Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #353

I’m grateful for the opportunity to make a different choice. These words feel so freeing to write. I CAN MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE. I tell myself this when my mind starts to spin with thoughts aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I love that I don’t have to beat myself up over the choices I’ve made in my past, I can just choose differently now. The option to make a different choice is ALWAYS right there. I can change my mind, set new boundaries, or take a different road. Life became a whole new adventure when I got out of my own way and made a different choice.

Today, I commit to considering my choices. I used to complicate this process by making myself prisoner of my choices. I held myself hostage by my past decisions and what I feared in the upcoming future. I’m in the process of detaching from outcome and just making the step that I believe is best in the moment. By slowing down to consider my choices, I can see if I’m aligning with energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. If I choose to take a few steps aligned with fear, I can choose at any point to take the next step towards love. I don’t have to stay moving in any direction that I don’t want to be heading. I can change direction in this moment. Here’s my simple and fun method I’m using today:

  1. What action steps could I take in this moment to serve my highest good right now?
  2. Which step feels most aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace?
  3. DO IT!
  4. Repeat steps 1-3

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback (click title to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #322

I’m grateful for choices. When I discovered just how many choices I have, I became free. I used to feel limited by my choices because of what was happening around me. I remember feeling trapped, imprisoned, victimized, and everything else that goes with fear-based thinking. I labeled myself by what happened to me. I let other people label me by my circumstances and worst of all I would believe what they thought about the label they gave me. I still slip into that from time to time when I start telling myself stories of why I am the way I am because I’m a single mom. I have to continue to make choices to shift my perspectives to not be victimized by my own story telling. Becoming aware of the stories playing in my head and realizing that I could make choices to change the story—Changed my WORLD!

Now, I see endless choices. Sometimes it can be overwhelming, but that is where my faith comes in. I trust that whatever I choose in the moment is for a reason. That choice can be anything from helping me open my eyes to a hard truth to revealing a moment of AWE. Both moments hold equal value because both are a part of my journey.

Just thinking about choices made me think about some of the choice revelations I’ve written about in this series (Click subjects to see the posts):

Really, everything I write about is about choices I’m making to align with love, abundance, and peace daily.

Today, I commit to considering my choices. I can choose to sit in my stories aligned with love, abundance, and peace or my stories aligned with fear, lack, and separation. I make this choice moment to moment. With every moment I’m blessed to live, I get this choice. The more aware I am of my stories, the more I allow myself to make choices to keep them going or stop them and shift them into a better or worse light. It is ALWAYS my choice. How AMAZING is that? Nobody and nothing have to change around me for me to choose to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. This is the beauty of free will.

Considering my choices helps me to realize just how many choices I actually have. When I consider my choices, I can see that reward and/or consequences. I can also figure out where my energy is aligned with my choice. If I’m spinning a story that causes me pain, I’m making choices from the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I feel light and expansive, I’m making choices from the energy of love, abundance, and peace. Even when I’m making hard choices, if they are aligned with love, abundance, and peace, I will feel like there is a weight taken off of me. I love how my body works with me to help me see where I actually am inside.

So much incredible power comes from just considering my choices consciously. I’m so grateful to have experienced this to KNOW what freedom truly feels like. I am responsible and accountable for my choices.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World – Click title to learn more

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #236

I’m grateful for the FREEDOM to live consciously. If that is true, it also means I have the FREEDOM to live unconsciously whenever I choose too. Living consciously aligns me with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, while living unconsciously aligns me with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Every breath gives me a choice on how I want to the live in this moment I’m alive. How amazing is that? I’m never condemned to live in an energy that isn’t serving me. If I want to change how I live, it all begins with a conscious thought and then a conscious action. I can live consciously until I choose not to.

One of the things I love to pay attention to is when I choose to go unconscious and align with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Getting myself back into conscious thinking can be hysterical, frustrating, fast, slow, tedious, and/or graceful among other things, but I love figuring out what works and what doesn’t in the moment I’m in.

Lately, I’ve been thoroughly enjoying the books I’ve been reading out on my back deck overlooking our community’s manmade lake, at least they call them lakes here in Florida. My energy has been so much higher by spending this time out there with my complete focus on the energy I want to see more of in the world. I even feel calmer and more at peace interacting with my two teenagers.

