90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 75 -Being Present With the People I Invite Into My Life

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Day 75: Being Present With the People I Invite Into My Life

Dear Self,

I’ve realized the importance of being present with the people I invite into my life for a variety of reasons. I’ve learned the hard way that people definitely show me who they are and what happens when I don’t want to believe them. I get hurt. Not because they intentionally set out to hurt me, but because hurt is what he/she has inside. They project out what they have inside and a hurt persons actions lead to shaming, blaming, judging, and victimizing. The signs were there early on, but I chose not to see them because I was stuck in my own darkness.

As I learn to take better and better care of myself, I realize that being present with the people I invite into my life is much easier. I not only pay attention to what people are showing me, but I pay attention to what I’m showing them by the choices I’m making. Being present has helped me to slow down to make better choices to project healthy boundaries. I’m showing them how to treat me if they want to be in my life.

Staying present with the people I choose to be in my life has made life much more joy-filled. I find I don’t have expectations of others to be who and what they aren’t. I get to enjoy the moment I’m in for what it is right now. I’m not worried about what it’s going to mean for some future I have no clue about.

If I’m not enjoying myself with the people I’ve invited in, I’ve noticed there isn’t a pull to keep engaging with them. I don’t try to force time with them or make things work that just aren’t meant to be anything more than a lesson of growth. I can say goodbye in peace because I know it’s best for me.

I only know how to do this because I’m treating myself with the love and respect that I deserve. I know my time is valuable, so who I choose to spend it on means something. I want to embrace the connections I have with others in the best way possible. The more honest I am with myself, the more present I allow myself to be in my connections.

I love what being present does for my life. I can learn the lessons I’m meant to learn from the people I invite in, then if the lesson is done—I can let them go. If I’m meant to learn, grow, and expand with the people in my life—They stay. The more present I get, the more aware I become. This is a beautiful journey and I feel truly blessed to share it with the people I’ve invited into my physical and internal worlds.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for the lessons I get when I stay present with the people in my life.
  2. I’m grateful for learning how to be a better friend by staying present.
  3. I’m grateful for the many blessings that come from staying present in my relationships.
  4. I’m grateful for the way I feel when I’m honest with myself and others.
  5. I’m grateful for each connection I’m blessed enough to get with loved ones.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 75 – Being Present with the People We Invite Into Our Lives

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 74 -Who Am I Inviting Into My Internal Home

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Day 74: Who Am I Inviting Into My Internal Home?

Dear Self,

I’m responsible for who I invite into my internal home, so it is my job to look at who I am inviting in. Just because I have an exchange with someone in the physical world, it doesn’t mean I HAVE to invite her/him in. I don’t have to let them have control over my feelings, thoughts, perspectives of truth, actions, and reactions. I MAKE MY OWN CHOICES.

I commit to be conscious of how my feelings, thoughts, and beliefs about a person are inviting them into my internal home. I’m choosing for them to have an affect on my inner world. I’m allowing them to alter and move things not because of who they are in my physical world, but who I’m creating them to be inside of me.

I need to look at if my thoughts about this person are contributing to my feelings of abundance or lack, love or fear, compassion or judgment.  Is their presence in my home brightening my light or dulling it. Is it creating open door or locking doors? I’m I creating more walls in my home by having them there or am I creating an open concept where the energy just flows?

These are all questions I need to ask myself when I consider who I’m inviting into my internal home.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for the choice of who I allow into my internal home.
  2. I’m grateful for the awareness I have to see my responsibility and power.
  3. I’m grateful for the opportunity to investigate who I’m allowing in.
  4. I’m grateful for my ability to create light in any dark room in my home.
  5. I’m grateful for my consciousness.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 74 – Inviting Visitors Into Our Internal Homes

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 73 – Constructing My Self-Care Regimen

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Day 73: Constructing My Self-Care Regimen

Dear Self,

I’m taking the time to construct my self-care regimen by going through what I use to help me in different areas of my life. Once I’ve done this, I will figure out how to make time for the tools on a daily basis to continuously help me appreciate and improve my life and my relationships with others.

