#BookPartyChat Twitter Interview about LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME

Last Wednesday, I was honored to be a part of a #Bookpartychat. This was my first-ever Twitter interview about Letter from A Better Me and the writing process with the incredible author Laura Zam, The Pleasure Plan.

Below, you will find the interview in its entirety. Each post is embedded from Twitter. You will be able to go into your Twitter account, like, comment, and retweet anything that moves you or you want to talk a little more about. I hope you enjoy this #Bookpartychat.

A Little Bit about Me

About Letters from A Better Me

“Why do you use letters?”

“Are these your personal letters?”

“What do the three parts of the book represent?”

“Was it difficult to write Part I?”

“Did the book help you deal with our current moment?”

“Can you tell us about your writing process?”

“Did you go right to a publisher, or did you use an agent?”

“Can you tell us about your publisher?

“How long did the process take?”

“What do you believe your book has to offer in the midst of the pandemic we are in?”

“If readers could only take one concept from the book, what would it be?”

“What are you working on now?”

“What’s the best way for people to find you?”

You are here, so you have most the links to find me, the only one you may not have is my YouTube Channel: Letters from A Better Me

Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World is available in ALL formats. The booksellers listed in the links below are for the United States, but it is available in multiple countries. Please go to your trusted book sellers to find your copy!

https://fromalovingplace.com/book/

You can find samples of both the ebook and audiobook here:

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

Who Is My Reader?

When I was asked in the marketing meeting about who I wanted to read my book, I thought every woman could get something out of it, since it covers romantic relationships, family, parenting, career, spirituality, addiction, unhealthy belief systems, and all things self. I also thought men could gain a lot of understanding and get a lot from it too, because it would not only give them tools, but help to better communication and empower themselves to make positive change in their lives.

For those who struggle in any unhealthy belief patterns, it gives tools to get out. For those who are healthy, it may help them see how their belief systems help them and give them a better understanding of those who struggle.

The book celebrates authentic empowerment. “Empower Yourself, Change the World!” When we see our own value, we lift others up and don’t tear them down. Authentic empowerment comes from love not fear. It’s about representing what we stand for and not putting our energy into what we are against (VERY IMPORTANT in today’s climate).

The marketing team said I needed to narrow it down to the one reader. Who was the one person I wanted to get through to with my book? I had the picture of the exact person in my mind. I want to get to the woman who is stuck in patterns of abuse, whether it be self-abuse or abuse from others, because self-abuse tends to lead to abuse (mental, emotional, or physical) from either bosses, partners, children, etc. We can accept from others the level of abuse that we give to ourselves.Some unhealthy patterns were passed down so unconsciously that we have to dig down to see them.

The book deals with what belief systems got us into the patterns that get us to act against ourselves in our lives and how to change them. There are so many reasons a person can choose to pick up the book, but if I can help that one person see their value and give them the tools to lift themselves out of living a life they are not passionately in love with, I’ve helped to make the world better.

When we help others see their best selves, it creates an unstoppable ripple effect. I would have never been able to write this book, if I didn’t have every experience I did, read every book that I did, and believe everything that I did. I’m continuously learning how to better myself, and I will until my journey here is done. With that, I’m able to continually give others seeds to help lift them as I get lifted.

At the time of this post, March 3, 2020, it’s been two weeks since Letters from a Better Me has been out and a little over that for the audiobook, and the audiobook is still in the Top 100 for Domestic Partner Abuse (link). My heart feels full knowing that people are getting the seeds I’m giving. I hope they choose to plant them and that they flourish into beautiful flowers. Life is precious, we each deserve to live lives we love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

You can choose from one of your favorite book retailers here: http://FromALovingPlace.com/Book/

Amazon has the book on sale at the time of this post, and it’s the only place to get the audiobook (Audible).You can see a preview of the book and a sample of the audiobook when you click on the link below.