When I realize that I have the freedom to choose how I want to live between the ears, which is the power that sets me free to live my best life—I’m more inspired to do the work to keep me there. Living consciously is a choice I have to make as often as I can, or I will slip into unconscious living, which is such an incredibly painful place to live.

Today, I commit to embracing the FREEDOM to choose conscious living. This is a moment by moment commitment. If I choose to engage in watching shows, media, and/or social media, I need to pay attention to where my energy is aligning while I’m there. If I choose to engage with friends who are having personal challenges, I have to choose where I’m going to allow my energy to go. Will I go down with them into fear, lack, and separation, or will I hold my energy in love, abundance, and peace while supporting them through their challenging time? If someone hates me, I have to choose if I want to hop on the revenge cycle and hate them back amplifying the energy of fear, lack, and separation, or do embrace forgiveness and stay in the energy of love, abundance, and peace? There are so many choices, but the choice is NEVER in someone else’s hands. It is always mine. Even if I choose to take the path of fear, lack, and separation for a short period of time, I get to choose whether I want to amplify that choice with guilt, blame, and shame for going there, or I can show myself compassion and move on to make a different choice in the next moment which will align me with love, abundance, and peace.

Understanding that I can never be in the energy of love, abundance, and peace vs. fear, lack, and separation in the same moment, but I’m never committed to be in either one beyond the moment that I’m in. I’m always free to make a new choice in the very next breath. Choosing consciously awakens our souls to the inner knowing of the Divine. More on that to come! Keep reading if you are drawn to join this journey with me. You can receive daily emails by subscribing below.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click the title for more info)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #29

We choose how we view the world. We choose! I absolutely love that I get the choice in how I want to perceive the world around me. I’m so incredibly grateful that no matter what is going on in the world, I CHOOSE where to put my focus. I choose what energy I project, and what energy is reflected back to me. I know when I’m making healthy choices, because I project natural boundaries that don’t feel forced. I’m grateful I get to choose what I will give my energy to and what energy I will allow in. I’m grateful that my perception of the world is in nobody else’s hands but mine, and I will not give my power away by blaming someone else when I choose to see through the lens of fear, lack, and separation. I’m so GRATEFUL for my FREE WILL.

What do you need to do in order to look at the world from a place of love, gratitude, and peace? If you can’t answer this question, think about it. If you don’t know how to move yourself into the energy of love, abundance, and peace, you are giving your power away. When we blame others for our view of the world, we’ve given our power away and we contribute to the energy of fear, lack, and separation, because that is where blame lives. Even if we are blaming ourselves. It’s important that we become responsible and accountable for ourselves without self-abusing with blame. Consciously choose to see the world in a way that makes you feel love, gratitude, and peace. Just for today. See how it feels. This doesn’t mean you won’t feel sadness, grief, anger, or fear at certain points. It means when you do feel those things, you will allow yourself to feel them. Then you will see what they are their to teach you. Once you do that, you will peacefully let the feeling pass through you. When we do this, our feelings don’t come out sideways on others, which makes the world a more peaceful place in general.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #23

Today, I’m choosing to test some waters. I’ve been doing the daily work staying aligned with love, abundance, and peace for over three weeks now. I’m going to consciously look at when I choose the energy of love, abundance, and peace OVER fear, lack, and separation. When I consciously notice I’ve made the choice, I’m going to stop, breathe, and sit in gratitude for making this empowering choice. We can be in whatever energy we want no matter what is happening around us and no matter what our pasts look like. WE HAVE THE CHOICE. I’m so incredibly grateful for this choice because I’ve seen what it’s like to live in the energy of constant fear, lack, and separation. I didn’t like myself or what I was projecting out in the world. I got back all the energy I put out and it was a VERY painful part of my journey. I’m grateful I realized through a lot of inner work that I don’t have to make that choice. I can’t control what anybody says, thinks, or does. I CAN make CHOICES for myself that will lift my energy to where I want it to be.