  1. How am I taking care of my connection to my spiritual life and beliefs? I take time to connect everyday with my gratitude with prayer, gratitude lists, free writing, letter writing, meditation, listening to music, and/or embracing nature. I also connect to other’s in my spiritual community.
  2. How am I taking care of quieting my mind? I use meditation, yoga, nature, breathing exercises, mindfulness meditations, get enough sleep, listen to instrumental or chanting music, and/or practicing presence
  3. How am I taking care of accepting myself in the mirror? I use positive self-talk, affirmations, letter writing, and/or gratitude for what my body does for me.
  4. How am I taking care of my body and organs? I get enough sleep, yoga, dance, walking, drinking lemon water in the morning, water throughout the day, drinking fruit/vegetable smoothies, eating nutritious foods, occasional cleanses, and/or quieting my mind to listen to what my body needs. I also write love letters to my body for loving me and taking care of me on my journey.
  5. How am I checking in with my perspectives of truth (Days 42-46) to make sure they are working in my life? If a perspectives cause me pain, worry, anxiety, depression, fight or flight response, rage, and/or vengefulness, I question what I believe and come up with different ways I can think about the situation. I write letters to help me write new stories. Then I practice applying new perspectives of truth that bring me more peace.
  6. How am I showing myself love? I practice self-care regularly, do things I love to do, get enough sleep, practice positive self-talk, give myself quality time, write myself letters, and take care of my body, mind, and soul.
  7. How am I showing myself respect? I take care of my mind, body, and spiritual self. I have healthy boundaries with others. I honor the person I am. I do the best I can in each moment. I put the oxygen mask on myself first, then I assist others.I take time to breathe. I write myself letters.
  8. How am I investing in my quality time with myself? I go for walks in nature, watch sunsets, write from my heart, do yoga, read, and/or dance.
  9. How do I feed my mind? I read, research, solve puzzles, come up with creative solutions, talk to people who believe differently than I do, and/or try to understand something I didn’t before.
  10. How do I practice presence? I meditate, focus on spots in nature, actively listen to the people I’m with, enjoy what I’m doing, practice mindfulness, or live gratitude.
  11. How do I live gratitude? Write gratitude lists, practice seeing gratitude in day-to-day activities, use gratitude in challenging situations, look to nature with gratitude, look at the love in my life,nd/or meditate with a guided meditation focused on gratitude.
  12. How do I take care of myself in the presence of other’s darkness (fear, anger, rage, resentment, jealousy, envy)? I remind myself, I don’t have to engage in the energy that they are. I take space to strengthen my own energy. I pray for protection from their dark energy. I pray for them to find some light. I pray for guidance in how I communicate with the person if I have to. I take deep breaths to stay calm and peaceful. I laugh with friends. I write letters that I don’t send to properly process what is going on inside of me.
  13. How do I take care of myself in the presence of my own darkness (fear, anger, rage, resentment, jealousy, envy)? I pray, write in my gratitude journal, take deep breaths, practice mindfulness to quiet my mind, write letters of encouragement to myself,  walk, and/or DANCE.
  14. How do I take care of myself when I’m feeling depleted? I get rest, quiet my mind, do yoga, write something inspirational, write letters, sit outside, make time to play, and/or spend time laughing with friends.
  15. How do I take care of myself when I’m feeling a lack (loss, grief, disappointment)? Write down as many things I can be grateful for as possible! I question the perspectives of truth I’m engaging in and I write out as many positive perspectives I can look at instead. I write letters about how I’m abundant in my life. I focus on love instead of grief, opening doors instead of closing ones, and change instead of stagnation. I also pray and work to connect with Source energy.

