Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #328

I’m grateful I KNOW who is responsible and accountable for my inner life. I am responsible and accountable for my inner life. I love knowing that I can choose to allow a thought and/or belief processes to continue or do the work to change them if they are not working for me. I love that I don’t need anyone or anything to change outside of me to live the inner life I’m committed to live. Knowing this sends tingles right through me. When I get my energy aligned with love, abundance, and peace, things around me change to align with how I’m living my inner life. It’s amazing how this works. I feel so free.

Today, I commit to consciously BEING responsible and accountable for my inner life. I say consciously because I want to be aware of my choices that are creating the inner life that I have now and the life I working on through the actions I take daily. Being conscious in my thoughts helps me to see what is working for aligning with love, abundance, and peace, and what is contributing to fear, lack, and separation. If I’m conscious, I can make choices quickly to move me in the direction that feels right for me. It also allows me to see when my thoughts, words, and actions aren’t aligned with love, abundance, and peace. When I take responsibility and hold myself accountable, I align myself with the energy to shift in a healthier direction.

Consciously BEING responsible and accountable isn’t about action. It’s about the feeling of acceptance for the choices I’m making and what energy they are aligning with, then being present enough to see the blessings and consequences those choices. It’s not about beating myself up, it’s about embracing the experiences I’m presented with loving arms.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #178

I’m grateful that I AM responsible and accountable for how I treat myself. Over the last twelve years, I’ve experienced tremendous growth after working up to, then coming out of a very toxic environment. I’ve faced my own self-abuse, codependency, toxic stories, challenging lessons, and faith. I went from the darkest time in my life to a place of acceptance and love. When I began to be responsible and accountable for where I was in the moment, I gave myself permission to become aware of the obstacles that were holding me back and the perspectives that help to set me free.

This journey takes a lot of twists and turns. I still have to go through some tunnels to help open me up to see more. For instance, I’ve been reading Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza with my book buddy. We just got to the part of the book where we begin doing the work. One of the things he suggests is finding the word, which represents a feeling that creates obstacles. He said to just pick one. I knew that when I saw the word, I would know it. I went through the first list. None of the words triggered that physical feeling of contraction within me. Most of them I’ve been working on for the last twelve years. Then the I saw the thing that triggers me in a way like no other, it is the feeling of being overwhelmed. The word, “overwhelmed” hit me like a ton of bricks in my gut. This is the first time that I fully recognized what the feeling of overwhelmed feels like inside of me. Upon further inner exploration, I got to see all the other feelings that get triggered by that one word, overwhelmed. WOW!

I realized in order to get to the next level of my growth, I have to face this head on, because I am responsible and accountable for how I treat myself. When I’m in the state of being overwhelmed, I’m not taking the best care of myself, and then I’m not capable of being there for the people I’m closest to because that feeling of being overwhelmed keeps me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation when I’m participating in the stories that are feeding that state of being.

The beauty of this journey is that even when I’m going through the challenges of breaking-up patterns and stories that are feeding the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I’m able to embrace them with love. Everything I’m faced with has something to teach me. I always get the opportunity to learn and grow. When I started doing the work to end my self-abuse, I remember feeling like the weight of ten years coming off my shoulders. People noticed it too. I looked younger. I also ate healthier, looked healthier, and attracted healthier people to my life—Because I became healthier body, mind, and soul!

If I blame someone else for how I treat myself, I give my power to change to that person. As long as I stay in the victim role of someone else, I stay aligned with fear, lack, and separation. It’s only when I took my power back by saying and BELIEVING that I AM responsible and accountable for how I treat myself that my life started changing in the best of ways. Even though I’m facing many challenges right now, I know that I will come out stronger and wiser, because I’m willing to see myself, accept myself, heal myself, and excel myself. We can’t do this by running away, numbing, or avoiding ourselves. We have to be willing to look at ourselves with love, respect, compassion, and empathy. This is how we live empowered.