Book Launch Day: Letters from A BETTER ME

BEST FEELING EVER

Driving down the road to familiar words. They are my words coming through my speakers. The beautiful voice of Kate Mulligan fills my car as she articulates the messages of the book so clearly. You can feel the letters in her voice.

(Link to sample of audiobook here)

Barnes & Noble Naples, FL

Naples Barnes & Noble is like coming home to me. I’ve spent so many hours in these stacks of books. Tina Wainscott of the Seymour Agency, who is now my agent, and I used to come here when I was going through a very dark time in my life. I would look through books in the sections, where now my book sits. I would let the Universe guide my fingers as I would pull a book from the shelf. Now, I think about how just maybe, a woman struggling to find her worth will do the same thing and come across my book. She will look inside and realize, this is exactly what I’m looking for.

I have purchased so many of the books that got me where I am today from this store. There was no where else I wanted to be on launch day! Tina shows up with beautiful flowers with a Letters from A Better Me sign tucked in, perfect, just perfect! The President of the Seymour Agency pleasantly surprises us for this special moment.

My partner and my kids are by my side. They finally get to see the culmination of everything I’ve been working on. If you have or have ever had teenagers, you probably get the power of a moment like this. For the past two years, they have been listening to me talk about writing, but not seeing the bigger picture of what that means. In this moment, they got to see their mom’s name and book looking back at them.

I got there at 11:30AM, by the time I came down to sign stock copies, there were only two left. Ten more were ordered for the store before I left. On Wednesday, I heard that people were already beginning to reserve the upcoming order. I feel so incredibly blessed to not only have the support of this amazing community, but of Barnes & Noble for making sure people in Naples had a place to go to get their copy!

Celebrating on the Patio of CaNtina 109

Finishing the night with an AMAZING cake from my AMAZING agent and Soul Sister!

A Truly AMAZING DAY

Standing in a labyrinth feeling the desert breeze in Sedona, Arizona, I ask myself “Can I write a women’s empowerment book?”

YES!

Other purchasing options can be found here: http://FromALovingPlace.com/Book/

Thank you to the amazing team at Mango Publishing and Blackstone Publishing for bringing this book, ebook, and audiobook to life!

With So Much Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

Audible Release Day of Letters from A Better Me

Today is a very exciting day for me. I love audiobooks, and today mine comes out. It feels surreal. The narrator is the wonderful, Kate Mulligan. Her voice is the perfect fit for this book. You can hear a sample when you click on the link.

3 MORE DAYS UNTIL THE PAPERBACK AND EBOOK RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!!!

Other purchasing options are Apple Books, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million, Indiebound.org, Target.com, Walmart.com, and more.

The Box: A Writer’s Dream

Did you know that when some authors publish a book they receive a box of their books before it is released? There are all kinds of videos online showing this magical reveal of the author seeing, smelling, touching, and listening to the sounds as the pages move through their fingers.  A writer’s dream comes to life before your eyes. Many authors have told me that there is nothing like that moment. All the time, work, love, devotion, and passion that were poured into every page are now a real physical entity. 

As I began my journey writing a book, I witnessed some of these videos. I could feel the joy through the screen. I pictured myself one day opening this mysterious box. At the time, I had no idea what the book cover would look like or even what the book would be about. The only thing I knew is that I wanted the title of the book to be, Letters from A Better Me

Now in front of me sits this box of books begging to be opened, but like a first date, kiss, and well you-know… I want this moment to be as fitting to the way I live my life as possible, so I will wait to open the box in the place that gives me the most inspiration. It’s my way of returning the AWE to nature, because it is in nature that most of my clarity comes from. Being out there will also help calm my nerves as I do my first-ever public Facebook Live. 

If you want to see what it’s like for someone’s dreams to become real before your eyes, you can join me on Facebook Live Tuesday, January 14, 2020 @ 5:15pm EST. If you miss it, you will be able to see it on my Facebook Page, Facebook.com/Lettersfromabetterme.