With this list, I will take the items that can be used to handle multiple areas and work them into my daily self-care regimen. I will look at where I use some of the tools to take care other items on the list and be conscious of where my head is to see how I can best serve myself in the moment. I know I have the tools to live my best life.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful that I have the tools to live my best life.
  2. I’m grateful for my realization of how to better manage my self-care.
  3. I’m grateful for having the time to invest in my own care.
  4. I’m grateful for my ability to help others when I’m taking care of myself.
  5. I’m grateful for how I feel when I take care of myself.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Side note: This letter is not edited intentionally. This list isn’t about being grammatically correct; it’s about just writing out tools however they come out. You can add to sections, delete, and add some more. You want to see the overlap in what you can do on a daily basis to handle multiple items of self-care. Those are the ones you want to implement first.

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 73 – Constructing A Self-Care Regimen

90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 73 – Constructing A Self-Care Regimen

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Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 73: Constructing A Self-Care Regimen

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings you joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”

-Jean Shinoda Bolen

In this 90-Day A Better Day Series, I’ve given a lot of suggestions about self-care. We each have to choose what items of self-care resonate with us, because a self-care regimen, routine, or ritual will only work if we are connecting to the process of doing the activity. I don’t know about you, but I’ve tried a lot and I mean a lot of things in my life because people told me it would make me feel better. It could be about how to practice my faith, eating, drinking, dieting, exercising, meditating, mindfulness, positive affirmations, lifestyle, prayer, gratitude, mindset, weight loss, etc. No matter how good something has worked for my life or anyone else’s, you have to come up with your own regimen. No two regimens will ever look exactly the same and not any two people doing them will get the exact same results. As I’ve said before, I don’t expect everyone to do what I did and get the same exact results, because each of us has our own unique journey. Here are a few examples:

  • One person drinks lemon water everyday and it improves their digestive health. Another person may have an adverse reaction from the acid in the lemon and have digestive problems because of it.
  • One person may use nature therapy to help them reach levels of mindfulness and peace within themselves. Another person’s fears may create so much anxiety that triggers fight or flight response.
  • One person does a hard-core exercise routine and she/he feels alive and energized. Another person may not like the feelings that come after that level of exercise, so it doesn’t benefit her/his overall well-being, because that feeling could be their body giving them a signal that that is too much.

A self-care program won’t work if you aren’t invested in doing it or it doesn’t feel right for you. I’ve gone through many regimens and I change them up if I don’t feel the effectiveness of a particular one anymore. What is important is that I give time to self-care. I do my best to trust myself to help me to figure out what I need at any given time, while making sure that my intentions aren’t blocking the results I’m looking to achieve. Numbing ourselves with drugs, alcohol, shopping, gambling, games, social media, binge watching, etc. isn’t apart of self-care. They are contributors to self-destruction. I’m not talking about moderation. There is a difference, and it is a fine line—Self awareness is KEY!

15 Questions to Help You Construct Your Personal Self-Care Regimen

  1. How am I taking care of my connection to my spiritual life and beliefs?
  2. How am I taking care of quieting my mind?
  3. How am I taking care of accepting myself in the mirror?
  4. How am I taking care of my body and organs?
  5. How am I checking in with my perspectives of truth (Days 42-46) to make sure they are working in my life?
  6. How am I showing myself love?
  7. How am I showing myself respect?
  8. How am I investing in my quality time with myself?
  9. How do I feed my mind?
  10. How do I practice presence?
  11. How do I live gratitude?
  12. How do I take care of myself in the presence of other’s darkness (fear, anger, rage, resentment, jealousy, envy)?
  13. How do I take care of myself in the presence of my own darkness (fear, anger, rage, resentment, jealousy, envy)?
  14. How do I take care of myself when I’m feeling depleted?
  15. How do I take care of myself when I’m feeling a lack (loss, grief, disappointment)?

“Self-care is how you take your power back.”

