90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 64 – Actively Connecting with Source

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90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 64: Actively Connecting with Source

Dear Source,

I’m committed to my relationship with you. Therefore, I know it’s my responsibility to do the work to maintain my end of our relationship. I can’t expect you to do for me what I’m not doing for myself. I won’t even recognize your love if I’m not honoring your love that runs through me.

I feel connected with you most when my soul is at peace. When I’m operating from a place of lack, I feel desperate and am not truly connected to your love. When I trust and have faith, I’m connecting with you on a level that helps to brighten the light inside of me.

The brighter my light shines, the more connected I feel. I know the more I do to actively connect with you, the more my dimmer switch will be turned up. The closer I am to you, the more I feel you within me and the world around me. I trust my faith when I actively connect to your love.

The more love I have in my heart, the more I have to give to the world. I feel blessed to be able to connect to you through my acts of service. I find inspiration in your love that places words on the paper in front of me. I know your love is speaking through me when I don’t have to stop and think. The words just flow out of me and ignite my soul.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for my connection with God.
  2. I’m grateful for the opportunity to grow closer the more effort I put into the relationship.
  3. I’m grateful to have the tools to brighten my light.
  4. I’m grateful to See Source in art, music, nature, people, words, prayers, meditation, and all acts of love.
  5. I’m grateful for perspective to keep my mind open and fresh with new ways to connect.


With Love and Gratitude,


A Better Me


Rachael Wolff ©2019


If you are looking for ways to connect with your spirituality, check out today’s installment:90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 64 – Actively Connecting with Our Spirituality

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 64 – Actively Connecting with Our Spirituality

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 64: Actively Connecting with Our Spirituality

“A connection to Spirit restores your confidence, relieves your anxiety, and frees you from the desire to control everything in your life.”

-Sonia Choquette

Relationships take work to feel connected. When we love someone it may not feel like work to show the people we love that we care, but we are still showing our appreciation for them being in our lives and we MAKE time for them. Why would we consider connecting to self and to Spirit any different?

I’ve had an installment on spirituality and/or religion in each section, because or beliefs can create blocks (Day 6) or connection (Day 35) in our lives. My perspective of truth is that Source Energy, Divine Energy, God Energy, Spirit Energy, Buddha Energy, Allah Energy, Mother Earth Energy (whatever you choose to call it) is not capable of being fully understood by humans. We think too small to understand that level of love available in the Universe, so I do my best to try not to put my spirituality in a closed container. The best I can understand God is through my definition of love. I don’t care what religion a person believes in, if they have messages that reflect the definition of love that I believe in, I will embrace that message. The list I have below can be used and adapted for any spiritual and/or religious practice. These are just suggestions to help people to find ways to connect that feel right for their spiritual journey.

Side note: I’ve brought up my definition of love multiple times in this series and in many of my writings about love, because that definition is the best I can do to feel God’s love within me and in the world. That doesn’t mean that is the path that is right for someone else. It’s not my business how someone connects to the Spirit Energy within him or her. My perspective of truth is to absorb and spread love and light. I feel that is apart of my soul’s journey here. It doesn’t mean I don’t have darkness within me.  It doesn’t mean I don’t make mistakes and occasionally spread my darkness instead of my light—I’m human. We are all here learning. I’m simply doing the best I can.

Actively connecting to our spirituality is an important part of our journeys. Our intention behind what we do is key to how this energy will rest inside of us, project out, manifest, and attract people and things to our lives. It’s my perspective of truth that God gives me everything I need. I do my best to give and receive from a place of abundance. When I feel lack, I know I’m not connecting to Source. Here are 9 ways we can actively connect to our spirituality:

  1. We can actively connect through our self-love and self-care. That shows we are honoring our lives that have been created with a purpose to shine. When we shine inside we create a brighter light in the world. The more we work to brighten our own lights, the more we can connect with Divine Love in the Universe, which connects us to Spirit.
  2. We can actively connect through prayer. How much time are you willing to converse with your Higher Power? This is a personal choice. Just remember to treat this relationship like you would the love of your life.
  3. We can actively connect through meditation. When we sit in meditation we are open to listen and receive love, light, and wisdom.  The clearer we can get our minds, the more we connect.
  4. We can actively connect by serving with love. This isn’t about obligation. If you feel obligated you need to look within yourself to see the resistance to genuinely wanting to serve. When we serve with love, we are connecting to the Divine’s creations.  We connect to spirit when we honor the Spirit Energy within each creation. Serve in a place that pulls you. For me, I serve through spreading love. I make sure I give time everyday that is about spreading love.
  5. We can actively connect through gratitude practices. This can be in forms of lists, letters, and/or rituals. Showing gratitude connects us to the loving energy of the Universe, which connects us to Source.
  6. We can actively connect through religious services and/or rituals. The intention is important. Be clear on what feels right and what doesn’t. If we want to create more love in our lives, we must be connecting through love. Fear will lead to more fear.
  7. We can actively connect through movement. This can be practices like yoga, tai chi, Qigong, transformational breathing, dance, etc. Our intention behind the movement of energy has the power to connect us to Source. If we are connecting to our energy through Love we are connecting to Source Energy. We are allowing energy to move through us and release toxic blocks  keeping us from Source Energy naturally.
  8. We can actively connect through the feeling of AWE. Whether we feel this because of something we see in nature, in art, in wildlife, in animals, in architecture, in relationships, in a moment, in a child’s laugh, etc. That feeling of AWE connects us to a love deep within us that moves us. That is Divine Love. That is why actively living life is so important for our connections.
  9. We can actively connect in the water. I make a practice out of connecting by feeling the energy within me as expansive. I do this best floating in water. I just imagine myself as pure energy with no limits of body. I visualize God’s love permeated through each individual particle that makes me who I am. When I do this exercise, I feel completely refreshed, energized and connected.

When we feel whole within ourselves, we are connected. When we feel whole and connected, our intentions and expectations are in-check. We are open to live, grow, learn, and teach through our connections instead of our separations. We each experience light and dark, love and fear, and abundance and lack. What we have inside is what we spread. The more we connect to the best that is within us, the greater the chance we will connect to and spread Divine Love in the world.


With Love and Gratitude,


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 64 – Actively Connecting with Source








90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 35 – Love in Our Spirituality

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Part II: A Journey of Perspective

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Day 35: Love in Our Spirituality

“Love is the ultimate Truth at the heart of the Universe and transcends ALL BOUNDARIES.”

-Deepak Chopra

We each have our own individual spiritual journey. We may be introduced to religion at a very young age, and that is part of the journey, but it’s just the beginning. Spirituality is more than being told what to believe. Our spirituality is about our connection with the Being that we believe is the Creator(s) of ALL things.

Our connection is personal. It cannot be shoved down our throats, forced, or coerced. We feel the connection inside or we don’t. We have to determine for ourselves how to feel more connected and what makes us feel less connected. This piece is a little more personal than many of the pieces I’ve written so far in the 90-Day A Better Me Series. It’s because the spiritual journey is a personal journey. I can’t tell another person the right or wrong way to connect. I can only share my journey from fear to love and what that did for my life, my connection, and my feelings towards others.

One of the ways I feel more connected through nature. I get to connect with the pure energy running through the Earth that my feet touch, feeling air grazing against my skin, hearing nature in action, seeing the miracles of each creation, and tasting the foods that nature brings to my plate. I see the Divine Creator in the energy of life. I connect through my AWE.

Another way, I feel connected is through meditation. I once heard that prayer was a place to ask the question and meditation is a place we can be quiet enough to hear and feel the answer. That has proved true in my life. When I’m really connected, I’m amazed at what can come out after a meditation.

I can also feel more connected with an individual, group of individuals, or stories about individuals experiences who share the same excitement about connection. This connection is not always spiritual to the people I’m with, that I’m watching, or reading about. But to me, anytime we are celebrating acts of love, I’m connected to Spirit. It’s part of the reason I can cry anytime I’m moved by a stories that express love. It could be a beer commercial and if I’m connected to an act of love, I’m one with the Divine Creator—And yes there can be waterfalls coming out of my eyes during beer commercials.