Life is made up of moments that are a combination of everything we put into them. Some of the emotions I had to stir up in Part I to make this journey as authentic as possible were very trying for me. I had to go back into traumatic events to remember feelings and actions. I needed to tap into a time where I had NO self-worth. Then I got to move from those dark times of struggle into the transformation process, which fills me with such joy and AWE that I spent many hours crying tears of joy as I typed page after page.

 This is one of those moments that is like taking a first step. Letters from A Better Me is my first book, so I’ve never experienced anything like this before. Just like a proud mama wants to capture those first steps, I want this moment to stay with me forever.  

Dreams do come true. First we have to make a choice to start doing the work to draw them closer. Otherwise they will just stay out of reach.

Wishing you all a dream-fulfilling journey. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

36 More Days Until the Release of Letters from A Better Me

The Writer in Me

Middle school was where I truly began to appreciate the power of the pen. I honestly thought I was stupid until essay questions became more standard on tests. The biggest complaint I would get is there were too many details, but little did they know that was just my divergent brain taking in the limitless possibilities.  Language Arts was the one class I could count on to disappear in a piece of paper. 

Freshman year in high school, I just got out of a treatment program.  I loved it there. I felt like I was in the safest place in the world. I knew what was expected out of me. I was given more responsibilities and privileges the harder I worked, and I got consequences when I broke the rules. I knew what to expect from the time the morning alarm sounded until lights out. To me, it felt like I was wrapped in a cocoon protected from the outside world. 

Leaving the safety of the program was overwhelming. I was used to sitting in my little cubicle quietly doing my schoolwork—No opinions, no discussions, just reading and answering questions. There were no judgments from other students because none of us were on the same material. Even then, I loved learning. There was a safety buried somewhere within the knowledge. 

My freshman Language Arts teacher assigned us a poem about a flower. I wish I had kept that poem. It must have been dark because somehow he could see how I was feeling through what I wrote. He pulled me aside and told me that poetry was like a secret language I could use to get out how I was really feeling. That’s when I started writing poem after poem. 

Poetry helped me find the rhythm in my words. That skill would pay off in many ways through school and through out my multitude of careers. I much prefer to write out what I’m thinking and take people on a journey through the words.

My senior year of high school, I had all my necessary credits to graduate, so I took an independent study of poetry. Many people thought I would pick this one L.A. teacher whom everyone loved. I picked the one that most people dreaded and feared. She was tough, and I knew she wouldn’t let me get away with anything. I wanted to be pushed beyond my comfort zone.

By the time my senior year ended, I had written over one hundred poems. They went to some of my darkest places and helped me to process some of the traumas that tore up my soul. Poetry was the safest place for me to explore my darkest corners. 

By the time I was twenty, I was writing training programs. By twenty-four, I wrote a monthly sales column in an indoor tanning magazine, and by twenty-five I was writing business proposals for more money than I could imagine at the time. Yet, the writing didn’t ever touch me like the dance I had with poetry.

Then just like that, the darkness crept in and I somehow I forgot how to expose it to the light. I forgot how to dance. The dark period would last for years. Then through a series of traumatic events, I picked up my pen and began to write and write, but instead of poetry it was letters. I would write and burn letters to process all my pain. 

With my writing came more healing than I ever knew I needed. I wrote my way into and through college loving every minute of it. I learned so much about technical writing. I thought it would be fun to take a creative non-fiction course. Little did I know it would be one of my most challenging courses, but I was bound and determined to do my best. I sat in a room full of the most talented CREATIVE WRITING MAJORS— I a Human Development major. Let’s just say, I had to REALLY learn to be more flexible with my writing fast. I felt so over my head. They didn’t let me drown, and I’m so grateful for each and every critique. I felt honored to hear, see, and feel the talent in that room. With that, I learned how to dance a different dance of words. 