-Lalah Delia

This list can give you ideas of what to implement into your daily routines. Don’t overwhelm yourself with trying to-do a list of things that are all new all at once. Take some things you are already doing and then try a couple new things at a time. If they work for 90 days and you want to add some more, do it. If what you were doing doesn’t seem to fit, try something else. Just don’t beat yourself up if things fall off. Trust that you are getting exactly what you need to get in this moment. When you are open to take on more, you will MAKE the space to fit more in your life. Just keep caring for yourself. Don’t forget how important you are.  Everything in life will run much smoother if we are committed to our self-care.

Today’s Letter from A Better Me in the 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 73 – Constructing My Self-Care Regimen will take you through my process of answering all the above questions. I highly suggest writing your own letter to yourself as a way of planting the seed to make sure it takes root.

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 72 – Honoring My Most Important Love Affair

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Day 72: Honoring My Most Important Love Affair

Dear Self,

With this letter, I’m writing my vows to you. You deserve the ultimate love story and I know that I can give it to you. Here are 10 promises I vow to you:

  1. I promise to love you mind, body, and soul at all time because we are lifetime partners and you deserve the greatest love affair.
  2. I promise to respect you and the journey you are on because you are responsible for any feelings, thoughts, perspectives of truth, actions, and reactions that come from you.
  3. I promise to honor the time that I have with you and be present to your needs, because I know your time is valuable.
  4. I promise to protect you from situations that aren’t in your best interest, because you are valuable.
  5. I promise stand up for you when you need a voice because your voice is important.
  6. I promise to explore and go on adventures with you because I know that is what you love to do.
  7. I promise to take steps to follow your passions because they are part of what makes you shine.
  8. I promise to honor your spiritual path because connecting to service through spirit feeds your soul.
  9. I promise to provide your body nourishment because this will be our vessel for this lifetime of learning, love, and growth.
  10. I promise to take the time to slow down and be mindful to nourish our relationship because only through the strength of our relationship will others learn how to treat us.

You and the Divine Source of ALL love are the only two lifetime partners I will ever have. In order to live the best life, I have to show this world the best I’m capable of being and all that starts with my love for you. My light only shines as bright as the love I have inside. I will sabotage any love that isn’t as strong as mine is for you, so these promises not only ensure I live this best life with you, these promises will help me shine my light bright for the world around me. The brighter my light, the more love I’m able to give and receive from others. So with this letter, I fully commit to our love affair. You and the world are worth it!

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for the relationship I have with myself today.
  2. I’m grateful for the knowledge that I’m worthy.
  3. I’m grateful for the opportunity to make today better than yesterday.
  4. I’m grateful for the love I’m capable of giving and receiving to/from others.
  5. I’m grateful for being a life partner with the person I am today.

With Love and Gratitude,

 

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 72 – Having the Most Important Love Affair

 

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 71 -Living Gratitude In My Daily Life

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Day 71: Living Gratitude In My Daily Life