As for what disconnects me, listening to individuals teaching fear makes me feel less connected. I remember sitting in church as a little girl and something didn’t feel right. I felt shame sitting there. I felt unworthy. I felt unlovable. As I grew older and experienced different religious practices with friends, I saw that not all religious services were the same. I saw not all interpretations of the Creator made me feel unworthy. I didn’t realize that it was my connection to spirit leading me at the time, I actually felt lost for many years. The Divine had actually been answering my prayers and I wasn’t lost, I was being led on my spiritual journey.

I’ve been drawn to many books, classes, religious services, and people over the years that find away to connect different religious practices through their stories of love in action. I’ve been drawn to services that make me want to take notes because they give me so many ideas on how to incorporate practices into my daily life. Looking back, every note I took gave me ways to add more love to my life and feel more compassion and understanding about my views of others and  views about myself.

As I got older, I finally had my AHA moment. My spiritual journey connected to Spirit through acts of love. That is why when I was taught to fear my Creator it didn’t feel right. That is why when I heard someone say, “I’m a God fearing man”, I would have a visceral reaction. That is why when I finally saw the definition of love in Corinthians in the Bible EVERYTHING came together in my head. I had to remember all the editors of these stories, interpreters of the words, representatives of religious practices in every work of religion are HUMAN! Every person interpreting the work is going to be affected by the words in their own way. Humans have agenda. The agenda may be for people to create more love, but others may be to instill fear. That’s why we can go to six different services within the same sector of religion and hear and feel messages of fear or love. Some of them try to mix the two, which by the definition of love that I follow (See Day 32), isn’t love. Love doesn’t cause us to fear our Creator. Humans do. Love doesn’t cause pain—FEAR DOES! My connection to Spirit has nothing to do with how other individuals view the printed word, scriptures, and/or sermons.  How they read a book and interpret words is their personal journey.

My connection is through the love that I feel in my heart and soul. I literally feel it in my body. My connection is through the miracles in life that have been about acts of love. Wayne Dyer described ego as, “Edging God Out.” When I connect to Source (Spirit, Divine, Creator, God) through love, my spiritual path feels clear and unclouded. I don’t do things in fear that I won’t be accepted into Heaven. I do thing because I genuinely want to show love and compassion to all that has been created, even if I truly don’t understand its purpose.  I do things because I want to make this Earthly experience better. I do things because I want to leave this world knowing that I spread as much love as I possibly could. I want to leave my body knowing that I loved and appreciated it for the time I was meant to have it.

I don’t have to believe in each person’s interpretation of Spirit to connect to him or her. I connect through the love that I know a person has inside them. I can pray for a person to find their way out of the dark (fear, hate, blame, shame, judgment). I can pray for myself to not get caught up in mine. My spiritual journey has led me to appreciate the love in the world. I’m not going to follow a figure through acts of fear—I follow through acts of love. Part of my journey has been about not confusing the two.

I personally love hearing how people connect to their personal spiritual journeys. When I HEAR and FEEL the love people have in their heart, it’s a palpable energy that creates miracles. I don’t have to believe what someone else believes to feel the love (light). Just like I don’t have to believe what someone else believes to feel the fear (absence of light). I also don’t have to accept someone else’s darkness.

As a human, I won’t always spread my light in a perfect way, because I still have dark parts of me that get triggered in the face of other people’s darkness. I have to sometimes step back  to gain some perspective and see how to approach a situation with love. My reactions can still be quick sometimes. In those moments, I’m not connected with Source energy. I’m not connected by my love; I’m connected to my fear. The blessing is with sometimes a little prayer and quiet, other times with a lot of prayer and quite— I find my way back. It’s all about the journey!

Just for Today

Look at what makes you feel connected and/or disconnect from Spirit. How has this affected your spiritual journey? Do you energized when you are connected? Do you feel depleted when you don’t? What can you do for yourself to help you increase your connection?


With Love and Gratitude,


Rachael Wolff ©2019


Today’s Letter from A Better Me is, “Embracing Love on My Spiritual Journey” Read it here. Scroll down to follow if you want to get notified when new posts come out.  Thank you for reading!