Today, I’m choosing to test some waters. I’ve been doing the daily work staying aligned with love, abundance, and peace for over three weeks now. I’m going to consciously look at when I choose the energy of love, abundance, and peace OVER fear, lack, and separation. This doesn’t mean with the stuff that is already aligned with that energy, it means when it’s not. I’m going to look at when I’m watching, listening, reading, and/or encountering people’s words/actions who are projecting the energy of fear, lack, and separation. During those times, I’m going to consciously tap into the energy of love, abundance, and peace inside me and pay close attention to how that choice makes me feel inside and/or how I respond in situations when I’m faced with it. If you join me, I promise you will get lots of chances. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t choose love, abundance, and peace every time. It takes LOTS and LOTS of practice. I’m definitely NOT perfect at it. When you do choose it, consciously take the moment in by taking a deep cleansing breath, sitting in gratitude, and paying close attention to what it feels like in your body. Enjoy the journey!

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff

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What is True about Choices?

If you convince yourself you don’t have choices, you will CHOOSE to believe that is true.

If you convince yourself you ALWAYS have choices, you will CHOOSe to believe that is true.

I know which perspective I’m going to choose! Now, you get to choose for you.

Choices of Perspective

I’ve chosen both of these perspectives at different times in my life. One kept me a prisoner and held me under water. The other set me free. I refuse to believe I don’t have choices in how I view things. The perspectives I choose keep me from feeling trapped in any ONE thought or belief system. I LOVE THAT! I CAN CHANGE. I CAN tell others what has worked for me and what hasn’t. In the end, we each get the OPTION to believe whatever we focus our attention on. We will find ways to prove either side. Our perceptions of reality will ensure that. It all starts and ends within. 

I’ve made my choice to live by the voice that fuels the LOVE inside me. You can choose to tell me that is not possible in your life, and you will be right if that is what you believe to be true. 

I believed I was prisoner of my circumstances. NO ONE could convince me otherwise until I was ready to open myself up to see another way. That was and is my path to A BETTER ME.

With Love and Gratitude, 

© Rachael Wolff 2020

Author of Letters From A Better Me
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You are NOT Stupid!

To the People who Refer to Themselves as Stupid:

We all make mistakes! Mistakes are missteps, detours, and/or stepping stones to growth (as long as we learn from them). They definitely don’t make us stupid. We may try things and fail again and again. You are still not stupid. You may turn to drugs or alcohol thinking you can escape and find out it only makes everything worse. You are still not stupid. Our self-talk defines what feels normal from someone else. How we talk to ourselves makes it okay for someone else to talk to us however we are talking to ourselves. Make sure it’s good. Our self-talk can be the reason we can’t accept compliments if we don’t believe we deserve them. 

You deserve more than calling yourself names. You deserve more than others calling you names. The first step to living better begins with cleaning up your self-talk. If you aren’t going to do it, you will never be able to feel the full appreciation others have for you, because your focus is on the people who treat you the same way you treat yourself. You have lived and survived many lessons in your life. You deserve to be proud of yourself for still being here. You can take life’s circumstances and learn from them. This doesn’t mean you will do this or anything else in life perfectly, because none of us our perfect. Why are you holding yourself to a standard that you don’t hold anyone else to? 

We simply make choices and we have the ability to make a better choices for ourselves in every moment that passes us. Don’t focus on the future or the past. Don’t worry about where this choice will get you or what has happened before. In this moment, make the best choice that you can make. When you make a choice that brings you joy, celebrate it. When you make a choice that brings you pain, learn from it. Don’t be a prisoner by using your choices as a tool to beat yourself up. 

When you feel stupid for the choice you made, write it down, then right down three better choices. Figure out what is creating you to want to make the unhealthy choices, and then forgive yourself. Thank the Universe for the learning experience. Reframing will help you stop beating yourself up.  You are worth your own kindness. When we are not kind to ourselves, we allow others to walk on us. We lie down and become a doormat willingly because we don’t have the self-worth to say something. We try to prove our worth to others by doing for them what they can do for themselves. This still doesn’t make us stupid. We are doing the best we can do in every moment.

Today, commit to making choices that make you feel good inside. Today, do something for yourself that makes you feel valuable. Try looking in the mirror and saying, “I’m not stupid, I’m learning.” Say it until you believe it. When you do, your reality will shift for the better.

With Love and Gratitude, 

A Better Me 

Rachael Wolff © 2020, 2017

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Do You See You?

Who Do You See When You Look in the Mirror?

If you see fear and lack, you are living in your own private hell no matter how it looks to anyone else.

If you see love and abundance, you are living your life to its fullest no matter what it looks like to anyone else.