Today, I commit to treating myself with love, respect, empathy, and compassion. When I’m experiencing joy, it’s easy to treat myself with love and respect. It’s when I’m being challenged with aspects of myself that are creating obstacles that I really NEED to consciously treat myself with love, respect, empathy, and compassion. When I was coming out of my fog after being psychologically, emotionally, and mentally abused by a narcissist was times I needed it the most. I’ve watched people end up back in the patterns of abuse over and over because of NOT choosing to treat themselves with love, respect, empathy, and compassion. We are 100% responsible and accountable for how we treat ourselves, and it MATTERS!!!

I know how challenging it can be after realizing what a person believed in so wholeheartedly was a lie, scam, con, facade, whatever you want to call it. I was told over and over by friends and loved ones to leave and to see the truth. I was asked over 1,000 times, “Why are you staying?” I was left behind by friends who were sick and tired of hearing me complain then go back for more. The thing was I stayed in that relationship as a form of self-abuse. That is how bad I was abusing myself. I was immersed in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. In order to get out, I had to do something VERY different than anything I had ever done before. I had to treat myself with love, respect, empathy, and compassion. Once I started doing that and allowing myself to feel pain without self-abusing, I broke the pattern to even attracting people like him to my life again.

Recently I’ve been studying cults, and the similarities of what happens to the victims is SO similar. Most times, we don’t know we are in an abusive relationship or cult until so much damage has already been done. One of the analogies I’ve heard many times is, How do you boil a frog? Slowly. If someone threw a frog into hot boiling water, the frog would jump out instantly. If you start in nice cool water to get the frog comfortable, then slowly increase the temperature, you weaken the frog until it becomes too late for the frog to jump out.

I had to learn that self-blame was self-abuse. Taking responsibility and holding myself accountable is a respectful way to learn from our experiences. It is a part of treating ourselves with the love, respect, empathy, and compassion that we deserve. It doesn’t matter if ANYONE else believes we deserve that. WE HAVE TO BELIEVE WE DESERVE IT. Some people will think you deserve to self-abuse, don’t listen to them. We are the ones who have to live with ourselves the rest of our lives. The best thing we can do for ourselves is hold ourselves responsible and accountable for how we treat ourselves, because when we do that with love, respect, empathy, and compassion—we will do that for someone else. That is what we need to make the world a better place.

Today, I commit to treating myself with love, respect, empathy, and compassion as I face the challenges that lie before me. As I process the obstacles I’m facing, I will be forgiving of myself for the times where I let myself get in my own way. I will accept the awareness of where I am in this moment. Then, I will make a plan to do things differently. If I need help, I will ask for help. If I need love, I will give myself love. I will do for me what I would do for my best friend, because I am my life partner. The healthier my relationship with myself is, the healthier the relationship I will be able to have with others.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (link to retailers)

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Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #177

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for how I RESPOND to others. It doesn’t benefit me in ANY way to blame someone else for how I respond to their actions. If I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace when someone does something I like, they see my shine. Sometimes, they feel it. When someone does something that I don’t like when I’m in the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I can see clearly what the best way to respond in the moment is. It might be to walk away, let them know I have a different perspective on the situation, or stand up for myself or the cause I’m representing in a loving way. It also may mean I ask them more questions about their point of view. When I respond to them from a loving place, I don’t get defensive, because I know that won’t benefit either of us. When I get defensive, I know I’m aligning with fear, lack, and separation. The clear sign of that is when I get a hot and tingly feeling in my head. If I can keep my awareness, the best thing I can do for me in that moment is to walk away until I can gain control of my own energy. I guarantee you, if I’m responding from that place, it’s not pretty and I will often have to make an amends after the fact.

If I’m forgiving to someone with a hate-filled heart, I’m choosing not to carry their energy that stems from fear, lack, and separation. This doesn’t mean I support their behaviors. They are responsible and accountable for their actions towards others. Me forgiving them means that I refuse to take on their hate that they aimed at me or someone else. Revenge mentality only keeps me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation. If I’m in that energy, I tend to get snappy with anybody who crosses my path. I won’t even fully enjoy the good people are trying to do for me. In that space, I can even create negative stories of how the good thing a person is doing is tainted in some way. I don’t think I’m alone in being in this place from time to time.