FromALovingPlace.com was born from deep inside of me; a calling from my soul that has allowed me to continue my dance with words. The writer in me calls me to write letters, gratitude lists, blogs, sayings, articles, and now books.  My dance begins the second my fingers touch the keys. I started today’s post not having any idea what was going to come out, I just started to dance and my fingers took over. 

I allow my passion to take me on this journey daily and I feel full and abundant.

Thank you to all the teachers and professors who taught me how to turn on my light and dance with words. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2020

40 MORE DAYS TO THE RELEASE OF LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME!

Here’s What’s Coming

FEBRUARY 15, 2020

Audible’s release of LETTERS FROM A BETTER ME from Blackstone Publishing

February 18, 2020

PAPERBACK AND EBOOK RELEASE DAY

Letters from a Better Me from Mango Publishing Paperback and E-Book release date. Go to Goodreads.com to see available on-line retailers.

February 29, 2020

I will be leading my Becoming the Butterfly Workshop at Dream Con St. Petersburg, Florida

Go to the Link Below to Let Me Know You Are Going!

https://www.facebook.com/events/950357578670705/

March 15, 2020

Book Signing at Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore Atlanta, Georgia

MARCH 22, 2020-CAncelled COVID-19

Book Signing at Coral Springs Festival (click on link for more information) of the Arts at the Walk Coral Springs, Florida

Go to the events link below to let me know you are going!

https://www.facebook.com/events/578801839496859/

APRIL 5, 2020-CANCELLED COVID-19

Book Signing (Local Authors Event) at Barnes & Noble in Ft. Myers, Florida

APRIL 18, 2020-CANCELLED COVID-19

Book Signing (Local Authors Event) at Barnes & Noble in Naples, Florida

Dreams Coming True: Becoming the Butterfly

Dear Dreamers, 

I’m writing this today simply because I am beyond excited for what is going on in my life right now. As I reflect on my journey so far, I’m simply amazed at how each and every event in my life has played such an important role in where I am right now. If you follow my writing, you understand that I use nature a lot to make sense of the journey. I want to bring you into my mind’s garden.

My Internal Garden

As a child, my garden was filled with weeds, smuggling vines, and invasive species that tried to kill off any of the beautiful life I would try to plant. So much so that it almost smuggled the life right out of me. It was in 1996 when I realized that I could clear out some of these weeds. That’s when I was launched into a career of public speaking. I planted flower after flower and tree after tree, but what I didn’t realize is that because I didn’t fix the foundation my garden was on, one day I would sabotage this dream come true. 

Those smuggling vines took over my garden once again and I went on a downward spiral. I had so much to learn. Looking back I’m so grateful for all my lessons in my time of darkness. I was living life as a caterpillar that spewed toxic venom because of the environment I created. There were still trees of life and wisdom trying to survive which would lead me to seek help when I was desperate enough to realize that I didn’t like the person I had become. Looking back I was given so many amazing seeds during this time, and it was a message from a pastor that finally led me to really invest myself in not only cleaning up the invasive species from my garden, but to clean up my foundation so that my trees could grow and provide the food that the caterpillar needs to transform into the butterfly. 

His message was that we only allow ourselves as much happiness that we believe we deserve. If we exceed that level of happiness, we will sabotage it. 

You better believe I started getting really dirty in my garden to figure out why I didn’t believe I deserved happiness in my life. As I dug deeper, and got dirtier, the work brought me peace. The more peace I found digging in my garden, the healthier my soil became. I started taking care of those seeds that were given to me. My caterpillar self, started to build a chrysalis. 

I sat for a long time in my chrysalis gaining strength, reflecting, and transforming. In the chrysalis is where I learned the power of letting go and forgiveness. The person I needed to forgive the most was myself. From there, I found away to learn from all the traumas in my life.

What I learned gave me power to plant more amazing trees and let them flourish. I absorbed lesson after lesson of on perspectives to understand how powerful each and every person is at creating their own gardens, and that what others chose to plant was not my business. All I can ever do for someone is to offer seeds in the way that I know best. I also have to take responsibility if I learn that the seeds I’m passing aren’t healthy.