Our perception is our power or our kryptonite. How others view us is their business. How we view ourselves is ours.

It doesn’t matter who sees you as long as you see you. Nothing will change until we shift our perceptions to reflect our power. When we change how we see ourselves, we change what we see in the world. For better or worse is ALWAYS our own personal choice. Choose wisely!

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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A Better Me Does NOT Mean a Perfect Me

I’m committed to living life as a better me. I know that a better me doesn’t mean a perfect me. I will make mistakes. I will make poor choices. I will have unhealthy reactions. But here’s the thing—I will learn from ALL of them. As long as I’m learning, I stay committed to living life as a better me.

I know I’m not alone. We are going to have days where we don’t make the best decisions. We are going to have days when we feel too lazy to do what is best for our health. We are even going to have days when we take our stuff out on others. Living life as a better me isn’t asking or pretending like perfection is an option.

Living life as a better me might mean we do one thing different today that creates a healthier pattern. We may just be reminded to stop and be grateful, or to slow down and be present. Each step we make is a choice. We choose which direction we are going. Living life as a better me is a commitment to be conscious of the choices we make, then do our best to live this life in the best way possible. When we do that, we not only live better, we serve others better. We simply put the oxygen masks on ourselves first, so that we could see with clarity how to best serve others.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2020

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How Beliefs Work to Help or Hurt Ourselves and Others

Over and over, I’m reminded of how many times us as individuals believe something and try to make what we believe true for someone else. Our thoughts about doing it can be well intended. We can think that our beliefs save someone else from themselves or others. We can think that our education gives us the facts on what is real and what isn’t. We can believe that our faith is what everyone else REALLY needs. We can believe we are more and someone else is less or that we are less and someone else is more. Beliefs can cause us great pain to ourselves and other, and beliefs can lift us up, so we can help others lift themselves. 

Here’s What I Know

Beliefs are perspectives. We can each choose to believe a perspective that feels right to us. We will base our beliefs in science, faith, family, education, culture, society, media, social circles, support groups, religion, relationships, political views, history, etc.  In the end, we will each make the choices that feel right for us at the time. NOBODY’S beliefs are 100% the same. They can’t be. Each individual’s experiences will form, change, alter, shift, grow, and expand based on each event that takes place in his or her life. 

That’s Not True

We all get exposed to people sharing their opinions of what is true and what isn’t. We each have a right to share our truths. We will all find our own truth whether someone else believes what we say or not.  I’ve been told that my way of healing from my history of trauma wasn’t true for victims of rape. UMMMMM… if it is true for me, and it is what helped me have healthy relationships with myself and others—How can someone else say that it’s not true? A victim of any trauma can choose to stay in a place of pain or they can find a path to thrive. It depends on each individual’s mindset on what they want the experience to mean for their lives. I do my best to inform people that my views of the world are MY perspectives. If someone takes a seed that I give and wants to plant it in their internal world that is completely up to them.  But does it make my or their experiences any less true? No, because it is what we are experiencing based on the beliefs we have chosen to follow. 

We are a society that is very quick to judge something as absolute, when very little is actually absolute.  When someone says, “That’s not true” or you find yourself thinking it, just try for a moment to say to yourself, “That is what is true for them, why?” Go deeper! If you want to engage with the person, try to find out why she or he came to the beliefs that are guiding her/him. Here are a few suggestion of questions you could ask:

  • Does believing that make you feel better about yourself or about the world? Why or why not?
  • How does believing that help you make good and healthy choices?
  • How does believing what you do limit your ability to change and grow and/or how does is help it? 
  •  How do you find what you say to be true?
  • Do you think this belief helps or hurts your connections with others?
  • Do you think this belief limits your thinking or expands your opportunity to learn?

Every time I hear myself saying that someone else’s beliefs aren’t true, I have to tell myself that is their perspective of truth. Then, I need to determine whether it is worth trying to find out more, leave it alone, or let them know what I believe.  One thing I know for sure is if someone is drinking or on drugs, I keep my mouth shut and walk away. If I care about the person and authentically want to know why they believe the things they do, I ask when they are sober. We each have to make that choice for ourselves. I can tell you I’ve grown and expanded in my beliefs because of being open to learn and listen about how others think.  If I am exposed to a belief that comes from a place of fear, often time I don’t comment, because I know I need to find my own way of expressing my beliefs, hence my blog, articles I’ve written, and my upcoming book. People who want to know what I believe will choose to read my work, follow me on social media, call, text, or email me with questions or asking for advice. Each of us is having experiences that are true for us right now. The quicker we understand that, the easier it will be to authentically connect with someone else. Our perspectives don’t have to be the same in order to find common ground. 

