90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 72 – Honoring My Most Important Love Affair

Letters from A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 72: Honoring My Most Important Love Affair

Dear Self,

With this letter, I’m writing my vows to you. You deserve the ultimate love story and I know that I can give it to you. Here are 10 promises I vow to you:

  1. I promise to love you mind, body, and soul at all time because we are lifetime partners and you deserve the greatest love affair.
  2. I promise to respect you and the journey you are on because you are responsible for any feelings, thoughts, perspectives of truth, actions, and reactions that come from you.
  3. I promise to honor the time that I have with you and be present to your needs, because I know your time is valuable.
  4. I promise to protect you from situations that aren’t in your best interest, because you are valuable.
  5. I promise stand up for you when you need a voice because your voice is important.
  6. I promise to explore and go on adventures with you because I know that is what you love to do.
  7. I promise to take steps to follow your passions because they are part of what makes you shine.
  8. I promise to honor your spiritual path because connecting to service through spirit feeds your soul.
  9. I promise to provide your body nourishment because this will be our vessel for this lifetime of learning, love, and growth.
  10. I promise to take the time to slow down and be mindful to nourish our relationship because only through the strength of our relationship will others learn how to treat us.

You and the Divine Source of ALL love are the only two lifetime partners I will ever have. In order to live the best life, I have to show this world the best I’m capable of being and all that starts with my love for you. My light only shines as bright as the love I have inside. I will sabotage any love that isn’t as strong as mine is for you, so these promises not only ensure I live this best life with you, these promises will help me shine my light bright for the world around me. The brighter my light, the more love I’m able to give and receive from others. So with this letter, I fully commit to our love affair. You and the world are worth it!

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for the relationship I have with myself today.
  2. I’m grateful for the knowledge that I’m worthy.
  3. I’m grateful for the opportunity to make today better than yesterday.
  4. I’m grateful for the love I’m capable of giving and receiving to/from others.
  5. I’m grateful for being a life partner with the person I am today.

With Love and Gratitude,


A Better Me


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 72 – Having the Most Important Love Affair


Questioning the Boxes: Am I Holding Myself Back from A Better Life?

Oh, the boxes we can put ourselves in. I posted a video on my Facebook page by Goalcast called: Meghan Markle: The Princess and the Box. Before posting it, I watched the piece with my 11-year-old daughter. I was moved to tears, to the point where she asked me if I was o.k. I mean, there were waterfalls coming out of my eyes. On Facebook, I wrote, “Tears of inspiration, love, and hope ran down my face as I watched this story, reading it to my daughter sitting next to me. Thank you to all the women and men who teach their children not to compromise who they are to fit inside any box. Loving and accepting who we are is essential for a healthy and happy life.”  As you probably guess by the name of my blog and Facebook page, I write from a loving place. Some may call me an empath, others will call me sentimental, mushy or emotional.  Whatever the case, I have a deep love for humanity.

I was saddened to read a comment that made all the hype about Meghan Markle entering the Royal Family about race, and they were angry because there have been bi-racial people throughout time, “Why all the sudden no one recognizes that!!???” It made me realize just how many boxes we put ourselves in.

When I watched the video originally, I was so moved because I thought of all the metaphorical boxes we put ourselves into: Sex, race, sexually-orientation, religious beliefs, political beliefs, IQ, education status,  single parent, stay-at-home parent, working parent, and on and on. However, even with all those boxes I didn’t even consider the boxes we put ourselves in about our views as a whole. I didn’t think about how we can create so much unhappiness within ourselves creating absolutes such as, no one, all, everyone, always, forever, and never. Those boxes can be even detrimental to our very core. Am I holding myself back from a better life?


When we are speaking for entire cultures, races, nations, religions, men, women, LGBT, time, and so on, we lose. It is our loss because we’re not looking at individuals. We aren’t seeing humanity. We’re making assumptions of ALL and EVERY. I’ve caught myself doing this, and I’ve seen how others have kept themselves trapped in a box because of it. How many of us are exactly like our mothers, fathers, sisters, or brothers? Do you have all the exact beliefs as your best friend? Do you agree with everything everyone says within your church, school, work, home, or museum? If you look at a painting do you think you would interpret it differently than another man and/or woman? Do you ever change your mind based on new information coming in? How can we judge any form of “ALL”?  What do we know about the future an hour from now? How about five years, ten years, or twenty years? We have no idea, and when we think that we know it all, we are putting out negative energy. What we know is what is happening right now, for ourselves. That’s it. My children are at school, they may have left here telling me one thing and when they come home, I get a completely different interpretation of events and people. This is life.


This really opened my eyes to the pain we can create for ourselves. I see how when we think we can judge beyond what we know in absolutes, which is not much. We have the ability to hurt ourselves and others. I can’t speak for everyone; I can speak for me. I can question my thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions to what someone else says or does. I can ask myself how I really feel about it. I can question if my thoughts are contributing to the life I want to be living. If the thoughts are NOT helping me be the best version of myself, I can change them.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2018

A Month of Gratitude

A couple years ago I took a challenge on Facebook. EVERY day I wrote what I was grateful for in the month of November.This wasn’t the first time I dedicated a few minutes of my day to gratitude. I have used it as a tool for about seven years. When I can’t seem to get my head out of the vicious spin cycle, I go to gratitude. Now that I have a Facebook page: From A Loving Place (click on the red to take you to the page), I decided I wanted to share the gifts that come with focusing our energy in a more loving and appreciative place. If you have Facebook and would like to join in on the experience, please like the page, click “Following” then click on “See First” doing this will ensure that the daily dose of gratitude shows up in your News Feed.


The state of gratitude raises our vibrational energy and we start attracting amazing people and adventures to our lives. We also help heal the world, because when our focus is there, we don’t get pulled down by other people’s drama. We also become clear enough to see solutions and alternative thought patterns. I hope you will join me in spreading gratitude.

If you don’t have Facebook, I hope you will commit to yourself to write down three things your grateful for each day. Here’s a trick to getting the most out of it: You have to completely engage the feeling of gratitude. Feel the awe of the moment that you are grateful for, and revel in the feeling for a second. I will warn you, some blessings might be disguised as chaos at first. STICK TO IT! Miracles come after the chaos. Our ego gets used to being in control and when we try to break free sometimes everything can look worse, but push through. The miracles are on the other side. If you are anything like me, they will be better than anything you could have imagined was possible.


Keep your head in the gratitude. Don’t utter the words, “I can’t believe this is happening!” Don’t think or say any variation of it. Saying things like that actually sabotage the good in our life. We send a message out there that we don’t deserve the good that is happening to us, then we start looking for reasons it’s not as good as it seems. Our focus becomes stuck there instead of in the gratitude, so we start finding flaws. Before we know it, the great thing that happened is gone. I learned that lesson over and over again the hard way, I mean beat down with the emotional 2×4 hard way.

No matter what you decide to do today, I hope you have a grateful day!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

You can also find me on Twitter sharing daily gratitude @Wolffspirit9

A Better Life Begins With Gratitude Click this link to read more about the power of gratitude.