Dear Universe,

Living gratitude is my way of saying I trust the path that is being lit up for me. I trust that by making the choices that I do, I’m honoring my Creator, my journey, and myself. I’m grateful for this life and all the lessons I’m here to learn, teach, absorb, and grow from.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful to my Creator for allowing me to wake this morning to live this day.
  2. I’m grateful to be able to pray for those I love.
  3. I’m grateful for the air I’m able to inhale and exhale in every second of everyday.
  4. I’m grateful for being able to open my eyes and see what’s around me.
  5. I’m grateful for the way my body feels during my first morning stretch.
  6. I’m grateful for an alarm clock that wakes me up, so that I can be apart of getting my children off to school.
  7. I’m grateful for the quiet moments on my morning walk with my dog.
  8. I’m grateful for the smells of Hazelnut coming from my morning coffee.
  9. I’m grateful for my kids running around because it means they are healthy enough to be getting off to school.
  10. I’m grateful that my kids get ready in enough time to make their bus.
  11. I’m grateful for the quiet time I have to read and write on a regular basis.
  12. I’m grateful I have lots of supportive people around me so that I have the time to write everyday.
  13. I’m grateful for a loving and generous partner who helps me to experience love each day.
  14. I’m grateful to have friends to celebrate and support each other’s journeys.
  15. I’m grateful for a family who knows how to show love in beautiful ways.
  16. I’m grateful for the love and support that surrounds my kids and I so that our environment stays a healthy place.
  17. I’m grateful for all the times relationships failed because it led me to appreciate the AMAZING relationships in my life today.
  18. I’m grateful for that person who cut me off because he showed me what an aware driver I am.
  19. I’m grateful to that woman who blamed me for her choices, because it showed me how much I’ve grown in the choices I make.
  20. I’m grateful to the cashier who caught the error in pricing.
  21. I’m grateful to my daughter for seeing the person behind us needed help lifting something at check-out and without question, she assisted.
  22. I’m grateful to see the kindness of strangers interacting together.
  23. I’m grateful I had the opportunity to be in the check-out line of the cashier who was having a bad day so that I could give her a smile and some kind words.
  24. I’m grateful for the person who flicked me off as I crossed the street because I feel blessed not to live that kind of angry life.
  25. I’m grateful for the person going so slow in front of me because it got me to see that I was moving too fast without thinking.
  26. I’m grateful for my kids coming home arguing because I they are home safe and sound.
  27. I’m grateful for my teenage son who still gives me hugs and hangs out with me.
  28. I’m grateful for my kids active social lives because I can see they are enjoying life.
  29. I’m grateful for having dinner at home with my children a minimum of five nights a week.
  30. I’m grateful for some of the wild conversations about teenage life.
  31. I’m grateful I grew through my teenage life to be where I am now.
  32. I’m grateful for the men who violated me because it helps me to teach my daughter ways to protect herself to the best of her ability.
  33. I’m grateful I know how important self-worth is so that I can give my children seeds as they move through their teenage years.
  34. I’m grateful for when I let my children’s behavior trigger old feelings, so they can come up to heal.
  35. I’m grateful for beautiful sunsets
  36. I’m grateful for the opportunity to see the birds flying in for the night to rest
  37. I’m grateful for water to hydrate myself with throughout the day.
  38. I’m grateful for new and different foods to eat and taste.
  39. I’m grateful that I have a kitchen to cook in.
  40. I’m grateful to my Creator for letting me this day.
  41. I’m grateful for the lessons I learned.
  42. I’m so happy and grateful for my opportunities to spread love.
  43. I’m so happy and grateful for the lives I touched and the ones who touched mine.
  44. I’m grateful for my AMAZING family who I learn and grow with everyday.
  45. I’m grateful for a day well lived.

It makes me feel so uplifted when I can show up with love even in the face of people who are filled with their own darkness. I love the feeling of shining a little light on someone’s dark day. I see the effects when I’m walking through a store and I have positive exchanges with people behind the counter, then the people around are more open to get into the fun and walk around the store with a smile on their face when I see them later. The energy just moves in such a beautiful way. I notice I’m more open to say hello and be patient with others if I make my exchanges pleasant. I love how the contagious energy grows and expands.

I love how when I’m standing in a long line and I engage in conversations with the people around me, time flies and even if I leave the store later than I thought, I’m happy about the time I got to enjoy with strangers.

Living gratitude fills me up to the point that I feel like I’m giving to others from a full tank. I’m so grateful to experience this life through the lens of gratitude.

 

With Love and Gratitude,
A Better Me

 

Rachael  Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 71 – Living Gratitude

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 69 – Taking Care of My Body

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Day 69: Taking Care of My Body

Dear Body,

I’m so grateful for this journey you have taken me on. Without you, I wouldn’t be here. I know there are times I don’t give you the time and energy that you deserve. Those are the times when I do not love myself enough to see how hard you work for me. Those are the times that I’m not living consciously and recognizing that you are my lifetime partner in all of this. I’m sorry for that, and I’m grateful that I can live another day to let you know how grateful I truly am.

