Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #159

I’m grateful I understand psychology. In these challenging times, I’m so grateful for my education in psychology both formal and self-taught. I could see myself going quickly and easily down the path of fear, lack, and separation if I didn’t understand just how much I’m in control of and what I’m not. I can see the humanity in individuals hurting and lashing out because I know the issues that untreated and/or unhealed trauma create. I also keep up with current research which is now seeing how trauma is passed down in the DNA. I know from years of research how we are capable of re-wiring our brains to get out of victim mentality that may have been passed down from generations.Gone unexamined, we become vulnerable to be used, manipulated, and set-up to hurt others with our attachments to the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If we live in victim mentality, we can be used in armies built to create more fear, lack, and separation. Understanding psychology helps me to see through agenda, whether it is coming from an institution, company, community, or person I trust or I don’t. Anyone who wants me to align with fear (of the other, of damnation, of the unknown), lack (there is not enough), and separation (us against them) has an agenda I don’t want to align myself with.

One of the reasons it’s so important for me to keep up with this blog is to hold myself accountable for my energy daily. It’s what I know about psychology and training our brains to work with us that has helped me see just how important this is. I’ve also studied psychology in marketing which can be scary how a company can convince a person that they are not enough without a particular product, food, or service. Make no mistake, people who run campaigns to try to get you to take action on something all use psychology. Not all people who know psychology use it for good. That is why it is so important that we understand it, so that we can’t be manipulated by it. Even churches can use psychology to get their members to act a certain way from a place of fear, lack, and separation. When we understand psychology, we don’t have to fear all these tactics because we can spot them, and understand what someone is trying to get from us by believing specific ideas. Parents use psychological fear tactics to get their children to behave certain ways. We are trained to do this. We keep the cycle going the more we put our blinders up to the effects of staying in the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

The more we align ourselves with love, abundance, and peace, the safer we are from someone using psychology against us.The safer we are from hurting someone else. Narcissists and sociopaths depend on their use of psychology to manipulate and/or abuse their victims. I find it much easier to see through all the crap, while also having the understanding of how someone can intentionally hurt others. Many of are a part of the cycle, but we can only get better if we see it.

As humans, we use psychology to get what we want out of a situation. Some of just don’t know it. I love how many resources there are now to learn more. I find this helps me align with love, abundance, and peace especially when I’m dealing with difficult people. It’s also helped me to see how and why people who align with love, abundance, and peace live more fulfilling lives. Never be afraid to reach out for help if you are having trouble understanding your own mind either. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was 10 years old. If I struggle with figuring stuff out on my own, you better believe I am going to ask a qualified person to help me.

Today, I commit to gain understanding of people through psychology. When I look at others through the eyes of science, I don’t take their actions personally. I also know that I can’t fix anyone else. The only person I’m capable of working on is me. When I change my behaviors towards myself and others, my reality shifts to accommodate for my new perspectives. This is the beauty of understanding the power of the brain and the stories we feed it. We live in an age where we can learn from some of the greatest minds for FREE.

I decided I’m no longer going to invest my mind in places that keep me spinning in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I want to know about narcissists and sociopaths, I’m going to invest my time in learning about them instead of watching the news and getting consumed by how many people are falling for it. When I find myself slipping into a funk, I’m going to find the tools I need to get myself out. I’m not going to spin with people who want to go down with me, I’m going to raise myself up with how I can connect psychology, spirituality, and a whole bunch tools from the Universe to move through whatever I’m going through. I know that I don’t want to hurt anyone with my unhealed stuff, and I don’t want to be victim of someone else’s unhealed stuff. The ONLY way I know how to do this to the best of my ability is to invest my time in the right places.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Friday Feel-Good Book Series: Books that Gave Me Seeds to Thrive

New Series Starts September 20, 2019

Hello Friends, Followers, and Visitors:

I’m starting a new series! I decided Fridays was a good day to tell you about the books that gave me seeds to thrive. Each Friday, I will tell you about a book I’ve read on my journey and why I would recommend it. The books will not be in any particular order. Just know that every Friday, until I feel like I’m done, I will share one of my treasures with you. It will be your choice if you decide you want to plant one of these seeds in your garden. I encourage comments, insights, and sharing the books that helped you. You never know what book I will feel energetically pulled to read next. I tend to have a good two to three books going at a time. Just remember the name of my site, comments should come from a loving place, or they won’t be posted. If there is a quote from a book that inspires you to live better, you can share it along with the author name, book title, and the page number the quote is from.

Why am I Doing This?

I’m often asked about the books I read. For those who don’t know me, I’m an avid reader of ways to make life better. I started my love of reading about this over thirty years ago. Here are a few of my favorite topics: self-help, spirituality, personal transformation, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, healthy living, brain studies, human development, sociology, psychology, religion, and cultural anthropology. Reading all these books has helped me see the person I want to be, ways (not one way) to get there, and be open to see what could be holding me back. They helped me discover my strengths and weaknesses, along with what I was ready for and what I wasn’t. I also have read about plenty of ways I don’t want to live. 

In every book I’ve read, I’ve discovered there are no new concepts, just different ways of presenting them. If the writer is viewing a concept through a place of fear, I look at how that affects their view of interpretation. If a writer is seeing a concept through a place of love, I look to see how I’m connecting to their beliefs about the topic before I consider their perspective of truth. No matter what, I know and understand that every writer is speaking from his or her own place of truth. I understand that just because they believe a certain way of doing things is the right way, it’s up to me to decide what is the best way for me. In the end, only I can decide the perspectives of truth that I will form my reality around. No one can force us to have a belief that serves or doesn’t serve us living our best lives. We have to be open to see how our own beliefs are affecting our reality and make a choice on whether or not to keep our energy believing what we do. 

I believe I can learn from EVERYTHING I read. If I feel an energetic pull to read something, I know there was a reason I was meant to read it. I look for the lessons. There hasn’t been a book in the categories I listed above that I got nothing from. There are some that I put down, because when the energetic force stopped pulling me to read it, I knew I got what I needed. Being a reader of this kind of material, it’s good to trust the journey. We don’t know where it’s leading us. 

When I read A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson at fourteen, I had no idea the journey I was about to go on. I’ve read the book at least four times now and I find something new and different that resonates EVERY time. My fourteen-year-old self wasn’t ready for a lot of what I was reading, but it gave me seeds. I could see I wanted to live from a loving place. I just would have to go through a lot of life experiences before the material would truly sink in. 

I picked up The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle three times throughout a period of five or six years before I was ready to grasp his voice. I would make it through a couple of chapters, then put it down. I actually ended up reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle first. I did the Oprah course she had on it. After doing that, when I picked up The Power of Now again, I got it and loved it! I read it right when I needed to and right when it was important for a big step in my journey. 

The point is, when we are invested in this type of material, TRUST THE JOURNEY! Don’t beat yourself up about what you should read, or what you should do. You are ready when you’re ready. If you feel pulled to read something, GET THE BOOK! If you’re reading and all the sudden you stop—It’s okay! You read what you needed to for now, or you would have felt pulled to read more. Don’t get rid of the book! Sometimes you will find that it’s years before you’re ready, but it’s good to have so that when you are ready for it, you can open it and just start reading.  I can’t even begin to tell you how many times this has happened to me. 

I hope you are excited to get on board! The fun will begin soon. See you back here Friday!

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2019