When I take responsibility for how I respond to others, I stay conscious of my choices. I can ask myself questions about the perspectives I’m choosing to help me decide how I REALLY want to respond. I love that I have a choice in how I respond, and whatever decision I make, I’m responsible and accountable for it.

Today, I commit to be responsible and accountable for how I respond to others. If you have been following along the last couple days I’ve been taking you on a little journey. It’s one that is near and dear to my heart. The journey can change the way we look at the world. At least that is what doing all of this did for me. It takes daily work. I’m still a work in progress just like everyone else. I still have days where I don’t make the healthiest choices for me, which then affects the people who I come in contact with that day. The difference now, I know I’m responsible and accountable for those days. I’m also responsible and accountable for the day I make choices for my highest good, which then affects the people I come into contact with. I can’t make anybody respond to me in one way or another, but I CAN make choices in how I respond to them. I can make choices that will serve my highest good and the highest good for the moment I’m in. What they do with what I have to give, is on them.

When we can own what is ours, we don’t take things so personally. If I’m in the energy of love, abundance, and peace, I know that I’m operating in the best space I can in the situation. If I’m in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, I know that I will respond to others based on being in that energy. I might get more defensive, put up walls, yell, scream, insist on my own way, etc. I might convince myself that the other person is doing something wrong, respond like they are guilty, and treat them with no compassion, empathy or respect. Later, I may find out that I was completely wrong in the stories I was telling myself. I’m responsible and accountable for that, no matter what the circumstance is.

Practicing taking our power back by being responsible and accountable for how we respond to others is a very eye-opening exercise. Just like practicing being responsible and accountable for our energy (#175) and how we act towards others (#176), how we respond to others is just the next step. It’s about becoming aware of our choices. We choose to be in the energy of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation when we are interacting with ourselves or others. The more conscious we become of our choices, the more power we have to change the trajectory of our lives.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #175

I’m grateful that I’m responsible and accountable for my energy. One of the best things I ever did for myself was taking my power back. When I used to go through life’s challenges, like many, I blamed others and/or myself. The road to blame, no matter where it’s aimed is aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Blame makes me feel powerless and keeps me in the problem. When I get in the energy of blame, I feel like I’m swimming in murky waters waiting to be attacked. When I learned the power of being responsible and accountable for my energy, I started giving myself solutions to get myself out of the toxic water. I see options in perspectives; people who can help show up; and I see choices in how to handle situations, so that I don’t have to take on the toxic energy. Instead, I align myself with love, abundance, and peace. I hug myself in my pain with love. I have the power to change any situation when I become accountable and responsible for my energy. Even if the outside circumstances don’t change in the moment, the energy inside of me can. That is my choice. With new energy comes new perspectives. I LOVE the chain reaction that happens when I am willing to let go of the energy of fear, lack, and separation. I know I’m the only one who can do that for myself.

Today, I will be aware of the energy I’m exuding and be responsible and accountable for it. I talk about this in all my seminars because taking our power back is a HUGE piece in living the lives we actually want. We often don’t see all the times we hold ourselves back by not taking responsibility and holding ourselves accountable for what we exude. This all begins with how we treat ourselves. When I was self-abusing, I was self-blaming. Take a second to feel the difference between the words blame and taking responsibility/accountability. I feel a big difference in my body. Just the word blame puts a knot in my stomach. When I say the words responsibility and accountability, my chest naturally expands and I just realized that I take a deep breath when I do it, LOL. For me, I feel a sense of honor when I use those words. I feel empowered.

I’ve been working through a few challenging situations, and if I see my energy shifting, I become aware of the shift. I sit with the feelings I’m feeling. Then I question my perspectives to see if there is a perspective that will help me shift my energy to align with love, abundance, and peace. Just doing this can help me to not allow my energy to go dark. I simply wrap my challenging feeling in love, and that helps me find my peace. When I do that, I don’t feel separate from the world.