I’m so incredibly grateful for the use of ALL my senses. When I remember to consciously use them, I appreciate each moment so much more. I live life instead of life living me. I can appreciate any moment when I engage in the enjoyment of my senses. When I love myself and appreciate my journey, my senses seem to pick up on things to make each moment even better.

I’m so grateful for your signals that tell me what you need. When I’m not numbing myself, I listen and you tell me how much is good to eat and what flavors I’m craving. There is usually some form of nutrition, but not all the time. Sometimes a bite is about bringing pleasure to my senses. It’s like you are telling me to embrace the moment.

I’m so grateful every time I feel air expanding inside my lungs and feeding my body the oxygen it needs. I appreciate you every time I’m conscious of my breathing. I’ve been given the gift of life with every breath I’m blessed enough to take.

I’m so grateful for the times where I hear you telling me to rest, and I do because that is what I need to do to be at my best. When I don’t listen to you, I pay the price in everything I do and how I move through my day.

I’m so grateful for my ability to see colors in all their glorious wonder. The magic of art, life forms, and nature come alive as I take time to see the beauty, texture, and depth. My life is filled with wonder because your determination to let me see.

I’m so incredibly grateful for my shape and my features because they teach me so much about accepting myself and others. I learn so much by appreciating what I you are instead of focusing on what you aren’t. You are exactly the way you are supposed to be in this moment. You look exactly how you are meant to look to help me become the person I want to be. You give me lessons in love, compassion, empathy, faith, strength, resilience, determination, and courage all because you are exactly how you are meant to be.

When I stretch my limbs, take a breath, hydrate, nourish, rest, and take care of you, I’m showing love, not only myself, but to the Creator of this vessel. I’m seeing through the eyes of the Divine when I love and honor this beautiful creation.

When I love and honor the beautiful creation that I am, I’m open to love and honor creations outside of myself with my full capability. Body, I love that you were the vessel chosen for me. I love that my connection to you helps me to connect with others and life itself. I’m so grateful for each moment I get with you on this journey.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Check out 7 Ways to Check-In with Your Body here: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 69 – Taking Care of Our Bodies as an Act of Self-Love

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 68 -Building My Home on a Foundation of Love

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Day 68: Building My Home on a Foundation of Love

Dear Self,

I envision this home within my soul. The colors create beautiful glows of light in every corner. The structure is sound and the interior is filled with warmth. The porch swing creates a wind of peace as it moves back and forth. The furniture is comfortable lovingly worn. The kitchen is a place of enjoyment celebrating the taste buds. I come alive when I envision this home within my soul because it was created with love.

I sleep soundly in my bed knowing my home is safe from intruders. I have to invite someone in and if they choose to disrespect my home, I can ask them to leave. I choose when to shut the door; they stay as long as my thoughts keep them there. I’m responsible for how the people I let in treat my space.

Building my home on a foundation of love means that I choose to clean and maintain my home according to my liking. If I’m feeling a little chaos swirling, I might need to sweep the floors. If I notice the structure needs added support, I’m responsible for giving my home what it needs to function the way I want it to.

Love will always bring me back to center. Love will show me the way if one of my lights goes out. Love will show me when my dimmer switch is set too low. Love will show me when the home needs repairs. Love will grow my landscape into the most beautiful garden for me to enjoy. I will spread my seeds of love as my beautiful garden grows and expands. I smile from ear to ear as I envision my home on a foundation of love.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for my mind that creates these beautiful visions of home within me.
  2. I’m grateful to know my safety and stability come from within.
  3. I’m grateful for the joy I feel when I’m secure in my home.
  4. I’m grateful for having a place of peace within me.
  5. I’m grateful to feel love for the people around me, because my home is built on a foundation of love, so love is the first thing I see.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 68 – Building Our Home On A Foundation of Love

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 67 – Celebrating What Hasn’t Worked in My Life

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Day 67: Celebrating What Hasn’t Worked In My Life

Dear Universe,

I’m celebrating what hasn’t worked in my life. There are so many times I thought I knew what was best for me, and found out I knew nothing. My life is so much better because of all the things that didn’t work, which paved the way for things that have and are working.

