • Pain
  • Suicidal dreams
  • Violent dreams
  • Attracting violence (Tomorrow’s installment)
  • Narcissist Personality Disorder
  • Sociopaths

To me, that is way too big a burden. This is just another reason to be conscious of where our energy is going. Like I’ve said before, none of us are going to do this perfectly. We are all works in progress. We just focus on doing the best we can, and not making the mistake to self-abuse when we make mistakes or have feelings come up. We need to allow ourselves to FEEL fully, process the feelings, and then re-frame. We can’t stuff feelings that we don’t want. That just manifests more of what we don’t want. Journaling and letter-writing are GREAT tools to process feelings to get them out of our bodies, which helps not to create toxic blocks in the body. Then using those same tools it’s easy to process and re-frame. This is the safest way to make sure we aren’t taking OUR misplaced feelings out on others, and we can stop the process of using our feelings to attack ourselves too.

Just for Today

Write a letter to yourself to help you process feelings that feed fear and hate cycles. Be as honest as you can about the feelings. Don’t run from them! This is not a letter you will share with anybody. Don’t limit or do a surface swipe, DIG DEEP!! The feelings at the core are the ones that do the most damage. Don’t worry about how it looks on paper. This isn’t a place to judge yourself for what your feeling. The most important thing is that you take full responsibility for your feelings. DO NOT blame your feelings on anyone else. They are yours! Take ownership of them. Trust me, they have already taken up residents in your body. The weight you want to carry of unresolved feelings is up to you. You don’t need anyone else to release or do anything! Write it out, burn it and turn it over! Just get it out of you. If you do this exercise, drink a ton of water and remember crying is a very good thing. Visualize your tears cleaning the window to your soul.

Thank you for reading today’s installment. I hope you will be back tomorrow! If you want to get e-mails the second each day is published, just scroll down and enter your e-mail address below.


With Love and Gratitude,


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Did you read today’s companion piece? 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 24 – Processing My Feelings to Avoid Manifesting Hate