The cool thing is when we learn that we are accountable and responsible for our own energy, this means when we are exuding the energy of love, abundance, and peace—we are responsible and accountable for that too. That feels pretty amazing!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #53

I’m SO grateful I’m responsible and accountable for my own perspectives of truth (beliefs). Learning this is what gave me my power back. Right now more than ever, I use my power on a daily basis to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. When my beliefs are aligned with fear, lack, and separation, I can question them and work on ways to re-align them——how AMAZING is that?! I can only do that by truly being responsible and accountable for what beliefs live inside of me. I don’t have to fall for fear agendas, propaganda, and pandering because I know those only lead to more fear, lack, and separation. I know other people’s negativity comes from their perspectives of truth, which come from fear, lack, and separation——just like mine does. Since I know that is not where I want to live, I make sure to find, follow, and support belief systems that strengthen the perspectives of truth that make me feel better about my time on this planet.

When I follow and believe in perspectives of truth that align with love, abundance, and peace, I know in my heart that I’m living and contributing to the best of my human ability. When my perspectives of truth are aligned this way, I can find meaning in the chaos. I can be at peace knowing my soul is safe and that my energy is contributing to the changes I want to see. I am responsible and accountable when I allow my beliefs to contribute to more fear, lack, and separation in the world and within myself too.

I’m not responsible and accountable for what anyone else contributes, I can only ever be an example by what energy I’m contributing. People will feel it and be connected or repulsed by whatever energy I put out. The more I contribute to the energy I want to see more with my beliefs, the more I can help others grow in that energy too——that is one of greatest gifts of aligning with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. It’s contagious!

Today, I commit to being responsible and accountable for ALL of my perspectives of truth (beliefs). The best things we can ever do for ourselves or anyone else is to become responsible and accountable for our own perspectives of truth. It is our responsibility to look at if our beliefs are aligning with fear, lack, and separation or love, abundance, and peace. What is right for us, will not ALWAYS be right for someone else. How I interpret words, people, places, things, situations, and the world is on ME! If I have a negative connection to someone or something, it is my responsibility to look at it and see how my beliefs are aligning with it.

No one can MAKE me believe in anything that aligns with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Just like, no one can MAKE me believe in anything that aligns with the energy of love, abundance, and peace. I’m ACCOUNTABLE for the choices I make. Being accountable and responsible is choice I’m so incredibly grateful for. We don’t EVER have to give our power away. NO ONE can break us if we don’t give them the power to. I’ve been the victim of sexual and emotional assaults. Those people were aligned with fear, lack, and separation and they wanted me to be aligned with that energy too. For awhile, I was——NOT ANYMORE.

Today, I’m fully responsible and accountable for the energy I contribute to the world through my beliefs, and I will do my best to keep them aligned with love, abundance, and peace DAILY! Living in the energy of love, abundance, and peace isn’t tied to any ONE group, organization, country, religious belief, gender, etc. It is tied to an individual’s energy——That’s IT! When we lump people together out of fear, lack, and separation, we dehumanize them. We may just miss some of the most beautiful gifts of love, abundance, and peace.

SIDE NOTE: Shaming and blaming ourselves for when we do align with fear, lack, and separation keeps us in that energy. Being responsible and accountable has NOTHING to do with shaming or blaming ourselves. When we take responsibility and hold ourselves accountable we are committing to be better in each moment we are given. We feel things all the way through, then release them. We don’t give ourselves excuses, we just keep doing the best we can and learn from our experiences. Doing that shifts us to the energy of love, abundance, and peace. In order to contribute to the energy of peace, we first must be at peace with ourselves. In order to contribute to the energy of abundance, we first must trust we are ALWAYS getting everything we need. In order to contribute to the energy of love, we must feel the love inside of us so that we recognize it when we see and feel it outside of us.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

This journey is an on-going process. It takes daily work to stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation. If you want more tools for daily living, check out my book, Letters from a Better: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World available in audiobook (Audible), audio CD, ebook (Kindle, Nook), and paperback here.