Our Personal Paths

I know that I’m not going to force anyone to change their beliefs or convince them that what they believe is true or isn’t, that’s not my job. I feel my purpose is to share my perspectives in case there is another person out there that can relate or that is looking to change, shift, and grow because they aren’t comfortable where they are, or they simply want to gain more perspectives to help them find their own perspectives of truth that work best for them.  All I ever can offer someone else is seeds from my garden. Not all my seeds will grow into big strong trees, beautiful flowers, or luscious edibles. If I’m sharing out of old belief systems of pain, chaos, confusion, and/or fear, I’m giving seeds that contain weeds and strangling vines that will do damage if planted. I can’t say I’ve never given these kinds of seeds out because I lived my life in a lot of pain for many years. I didn’t mean to hurt someone else, but I was self-abusing and when we self-abuse, the seeds we have become toxic, invasive species. The healthier I got, the more weeds and strangling vines I pulled out of my own garden. When I did that, I limited the toxic seeds I distributed.

We each start our lives with a collection of seeds. Some of them are inherently planted before we are even able to process thoughts. As we travel along our paths we are given seed after seed and we decided whether or not to plant them. Sometimes we have to make space by clearing out an area of our garden that no longer serves us. No garden is the same. All gardens are ever-changing, growing, and expanding. Some are not well kept and are neglected. Others are thriving with amazing life. Then there is everything in-between. 

Our Choices

Many of us limit our power by believing we don’t have any. We convince ourselves that we are trapped (a perspective). We give our power away time and time again by blaming others for the way we feel, think, act, and react. We give away our power by believing someone or something can make us live the way we are living. Nothing outside of us needs to change in order to live a better life. What needs to be worked on is between our own two ears. When we realize how much power we have to internally change our thoughts, beliefs, feelings, actions, and reactions, we open ourselves up to creating a beautiful expansive garden. 

We Are Here to Learn

Anyone who has ever gardened knows that it takes continued maintenance to have a healthy garden— we are no different. The longer we go without self-care and self-maintenance, the more the weeds will grow and spread. Even if we do take good care of ourselves, old weeds will pop-up looking pretty as they invasively spread and take life from our healthy flowers and plants.  We are here in this life to learn. 

We need those weeds to help us see how we can grow and expand in a healthier way,  or if we choose a destructive way. We just want to make sure we don’t let them take over. When weeds take over, we know by our addictions that we use to numb ourselves, along with anything else we do to avoid doing the work to change the things we don’t like in our lives (blaming, shaming, bullying, gossiping, etc.) The more open we are to learn, the more healthy our gardens will be. 

Why Do I Stay Focused on this Topic?

If you follow FromALovingPlace.com, you know that I’ve written about this topic multiple times and in multiple different ways. Each post is different, but carries similar messages. This is part of my self-maintenance. I have to remember these things, because I’m not above being triggered. When I write these posts it soothes me. It helps me to see that a reaction I may have had was just a weed popping up that I need to pull out. Writing is one of the tools I use to pull out the weeds that can grow and spread if I don’t do something. Writing is my something. We all have to decide for ourselves, which tools we want to use, and how to use them. We aren’t here to plant our seeds in other people’s gardens. We can only offer our seeds. Writing on FromALovingPlace.com is how I offer the seeds I’ve planted. It also is helps me to plant seeds I’ve received. I use this blog to spread loving messages that help me maintain, grow, and expand my garden in a way that makes me feel good. If someone chooses to take them and plant them in their garden, the energy of love spreads. My seeds aren’t the only seeds. There are so many seeds that spread love. People don’t have to plant mine. That’s what I love about this process. The ones who offer different perspectives of love help me to expand my garden even more. Staying on this topic helps me to stay open to grow and expand. The more I can see the world through perspectives of truth, the more curious I get about learning from others. As I learned from my time in AL-ANON, I take what I like, and leave the rest.

With Love and Gratitude, 

Rachael Wolff ©2019