  • When I was in high school, I got into my dream college only to find out that I couldn’t cover the financial end of things with no other option than not to go. No other schools had the program I wanted. A marriage, divorce, and two kids later, I found a college that had a similar program. I loved going to school with on-line libraries so that I could spend so much time doing research in the comfort of my own home. I had life experiences that helped me understand the material so much better than I could have as an eighteen year old. The women and men I met at school were awesome because the program I attended was for advanced learners.
  • When I didn’t get to go to college, I thought my life was over. I got a customer service job that turned into a career of being a national sales trainer. I got to travel all over the country doing seminars and training individuals to run thriving businesses. I loved my career and the perks were incredible getting to travel to see family and friends on my weekends off.
  • I was in a relationship that I thought was forever. We thought we would move away together and NOTHING worked out. It ended up being an incredible blessing because as I grew healthier by staying where I was, I realized how toxic the relationship was and got out of it without being tied down to a house away from all my positive support. I also picked what I thought would be the perfect time to leave him, and things blew up at what I thought was the ABSOLUTE WORST time, but it wasn’t the case at all. The timing ended up being perfect in the long run!
  • I wrote a book that no publisher wanted to buy. When I went back to re-read it a couple years later, I was able to use the foundation of it start this series, but I saw how weak the book actually was overall. I also got to see the difference when publishers thought the material was weak, and when the material was strong. Great lessons! I’ve had many opportunities to strengthen my writing and my message.
  • I thought my life would look one way when I decided to have kids and it has looked NOTHING like the picture in my head. I’ve had to readjust, learn, and grow with each stage of development. I’ve learned to fully celebrate all that raising them brings up because it keeps me striving to be the best me possible, so that I can love them in the best way possible. I love growing with them.
  • I remember thinking I knew the exact way my romantic life would look. I was wrong. My romantic life is so much different than what I thought it would be at my age, but it is so much better than I could have imagined, because I’m able to enjoy the man I’m with for the person he is and for the life we have together. It isn’t the traditional set-up, but it is perfect for us right in this moment.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for my past for leading me to where I am now.
  2. I’m grateful for my failed relationships that helped me to appreciate the amazing partner I have now.
  3. I’m grateful that all my prayers don’t have the answers I expect.
  4. I’m grateful for the surprises in life.
  5. I’m grateful for Divine timing.

So much good has come from the things that haven’t worked out in my life.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

 

Check out 10 ways you can really celebrate what doesn’t work:90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 67 – Celebrating What Doesn’t Work

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 66 – Quieting My Mind

Letters from A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 66: Quieting My Mind

Dear Self,

I’m committing a minimum of 30 minutes a day to quieting my mind. I’m making the conscious choice to MAKE the time to de-clutter my thoughts to MAKE space for conscious creation of the things I want more of in my life. I’m choosing to free write, doodle, and consciously drink my water for 45 days straight (See list of items to choose from by clicking here).

Each day I’m committing to sit down and TAKE the time to SLOW DOWN. I want to consciously create my life like it is a work of art. I can’t do that with all the clutter. Otherwise it will just be scribble over scribble with no color except for black and white. I’m choosing to make the effort to re-train my brain to work for me and the life I’m creating.

This time I’m making is essential for my well-being. There is so much going on in my head and in the world that I’m feeling overloaded trying to process it all. I feel like it’s beginning to fry my circuits and creating a numbing effect on my life. I want and deserve better and I’m going to treat myself that way. I want to create consciously. I want to live consciously.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful for the moments my mind is quiet.
  2. I’m grateful for the opportunity to make time to focus on quieting my mind.
  3. I’m grateful at the art I create with a quiet mind.
  4. I’m grateful for my clarity of thought with my quiet mind.
  5. I’m grateful for so many choices of methods to quiet my mind.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

A Better Me

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 66 – Quieting the Mind for Conscious Creation