In my chrysalis I found stillness, presence, and mindfulness to keep me in the mindset of maintaining my garden. I realized that any belief that causes me pain doesn’t HAVE to be in my garden, that is a choice I’m making. I have the power to choose my feelings, thoughts, beliefs/perspectives, actions, and reactions. I will learn from each decision I make and I will allow this choice to set me free­— with that, I became the butterfly. My garden now healthy and well maintained provides me with all that I need to keep me nourished, energized, rested, and able to soar. 

This doesn’t mean I won’t need to go back on a caterpillar’s journey again, because each time I do go back, I learn more. I no longer resent the journey, I embrace it, because I know it leads to breakthrough. I gain more perspective, and I become a better version of myself. I just don’t stay in the caterpillar state as long. I move into my chrysalis absorb my lessons and come out more empowered and colorful each time. 

Why Am I Sharing this Journey with You?

I created a program called, “Becoming the Butterfly” that I’m launching at a Dreamer’s Paradise *Now or Never event in St. Petersburg, FL, Oct. 26, 2019. As I’ve been preparing for this moment, I’m flooded with emotion because this will be my first event since 2002. I started my public speaking career in the Tampa Bay Area and now I’m going back there to re-launch my career with so much more to offer. I’m coming home. I’ve been standing up in front of crowds since I was 14-years old. I went on to earn awards in high school for public speaking, English, and guidance, yet back then never knew that it would lead to a path that I loved being on. My garden is exactly how I want it right now. I’m ready to share the seeds that helped me to create it.

This comes in perfect timing as my first book is coming out on February 18, 2020. Make no mistake; there is a reason the butterfly is on the cover. You can read more about it and *pre-order your copy today. 

If you want to start getting dirty right now, you can go to my *90-Day A Better Me Series

Just remember we are the ones who create our gardens.  We have to provide ourselves with the right food to nurture us to become the butterfly. Watching butterflies soar above us, won’t give us our wings. If we want to live the life of our dreams, we can’t just admire the butterflies around us. We have to do the work it takes to become the butterfly. Only then will we soar.

Thank you for being on this journey with me by reading my work. I started writing this blog in 2016 as way to help me maintain my garden. Focusing on perspectives that keep my energy in a loving place has been such an empowering tool. It keeps my foundation filled with love, which is what encourages all the seeds I want in my garden to grow. I am beyond grateful to each individual who has told me how my seeds have helped her/him. I can’t make anyone plant seeds in their gardens and nobody can make me plant seeds I don’t want in mine, so when I know that a person made the conscious decision to do it, I’m truly honored. 

I hope you will join me in spreading the love on social media. The *Facebook.com/FromALovingPlace page offers lots and lots of daily encouragement from pages who have a like-minded visions of  raising our collective energy. You will find all my social media links at on the main page to the left. I hope you decide to work on your garden so that you can be living the life of your dreams. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff 

*Links for more information

Read more about my perspectives on cleaning up our internal gardens here.

90-Day Series Updates

Dear Readers,

I’m excited to inform you that I’ve been through each day of the FREE  90-Day A Better Me Series and the 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series and now BOTH series are fully available on FromALovingPlace.com. I provided links on each day for easy navigation through every piece of the series. Now that the series is complete, it makes it easier to read like you would a book. Whether you are reading the series again, like some of you have told me you are, or you are new to the 90-Day A Better Me journey, I hope you enjoy it. It was a pleasure to write it and an even greater pleasure to talk with the followers of both series.

Now, I need to go and focus on the editing my book coming out at the end of 2019. If you want to stay in the loop, make sure to subscribe to e-mails. Thank you for all the readers, followers, and commenters. I appreciate each and every one of you!!

Here at the direct links to both series:

90-Day A Better Me Series

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

 

Happy reading!

 

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2019